So, I'm a freshmen in college in NYC. I'm living in the dorms now, but since we all live in the city, most people are looking at getting apartments next year (the dorms are not typical college dorms, there are no parties and no one really talks to each other, and it's crazy expensive).
The problem is, there is a group of kids I hang out with. I hang out with one kid, Mike, more than I hang out with the other four kids (three of these kids are living together next year). We smoke a lot, and probably hangout almost every day. I know he was kind of assuming we'd live together, so I told him that I was thinking about studying abroad next year (in Germany, which I was), so I didn't want to commit to anything. He has since said yes to another kid, Tom, saying he would live with him, but if I said that I wasn't going to be in Germany he would ditch Tom or I could live with Tom and him. Tom is creepy as fuck and no one really likes him.
I don't really want to live with this kid next year. He smokes (weed) all the time and since smoking is kind of what we do when we hangout, as someone who is trying to cut back on smoking, it is really annoying. If I told him I was going to stop smoking he would be wierded out. If there's ever a weekend I don't want to smoke, I have to tell him I don't have any money for it, and even then sometimes he just buys it anyway.
Also, he just likes getting high and drunk way too much, and makes me feel like a stoner (BRO HOW HIGH ARE WE RIGHT NOW). Also, he likes acting really fucked up when he isn't (as in, we will smoke the same amount, I will be high obviously but still functioning, he will be running around yelling like a ten year old) or we will go out drinking and he will just get so fucked up. This is awkward because if we are at a party with other people, I don't want to be acting like an idiot. Also, when he is fucked up, he will say things that he obviously wants to say when he is sober, because he knows that I and the other guys won't say anything because he is supposedly so out of it.
Basically I just don't want to live with this guy. What do I tell him? I am not worried about finding other people to live with. The problem is that if I say something like, "Oh I think I'm moving in with my cousin", I think he will know that I am lying. Should I just do that anyway?