Erin The RedThe Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered Userregular
Mom was in town and was all "hey let's do lunch"
So I said ok and we got some food. It was really good!
Then mom misgendered me like...several times rapid fire. And she drove, so I didn't want to raise a whole stink but just. Fuck. We've had this fight. I'm tired.
I'm so tired of having to argue with people to have them see me as me, or accept that I am what I say
They need to please stop telling me to be patient with HR . Week three and they cannot even commit any kind of date structure back to me. I guess we can't make people understand but this isn't something I just want to do. This is something I need to do and not doing it is becoming increasingly painful.
Also my arm hair was an incredible source of dysphoria so I shaved it off. No one has noticed my hands and I am just wearing long sleeves for now.
They take too long and my name will be changed, I'll be on hormones and have my hair styled before they bother to come up with any plan.
I'm really sorry that HR is taking so long. I know that's got to be frustrating as hell. Do you need their sign off before you can change anything? Or can you tell them to shove it?
I feel like if I don't do this by HR then I'd have far less support going forward but at some point that becomes objectively not true as they prove they are not going to be a support now.
Not sure where that line is.
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Erin The RedThe Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered Userregular
They need to please stop telling me to be patient with HR . Week three and they cannot even commit any kind of date structure back to me. I guess we can't make people understand but this isn't something I just want to do. This is something I need to do and not doing it is becoming increasingly painful.
Also my arm hair was an incredible source of dysphoria so I shaved it off. No one has noticed my hands and I am just wearing long sleeves for now.
They take too long and my name will be changed, I'll be on hormones and have my hair styled before they bother to come up with any plan.
I'm really sorry that HR is taking so long. I know that's got to be frustrating as hell. Do you need their sign off before you can change anything? Or can you tell them to shove it?
I feel like if I don't do this by HR then I'd have far less support going forward but at some point that becomes objectively not true as they prove they are not going to be a support now.
Not sure where that line is.
Yeah that's gonna be a tough line to figure out, sadly. One would hope their support isn't contingent on you walking their specific tightrope, but they're mostly there to cover the company's ass.
Big hugs and wishes for them un-assing their heads
Mom was in town and was all "hey let's do lunch"
So I said ok and we got some food. It was really good!
Then mom misgendered me like...several times rapid fire. And she drove, so I didn't want to raise a whole stink but just. Fuck. We've had this fight. I'm tired.
I'm so tired of having to argue with people to have them see me as me, or accept that I am what I say
The only leverage you have over your parents is their access to you (and to their grandchildren!)
What happens when you tell her ‘hey mom,I need you to get my pronouns right, and today you didn’t’—does she deny that she messed it up, or does she acknowledge and say she’ll do better, or what?
Depending on the answer, you may consider starting to restrict her access to you contingent on her good behavior.
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Erin The RedThe Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered Userregular
Mom was in town and was all "hey let's do lunch"
So I said ok and we got some food. It was really good!
Then mom misgendered me like...several times rapid fire. And she drove, so I didn't want to raise a whole stink but just. Fuck. We've had this fight. I'm tired.
I'm so tired of having to argue with people to have them see me as me, or accept that I am what I say
The only leverage you have over your parents is their access to you (and to their grandchildren!)
What happens when you tell her ‘hey mom,I need you to get my pronouns right, and today you didn’t’—does she deny that she messed it up, or does she acknowledge and say she’ll do better, or what?
Depending on the answer, you may consider starting to restrict her access to you contingent on her good behavior.
She turns it into "I'm trying! You have to bear with me, it takes time to change things in your head."
When we had our blow up at Christmas I walked away from the table and she and dad BOTH deadnamed me. I feel like she's mostly coasting and hoping I just deal with it
Mom was in town and was all "hey let's do lunch"
So I said ok and we got some food. It was really good!
Then mom misgendered me like...several times rapid fire. And she drove, so I didn't want to raise a whole stink but just. Fuck. We've had this fight. I'm tired.
