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I don't even really think of mine as a dead-name really, any more. My mother and I came to an agreement, and my legal name (for close to ten years now) is the one she says she would have picked for a daughter anyhow.
So this is kind of embarrassing, but my speech therapist published the "success story" that features me. I'm a little nervous, having my picture and voice samples out there, but maybe it'll help people who are where I was.
A weird voice in me says this'll somehow get me outed. I mean I'm not sure I'm very recognizable really, but who in my actual life who doesn't already know is going to end up at a website for trans women voice work?
Also there's that thing where I'm basically about to tell everyone anyway and no longer care if I'm somehow outed now.
Anyway! Listening to those samples gave me some pretty heavy feels. Getting lost in the incremental improvements, it's easy to feel like it's not really changing much or sounding very good. But then I hear them in sequence, and like...
I worried I'd feel dysphoric hearing the old voice, but honestly the glee from really hearing the notable changes way overrode that.
For the first time in my life, I like hearing my voice played back to me. I always just assumed it was the thing where everyone hates how they sound recorded. And I mean, there's a bit of that, but it's mostly really good feels. It tells me just how much unrecognized dysphoria there always was with my voice.
Life is good sometimes!
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Got a surgery consultation booked for February. Earliest I could get, despite going private. Now have 3 months to work out how I'm going to pay for it. Estimated wait time for surgery after consultation is 8-12 weeks so if I'm lucky I could be spending my birthday in May recovering from major surgery. Sounds fun.
I'm honestly kind of impressed by that time frame because I'm currently dealing with 3 and 4 month waits just for a basic allergy screen and a therapist because America
So this is kind of embarrassing, but my speech therapist published the "success story" that features me. I'm a little nervous, having my picture and voice samples out there, but maybe it'll help people who are where I was.
A weird voice in me says this'll somehow get me outed. I mean I'm not sure I'm very recognizable really, but who in my actual life who doesn't already know is going to end up at a website for trans women voice work?
Also there's that thing where I'm basically about to tell everyone anyway and no longer care if I'm somehow outed now.
Anyway! Listening to those samples gave me some pretty heavy feels. Getting lost in the incremental improvements, it's easy to feel like it's not really changing much or sounding very good. But then I hear them in sequence, and like...
I worried I'd feel dysphoric hearing the old voice, but honestly the glee from really hearing the notable changes way overrode that.
For the first time in my life, I like hearing my voice played back to me. I always just assumed it was the thing where everyone hates how they sound recorded. And I mean, there's a bit of that, but it's mostly really good feels. It tells me just how much unrecognized dysphoria there always was with my voice.
Life is good sometimes!
You have a beautiful voice!
I'm always amazed to hear these before and after samples when people share them. The difference is astonishing and it gives me hope that I might be able to do something similar with my voice someday. There are a few things that are really important to me and voice is right up there at the top. I think I experience more dysphoria over my voice than almost anything else and I've never liked the way mine sounds.
So this is kind of embarrassing, but my speech therapist published the "success story" that features me. I'm a little nervous, having my picture and voice samples out there, but maybe it'll help people who are where I was.
A weird voice in me says this'll somehow get me outed. I mean I'm not sure I'm very recognizable really, but who in my actual life who doesn't already know is going to end up at a website for trans women voice work?
Also there's that thing where I'm basically about to tell everyone anyway and no longer care if I'm somehow outed now.
Anyway! Listening to those samples gave me some pretty heavy feels. Getting lost in the incremental improvements, it's easy to feel like it's not really changing much or sounding very good. But then I hear them in sequence, and like...
I worried I'd feel dysphoric hearing the old voice, but honestly the glee from really hearing the notable changes way overrode that.
For the first time in my life, I like hearing my voice played back to me. I always just assumed it was the thing where everyone hates how they sound recorded. And I mean, there's a bit of that, but it's mostly really good feels. It tells me just how much unrecognized dysphoria there always was with my voice.
Life is good sometimes!
You have a beautiful voice!
