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QUILTBAG: It’s Pride Time

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  • StericaSterica Yes Registered User, Moderator mod
    I mean if puberty doesn’t happen then you just introduce hormones whenever you’re ready to initiate the Correct Puberty.

    Or avoid it altogether, and live a neotenous life. People love axotls!

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  • ToxTox I kill threads he/himRegistered User regular
    The Sauce wrote: »
    My understanding was that hormones aren't necessary or even particularly helpful until, like, mid-teen years, and you only need puberty blockers before then. Is that outdated?

    Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.

    Yeah that's what I figured. I just ... Didn't have the confidence said co-worker would be able to grasp such an advanced concept

    So

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  • PerrsunPerrsun Registered User regular
    As of a few days ago apparently Best Buy now supports pronouns on nametags. There have been optional fields on the nametags for stuff like job title, other languages you speak, "Team member since...", etc but IIRC this is the first time there's been a dropdown for pronouns.

    The screen I saw had 4 options:
    She/Her/Hers
    They/Them/Theirs
    He/Him/His
    Ze/Zir/Zirs

  • lonelyahavalonelyahava Call me Ahava ~~She/Her~~ Move to New ZealandRegistered User regular
    one of my besties just came out as Bi and I'm so excited I could just dance.

    She's on a national road trip at the moment but when she gets back I'm gonna give her the biggest consensual hugs

  • StericaSterica Yes Registered User, Moderator mod
    Perrsun wrote: »
    As of a few days ago apparently Best Buy now supports pronouns on nametags. There have been optional fields on the nametags for stuff like job title, other languages you speak, "Team member since...", etc but IIRC this is the first time there's been a dropdown for pronouns.

    The screen I saw had 4 options:
    She/Her/Hers
    They/Them/Theirs
    He/Him/His
    Ze/Zir/Zirs
    Team Member Since was the default, and I don’t think they ever told us there even WERE alternatives to that.

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  • lonelyahavalonelyahava Call me Ahava ~~She/Her~~ Move to New ZealandRegistered User regular
    one of my besties just came out as Bi and I'm so excited I could just dance.

    She's on a national road trip at the moment but when she gets back I'm gonna give her the biggest consensual hugs



    Welp, turns out I have lost my ability to translate poetry!
    She was apparently only celebrating >My< being Bi, not coming out herself.

    Haha so glad I double checked with her this morning cause that mighta been awkward.

    Oh well, she's still getting hella hugs.

  • MrMonroeMrMonroe passed out on the floor nowRegistered User regular
    Being hugely confused by everyone around you: The Bi Experience

  • ChincymcchillaChincymcchilla Registered User regular
    I forgot to post that I came out as bi on bi visibility day

    Happy belated BVD everyone!

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  • ApocalyptusApocalyptus Registered User regular
    Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
    Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too :/

    It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.

  • ElldrenElldren Is a woman dammit ceterum censeoRegistered User regular
    Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
    Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too :/

    It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.

    Yeah

    I’ve gradually come around to accept that any surgical intervention in intersex children is a fundamental violation of their bodily autonomy. Shit’s rough

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  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
    Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too :/

    It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.

    Good point, I did not think of that

  • AnzekayAnzekay Registered User regular
    Okay, it took calling several different parts of the hospital but I found out what's going on.

    Seems I've been referred to a transgender healthcare specialist GP at some new-ish clinic attached to the sexual health clinic there? And she works with a bunch of endocrinologists and does also prescribe stuff herself if she thinks further consultation from an endo isn't required.

    I did just get my appointment set though! Unfortunately it's not til late January... But still, having a date locked in is great.

  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    Apparently my psychiatrist's former colleague or predecessor was so abusive towards trans people that he actually got removed from the clinic

  • pimentopimento she/they/pim Registered User regular
    Yeesh. At least something was done about them I guess, but fucking hell.

  • Kane Red RobeKane Red Robe Master of Magic ArcanusRegistered User regular
    I forgot to post that I came out as bi on bi visibility day

    Happy belated BVD everyone!

    Congrats and welcome!

