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Apologies of this has already been mentioned, but HBO currently has a new dramatic series based on the life of Anne Lister, called Gentleman Jack. It begins with her taking over the administration of Shibden Hall.
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KayWhat we need...Is a little bit of PANIC.Registered Userregular
Smof, have you had the chance yet to meet other trans dudes around you who might be further along? At the meetup I was completely blown away by the trans men there and they also talked about T levels and stuff.
Coming from the other direction, but yeah I couldn't notice shit at 3 months. It's not that progress is slow so much as the things that change are only really overtly noticeable to you after a while (like how you don't really notice your hair growth day to day but after a few weeks it sort of dawns on you "oh that's really grown out huh")
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Smof, have you had the chance yet to meet other trans dudes around you who might be further along? At the meetup I was completely blown away by the trans men there and they also talked about T levels and stuff.
Yeah I've met a couple, they both transitioned years ago. They look great. Which doesn't make me feel any more patient. A lot of people have fully broken voices by 3 months, I got nothin'.
Sorry, I don't mean to argue, I was trying to be reassuring.
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I'm probably being touchy. I hear "changes are so slow you won't notice" quite a lot. It doesn't really make not seeing any changes feel any better. And when one of those changes you've been told to expect early on is to stop getting a period, it's pretty hard not to notice when you get one. And it makes you feel like shit. Knowing that things will probably happen at some point in the future doesn't do much to how I feel day to day. I'm not having a go. I'm just venting.
I'm probably being touchy. I hear "changes are so slow you won't notice" quite a lot. It doesn't really make not seeing any changes feel any better. And when one of those changes you've been told to expect early on is to stop getting a period, it's pretty hard not to notice when you get one. And it makes you feel like shit. Knowing that things will probably happen at some point in the future doesn't do much to how I feel day to day. I'm not having a go. I'm just venting.
Do you know if the T levels are as high as they should be or was the endo being conservative at first? If it’s possible you should go back to them and be like YO THIS SHIT ISN’T WORKING and see if they’re receptive to upping the dose or giving you a different method of administration
I know a cis guy who was doing the absorption through skin stuff and it just didn’t work for him and he had to switch to injections so maybe something like that...
Cause honestly no I will say from my perspective that you will notice some stuff after a couple months and if you are not noticing any stuff at all it probably means your body isn’t getting enough T for whatever reason
Like yeah other people notice more change in me than I see in myself—was interesting at the tattoo place for example for me to be like oh yeah sry I have small arms and they were like uhhh no not really—but you can definitely judge that stuff is happening
That said my voice is one of the things that, man, idk
I can consciously pitch it lower and attenuate my inflections and all that but I don’t because ???? Who the fuck knows
It’s easier when I’m playing in a roleplaying game and can unselfconsciously change my speech patterns to be someone else
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I'm probably being touchy. I hear "changes are so slow you won't notice" quite a lot. It doesn't really make not seeing any changes feel any better. And when one of those changes you've been told to expect early on is to stop getting a period, it's pretty hard not to notice when you get one. And it makes you feel like shit. Knowing that things will probably happen at some point in the future doesn't do much to how I feel day to day. I'm not having a go. I'm just venting.
Do you know if the T levels are as high as they should be or was the endo being conservative at first? If it’s possible you should go back to them and be like YO THIS SHIT ISN’T WORKING and see if they’re receptive to upping the dose or giving you a different method of administration
I know a cis guy who was doing the absorption through skin stuff and it just didn’t work for him and he had to switch to injections so maybe something like that...
Cause honestly no I will say from my perspective that you will notice some stuff after a couple months and if you are not noticing any stuff at all it probably means your body isn’t getting enough T for whatever reason
Like yeah other people notice more change in me than I see in myself—was interesting at the tattoo place for example for me to be like oh yeah sry I have small arms and they were like uhhh no not really—but you can definitely judge that stuff is happening
I have a followup booked with the endo but it's not til August. I got bloods done a few weeks ago and my levels are in the right range, but at the bottom end of the range. I'm sure I need a higher dose but I guess I have to wait another 3 months.
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GrogMy sword is only steelin a useful shape.Registered Userregular
edited May 2019
NHS approach definitely seems to be slow and steady/conservative. The last year has been slow and it's only now that they've gotten my T low enough, even then the changes don't feel huge.
What sucks is going round and round in my head wondering if I'm being impatient or if I can't see the changes (didn't want to take before pics, now regretting it) or if my levels are off. It's fucking exhausting. Thankfully I'm in a good place right now and can deal with it a little better, but there's always that little niggle of wondering if I'm being given the right treatment/dose.
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21stCenturyCall me Pixel, or Pix for short![They/Them]Registered Userregular
i need to vent a bit.
I'm really unhappy about being ace, lately. IDK if it's caused by my recent bout of depression or causing it but it's also not a good feeling. Maybe i should see a professional but i'm terrified if i do they'll treat my orientation as a pathology and refuse to help in a way that works for me. Like, i know there's a lot of people out there who don't believe asexuality is a thing or believe it's an active lie, to hide various pathologies, some of which are very much socially unacceptable. So that leaves me scared to seek help because i feel the odds are that i can't get help or will get extremely bad help. I'm usually fine with being ace, too... but I think I'm in a spot where i need close companionship. But not too close.
Asexual doesn't always also mean aromantic, being ace doesn't mean that you can't want someone to snuggle with sometimes, or to have a romantic connection / life partnership type situation with someone. How you might go about finding someone with whom you can have that connection with I don't know [I'm pretty much both ace and aro so.. yea] but you're not like.. doing it wrong if you seek companionship while being ace. You just need to find someone who gets and respects your boundaries and who is compatible with them.