I'm always amazed to hear these before and after samples when people share them. The difference is astonishing and it gives me hope that I might be able to do something similar with my voice someday. There are a few things that are really important to me and voice is right up there at the top. I think I experience more dysphoria over my voice than almost anything else and I've never liked the way mine sounds.
Aww, thank you! ^_^
You can definitely do it It's a lot of work, but if you're really motivated to make the changes, they can happen.
Of course it's not exactly cheap; that financial burden can be a lot to climb over. If that's your current impediment, I wish you the best in overcoming it. It's infuriating that this stuff isn't just straight-up covered by insurance (or, you know, single-fucking-payer). But I digress.
With this particular therapist, I bought the intake + 1 and then two sets of 5 sessions. I only really needed around 7 of those 10 additional sessions, so I've been using the rest as "tune-ups" to try to keep my voice in shape. YMMV, everyone has different speeds.
Also! Don't compare any progress you're making against those samples. I recorded like a dozen or two until I got ones that I really liked (for the current voice). It's not that the other samples were bad or anything, but those are basically the best I can possibly do right now. I was a little torn on whether I should do that, but since I'm not full-time yet, it's easy for some aspects to slip as I'm switching back and forth.
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The former Secretary of State stopped by BBC Radio 4 on Tuesday to promote The Book of Gutsy Women, a profile of 100 extraordinary women co-authored with daughter Chelsea. After the Clintons sparred over transgender rights in an October interview with the U.K. newspaper The Sunday Times, in which the former stateswoman said we must be “sensitive” to transphobia.
Clinton returned to the same line of argument yesterday, urging patience for those who are still “trying to sort it out.”
“I do think there is a legitimate concern about women’s lived experience and the importance of recognizing that, and also the importance of recognizing the self-identification [of transgender people],” she said. “This is all relatively new. People are still trying to find the language for it.”
“I think in the right mindset this can be understood,” the 2016 presidential candidate added, “but it’s going to take some time.”
The comments are fairly interchangeable with last month’s remarks, in which Clinton referred to trans rights as a “very big generational discussion” and claimed the subject wasn’t “something [she] grew up with or ever saw.”
When Sunday Times reporter Decca Aitkenhead asserted that there are women from earlier generations who may be uncomfortable sharing a locker room or dressing room with a transgender woman, the 72-year-old was said to have nodded vigorously in response.
“I would say that, absolutely,” she said. “Absolutely. Yes.”
Clinton’s comments have been a boon to conservatives who have used them to exploit a wedge between trans-affirming progressives and gender-critical segments of the left. The right-wing news site Washington Times called the backlash to her Sunday Times interview “unhinged” and a “completely understandable perspective, particularly for a woman of her generation.”
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always paid the proper lip service in the past, makes you wonder how many other 'progressive' public figures would throw you under the bus if there's money in it
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always paid the proper lip service in the past, makes you wonder how many other 'progressive' public figures would throw you under the bus if there's money in it
Got a surgery consultation booked for February. Earliest I could get, despite going private. Now have 3 months to work out how I'm going to pay for it. Estimated wait time for surgery after consultation is 8-12 weeks so if I'm lucky I could be spending my birthday in May recovering from major surgery. Sounds fun.
tbh it actually was relatively fun for me
lots of drugs, took a month off work and just played league all day and watched tv
went clothing shopping two days after surgery like with my drains still in and high as balls, that was a bad idea but I really wanted new shirts and my ex was at work so he couldn't stop me from walking to the thrift store and collapsing when I got back
good luck getting your appointments, payment methods, etc!
I got deadnamed by both my parents last week. My mum's only recently become consistent with it anyway but it's been months since my dad used my old name so that was a weird thing to hear come out of nowhere.
hm yes I met up with my parents for the first time after I cut them off for about 8 months and within the first 5 minutes my mom misgendered me and then was really defensive about it
she has been trying so hard to see me and she can't keep focused enough to avoid misgendering me? Most people don't even use someone's pronouns when they talk to them, so it's really amazing that she manages not only to do so but to use the wrong ones every conversation
I do however dislike greatly the concept that we were ever our assigned birth genders.