I'm so tired of having to argue with people to have them see me as me, or accept that I am what I say
The only leverage you have over your parents is their access to you (and to their grandchildren!)
What happens when you tell her ‘hey mom,I need you to get my pronouns right, and today you didn’t’—does she deny that she messed it up, or does she acknowledge and say she’ll do better, or what?
Depending on the answer, you may consider starting to restrict her access to you contingent on her good behavior.
She turns it into "I'm trying! You have to bear with me, it takes time to change things in your head."
When we had our blow up at Christmas I walked away from the table and she and dad BOTH deadnamed me. I feel like she's mostly coasting and hoping I just deal with it
My parents seem to think noticeably and half-assedly just avoiding naming or gendering me whenever possible is a fair compromise or something, so I can relate to that feeling that they're just kind of counting on you to look the other way as they refuse to actually put in the work to respect you.
I don't think that's your bad at all tbh. Shame on them for not getting their act together, but I'm sure everyone can understand your position re: giving them that much time.
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Hmm so, Oat, the girl I was dating alongside Pinecone, kind of just couldn't get her shit together re: whether or not she wanted to really be serious about stuff, broke everything off and then recanted once, as I started to get to know her a bunch of stuff came up related to trauma she has that I totally get but also causes behavior that super does not jive with trauma I have and was starting to cause a lot of friction, my issues with communication are the opposite of hers (she often says one thing and means the opposite and gets mad if people don't take her "hints", I wouldn't know a hint if it hit me in the back of the head and have a desperately hard time with the baseline normal level of obfuscation in social situations already without that on top heh)
and then she dumped me/us again and then tried to take it back AGAIN this weekend and I just said, no thanks lol as far as I'm concerned.. I may deal with that once but not twice.
I'm kind of bummed but also feel like she never really let things feel settled for long enough for me to feel like super heartbroken or whatever. We are co-workers but I am fairly certain we'll be fine, as people who both put a lot of emphasis on professional etiquette.
Mostly I think I'm kind of mad? I think a lot of the way she acted was related to internalized homophobia/misogyny/biphobia and I guess my previous history of dating people who aren't cis men has been with people who are more self aware about those things and had more experience, so I hadn't had to deal with that as much, though I've heard that it's a common issue.. I guess I came out feeling like I was kind of an experiment, with lots of conversations basically being like,
Her: "I really want this relationship to have real long term potential, this isn't experimental it's really important to me"
Me: "great, me too!"
Her: "Also we've been dating for a few months but can we please not tell my [universally queer and lovely] housemates, and I don't really want to call each other girlfriends or anything like that, also what do you mean you two are maybe moving into a studio are you signing a lease???! How can I take this seriously if you don't think we could move in together"
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edited February 2019
I've had to break up with people because they did the thing of expecting me to pick up on hints and communicated largely through subtext, which I just can't do as a relationship communication strategy. I empathize with your frustration there.
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This has also made me think about just how like, I have so so so so so so much Trouble in social situations where people do not clearly and succinctly express and explain their feelings. I am very straightforward and I am good at talking about my feelings and communicating very directly, I think this is a good thing but I often feel like a weird robot or something because people do not seem to function that way in general. Pinecone has a very unusual mode of conversation/general thought path, but I find them lovely and compelling so I have learned how to understand it as I would some kind of beautiful moon language, and they have made similar effort with me. Unfortunately one can't expect everyone to do that and I don't have the energy to do that for too many people, and while people seem to fall into broad categories there's enough individual variance that I think it's a real part of why I have such a hard time having more than a few friends, which is starting to be a problem as more people leave the town we went to college in (but I love it here and I don't want to leave!!!).
This has also made me think about just how like, I have so so so so so so much Trouble in social situations where people do not clearly and succinctly express and explain their feelings. I am very straightforward and I am good at talking about my feelings and communicating very directly, I think this is a good thing but I often feel like a weird robot or something because people do not seem to function that way in general. Pinecone has a very unusual mode of conversation/general thought path, but I find them lovely and compelling so I have learned how to understand it as I would some kind of beautiful moon language, and they have made similar effort with me. Unfortunately one can't expect everyone to do that and I don't have the energy to do that for too many people, and while people seem to fall into broad categories there's enough individual variance that I think it's a real part of why I have such a hard time having more than a few friends, which is starting to be a problem as more people leave the town we went to college in (but I love it here and I don't want to leave!!!).
