The amount of dates I had this go round has absolutely never happened to me before. I was surprised by it myself. Usually I'm lucky if I can get one actual face to face date out of a month or so of using the ole dating apps.
As for the other thing I dunno. Maybe? I just realized things were starting to move faster than I was comfortable with and she was getting really attached despite my resistance to it and that freaked me out. It just felt really sudden. And also, holy shit I am so tired. Making the time for another person was proving to be extremely difficult and the very, very, very few "self care" things I've got going on started to suffer because of it. So I felt like I was not going to be able to be as avaliable as she was apparently going to need me to be.
Anyway, I'll stop complaining about it. It's off my back now and there's no need for me to rehash it a bunch and muck up the thread.
From this and some of the other threads, would it be possible to move back home for a while and work on what you want to do? Whether it be school, or training or certifications for a job that wouldn't absolutely crush you?
To answer this question: no not really.
My borderline hoarder sibling has packed both their room and my old room with so much trash they're practically un-livable and are going to require weeks of work to clean. The only place I have to sleep back home is the couch which currently has some random asshole named Ghost living on it for an indefinite period of time.
So really, even if I wanted to, moving back home isn't really an option right now.
The amount of dates I had this go round has absolutely never happened to me before. I was surprised by it myself. Usually I'm lucky if I can get one actual face to face date out of a month or so of using the ole dating apps.
As for the other thing I dunno. Maybe? I just realized things were starting to move faster than I was comfortable with and she was getting really attached despite my resistance to it and that freaked me out. It just felt really sudden. And also, holy shit I am so tired. Making the time for another person was proving to be extremely difficult and the very, very, very few "self care" things I've got going on started to suffer because of it. So I felt like I was not going to be able to be as avaliable as she was apparently going to need me to be.
Anyway, I'll stop complaining about it. It's off my back now and there's no need for me to rehash it a bunch and muck up the thread.
From this and some of the other threads, would it be possible to move back home for a while and work on what you want to do? Whether it be school, or training or certifications for a job that wouldn't absolutely crush you?
To answer this question: no not really.
My borderline hoarder sibling has packed both their room and my old room with so much trash they're practically un-livable and are going to require weeks of work to clean. The only place I have to sleep back home is the couch which currently has some random asshole named Ghost living on it for an indefinite period of time.
So really, even if I wanted to, moving back home isn't really an option right now.
navigating communication with texting is tricky because everyone is different and i think you need to talk about it
some of my best friends will just.. not respond to any texts for weeks lol
some people respond immediately
and obv way trickier in romantic relationships
i been watching too much seinfeld as background tv lol no cell phones it's weird
In my opinion that's really the best way to do it. Like, you meet somebody and are friends for a while so you kind of get an idea of who they are before you start to know them romantically.
Dating apps can throw you straight into the romance phase which I posit is an entirely different ball game. You're getting to know them romantically while also palying catch up on getting to know them as a person and a lot of the times when you start to get parity between those two types of familiarity you realize that they aren't a good match.
The big issue is if you're very busy or don't have a big enough social circle that meeting people organically is extremely difficult if not downright impossible.
this is interesting and a good point
i finally met someone at a party, friend of a friend, who i am interested in, and i've seen irl like... twice and am trying to navigate this, i wanna get to know this person and hang out more with the possibility of romance and figuring that out is interesting and tricky
but i avoided dating until i was like 25 (which at this point is near a decade ago but still) and basically only did it on apps, and yeah that's really tricky! there's pressure to get romantic fast and have chemistry immediately but it takes time
but it's all i'm used to
The amount of dates I had this go round has absolutely never happened to me before. I was surprised by it myself. Usually I'm lucky if I can get one actual face to face date out of a month or so of using the ole dating apps.
As for the other thing I dunno. Maybe? I just realized things were starting to move faster than I was comfortable with and she was getting really attached despite my resistance to it and that freaked me out. It just felt really sudden. And also, holy shit I am so tired. Making the time for another person was proving to be extremely difficult and the very, very, very few "self care" things I've got going on started to suffer because of it. So I felt like I was not going to be able to be as avaliable as she was apparently going to need me to be.
Anyway, I'll stop complaining about it. It's off my back now and there's no need for me to rehash it a bunch and muck up the thread.
From this and some of the other threads, would it be possible to move back home for a while and work on what you want to do? Whether it be school, or training or certifications for a job that wouldn't absolutely crush you?