  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    edited September 2019
    There was probably a week of hell. A week of hard talking and both of us being absolutely honest with each other.

    We came to a place where we are still together and our relationship is stronger for it but it still feels fragile.

    I am really tired right now.

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    Also I am flying to California next month to see my girlfriend.

    Mostly just huntin' monsters.
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  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    Today is the Trans March on Washington! Twitter live stream:

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  • InfamyDeferredInfamyDeferred Registered User regular
    Oh wow

    I really shouldn't have assumed the march would be in the evening

    Totally missed that

  • aStoryAboutYouaStoryAboutYou Registered User regular
    The Sauce wrote: »
    Today is the Trans March on Washington! Twitter live stream:


    we were luckily already visiting DC this weekend and made it out to the latter half of the rally and the march! there really is nothing like majority-trans space.

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  • Curly_BraceCurly_Brace Robot Girl Mimiga VillageRegistered User regular
    edited October 2019
    My legal name and gender changes are fully complete! Huzzah!

    Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)

    Curly_Brace on
  • Calamity JaneCalamity Jane That Wrong Love Registered User regular
    edited October 2019
    the furry gay sex comic i wrote about being a whore is now in best american comics 2019 https://www.hmhbooks.com/shop/books/The-Best-American-Comics-2019/9780358067283

    not really a prompt to buy it but it made more sense to show you that versus the facebook post i was tagged in. im psyched about this. this is a comic collection that fuckin harvey pekar was a guest editor on

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  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    I am preparing to walk away from the forums.

    If you want to keep in touch feel free to reach out

    I hope to see you all in some place or another.

    You're all great and we're so insturmental in me getting through transition.

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  • MsAnthropyMsAnthropy The Lady of Pain Breaks the Rhythm, Breaks the Rhythm, Breaks the Rhythm The City of FlowersRegistered User regular
    My legal name and gender changes are fully complete! Huzzah!

    Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)

    Good luck and godspeed. I found changing shut with Banks and utilities 10x harder than any government agency.
    Seriously had to send documents to one bank three times because they kept claiming to have ‘not received it’ when I faxed it into them from one of their own branches. Then they sent me a card with Dead-firstname Correct-last name, and misgendered me on the phone when I called to correct it. I made them rush a corrected card, and then promptly called them back up to close the account because Eff-them.

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  • lonelyahavalonelyahava Call me Ahava ~~She/Her~~ Move to New ZealandRegistered User regular
    Entaru wrote: »
    I am preparing to walk away from the forums.

    If you want to keep in touch feel free to reach out

    I hope to see you all in some place or another.

    You're all great and we're so insturmental in me getting through transition.

    I hope that everything is ok with you!

    It was a privilege and an honor to know you through this small space and to watch you find your happiness.

    Best wishes and love to you.

  • SeidkonaSeidkona Had an upgrade Registered User regular
    Entaru wrote: »
    I am preparing to walk away from the forums.

    If you want to keep in touch feel free to reach out

    I hope to see you all in some place or another.

    You're all great and we're so insturmental in me getting through transition.

    I hope that everything is ok with you!

    It was a privilege and an honor to know you through this small space and to watch you find your happiness.

    Best wishes and love to you.

    Just send me a PM and we can keep in touch. I am around for a little longer as I make sure some connections I want to keep are kept!

    Thank you!

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  • credeikicredeiki Registered User regular
    My legal name and gender changes are fully complete! Huzzah!

    Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)

    high five! I just did the social security name+gender change today but I still need to do dmv and passport and everything else in the universe :(
    maybe dmv this weekend...? but I have videogames to play :(

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  • PlatyPlaty Registered User regular
    I hope T is starting to treat you trans men better

  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    I can actually feel my voice changing now. I don't know why I didn't expect that but it's been a really cool thing to realise.

  • credeikicredeiki Registered User regular
    Platy wrote: »
    I hope T is starting to treat you trans men better

    Ah thanks for the well wishes! It’s going reasonably well. More than one year out I continue not to know what is and isn’t a reasonable timeline or menu of changes because my endocrinologist never saw fit to tell me, and I am not willing to spend my time shifting through anecdotal blogs and youtube videos and trying to draw conclusions. I do not 100% pass the way other trans guys seem to, and it’s hard to say if it’s because it hasn’t been long enough, because I am not pursuing a mode of presentation to look/act bro-y, or because it just is not in the cards. I mostly do not care at the moment and have decided to just see what happens.

