My understanding was that hormones aren't necessary or even particularly helpful until, like, mid-teen years, and you only need puberty blockers before then. Is that outdated?
Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
Yeah that's what I figured. I just ... Didn't have the confidence said co-worker would be able to grasp such an advanced concept
As of a few days ago apparently Best Buy now supports pronouns on nametags. There have been optional fields on the nametags for stuff like job title, other languages you speak, "Team member since...", etc but IIRC this is the first time there's been a dropdown for pronouns.
The screen I saw had 4 options:
She/Her/Hers
They/Them/Theirs
He/Him/His
Ze/Zir/Zirs
As of a few days ago apparently Best Buy now supports pronouns on nametags. There have been optional fields on the nametags for stuff like job title, other languages you speak, "Team member since...", etc but IIRC this is the first time there's been a dropdown for pronouns.
The screen I saw had 4 options:
She/Her/Hers
They/Them/Theirs
He/Him/His
Ze/Zir/Zirs
Team Member Since was the default, and I don’t think they ever told us there even WERE alternatives to that.
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Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too
It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.
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Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too
It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.
Yeah
I’ve gradually come around to accept that any surgical intervention in intersex children is a fundamental violation of their bodily autonomy. Shit’s rough
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Nah that's right. Nobody's giving hormones to 6 year olds.
Well I mean people are, but to children with intersex variations not trans children. Surgery too
It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.
Okay, it took calling several different parts of the hospital but I found out what's going on.
Seems I've been referred to a transgender healthcare specialist GP at some new-ish clinic attached to the sexual health clinic there? And she works with a bunch of endocrinologists and does also prescribe stuff herself if she thinks further consultation from an endo isn't required.
I did just get my appointment set though! Unfortunately it's not til late January... But still, having a date locked in is great.
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"If you divide the whole world into just enemies and friends, you'll end up destroying everything" --Nausicaa of the Valley of Wind
we were luckily already visiting DC this weekend and made it out to the latter half of the rally and the march! there really is nothing like majority-trans space.
not really a prompt to buy it but it made more sense to show you that versus the facebook post i was tagged in. im psyched about this. this is a comic collection that fuckin harvey pekar was a guest editor on
My legal name and gender changes are fully complete! Huzzah!
Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)
Good luck and godspeed. I found changing shut with Banks and utilities 10x harder than any government agency.
Seriously had to send documents to one bank three times because they kept claiming to have ‘not received it’ when I faxed it into them from one of their own branches. Then they sent me a card with Dead-firstname Correct-last name, and misgendered me on the phone when I called to correct it. I made them rush a corrected card, and then promptly called them back up to close the account because Eff-them.
My legal name and gender changes are fully complete! Huzzah!
Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)
high five! I just did the social security name+gender change today but I still need to do dmv and passport and everything else in the universe
maybe dmv this weekend...? but I have videogames to play
I hope T is starting to treat you trans men better
Ah thanks for the well wishes! It’s going reasonably well. More than one year out I continue not to know what is and isn’t a reasonable timeline or menu of changes because my endocrinologist never saw fit to tell me, and I am not willing to spend my time shifting through anecdotal blogs and youtube videos and trying to draw conclusions. I do not 100% pass the way other trans guys seem to, and it’s hard to say if it’s because it hasn’t been long enough, because I am not pursuing a mode of presentation to look/act bro-y, or because it just is not in the cards. I mostly do not care at the moment and have decided to just see what happens.
I lost my first friend over this. I'm really lucky it took so long before it happened, but it was a very close friend, so it's pretty awful all around.
It wasn't the sort of thing I was expecting to endure, either. There was no rejection of my identity, no sudden disappearing or holding away, not even misgendering. So it should have been great.
But it came down to some real bullshit social media shenanigans. There was a consistent pattern of responses to posts of my trans issues that tried to remove the "trans" and make it into just a regular human thing, and a response to a dysphoria post that suggested thinking positive by remembering that I'm financially secure. Like, what the actual fuck.
It raised my eyebrows, but I ignored it... until I got directly messaged a lengthy diatribe about how an article I'd shared on the local Trans Visibility March was clickbait filled with factual inaccuracies. That it was false and lies that trans people are targeted more than other groups (holy shit), that anyone saying so is somehow trivializing the struggles and hardships that gay and lesbian people suffer (what the fuck), that I should read articles more carefully before sharing them. When I tried to explain how hurtful it was to get hit with that, especially since the whole fucking point was to get exposure to the march (this was literally the only article on the local one I've seen anywhere) he doubled and then tripled down on it, as though I'd exposed a weakness he could go after.
I was stunned. He's never treated me like that before, never talked to me like that. Not when he thought I was a guy.
So, I guess on the bright side, I got my first giant bit of aggressive mansplaining. That's sort of affirming, I suppose? I'm reaching here.
Anyway, I'm not putting up with that. It's a pattern of trans erasure and misogyny, and that's just as toxic as having a friend who intentionally misgenders me. It's still all about controlling my identity and my narrative. I used to put up with that, because I had no identity with which to fight back. People could just run over me without resistance.
That's not me anymore.
It hurt. We've known each other for over three decades. He's one of the first people I came out to, and he was very supportive. It's not an easy loss. But, I'm no longer so desperate to have someone call me friend that I'm willing to put up with that.
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I had a trans related dream last night, which is rare for me. In it I was a boxer (??) fighting in mixed gender boxing tournaments (??). At one point I had some pretty full-on sideburns, and at the end I knocked out a guy who got violently transphobic at me (he was not one of the boxers).
