Once my husband and I got some stomach bug at the same time, when our colicky son was a baby and his sister was 2. Thank all the gods it only lasted a day.
I wish yours the quickest of recoveries
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Nending seems to have decided she's potty trained now. Good going for not even two. Hopefully she'll keep the momentum and we'll be able to ditch them completely in a couple of weeks
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And yet our boy will sit on the potty for five minutes with no action, then he’ll start peeing right when he gets in the shower
I mean, I get it, but dang kid just pee in the toilet
Youngest has allergies, and his runny noses and sneezes finally broke through the allergy medicine. We took a covid test, and yeah, it's allergies. Tested negative.
He still gets to stay home until he no longer has allergy issues.
Yayyyy
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Kiddo has always had a problem with hives, never been able to figure out why. She's been on claritin in the morning and zyrtec at night, with benadryl as needed for breakthrough. For the past six months or so she's been doing better, barely even a hive, so we dropped the claritin a couple months back. Starting last night, just covered. Like... practically looked like scales on the poor kid.
Back on the claritin, extra benadryl. Getting better, but we haven't been able to track down what's causing it. She's seen allergy and rheumatology multiple times, but nothing. Feel bad for the poor kid.
How is your humidity? Also I imagine you've already tried mixing up detergents and shit?
Drier than normal but still humidish. No changes to detergents in a couple years, we settled on some gain dye free stuff that seemed to work well. Just no idea. She has hives on her face today as well. I feel awful.
#pipeCocky Stride, Musky odoursPope of Chili TownRegistered Userregular
Who wants a bean update?
We had an initial visit with a new family doctor a month or so back. It was supposed to be for all of us as a family but the generally incompetent front counter staff at this doctors office instead just booked it as an appointment for just me. So while I was going through a list of things I think a new doctor should know, my wife and Bean were in the exam room with us, and Bean was inconsolable.
After we figured out the mix-up in appointments the doctor agreed to have a zoom appointment with the other two while I was at work the very next day. My wife brought up his language delays, and the doctor let her know that he was a bit concerned about Bean's behavior the day before, and that as well as a language assessment, he was going to refer us to a children's Autism program for an assessment. Totally fine with us, we were expecting as much, but thanks to the glorious Canadian healthcare system there's over a year wait for both assessments.
Luckily, though, when the language development place called to make an appointment, they suggested one of their specialists have another video appointment with my wife and Bean to get an idea of the scope of the issue, so they did that, and afterwards the specialist suggested they come for a quick visit the following week so she could observe and make notes on his file and maybe get us some help while we wait for the actual assessment. Which was rad, because that's two more appointments than I was expecting when told it would be a year wait.
So they went to the specialist's office and Bean played with toys while his mum talked to him and asked him questions in a very specific manner she was asked to before the appointment. There was also some interaction with the specialist and a couple other folks in the office to see how he was around strangers. And then later that day my wife got an email from the specialist with some thoughts and ways we can help him while we wait.
Long story short, this specialist said the autism assessment was definitely a good idea because of how he reacts to things he's unfamiliar with and how good he is at memorizing and parroting things compared to actually understanding and using language - he likes to do things when he understands the rules, but new things make him very anxious and afraid. She also thinks we should get a referral for a pediatric psychiatrist, who might think he has social anxiety. As for his language, he's definitely lagging, but she gave us a bunch of suggestions to help him out, which is great, and his mum is already deep in the paint making it happen. One of her suggestions was when he's going to do unusual things, like go to preschool or a doctor's appointment, we should prep him by making a story book about it with photos and very clear step by step things for him to expect. We've already done it once and it SUPER worked.
Also, as of two weeks ago, he's going to preschool 2 days a week! And the first two weeks have been an absolute disaster!
The first day my wife dropped him off and waiting in the next room and he was totally stoked playing with new toys until it was time for group circle time, whereupon he had a full blown meltdown screaming and kicking and the teachers had to come get his mum. He took 45 minutes to calm down. Then the 2nd time was even worse, he broke down as soon as his mum left the room. The teachers tried to calm him for 15 minutes or so, bless them, before they had to go get his mum again, and again he took a long time to calm down. He missed a session last week and today was his third. This time his mum stayed the whole time, in eye line, but not actively playing with him, and all credit, he tried so hard but still couldn't do circle time. Group activities make him afraid and anxious. He's not being stubborn or picky about what he does, he's genuinely afraid. Poor guy.