I was never a guy I just played a really bad one in other people's lives for awhile.
This is legit, but keep in mind that some people do frame their personal transitions that way.
It is annoying that cis-written narratives have it ONLY go that way, however.
Oh yeah. It's just that I dislike it when it comes externally from cis people.
Other trans people should frame their transition however they want and I will back them up on it no matter. The transition process is unique for all of us :heartbeat:
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The former Secretary of State stopped by BBC Radio 4 on Tuesday to promote The Book of Gutsy Women, a profile of 100 extraordinary women co-authored with daughter Chelsea. After the Clintons sparred over transgender rights in an October interview with the U.K. newspaper The Sunday Times, in which the former stateswoman said we must be “sensitive” to transphobia.
Clinton returned to the same line of argument yesterday, urging patience for those who are still “trying to sort it out.”
“I do think there is a legitimate concern about women’s lived experience and the importance of recognizing that, and also the importance of recognizing the self-identification [of transgender people],” she said. “This is all relatively new. People are still trying to find the language for it.”
“I think in the right mindset this can be understood,” the 2016 presidential candidate added, “but it’s going to take some time.”
The comments are fairly interchangeable with last month’s remarks, in which Clinton referred to trans rights as a “very big generational discussion” and claimed the subject wasn’t “something [she] grew up with or ever saw.”
When Sunday Times reporter Decca Aitkenhead asserted that there are women from earlier generations who may be uncomfortable sharing a locker room or dressing room with a transgender woman, the 72-year-old was said to have nodded vigorously in response.
“I would say that, absolutely,” she said. “Absolutely. Yes.”
Clinton’s comments have been a boon to conservatives who have used them to exploit a wedge between trans-affirming progressives and gender-critical segments of the left. The right-wing news site Washington Times called the backlash to her Sunday Times interview “unhinged” and a “completely understandable perspective, particularly for a woman of her generation.”
My most charitable (aka least likely) read is that she sounds a bit like my mom when she doesn't feel like she's part of the conversation but still wants to participate and feel helpful/useful so she just constantly urges everyone to remain calm and just relax and let's just talk this through because we don't want anyone getting hurt.
Which is the sort of ultimately useless language that the average Social Entropite might describe as "poop from a butt"
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Yeah, I love everything Dontnod have ever made and this is great to see coming from them.
LiS2 is wonderful and everyone should play it. Diaz brothers for lyfe! :P
Studios claim no trans talent is available, and this in turns reduces the talent pool because trans actors seldom get sufficient work. So it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy and the studio just hires a man to play a trans woman because they fear a trans person wouldn’t be a draw whoops I said the quiet part loud
So, I'll be honest, i only played Remember me and Life is Strange season 1, but i feel confident they can do this right. Why?
Because they actually hired a trans actor to voice Riley.
Apparently it's the first time this happened in video games? Kinda sucks it took this long but also it's pretty cool its's finally happened.
While I agree casting a trans man in the lead is great and it is a bummer that it is so notable that they did so, there are no trans people involved on the creative side of the game and when asked about it they said that they "consulted" with trans people.
I liked Life is Strange, but it had issues that somewhat stemmed from not having actual gay women writing the story, and I am not super excited that they are repeating that pattern here.
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So, I'll be honest, i only played Remember me and Life is Strange season 1, but i feel confident they can do this right. Why?
Because they actually hired a trans actor to voice Riley.
Apparently it's the first time this happened in video games? Kinda sucks it took this long but also it's pretty cool its's finally happened.
While I agree casting a trans man in the lead is great and it is a bummer that it is so notable that they did so, there are no trans people involved on the creative side of the game and when asked about it they said that they "consulted" with trans people.
I liked Life is Strange, but it had issues that somewhat stemmed from not having actual gay women writing the story, and I am not super excited that they are repeating that pattern here.