Yes, I am extremely direct and open and I similarly struggle when people are not. With my husband I have to explicitly ask him 'tell me how you are feeling, because otherwise I can't tell!' and we have never really resolved that and I have always had to pry it out of him. It's extremely frustrating. I know that I don't always 100% understand my feelings, meaning that sometimes I inadvertently misrepresent them, but at least I try to be really open and communicative and to lay out how I feel and why.
You will be able to find more emotionally open and introspective friends! If I can do it, you definitely can.
(she often says one thing and means the opposite and gets mad if people don't take her "hints"
Hello yes hi I dated a person like this and I was absolutely miserable and the idea was for it to be an open relationship with lots of communication and it ended up being them basically being like "oh yeah I slept with so-and-so a few nights ago"
good on you for drawing a line and standing up for yourself. Definitely the right move in the long run.
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Hahahaha Cred when I saw your agree I grinned
Thanks guys that's very encouraging ^^
She's sending me messages about how now this is apparently my fault and somehow it's now that I'm breaking up with her so! I will chalk this up as an interesting thing that was definitely not going anywhere nice!
We added a 5th person to my office’s trans cabal! I took the group out to lunch today on the company dime—if you are a senior consultant and go out with consultants, you can as far as I can tell call it ‘mentorship’ and expense it—and the new girl is fun to talk to. She is part of the not quite out at work set, so I’m glad we’re here for community while she figures out a plan.
Also she’s a developer, so I took an educated guess and at the end I was like btw, this group is all super nerds so if you need to discuss vital issues of board games or roleplaying games or videogames, we got u, and she was like oh! I just started in a new D&D game and I was like yesssss hahaha I knew it
But also could this office hire a trans guy so it’s not just me ;_;
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Erin The RedThe Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered Userregular
So we just got an email from the diversity and inclusion team that 2 of our 3 upcoming events were being cancelled.
They approved a bullying awareness one but blocked aromantic awareness and the international trans day of visibility. Bullying one cost a few hundred bucks. The other two are free. So it's not for money reasons they're cancelling.
The email says "I recommend that the group focus on more global topics such that promote overall tolerance, acceptance and respect for employees.". Which. What? What!
This group is here to promote those things of LGBT+ people. There are several different groups in the company covering several different topics. I'm pissed off because they canned my TDoR event last year.
I fired off an email to our president (I'm the VP of the group and wanted to follow chain of command or whatever) but yeah.
Erg= employee resource group, in the email below
'I’m really curious as to what “on more global topics such that promote overall tolerance, acceptance and respect for employees” are? There’s a parents group. There’s an black employees ERG. There’s a veterans ERG. There’s a women’s ERG. There’s a young professionals ERG. What is it that WE are here to do? We are the LGBT+ ERG
Are we not allowed to talk about LGBT+ topics? Bullying was approved, but ones more directly related to marginalized communities isn’t.
I’m not feeling a lot of tolerance, empathy, or respect pointed at us at the moment.'
I'm so fucking tired, y'all. This isn't even a token effort. This is keeping the gays in a club so that the company can pat itself on the back. That's it and it's bullshit
Yes, I’ve heard language like this before too—to focus on issues that impact all employees. It is, of course, completely unacceptable for the team to tell you that, but I’m not sure how you can go about fighting that (useless, erasing, actively harmful) attitude.
My firm tried to switch over to a one size fits all Diversity and Inclusion proposition, but the individual Business Resource Groups, including the lgbt one, are really strong and are absolutely not going anywhere.
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I want to awesome the sternly worded email, but the rest of that post is a shitty situation.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
Erin The RedThe Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered Userregular
Like. I proposed trans day of remembrance. A banner with names, with an LED candle under it. Simple and cheap.
