I understand it is intended as a non-confrontational process. But it doesn’t *feel* non-confrontational.
If someone asks me “Why did you do it x way?” It feels very passive-aggressive to me. And I know when I have asked such questions in the past others on the team have interpreted my innocent questions as hostile, too. So it’s not just me who has difficulty with this.
And no, I’m not spending thousands of dollars on a therapist because I have a problem with pull requests. Good grief.
And I'm not trying to shut you down or anything, but it might be good to know if you have any other specific questions for people, and if there are aspects you are NOT asking for advice on
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If someone asks me “Why did you do it x way?” It feels very passive-aggressive to me. And I know when I have asked such questions in the past others on the team have interpreted my innocent questions as hostile, too. So it’s not just me who has difficulty with this.
And no, I’m not spending thousands of dollars on a therapist because I have a problem with pull requests. Good grief.
Is this how the world works now?
Pretty much, yes.
How does this process work at other companies?
Pull requests are common practice and people have given you lots of details about how they work at their companies.
Is there other information or advice you are looking for at this point?
I do fine. Why so hostile?