On top of all this we're still getting used to him sleeping in a toddler bed, and the last week or so he's woken up in the night and not let us (well I say us, he only cares about his mum) get back to sleep. He comes into our room at 1am and jumps and kicks and yells and messes with things until she gets up then they cuddle on the couch and fall asleep between 1 and 4 hours later. It wouldn't be so bad but our couch is very uncomfortable to sleep on so my poor wife barely gets any sleep AND he refuses to nap most days.
....One of her suggestions was when he's going to do unusual things, like go to preschool or a doctor's appointment, we should prep him by making a story book about it with photos and very clear step by step things for him to expect. We've already done it once and it SUPER worked...
....One of her suggestions was when he's going to do unusual things, like go to preschool or a doctor's appointment, we should prep him by making a story book about it with photos and very clear step by step things for him to expect. We've already done it once and it SUPER worked...
....this is GENIUS
Even just sitting down and mapping out the day real quick has been great for stabilizing routines and heading off fights. Instead of "put your shoes on we need to go to daycare" "no I want mommy to take me", it's "ok kiddo, we're going to put on our shoes (and you get to pick which ones!) then daddy is going to take you to school. After school, mommy is going to pick you up then we're going to have pasta for dinner tonight and we'll go to the park after we clean up." Now I can point to the routine when she wants to watch TV or not wash up after dinner, etc. She's not yet questioning authority if it's part of "the plan."
....One of her suggestions was when he's going to do unusual things, like go to preschool or a doctor's appointment, we should prep him by making a story book about it with photos and very clear step by step things for him to expect. We've already done it once and it SUPER worked...
....this is GENIUS
Oh yeah, we do this all the time for my daughter with Down Syndrome. They're called social stories and have been very effective to get her on board with new plans.
"Simple, real stupidity beats artificial intelligence every time." -Mustrum Ridcully in Terry Pratchett's Hogfather p. 142 (HarperPrism 1996)
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#pipeCocky Stride, Musky odoursPope of Chili TownRegistered Userregular
It also helps that I have a bunch of graphic design software on my computer and a fancy printer that will print booklets that we can just staple together
My kid is having a hell of a time getting his lunch eaten at Kindergarten. They get 15 minutes to eat before being booted outside and he's always taken forever to eat his meals. He's also going through a growth spurt so I'm kind of stumped as to what to do.
The other day my kid ate a whole Grilled cheese sandwich at the after school program and said he loved it. I laughed my ass off because he always tells me he hates cheese.
Anyway, I made a Grilled cheese sandwich for him today and he just flipped out. A few of the many reasons why he hates mine:
- mine has different cheese
- mine is folded differently
- mine has more cheese
- it gives him a belly ache
He would also like you to know he never liked Grilled cheese sandwiches and earlier proof to the contrary is false.
He is so fucking picky and often goes to bed hungry, he is so headstrong that he will never admit it. He would rather whine and argue all evening with two disappointed parents than eat a few bites of what we have been cooking.
We were always worried teeth under pillows would get lost, so in our house we have a tooth fairy box for each kid. They decorate it with pencils and stickers, and leave the tooth inside the box at night, which is replaced with a coin by morning*.
Old mobile phone boxes are perfect.
*or later in the day that one time the tooth fairy was running late
Just got back from Addams Family 2 at the theater. Athena did really well, but we were also the only ones in the screening (1:50 on a weekday) so the stakes were pretty low.
On the way out of the theater she walked with her hands behind her back, telling us her name was Wednesday and only referring to Mrs Moon and I as Mother and Father in her best Wednesday impression.
My son took off his clothes in his Kindergarten class a last week in class. I guess for some sort of bid for attention? To get his way?
He didn't get his way, and it didn't work
But now, this week, he's done it twice again. We had started implementing a reward system for doing well in class, and he knows he only gets rewards if he does well in school. Yesterday, when he took his clothes off, we let him know he'd lose his tablet (a kindle he mostly plays minecraft on) for a week if he did it again. He said he was hungry, and they wouldn't let him have a snack he wanted. So I packed him a good snack for snacktime.