Denied.
Trans awareness month event. Just some intranet articles with terminology and stuff.
Denied.
It's always "oh we will get the next one" and I'm fucking THROUGH being used as a goddamn bargaining chip here so that the group can sacrifice something to get the event they really want. I'm the only trans person here, as far as I know. I'm a minority within a minority. I just want to feel seen. Once? For a little while?
If you don't promote awareness and tolerance and acceptance of trans people, you're helping to add more names to the remembrance list. It's as fucking simple as that. Either help us be accepted, or acknowledge that you're helping people not give a shit when we die.
I've had to take a few walks today to keep from walking down to HR and just... Screaming at people until I was too busy crying to scream anymore.
If you don't promote awareness and tolerance and acceptance of trans people, you're helping to add more names to the remembrance list. It's as fucking simple as that. Either help us be accepted, or acknowledge that you're helping people not give a shit when we die.
I've had to take a few walks today to keep from walking down to HR and just... Screaming at people until I was too busy crying to scream anymore.
I am not sure I would be able to resist. They sound like they need a reminder of why 'Silence = Death' is a slogan.
Because they are being pretty silent.
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ShadowenSnores in the morningLoserdomRegistered Userregular
edited February 2019
Hey, so you remember the hbomberguy stream and the money raised for trans kids for the Mermaids charity because a certain has-been comedy writer turned out to be a raging transphobe and astroturfed a campaign to get their national lottery funding put on hold for review?
Here's hoping for a return of that morning-after-the-stream feeling, because Mermaids has been reviewed and the UK government's still going to give them the money.
So on top of the $340k the stream raised they're getting their £500k grant plus there was a huge outpouring of support for and some platforming of trans people. Doing a quick and dirty conversion that should be a bit over £760k for trans kids over the next five years.
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Hey, so you remember the hbomberguy stream and the money raised for trans kids for the Mermaids charity because a certain has-been comedy writer turned out to be a raging transphobe and astroturfed a campaign to get their national lottery funding put on hold for review?
Here's hoping for a return of that morning-after-the-stream feeling, because Mermaids has been reviewed and the UK government's still going to give them the money.
So on top of the $340k the stream raised they're getting their £500k grant plus there was a huge outpouring of support for platforming of trans people. Doing a quick and dirty conversion that should be a bit over £760k for trans kids over the next five years.
I also think it's pretty significant and important that TERFs managed to get enough attention with their antics to cause the National Lottery to review their decision and the result was to affirm support. That feels like a significant win--it's an open rejection of their arguments, such that they are.
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Fully expecting to see some pretty shitty headlines in the papers over the next few days about this though. they won't take it well.
Fully expecting to see some pretty shitty headlines in the papers over the next few days about this though. they won't take it well.
The Daily Mail will put their nuanced and thoughtful spin on it, I suspect...
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Why is the UK press so anti-trans? Even the normally terrible American press isn't as bad as they are. I'm confused as to why they seem so much in accord with being awful.
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Why is the UK press so anti-trans? Even the normally terrible American press isn't as bad as they are. I'm confused as to why they seem so much in accord with being awful.
Why is the UK press so anti-trans? Even the normally terrible American press isn't as bad as they are. I'm confused as to why they seem so much in accord with being awful.
Not necessarily the press, but the whole TERF thing is huge in the UK. My limited understanding is that feminism in the UK never had to grapple with the intersectionality that their counterparts in the US did or the legacy of being an occupied/colonial state like Ireland, which left them very white middle/upper class focused. There’s a heavy overlap between TERF-y groups, conservative dominionist groups, and white supremecists. I would imagine that that along with the general tabloid-y-ness of the UK press plays a big part. But I am absolutely not an expert in any of this, so I would defer to those who actually live there and social scientists who study this kind of thing.
I've understood the prominence of UK TERFs as primarily a small number of people pretending to be a much larger group
you know, multiple sockpuppet social media accounts and e-mails, combined with an influence over key media avenues
just a small and incredibly shitty group of people, determined to be as utterly hateful and pathetic as possible
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So I said ok and we got some food. It was really good!
