Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
edited February 2019
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
(Tell me more)
+1
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I still find it wild that people inject the most toxic substance known to man into their faces to maintain the illusion that they are not approaching death.
But what right do I have to talk I guess, I want to trick my body into thinking it has different gonads to what it has. Humans are odd.
Are they lazy and don't actually want customers? Did a disgruntled former employee set that up then somehow lock it so they can't change it now? That's a whole heckin' what in the right there.
I still find it wild that people inject the most toxic substance known to man into their faces to maintain the illusion that they are not approaching death.
But what right do I have to talk I guess, I want to trick my body into thinking it has different gonads to what it has. Humans are odd.
Botox also has medical uses. I have a friend with chronic migraines who gets regular botox treatments to reduce their frequency.
+16
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Huh. Did not know that. I guess it makes sense though, a lot of medicines are derived from poisons and other toxins.
0
3cl1ps3I will build a labyrinth to house the cheeseRegistered Userregular
The version of botulinum toxin that we use for Botox is, thankfully, not the really toxic version produced by C. botulinum
+1
ElldrenIs a woman dammitceterum censeoRegistered Userregular
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
I can assure you that everyone in that office with medical training probably thinks that video is cool
fuck gendered marketing
+14
3cl1ps3I will build a labyrinth to house the cheeseRegistered Userregular
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
I can assure you that everyone in that office with medical training probably thinks that video is cool
A friend has introduced me to someone that uses they/them and I'm having a super hard time with the grammar. I wrote this in the NFL thread, and it just reads wrong to me:
I invited a friend over and she brought one of her roller derby teammates (One of the best blockers in the country! #starstruck). They were having a ball watching the defenses do their thing, and reveling in every big hit. The best moment in the game was a play where Goff tried to make something happen by running towards the sideline with two Patriots chasing him. They yelled "Kill him!", and right away a third Patriot comes into frame and just lights Goff up. They just dropped their jaw in awe and whispered "I want to hit someone like that."
They are a super sweet person, and I don't want to screw up. Is it safe to think they probably are NB? I feel it's rude to ask and rude to assume, and I can just say "person" instead of "boy/girl", but I'm not a great talker, and I know I'm going to put my foot in my mouth somehow.
I'm not objecting - I use singular they all the time. I'm just having trouble differentiating singular they from plural.
A friend has introduced me to someone that uses they/them and I'm having a super hard time with the grammar. I wrote this in the NFL thread, and it just reads wrong to me:
I invited a friend over and she brought one of her roller derby teammates (One of the best blockers in the country! #starstruck). They were having a ball watching the defenses do their thing, and reveling in every big hit. The best moment in the game was a play where Goff tried to make something happen by running towards the sideline with two Patriots chasing him. They yelled "Kill him!", and right away a third Patriot comes into frame and just lights Goff up. They just dropped their jaw in awe and whispered "I want to hit someone like that."
They are a super sweet person, and I don't want to screw up. Is it safe to think they probably are NB? I feel it's rude to ask and rude to assume, and I can just say "person" instead of "boy/girl", but I'm not a great talker, and I know I'm going to put my foot in my mouth somehow.
I'm not objecting - I use singular they all the time. I'm just having trouble differentiating singular they from plural.
I find this real hard too. I am hoping that practice makes perfect.
There's no plan, there's no race to be run
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
A friend has introduced me to someone that uses they/them and I'm having a super hard time with the grammar. I wrote this in the NFL thread, and it just reads wrong to me:
I invited a friend over and she brought one of her roller derby teammates (One of the best blockers in the country! #starstruck). They were having a ball watching the defenses do their thing, and reveling in every big hit. The best moment in the game was a play where Goff tried to make something happen by running towards the sideline with two Patriots chasing him. They yelled "Kill him!", and right away a third Patriot comes into frame and just lights Goff up. They just dropped their jaw in awe and whispered "I want to hit someone like that."
They are a super sweet person, and I don't want to screw up. Is it safe to think they probably are NB? I feel it's rude to ask and rude to assume, and I can just say "person" instead of "boy/girl", but I'm not a great talker, and I know I'm going to put my foot in my mouth somehow.
I'm not objecting - I use singular they all the time. I'm just having trouble differentiating singular they from plural.
I would just change that first "they" to "the derby player," and then the subsequent theys will be referring back to that.
+2
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Yup. This is the clinic I originally contacted last May. Saw the psychiatrist in September, today saw the endocrinologist (and met the surgeon).
I'm sorry to hear you had to go private, the NHS should have been able to support you much quicker - the wait times are unacceptable. I'm glad you were able to find somewhere though.
Now that you have a prescription, can you switch to an NHS GP for refills etc?
0
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
That is the question indeed. Official guidance says yes but GPs aren't obliged to do shared care if they don't want to. The Dr I saw for my NHS clinic referral said he wouldn't do shared care. The endo, who is definitely the nicest doctor I've ever met, is going to write a letter to the GP surgery asking them to please not be dicks.
Yup. This is the clinic I originally contacted last May. Saw the psychiatrist in September, today saw the endocrinologist (and met the surgeon).
I'm sorry to hear you had to go private, the NHS should have been able to support you much quicker - the wait times are unacceptable. I'm glad you were able to find somewhere though.
It's total bullshit. I'm really lucky, but I feel for the people who have been stuck on waiting lists for years, with no idea how much longer they will have to wait.
I'm sorry you had to wait this long even though you went private
I asked the other UK clinic about asssisting me with hormones but I'm concerned that
a) I might lack legitimacy in the eyes of other people if I choose this route and it might make asking my parents to accept me even harder
b) they use spiro which apparently isn't commonly used in Germany and Austria. Spiro seems like the safest option there is but the others might help more with certain things? I don't know.