To answer this question: no not really.
My borderline hoarder sibling has packed both their room and my old room with so much trash they're practically un-livable and are going to require weeks of work to clean. The only place I have to sleep back home is the couch which currently has some random asshole named Ghost living on it for an indefinite period of time.
So really, even if I wanted to, moving back home isn't really an option right now.
but jugg that couch has been dead for FOURTY YEARS
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
what the actual fuck
i have to assume you were dressed like and making the love call of the north American steak at the time
I was nervous 'cause they were a total snack, but had those super intense open too wide crazy eyes
we got drunk at her apartment which wasn't a great start, but she started telling me all these awful stories about her childhood and I was like "oh man, I can't do this."
when she tried to lead me to the bedroom, I was all "I wanna get to know you first" etc.
did not take it well.
I might also have mentioned that telling some nobody, in explicit detail, how you were sexually abused is not good foreplay talk
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
what the actual fuck
i have to assume you were dressed like and making the love call of the north American steak at the time
I was nervous 'cause they were a total snack, but had those super intense open too wide crazy eyes
we got drunk at her apartment which wasn't a great start, but she started telling me all these awful stories about her childhood and I was like "oh man, I can't do this."
when she tried to lead me to the bedroom, I was all "I wanna get to know you first" etc.
did not take it well.
I might also have mentioned that telling some nobody, in explicit detail, how you were sexually abused is not good foreplay talk
I've never had an experience via dating app that rated above "okay"
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
the best had some Mountain Goats demos I'd never heard before, but they kissed like a fish. mwap mwap mwap
edit: second best was the girlfriend of a guy I know. we matched and she texted me like "oh god don't tell Josh"
I don’t know how many times we have to tell you this, D, but Murdr is not a dating app and Merdr is not for humans.
(But srsly, that sucks.)
shit I just got the Merdr joke
Oh man. I had a first date off an app and within 10 minutes of meeting her she said "tell me all of your traumas." And I was like ehhhh, but she was really pushing for me to tell her all the worst things that had ever happened to me. Not sure what she was hoping for tbh!
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rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
what the actual fuck
i have to assume you were dressed like and making the love call of the north American steak at the time
I was nervous 'cause they were a total snack, but had those super intense open too wide crazy eyes
we got drunk at her apartment which wasn't a great start, but she started telling me all these awful stories about her childhood and I was like "oh man, I can't do this."
when she tried to lead me to the bedroom, I was all "I wanna get to know you first" etc.
did not take it well.
I might also have mentioned that telling some nobody, in explicit detail, how you were sexually abused is not good foreplay talk
I've never had an experience via dating app that rated above "okay"
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
the best had some Mountain Goats demos I'd never heard before, but they kissed like a fish. mwap mwap mwap
edit: second best was the girlfriend of a guy I know. we matched and she texted me like "oh god don't tell Josh"
I don’t know how many times we have to tell you this, D, but Murdr is not a dating app and Merdr is not for humans.
(But srsly, that sucks.)
shit I just got the Merdr joke
Oh man. I had a first date off an app and within 10 minutes of meeting her she said "tell me all of your traumas." And I was like ehhhh, but she was really pushing for me to tell her all the worst things that had ever happened to me. Not sure what she was hoping for tbh!
I've seen that sort of ethos crop up as like, an anti- small talk thing, start off with the biggest thing you can, it'll break the ice better than talking about favorite movies or whatever
I do not agree with it, but I am very pro small talk
I have had one date come from a dating thing (It was on Match) and we talked for like 45 minutes on AOL IM (you can probably tell this was A While Ago) before deciding to meet. Anyway she had an iron cross tattoo on each of her collarbones so I escaped through the bathroom window like I was in an episode of Friends.
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
what the actual fuck
i have to assume you were dressed like and making the love call of the north American steak at the time
I was nervous 'cause they were a total snack, but had those super intense open too wide crazy eyes
we got drunk at her apartment which wasn't a great start, but she started telling me all these awful stories about her childhood and I was like "oh man, I can't do this."
when she tried to lead me to the bedroom, I was all "I wanna get to know you first" etc.
did not take it well.
I might also have mentioned that telling some nobody, in explicit detail, how you were sexually abused is not good foreplay talk
DepressperadoI just wanted to see you laughingin the pizza rainRegistered Userregular
I like to make microwave nachos and then put lots of salsa and sour cream on them and crunch them up with a fork and turn it into a big sloppy mess and then just go to town on it
My favorite queso is Velveeta mixed with Rotel, and then you toss in some sausage.