I have no idea what any of that means. Except the sideburns I guess, I think I just want sideburns. But now I kind of want to take up boxing? Only I hate confrontation, competition, or being physically active. Dreams are weird.
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Or avoid it altogether, and live a neotenous life. People love axotls!
Yeah that's what I figured. I just ... Didn't have the confidence said co-worker would be able to grasp such an advanced concept
So
The screen I saw had 4 options:
She/Her/Hers
They/Them/Theirs
He/Him/His
Ze/Zir/Zirs
She's on a national road trip at the moment but when she gets back I'm gonna give her the biggest consensual hugs
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Welp, turns out I have lost my ability to translate poetry!
She was apparently only celebrating >My< being Bi, not coming out herself.
Haha so glad I double checked with her this morning cause that mighta been awkward.
Oh well, she's still getting hella hugs.
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Happy belated BVD everyone!
It shows the hypocrisy of “what about the long term side effects” and “it’s so permanent!” even more clearly when no one says anything like that when it’s to make a child “normal”.
Yeah
I’ve gradually come around to accept that any surgical intervention in intersex children is a fundamental violation of their bodily autonomy. Shit’s rough
Good point, I did not think of that
Seems I've been referred to a transgender healthcare specialist GP at some new-ish clinic attached to the sexual health clinic there? And she works with a bunch of endocrinologists and does also prescribe stuff herself if she thinks further consultation from an endo isn't required.
I did just get my appointment set though! Unfortunately it's not til late January... But still, having a date locked in is great.
Congrats and welcome!
We came to a place where we are still together and our relationship is stronger for it but it still feels fragile.
I am really tired right now.
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I really shouldn't have assumed the march would be in the evening
Totally missed that
we were luckily already visiting DC this weekend and made it out to the latter half of the rally and the march! there really is nothing like majority-trans space.
Now to change it with stuff like my bank and, ugh, Paypal. (They are shitty about name changes apparently.)
not really a prompt to buy it but it made more sense to show you that versus the facebook post i was tagged in. im psyched about this. this is a comic collection that fuckin harvey pekar was a guest editor on
If you want to keep in touch feel free to reach out
I hope to see you all in some place or another.
You're all great and we're so insturmental in me getting through transition.
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Good luck and godspeed. I found changing shut with Banks and utilities 10x harder than any government agency.
"The only real politics I knew was that if a guy liked Hitler, I’d beat the stuffing out of him and that would be it." -- Jack Kirby
I hope that everything is ok with you!
It was a privilege and an honor to know you through this small space and to watch you find your happiness.
Best wishes and love to you.
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Just send me a PM and we can keep in touch. I am around for a little longer as I make sure some connections I want to keep are kept!
Thank you!
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high five! I just did the social security name+gender change today but I still need to do dmv and passport and everything else in the universe
maybe dmv this weekend...? but I have videogames to play
Ah thanks for the well wishes! It’s going reasonably well. More than one year out I continue not to know what is and isn’t a reasonable timeline or menu of changes because my endocrinologist never saw fit to tell me, and I am not willing to spend my time shifting through anecdotal blogs and youtube videos and trying to draw conclusions. I do not 100% pass the way other trans guys seem to, and it’s hard to say if it’s because it hasn’t been long enough, because I am not pursuing a mode of presentation to look/act bro-y, or because it just is not in the cards. I mostly do not care at the moment and have decided to just see what happens.
It wasn't the sort of thing I was expecting to endure, either. There was no rejection of my identity, no sudden disappearing or holding away, not even misgendering. So it should have been great.
But it came down to some real bullshit social media shenanigans. There was a consistent pattern of responses to posts of my trans issues that tried to remove the "trans" and make it into just a regular human thing, and a response to a dysphoria post that suggested thinking positive by remembering that I'm financially secure. Like, what the actual fuck.
It raised my eyebrows, but I ignored it... until I got directly messaged a lengthy diatribe about how an article I'd shared on the local Trans Visibility March was clickbait filled with factual inaccuracies. That it was false and lies that trans people are targeted more than other groups (holy shit), that anyone saying so is somehow trivializing the struggles and hardships that gay and lesbian people suffer (what the fuck), that I should read articles more carefully before sharing them. When I tried to explain how hurtful it was to get hit with that, especially since the whole fucking point was to get exposure to the march (this was literally the only article on the local one I've seen anywhere) he doubled and then tripled down on it, as though I'd exposed a weakness he could go after.
I was stunned. He's never treated me like that before, never talked to me like that. Not when he thought I was a guy.
So, I guess on the bright side, I got my first giant bit of aggressive mansplaining. That's sort of affirming, I suppose? I'm reaching here.
Anyway, I'm not putting up with that. It's a pattern of trans erasure and misogyny, and that's just as toxic as having a friend who intentionally misgenders me. It's still all about controlling my identity and my narrative. I used to put up with that, because I had no identity with which to fight back. People could just run over me without resistance.
That's not me anymore.
It hurt. We've known each other for over three decades. He's one of the first people I came out to, and he was very supportive. It's not an easy loss. But, I'm no longer so desperate to have someone call me friend that I'm willing to put up with that.
Nah. it's pixel art. Super cute good game, so the news is really unfortunate
FFXIV: Tchel Fay
Nintendo ID: Tortalius
Steam: Tortalius
Stream: twitch.tv/tortalius
I'm excited! First one for me.
It was also really hot. So, I brought a sunbrella.
*snip*
I rather like it. Maybe I'll make it a thing for me.
I have no idea what any of that means. Except the sideburns I guess, I think I just want sideburns. But now I kind of want to take up boxing? Only I hate confrontation, competition, or being physically active. Dreams are weird.