Then mom misgendered me like...several times rapid fire. And she drove, so I didn't want to raise a whole stink but just. Fuck. We've had this fight. I'm tired.
I'm so tired of having to argue with people to have them see me as me, or accept that I am what I say
I feel like if I don't do this by HR then I'd have far less support going forward but at some point that becomes objectively not true as they prove they are not going to be a support now.
Not sure where that line is.
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Yeah that's gonna be a tough line to figure out, sadly. One would hope their support isn't contingent on you walking their specific tightrope, but they're mostly there to cover the company's ass.
Big hugs and wishes for them un-assing their heads
The only leverage you have over your parents is their access to you (and to their grandchildren!)
What happens when you tell her ‘hey mom,I need you to get my pronouns right, and today you didn’t’—does she deny that she messed it up, or does she acknowledge and say she’ll do better, or what?
Depending on the answer, you may consider starting to restrict her access to you contingent on her good behavior.
She turns it into "I'm trying! You have to bear with me, it takes time to change things in your head."
When we had our blow up at Christmas I walked away from the table and she and dad BOTH deadnamed me. I feel like she's mostly coasting and hoping I just deal with it
and then there's simply not trying hard enough
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My parents seem to think noticeably and half-assedly just avoiding naming or gendering me whenever possible is a fair compromise or something, so I can relate to that feeling that they're just kind of counting on you to look the other way as they refuse to actually put in the work to respect you.
And then she doubled my doses! So hopefully that lightening will now start actually happening!
at least they could admit that they didn't want to hop over the painfully low bar I set for them
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they had what like ten years to work on it
probably one of my bigger regrets of the past few years was not drawing that line sooner
buuuuuuuut I'm also sorta terrified of my parents, reflexively, because of some longterm childhood traumas
at least now I can make some damn headway with therapy in regards to my CPTSD
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and then she dumped me/us again and then tried to take it back AGAIN this weekend and I just said, no thanks lol as far as I'm concerned.. I may deal with that once but not twice.
I'm kind of bummed but also feel like she never really let things feel settled for long enough for me to feel like super heartbroken or whatever. We are co-workers but I am fairly certain we'll be fine, as people who both put a lot of emphasis on professional etiquette.
Mostly I think I'm kind of mad? I think a lot of the way she acted was related to internalized homophobia/misogyny/biphobia and I guess my previous history of dating people who aren't cis men has been with people who are more self aware about those things and had more experience, so I hadn't had to deal with that as much, though I've heard that it's a common issue.. I guess I came out feeling like I was kind of an experiment, with lots of conversations basically being like,
Her: "I really want this relationship to have real long term potential, this isn't experimental it's really important to me"
Me: "great, me too!"
Her: "Also we've been dating for a few months but can we please not tell my [universally queer and lovely] housemates, and I don't really want to call each other girlfriends or anything like that, also what do you mean you two are maybe moving into a studio are you signing a lease???! How can I take this seriously if you don't think we could move in together"
Me: *intense feeling of whiplash*
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Yes, I am extremely direct and open and I similarly struggle when people are not. With my husband I have to explicitly ask him 'tell me how you are feeling, because otherwise I can't tell!' and we have never really resolved that and I have always had to pry it out of him. It's extremely frustrating. I know that I don't always 100% understand my feelings, meaning that sometimes I inadvertently misrepresent them, but at least I try to be really open and communicative and to lay out how I feel and why.
You will be able to find more emotionally open and introspective friends! If I can do it, you definitely can.
Hello yes hi I dated a person like this and I was absolutely miserable and the idea was for it to be an open relationship with lots of communication and it ended up being them basically being like "oh yeah I slept with so-and-so a few nights ago"
good on you for drawing a line and standing up for yourself. Definitely the right move in the long run.
Thanks guys that's very encouraging ^^
She's sending me messages about how now this is apparently my fault and somehow it's now that I'm breaking up with her so! I will chalk this up as an interesting thing that was definitely not going anywhere nice!