Goes great on cup-style tortilla chips or the big scoop Fritos.
this is some nostalgia right here
also some major tell me you grew up with a white mother and were poor without telling me you grew up with a white mother and were poor
velveeta was high quality cheese when i was growing up, we could never afford it just that huge block of free gubmint cheese but damn that stuff was good
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so I'm a minister now, I guess.
I am gonna get my sister married
possibly start a church
♪I became a crystal healer and my ministry was to the sick♪
edit: I bought a fucking cassock for this, gonna look dope. also it came with a parking pass (what?) and a press pass (what?)
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To answer this question: no not really.
My borderline hoarder sibling has packed both their room and my old room with so much trash they're practically un-livable and are going to require weeks of work to clean. The only place I have to sleep back home is the couch which currently has some random asshole named Ghost living on it for an indefinite period of time.
So really, even if I wanted to, moving back home isn't really an option right now.
ah geez, I forgot you got ghosted
some of my best friends will just.. not respond to any texts for weeks lol
some people respond immediately
and obv way trickier in romantic relationships
i been watching too much seinfeld as background tv lol no cell phones it's weird
this is interesting and a good point
i finally met someone at a party, friend of a friend, who i am interested in, and i've seen irl like... twice and am trying to navigate this, i wanna get to know this person and hang out more with the possibility of romance and figuring that out is interesting and tricky
but i avoided dating until i was like 25 (which at this point is near a decade ago but still) and basically only did it on apps, and yeah that's really tricky! there's pressure to get romantic fast and have chemistry immediately but it takes time
but it's all i'm used to
and it has not been v successful lmao
that's what a ghost would say
but jugg that couch has been dead for FOURTY YEARS
Well, duh, juggs said he was like 20, not grey
rock bottom is the one where they stabbed me with a steak knife
the best had some Mountain Goats demos I'd never heard before, but they kissed like a fish. mwap mwap mwap
edit: second best was the girlfriend of a guy I know. we matched and she texted me like "oh god don't tell Josh"
what the actual fuck
i have to assume you were dressed like and making the love call of the north American steak at the time
I don’t know how many times we have to tell you this, D, but Murdr is not a dating app and Merdr is not for humans.
(But srsly, that sucks.)
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I was nervous 'cause they were a total snack, but had those super intense open too wide crazy eyes
we got drunk at her apartment which wasn't a great start, but she started telling me all these awful stories about her childhood and I was like "oh man, I can't do this."
when she tried to lead me to the bedroom, I was all "I wanna get to know you first" etc.
did not take it well.
I might also have mentioned that telling some nobody, in explicit detail, how you were sexually abused is not good foreplay talk
edit:
shit I just got the Merdr joke
Oh man. I had a first date off an app and within 10 minutes of meeting her she said "tell me all of your traumas." And I was like ehhhh, but she was really pushing for me to tell her all the worst things that had ever happened to me. Not sure what she was hoping for tbh!
I've seen that sort of ethos crop up as like, an anti- small talk thing, start off with the biggest thing you can, it'll break the ice better than talking about favorite movies or whatever
I do not agree with it, but I am very pro small talk
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Wilds of Aladrion: [https://forums.penny-arcade.com/discussion/comment/43159014/#Comment_43159014]Ellandryn[/url]
Me "sure, but queso means cheese in spanish doesn't it?
"Only people from Texas call it queso."
Ok...
Queso has a very specific meaning when used as an English word. It's cheese that's liquid at room temperature.
K, so?
I've never met a manic pixie dream girl named "Queso"
I hate everyone in this conversation.
this isn't a difficult problem to solve
Goes great on cup-style tortilla chips or the big scoop Fritos.
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it's how I know I'm broken inside
and then another one stacked with carne asada fries.
this is some nostalgia right here
also some major tell me you grew up with a white mother and were poor without telling me you grew up with a white mother and were poor
velveeta was high quality cheese when i was growing up, we could never afford it just that huge block of free gubmint cheese but damn that stuff was good
I am gonna get my sister married
possibly start a church
♪I became a crystal healer and my ministry was to the sick♪
edit: I bought a fucking cassock for this, gonna look dope. also it came with a parking pass (what?) and a press pass (what?)
I surely won't abuse them
ooo bless me papa depdep
fewer taxes and you can make your own holy water in case of the undead