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  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    edited October 2019
    I lost my first friend over this. I'm really lucky it took so long before it happened, but it was a very close friend, so it's pretty awful all around.

    It wasn't the sort of thing I was expecting to endure, either. There was no rejection of my identity, no sudden disappearing or holding away, not even misgendering. So it should have been great.

    But it came down to some real bullshit social media shenanigans. There was a consistent pattern of responses to posts of my trans issues that tried to remove the "trans" and make it into just a regular human thing, and a response to a dysphoria post that suggested thinking positive by remembering that I'm financially secure. Like, what the actual fuck.

    It raised my eyebrows, but I ignored it... until I got directly messaged a lengthy diatribe about how an article I'd shared on the local Trans Visibility March was clickbait filled with factual inaccuracies. That it was false and lies that trans people are targeted more than other groups (holy shit), that anyone saying so is somehow trivializing the struggles and hardships that gay and lesbian people suffer (what the fuck), that I should read articles more carefully before sharing them. When I tried to explain how hurtful it was to get hit with that, especially since the whole fucking point was to get exposure to the march (this was literally the only article on the local one I've seen anywhere) he doubled and then tripled down on it, as though I'd exposed a weakness he could go after.

    I was stunned. He's never treated me like that before, never talked to me like that. Not when he thought I was a guy.

    So, I guess on the bright side, I got my first giant bit of aggressive mansplaining. That's sort of affirming, I suppose? I'm reaching here.

    Anyway, I'm not putting up with that. It's a pattern of trans erasure and misogyny, and that's just as toxic as having a friend who intentionally misgenders me. It's still all about controlling my identity and my narrative. I used to put up with that, because I had no identity with which to fight back. People could just run over me without resistance.

    That's not me anymore.

    It hurt. We've known each other for over three decades. He's one of the first people I came out to, and he was very supportive. It's not an easy loss. But, I'm no longer so desperate to have someone call me friend that I'm willing to put up with that.

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  • ButlerButler 89 episodes or bust Registered User regular
    This is unpleasant but I guess it's something folks might want to know about: Looks like the creators of indie game 'Heartbeat' are TERFs.

  • Calamity JaneCalamity Jane That Wrong Love Registered User regular
    is the art style vearing towards gothic lolita meets loli art. because that whole scene is fraught with braindead bigotry

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  • TcheldorTcheldor Registered User regular
    is the art style vearing towards gothic lolita meets loli art. because that whole scene is fraught with braindead bigotry

    Nah. it's pixel art. Super cute good game, so the news is really unfortunate :(

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  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    Local Pride gathering is today!

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    I'm excited! First one for me.

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  • Fleur de AlysFleur de Alys Biohacker Registered User regular
    edited October 2019
    Yeah so, it was awesome. Really nice turnout, tons of friendly people. Not a bad choice for 3rd place out in the world to present femme.

    It was also really hot. So, I brought a sunbrella.

    *snip*

    I rather like it. Maybe I'll make it a thing for me.

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  • LucedesLucedes might be real Registered User regular
    oh! you're pretty cute!

  • Brovid HasselsmofBrovid Hasselsmof [Growling historic on the fury road] Registered User regular
    I had a trans related dream last night, which is rare for me. In it I was a boxer (??) fighting in mixed gender boxing tournaments (??). At one point I had some pretty full-on sideburns, and at the end I knocked out a guy who got violently transphobic at me (he was not one of the boxers).

    I have no idea what any of that means. Except the sideburns I guess, I think I just want sideburns. But now I kind of want to take up boxing? Only I hate confrontation, competition, or being physically active. Dreams are weird.

  • tynictynic PICNIC BADASS Registered User, ClubPA regular
    I hear the stakes are pretty high in the field of competitive facial hair, maybe the sideburns were the key and the boxing was only symbolic.

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