As someone who gets very little representation in media (but getting better) I think representation written by Cismen, while not ideal, is still a step in the right direction.
the rhetoric doesnt give me disillusion, because that shit got out of my system as soon as trump was elected. that said, aside from the misery of that day or decision it sorta completely convinced me that "careerist posturing was and will always be Ploy First and earnest support second" is no longer a cynical statement.
hillary clinton can actually openly laugh at a trevor noah joke about her killing jeffrey esptein. its all a game for these rich sociopaths. (im using it not as an insult not unlike silly goose but in the clinical sense here)
the rhetoric doesnt give me disillusion, because that shit got out of my system as soon as trump was elected. that said, aside from the misery of that day or decision it sorta completely convinced me that "careerist posturing was and will always be Ploy First and earnest support second" is no longer a cynical statement.
hillary clinton can actually openly laugh at a trevor noah joke about her killing jeffrey esptein. its all a game for these rich sociopaths. (im using it not as an insult not unlike silly goose but in the clinical sense here)
I don't think it's a game, I think it's a reaction to being accused of murder by people for the last 40 years or so.
Like, I take your sentiment, but that specific example doesn't really demonstrate that.
If you wanna pick at Hillary joking about killing someone, her "we came, we saw, we killed him" joke about Gaddafi is more fair, especially given the nature of his death.
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the rhetoric doesnt give me disillusion, because that shit got out of my system as soon as trump was elected. that said, aside from the misery of that day or decision it sorta completely convinced me that "careerist posturing was and will always be Ploy First and earnest support second" is no longer a cynical statement.
hillary clinton can actually openly laugh at a trevor noah joke about her killing jeffrey esptein. its all a game for these rich sociopaths. (im using it not as an insult not unlike silly goose but in the clinical sense here)
I don't think it's a game, I think it's a reaction to being accused of murder by people for the last 40 years or so.
Like, I take your sentiment, but that specific example doesn't really demonstrate that.
Yeah Hilary and Trevor were joking about absurd dumb conspiracy theories, like 'Pizzagate'/Qanon etcetera that she has to put up with.
I'd have laughed too, in her shoes. It's breath-taking how many utterly fucking stupid people there are, that seriously believe this shit.
To be the target at the centre of it all must be so bizarre.
I stumbled across Dr. Mary Walker on Wikipedia and her page has this really nice photograph of her in male dress (date unknown, between 1873 and 1916)
She was a surgeon during the American Civil War and advocated women's suffrage and dress reform, routinely wearing male clothing
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Goddamn. The good doctor is a boss and a half in that photo.
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I'm reading through achewood again and I forgot how many times they say the f slur in this comic! Like, it was the early two thousands, fuckin everyone said it, but still.
I have to also admit that when chucklebot says "what it is you rock and roll (f slur with the t at the end)s" it sings to my soul like a forgotten lullaby.
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A weird voice in me says this'll somehow get me outed. I mean I'm not sure I'm very recognizable really, but who in my actual life who doesn't already know is going to end up at a website for trans women voice work?
Also there's that thing where I'm basically about to tell everyone anyway and no longer care if I'm somehow outed now.
Anyway! Listening to those samples gave me some pretty heavy feels. Getting lost in the incremental improvements, it's easy to feel like it's not really changing much or sounding very good. But then I hear them in sequence, and like...
I worried I'd feel dysphoric hearing the old voice, but honestly the glee from really hearing the notable changes way overrode that.
For the first time in my life, I like hearing my voice played back to me. I always just assumed it was the thing where everyone hates how they sound recorded. And I mean, there's a bit of that, but it's mostly really good feels. It tells me just how much unrecognized dysphoria there always was with my voice.
Life is good sometimes!
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I do however dislike greatly the concept that we were ever our assigned birth genders.
I was never a guy I just played a really bad one in other people's lives for awhile.
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You have a beautiful voice!
I'm always amazed to hear these before and after samples when people share them. The difference is astonishing and it gives me hope that I might be able to do something similar with my voice someday. There are a few things that are really important to me and voice is right up there at the top. I think I experience more dysphoria over my voice than almost anything else and I've never liked the way mine sounds.