And.. he did it again today. I guess he wanted the snack when he wanted it, not during snacktime.
So now I get to meet with his teacher and principal tomorrow.
I just.. I don't know what to do. Ever since school started, he has been saying he has had the worst day ever. He hates school. And well, I mean, he doesn't get to play all day like he did in summer camp. But I know the school. They are not very rigid or inflexible. He doesn't just sit at a desk all day- there's activities and circle time and flexible seating. He's in the Integrated special-education class, and has a 1:1 para. He gets attention.
He's never, ever, ever taken his clothes off in class before. He was in school 5 days/week in pre-K last year. He knows what school is like. I'm not sure what exactly has changed (more kids, less flexibility and less play, probably, but enough to cause this reaction??). But I am not sure how to get over this. He usually takes a few weeks to get used to things, so I hope this will pass.
It doesn't help that I cannot afford to get him evaluated by a child psychologist. No one takes our insurance, and out-of-pocket in in the several thousands for evaluations here. I'm trying to get something lower-cost, but most places have income limits we are definitely over. oof
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I mean, I get it, but dang kid just pee in the toilet
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So maybe I dodged this? Or I just don't see the sword of Damocles hanging over my neck
False sense of security is the first symptom.
Me and my wife have done absolutely nothing at all.
It's glorious.
Oh, hey, we’re doing that today too!
Boy has been home three days for his birthday, so it’s definitely break after that.
We tried getting him to sleep through last night without the night feed. That did not go well.
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Seems fine now
I am currently at work wondering if I can just go to sleep under my desk
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He still gets to stay home until he no longer has allergy issues.
Yayyyy
Back on the claritin, extra benadryl. Getting better, but we haven't been able to track down what's causing it. She's seen allergy and rheumatology multiple times, but nothing. Feel bad for the poor kid.
I think coco melon potty trained my kid
A horrible, terribly animated, ear-worming clock is right twice a day.
Stop what you’re doing it’s time to go
Thanks, Ms Appleberry. Appleberry? Appleberry!
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There's surprisingly little Appleberry Rule 34.
Yeah, generation of “children”
How much did you expect to find?
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After we figured out the mix-up in appointments the doctor agreed to have a zoom appointment with the other two while I was at work the very next day. My wife brought up his language delays, and the doctor let her know that he was a bit concerned about Bean's behavior the day before, and that as well as a language assessment, he was going to refer us to a children's Autism program for an assessment. Totally fine with us, we were expecting as much, but thanks to the glorious Canadian healthcare system there's over a year wait for both assessments.
Luckily, though, when the language development place called to make an appointment, they suggested one of their specialists have another video appointment with my wife and Bean to get an idea of the scope of the issue, so they did that, and afterwards the specialist suggested they come for a quick visit the following week so she could observe and make notes on his file and maybe get us some help while we wait for the actual assessment. Which was rad, because that's two more appointments than I was expecting when told it would be a year wait.
So they went to the specialist's office and Bean played with toys while his mum talked to him and asked him questions in a very specific manner she was asked to before the appointment. There was also some interaction with the specialist and a couple other folks in the office to see how he was around strangers. And then later that day my wife got an email from the specialist with some thoughts and ways we can help him while we wait.
Long story short, this specialist said the autism assessment was definitely a good idea because of how he reacts to things he's unfamiliar with and how good he is at memorizing and parroting things compared to actually understanding and using language - he likes to do things when he understands the rules, but new things make him very anxious and afraid. She also thinks we should get a referral for a pediatric psychiatrist, who might think he has social anxiety. As for his language, he's definitely lagging, but she gave us a bunch of suggestions to help him out, which is great, and his mum is already deep in the paint making it happen. One of her suggestions was when he's going to do unusual things, like go to preschool or a doctor's appointment, we should prep him by making a story book about it with photos and very clear step by step things for him to expect. We've already done it once and it SUPER worked.
Also, as of two weeks ago, he's going to preschool 2 days a week! And the first two weeks have been an absolute disaster!