Main thing is to find your you first, and label second. Don't feel pressured to conform to a label, even after you've decided on it.
I got one of the letters I need for HRT from my psychotherapist and I expected to be happier
I also need to show it to the psychiatrist I'm going to see next week and what's in there doesn't feel very representative of me as a person, the pronoun usage also bugs me
I hope next week goes well, this could take anywhere from one to six sessions
Ace has many different variations among the spectrum and a desire for companionship is pretty common among them, so if that's how you're feeling then try to act on it I think. Granted this is coming from someone who is aromantic so I'm not exactly speaking from experience, but most people seem to seek out such relationships regardless of their orientations so it's not like it's at odds with being ace
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Did they fuck up the pronouns?
I'm glad you've been able to make a bit of progress, even if it's only small.
The only way I could excuse that is if it's just a pre-written, copy-pasted letter, but I suspect it is not, and even then, would it really kill them to take two minutes to insert correct pronouns before printing the letter?
If it's a pre-written letter it should just say "they". He/she, in addition to being clunky as hell to read, is shittily binary.
Any licensed therapist who's actually qualified to deal with gender should know this!
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Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
Speaking of binary bullshit, my friend had a baby yesterday so this morning I wanted to buy them a card. All the ones with cute designs were so aggressively gendered, and like one that just said "new baby". I feel like writing in it "sorry I got you a boring card but I struggled to find one that didn't reference your newborn child's genitals".
Hmm we’re applying to go to some sort of gay corporate conference “out and equal” and I’ve been asked to provide my gender identity (optional but will strengthen our application if I do)
ummmmmm
I don’t know what my gender identity is
I legit can’t answer
Shit I seriously do not know how to answer that
Ummmmmmmm
help...
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FencingsaxIt is difficult to get a man to understand, when his salary depends upon his not understandingGNU Terry PratchettRegistered Userregular
edited May 2019
Questioning should be a valid response
Fencingsax on
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Donovan PuppyfuckerA dagger in the dark isworth a thousand swords in the morningRegistered Userregular
Hmm we’re applying to go to some sort of gay corporate conference “out and equal” and I’ve been asked to provide my gender identity (optional but will strengthen our application if I do)
ummmmmm
I don’t know what my gender identity is
I legit can’t answer
Shit I seriously do not know how to answer that
Ummmmmmmm
help...
Can you put down "badass" for your gender identity?
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"Gwynith, Astorian, Magdalena: what do the auguries say about our Q3 profits?"
"Lo, shall it be a blood sea under a dark moon. The earthmother rises, and with her, vengeance! Vengeance and a black tide sweeping the folly of man away e'er more."
"Nice! We'll get a pizza party!"
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Overheard someone referring to me as "it".
Good thing I got a new job. Still gonna report it though.
Mentally I am angry but I am also noting it is triggering some dysphoria. So great.
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Hey this is absolutely inexcusable and I really hope those people get a serious fucking talking to.
I'll fight somebody if you need. Ain't got time for shitheads. They go in the trash
You're probably the worst person to notice changes tbh. You see yourself every minute of every day.
Yeah I've met a couple, they both transitioned years ago. They look great. Which doesn't make me feel any more patient. A lot of people have fully broken voices by 3 months, I got nothin'.
Do you know if the T levels are as high as they should be or was the endo being conservative at first? If it’s possible you should go back to them and be like YO THIS SHIT ISN’T WORKING and see if they’re receptive to upping the dose or giving you a different method of administration
I know a cis guy who was doing the absorption through skin stuff and it just didn’t work for him and he had to switch to injections so maybe something like that...
Cause honestly no I will say from my perspective that you will notice some stuff after a couple months and if you are not noticing any stuff at all it probably means your body isn’t getting enough T for whatever reason
Like yeah other people notice more change in me than I see in myself—was interesting at the tattoo place for example for me to be like oh yeah sry I have small arms and they were like uhhh no not really—but you can definitely judge that stuff is happening
I can consciously pitch it lower and attenuate my inflections and all that but I don’t because ???? Who the fuck knows
It’s easier when I’m playing in a roleplaying game and can unselfconsciously change my speech patterns to be someone else
I have a followup booked with the endo but it's not til August. I got bloods done a few weeks ago and my levels are in the right range, but at the bottom end of the range. I'm sure I need a higher dose but I guess I have to wait another 3 months.
What sucks is going round and round in my head wondering if I'm being impatient or if I can't see the changes (didn't want to take before pics, now regretting it) or if my levels are off. It's fucking exhausting. Thankfully I'm in a good place right now and can deal with it a little better, but there's always that little niggle of wondering if I'm being given the right treatment/dose.
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Main thing is to find your you first, and label second. Don't feel pressured to conform to a label, even after you've decided on it.
I also need to show it to the psychiatrist I'm going to see next week and what's in there doesn't feel very representative of me as a person, the pronoun usage also bugs me
I hope next week goes well, this could take anywhere from one to six sessions
I'm glad you've been able to make a bit of progress, even if it's only small.
That seems kind of shitty for a therapist to pull.
At the very least, I feel like 'they' is much more polite if you're unclear which pronoun to use.
Any licensed therapist who's actually qualified to deal with gender should know this!
It's not a pre-written letter, it's more like an evaluation and summary
Anyway this is not a big problem and there might be some reason for it, I just hope my meeting with the psychiatrist next week goes well
ummmmmm
I don’t know what my gender identity is
I legit can’t answer
Shit I seriously do not know how to answer that
Ummmmmmmm
help...
Can you put down "badass" for your gender identity?