They don't want to use female pronouns unless I "physically change" and I'm on hormones - which is a dumb position in any case but feels extra unfair considering my situation
Unfortunately I can't just cut individual people out any way I like
They don't want to use female pronouns unless I "physically change" and I'm on hormones - which is a dumb position in any case but feels extra unfair considering my situation
Unfortunately I can't just cut individual people out any way I like
Oh they can fuck ALL the way off with this bullshit
They don't want to use female pronouns unless I "physically change" and I'm on hormones - which is a dumb position in any case but feels extra unfair considering my situation
Unfortunately I can't just cut individual people out any way I like
I don't know the specifics of your situation with regards to that person, but I do know that they are definitely not being reasonable and it should absolutely be ok for you to say "no, it is not ok for you to refuse to use my preferred pronouns until an arbitrary point."
I have had friends who transitioned over long periods of time who said "hey, switch over whenever, we'll get there" and I can't honestly remember what the "ok now it's all she/her" point was. If the person transitioning wants to take that approach, I'd say that's up to them, but it absolutely should not be enforced from the other direction and it does not sound like playing the long game in that sense is going to psychologically healthy for you.
I can also tell you for sure, as someone who's been on the other side of this, that if they think waiting until an arbitrary point is going to be easier for them, they're... wrong. It won't. It's tricky no matter when you do it, because of the way our associative memories work, and they should start as soon as possible to get as much practise as possible. My advice to anyone with a friend who's transitioning is "switch early, as soon as you can, use their new name in as many places as possible so you get used to it". It's not that arduous, honestly, it just takes time and practise. There's no excuse for not doing it.
Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's. Because this is a Plastic Surgery Oh And Also We Do Trans Stuff clinic there is a looping video on a screen showing how various cosmetic procedures work. Including some really detailed imagery of botox needles going into lips and eyelids and aaargh this is harshing my buzz.
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
apropros of this I once had to go through hundreds and hundreds of real photos of people's insides from heart surgeries to figure out which cases were old enough so that they should, by law, be disposed of.
Posts
Edit: great now we've moved on to a gun-mounted rapid fire needle that looks like someone having a sewing machine used on their face.
Oh hey my brain is screaming forever
(Tell me more)
But what right do I have to talk I guess, I want to trick my body into thinking it has different gonads to what it has. Humans are odd.
Botox also has medical uses. I have a friend with chronic migraines who gets regular botox treatments to reduce their frequency.
I can assure you that everyone in that office with medical training probably thinks that video is cool
It sounds hella interesting to me.
That is what my transition feel like right now.
HR is now holding meetings to discuss my "new status" amongst themselves.
XBL:Phenyhelm - 3DS:Phenyhelm
YES
DUDE!
Wait until you sprout the extra testostethumbs! The sky is the limit as far as thumb count goes!
(I don't know what is wrong with me. I'm sorry)
EEEEE I AM EXCITED FOR YOU!
Do no harm, take no shit
Be gay, do crimes.
We've come full circle, everybody.
Steam: TheArcadeBear
I'm not objecting - I use singular they all the time. I'm just having trouble differentiating singular they from plural.
I find this real hard too. I am hoping that practice makes perfect.
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
I would just change that first "they" to "the derby player," and then the subsequent theys will be referring back to that.
Yup. This is the clinic I originally contacted last May. Saw the psychiatrist in September, today saw the endocrinologist (and met the surgeon).
I'm sorry to hear you had to go private, the NHS should have been able to support you much quicker - the wait times are unacceptable. I'm glad you were able to find somewhere though.
It's total bullshit. I'm really lucky, but I feel for the people who have been stuck on waiting lists for years, with no idea how much longer they will have to wait.
I asked the other UK clinic about asssisting me with hormones but I'm concerned that
a) I might lack legitimacy in the eyes of other people if I choose this route and it might make asking my parents to accept me even harder
b) they use spiro which apparently isn't commonly used in Germany and Austria. Spiro seems like the safest option there is but the others might help more with certain things? I don't know.
as of this afternoon, my legal name is Lexi.
Now for the long arduous process of finding everywhere I've registered for something under my deadname and getting it updated.
This feels like another gut punch right now and no thanks
Their position is irrelevant. They don't get a position.
^
THAT.
Tell them to fuck off.
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
Their possible options are as follows
1) "My position is that I think you're great and want to help however I can!"
OR
2)"I'm a bigot and going to fire myself into the fucking sun"
END OF LIST
Unfortunately I can't just cut individual people out any way I like
my ability to cut folk out as easily as I have is mostly a result of bad circumstances that happen to spare me from most of the repercussions
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
Oh they can fuck ALL the way off with this bullshit
I don't know the specifics of your situation with regards to that person, but I do know that they are definitely not being reasonable and it should absolutely be ok for you to say "no, it is not ok for you to refuse to use my preferred pronouns until an arbitrary point."
I have had friends who transitioned over long periods of time who said "hey, switch over whenever, we'll get there" and I can't honestly remember what the "ok now it's all she/her" point was. If the person transitioning wants to take that approach, I'd say that's up to them, but it absolutely should not be enforced from the other direction and it does not sound like playing the long game in that sense is going to psychologically healthy for you.
I can also tell you for sure, as someone who's been on the other side of this, that if they think waiting until an arbitrary point is going to be easier for them, they're... wrong. It won't. It's tricky no matter when you do it, because of the way our associative memories work, and they should start as soon as possible to get as much practise as possible. My advice to anyone with a friend who's transitioning is "switch early, as soon as you can, use their new name in as many places as possible so you get used to it". It's not that arduous, honestly, it just takes time and practise. There's no excuse for not doing it.
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
so that was a thing.