The first day my wife dropped him off and waiting in the next room and he was totally stoked playing with new toys until it was time for group circle time, whereupon he had a full blown meltdown screaming and kicking and the teachers had to come get his mum. He took 45 minutes to calm down. Then the 2nd time was even worse, he broke down as soon as his mum left the room. The teachers tried to calm him for 15 minutes or so, bless them, before they had to go get his mum again, and again he took a long time to calm down. He missed a session last week and today was his third. This time his mum stayed the whole time, in eye line, but not actively playing with him, and all credit, he tried so hard but still couldn't do circle time. Group activities make him afraid and anxious. He's not being stubborn or picky about what he does, he's genuinely afraid. Poor guy.
On top of all this we're still getting used to him sleeping in a toddler bed, and the last week or so he's woken up in the night and not let us (well I say us, he only cares about his mum) get back to sleep. He comes into our room at 1am and jumps and kicks and yells and messes with things until she gets up then they cuddle on the couch and fall asleep between 1 and 4 hours later. It wouldn't be so bad but our couch is very uncomfortable to sleep on so my poor wife barely gets any sleep AND he refuses to nap most days.
Boy I sure wish we could have a weekend off.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
....this is GENIUS
Even just sitting down and mapping out the day real quick has been great for stabilizing routines and heading off fights. Instead of "put your shoes on we need to go to daycare" "no I want mommy to take me", it's "ok kiddo, we're going to put on our shoes (and you get to pick which ones!) then daddy is going to take you to school. After school, mommy is going to pick you up then we're going to have pasta for dinner tonight and we'll go to the park after we clean up." Now I can point to the routine when she wants to watch TV or not wash up after dinner, etc. She's not yet questioning authority if it's part of "the plan."
Oh yeah, we do this all the time for my daughter with Down Syndrome. They're called social stories and have been very effective to get her on board with new plans.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Anyway, I made a Grilled cheese sandwich for him today and he just flipped out. A few of the many reasons why he hates mine:
- mine has different cheese
- mine is folded differently
- mine has more cheese
- it gives him a belly ache
He would also like you to know he never liked Grilled cheese sandwiches and earlier proof to the contrary is false.
He is so fucking picky and often goes to bed hungry, he is so headstrong that he will never admit it. He would rather whine and argue all evening with two disappointed parents than eat a few bites of what we have been cooking.
I fucked up, y'all
She has informed me that her style is Ballerina Claw
And swallowed / lost it before she realised. So we've written a note for the fairy/mouse/fairy-mouse to explain
I'm not ready to deal with teeth. She's gonna have to ask her mom for help 'cause I'll be passed out on the floor
Old mobile phone boxes are perfect.
*or later in the day that one time the tooth fairy was running late
On the way out of the theater she walked with her hands behind her back, telling us her name was Wednesday and only referring to Mrs Moon and I as Mother and Father in her best Wednesday impression.
He didn't get his way, and it didn't work
But now, this week, he's done it twice again. We had started implementing a reward system for doing well in class, and he knows he only gets rewards if he does well in school. Yesterday, when he took his clothes off, we let him know he'd lose his tablet (a kindle he mostly plays minecraft on) for a week if he did it again. He said he was hungry, and they wouldn't let him have a snack he wanted. So I packed him a good snack for snacktime.
And.. he did it again today. I guess he wanted the snack when he wanted it, not during snacktime.
So now I get to meet with his teacher and principal tomorrow.
I just.. I don't know what to do. Ever since school started, he has been saying he has had the worst day ever. He hates school. And well, I mean, he doesn't get to play all day like he did in summer camp. But I know the school. They are not very rigid or inflexible. He doesn't just sit at a desk all day- there's activities and circle time and flexible seating. He's in the Integrated special-education class, and has a 1:1 para. He gets attention.
He's never, ever, ever taken his clothes off in class before. He was in school 5 days/week in pre-K last year. He knows what school is like. I'm not sure what exactly has changed (more kids, less flexibility and less play, probably, but enough to cause this reaction??). But I am not sure how to get over this. He usually takes a few weeks to get used to things, so I hope this will pass.
It doesn't help that I cannot afford to get him evaluated by a child psychologist. No one takes our insurance, and out-of-pocket in in the several thousands for evaluations here. I'm trying to get something lower-cost, but most places have income limits we are definitely over. oof