You can definitely do it
Of course it's not exactly cheap; that financial burden can be a lot to climb over. If that's your current impediment, I wish you the best in overcoming it. It's infuriating that this stuff isn't just straight-up covered by insurance (or, you know, single-fucking-payer). But I digress.
With this particular therapist, I bought the intake + 1 and then two sets of 5 sessions. I only really needed around 7 of those 10 additional sessions, so I've been using the rest as "tune-ups" to try to keep my voice in shape. YMMV, everyone has different speeds.
Also! Don't compare any progress you're making against those samples. I recorded like a dozen or two until I got ones that I really liked (for the current voice). It's not that the other samples were bad or anything, but those are basically the best I can possibly do right now. I was a little torn on whether I should do that, but since I'm not full-time yet, it's easy for some aspects to slip as I'm switching back and forth.
Context?
I honestly have been actively working to not follow whatever she has been doing.
The easy answer is (nearly) all of them.
"The only real politics I knew was that if a guy liked Hitler, I’d beat the stuffing out of him and that would be it." -- Jack Kirby
It is annoying that cis-written narratives have it ONLY go that way, however.
tbh it actually was relatively fun for me
lots of drugs, took a month off work and just played league all day and watched tv
went clothing shopping two days after surgery like with my drains still in and high as balls, that was a bad idea but I really wanted new shirts and my ex was at work so he couldn't stop me from walking to the thrift store and collapsing when I got back
good luck getting your appointments, payment methods, etc!
hm yes I met up with my parents for the first time after I cut them off for about 8 months and within the first 5 minutes my mom misgendered me and then was really defensive about it
she has been trying so hard to see me and she can't keep focused enough to avoid misgendering me? Most people don't even use someone's pronouns when they talk to them, so it's really amazing that she manages not only to do so but to use the wrong ones every conversation
Oh yeah. It's just that I dislike it when it comes externally from cis people.
Other trans people should frame their transition however they want and I will back them up on it no matter. The transition process is unique for all of us :heartbeat:
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My most charitable (aka least likely) read is that she sounds a bit like my mom when she doesn't feel like she's part of the conversation but still wants to participate and feel helpful/useful so she just constantly urges everyone to remain calm and just relax and let's just talk this through because we don't want anyone getting hurt.
Which is the sort of ultimately useless language that the average Social Entropite might describe as "poop from a butt"
Dontnod, the studio behing Remember Me, Life is Strange and Vampyr just announced a new game.
One of the protags, Riley, is a trans man.
So, I'll be honest, i only played Remember me and Life is Strange season 1, but i feel confident they can do this right. Why?
Because they actually hired a trans actor to voice Riley.
Apparently it's the first time this happened in video games? Kinda sucks it took this long but also it's pretty cool its's finally happened.
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LiS2 is wonderful and everyone should play it. Diaz brothers for lyfe! :P
Studios claim no trans talent is available, and this in turns reduces the talent pool because trans actors seldom get sufficient work. So it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy and the studio just hires a man to play a trans woman because they fear a trans person wouldn’t be a draw whoops I said the quiet part loud
I liked Life is Strange, but it had issues that somewhat stemmed from not having actual gay women writing the story, and I am not super excited that they are repeating that pattern here.
As someone who gets very little representation in media (but getting better) I think representation written by Cismen, while not ideal, is still a step in the right direction.
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hillary clinton can actually openly laugh at a trevor noah joke about her killing jeffrey esptein. its all a game for these rich sociopaths. (im using it not as an insult not unlike silly goose but in the clinical sense here)
I don't think it's a game, I think it's a reaction to being accused of murder by people for the last 40 years or so.
Like, I take your sentiment, but that specific example doesn't really demonstrate that.
I'd have laughed too, in her shoes. It's breath-taking how many utterly fucking stupid people there are, that seriously believe this shit.
To be the target at the centre of it all must be so bizarre.
She was a surgeon during the American Civil War and advocated women's suffrage and dress reform, routinely wearing male clothing
I have to also admit that when chucklebot says "what it is you rock and roll (f slur with the t at the end)s" it sings to my soul like a forgotten lullaby.
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