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Also she’s a developer, so I took an educated guess and at the end I was like btw, this group is all super nerds so if you need to discuss vital issues of board games or roleplaying games or videogames, we got u, and she was like oh! I just started in a new D&D game and I was like yesssss hahaha I knew it
They approved a bullying awareness one but blocked aromantic awareness and the international trans day of visibility. Bullying one cost a few hundred bucks. The other two are free. So it's not for money reasons they're cancelling.
The email says "I recommend that the group focus on more global topics such that promote overall tolerance, acceptance and respect for employees.". Which. What? What!
This group is here to promote those things of LGBT+ people. There are several different groups in the company covering several different topics. I'm pissed off because they canned my TDoR event last year.
I fired off an email to our president (I'm the VP of the group and wanted to follow chain of command or whatever) but yeah.
Erg= employee resource group, in the email below
Are we not allowed to talk about LGBT+ topics? Bullying was approved, but ones more directly related to marginalized communities isn’t.
I’m not feeling a lot of tolerance, empathy, or respect pointed at us at the moment.'
I'm so fucking tired, y'all. This isn't even a token effort. This is keeping the gays in a club so that the company can pat itself on the back. That's it and it's bullshit
My firm tried to switch over to a one size fits all Diversity and Inclusion proposition, but the individual Business Resource Groups, including the lgbt one, are really strong and are absolutely not going anywhere.
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Denied.
Trans awareness month event. Just some intranet articles with terminology and stuff.
Denied.
It's always "oh we will get the next one" and I'm fucking THROUGH being used as a goddamn bargaining chip here so that the group can sacrifice something to get the event they really want. I'm the only trans person here, as far as I know. I'm a minority within a minority. I just want to feel seen. Once? For a little while?
If you don't promote awareness and tolerance and acceptance of trans people, you're helping to add more names to the remembrance list. It's as fucking simple as that. Either help us be accepted, or acknowledge that you're helping people not give a shit when we die.
I've had to take a few walks today to keep from walking down to HR and just... Screaming at people until I was too busy crying to scream anymore.
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
I am not sure I would be able to resist. They sound like they need a reminder of why 'Silence = Death' is a slogan.
Because they are being pretty silent.
The harder the rain, honey, the sweeter the sun.
Here's hoping for a return of that morning-after-the-stream feeling, because Mermaids has been reviewed and the UK government's still going to give them the money.
So on top of the $340k the stream raised they're getting their £500k grant plus there was a huge outpouring of support for and some platforming of trans people. Doing a quick and dirty conversion that should be a bit over £760k for trans kids over the next five years.
I also think it's pretty significant and important that TERFs managed to get enough attention with their antics to cause the National Lottery to review their decision and the result was to affirm support. That feels like a significant win--it's an open rejection of their arguments, such that they are.
The Daily Mail will put their nuanced and thoughtful spin on it, I suspect...
take it for what it's worth, I'm not sure I 100% agree with it all, but here's a take on that: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/07/opinion/terf-trans-women-britain.html
!! Pls enjoy this good gay art I made by the way
Concepts for my someday queer fantasy revenge webcomic idea
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Not necessarily the press, but the whole TERF thing is huge in the UK. My limited understanding is that feminism in the UK never had to grapple with the intersectionality that their counterparts in the US did or the legacy of being an occupied/colonial state like Ireland, which left them very white middle/upper class focused. There’s a heavy overlap between TERF-y groups, conservative dominionist groups, and white supremecists. I would imagine that that along with the general tabloid-y-ness of the UK press plays a big part. But I am absolutely not an expert in any of this, so I would defer to those who actually live there and social scientists who study this kind of thing.
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you know, multiple sockpuppet social media accounts and e-mails, combined with an influence over key media avenues
just a small and incredibly shitty group of people, determined to be as utterly hateful and pathetic as possible
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
Rock Band DLC | GW:OttW - arrcd | WLD - Thortar