The hospital isn't going to fix anything. This fucking sucks. I don't know what to do.
You're going to wait. You're going to take a breath. And you're going to think about what's causing this cycle. Cass, you're a great person. And this will pass.
Like, why would I want to be with someone I perceive as weaker than me?
You do it because you want to be the hero and help someone. And you usually have this fantasy in your mind like your love is going to be the one thing that fixes everything for them and you'll live happily ever after.
Look, I like you. And I don't want you to feel like this is an attack on your or anything like that. Your preferences are your preferences and if that works for you, than it works and that's fantastic.
But personally, the concept of that disgusts me. Like, I would never want to be that for a person. I would not be able to look at them as an equal, and I do not want to be with someone I can't look at as an equal.
I bet there are women who lament that the best men always go for the crazy women.
Nice guys and sane girls.
They appeal to that need to protect. Shelter them from all of the awful things they've been through. Then next thing you know they are faking suicide attempts and trying to cut you in half with a sword.
The urge to protect thing is sort of... I dunno. I find it unattractive to need to be protected or taken care of, so the crazy love ain't something I've ever really understood.
Oddly enough, I seem to attract crazy women. So, I dunno wtf that's about.
It's complicated and tied into a self-destructive need I had to prove I wasn't a villain. So I tilted at a lot of windmills.
It's not just you though. This is a strangely common attraction.
I can only speak for myself. But who wants to be a villain? Fix them and be a hero. At this point I shrug.
Like, why would I want to be with someone I perceive as weaker than me?
Sometimes everyone needs some shelter. Sometimes Leigh needs me to be the calm steady one when she's stressed out. And sometimes I need her to be the understanding one when I'm freaking out. Not weaker then me, stronger in different ways, that's all.
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Cass, are you considering going to the hospital for a psychiatric crisis or for your migraine/seizure?
Because, um, I'm kind of worried about that seizure you mentioned and if you have the opportunity to get medical attention for that or your migraine I think you should do it.
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every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
Like, why would I want to be with someone I perceive as weaker than me?
You do it because you want to be the hero and help someone. And you usually have this fantasy in your mind like your love is going to be the one thing that fixes everything for them and you'll live happily ever after.
Look, I like you. And I don't want you to feel like this is an attack on your or anything like that. Your preferences are your preferences and if that works for you, than it works and that's fantastic.
But personally, the concept of that disgusts me. Like, I would never want to be that for a person. I would not be able to look at them as an equal, and I do not want to be with someone I can't look at as an equal.
I didn't say it was a good thing.
In fact, I think I'm thoroughly done with it.
I think I've had enough proof that it's not worth it to date someone with such horrible self-esteem or depression issues for me.
Cass, are you considering going to the hospital for a psychiatric crisis or for your migraine/seizure?
Because, um, I'm kind of worried about that seizure you mentioned and if you have the opportunity to get medical attention for that or your migraine I think you should do it.
If I lived in Canada I'd go to a hospital all the time. Like, got an hour to kill before work? Maybe just head over and say hi, get a shot or something.
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Like, why would I want to be with someone I perceive as weaker than me?
Sometimes everyone needs some shelter. Sometimes Leigh needs me to be the calm steady one when she's stressed out. And sometimes I need her to be the understanding one when I'm freaking out. Not weaker then me, stronger in different ways, that's all.
Yes, and that's give and take. Give and take is good, it's balanced, there's a mutual reliance. But being attracted to a girl because she needs your shelter, and needs you around to be her anchor is what I can't get on board with. There's a power disparity there. I find nothing attractive about a dependent.
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If I lived in Canada I'd go to a hospital all the time. Like, got an hour to kill before work? Maybe just head over and say hi, get a shot or something.
We have over crowding issues in BC fyi. Better come 8 hours early just in case.
But we make up for it with making you wait in a doughnut shop!
Cass, are you considering going to the hospital for a psychiatric crisis or for your migraine/seizure?
Because, um, I'm kind of worried about that seizure you mentioned and if you have the opportunity to get medical attention for that or your migraine I think you should do it.
The first one
My head is fucking pounding but I've been crying for like six hours so thats probably why
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Goddamn it, Sirius' webplayer is shitting out, I can't listen to anything right now.
i think revisiting the same pool of sexual partners (even the ostensibly cool people) is becoming toxic for me
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I've been honing my writing skills since high school. I've taken any opportunity to write I can get my hands on. I took a student-help job in college to put together a journalism class. I'm on my third- third- book manuscript. I've written prospective newspaper articles. I've spent well over a year now putting out near-daily content for my blog. I know I'm a good writer- no less than Lisa Ling has said so- and yet I can't score so much as a Fark greenlight.
Meanwhile, we just hired a guy at Walmart. Today, four days into the job, he quit. Why? Because he scored a writing job that pays TWO HUNDRED FUCKING DOLLARS AN HOUR.
Words cannot describe the cross I am feeling right now between being apoplectic, jealous and completely gutted.
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I have a new soccer blog The Minnow Tank. Reading it psychically kicks Sepp Blatter in the bean bag.
If I lived in Canada I'd go to a hospital all the time. Like, got an hour to kill before work? Maybe just head over and say hi, get a shot or something.
Our ER wait times are horrendous, but I imagine it's just as bad, possibly worse, in the States.
Cass, are you considering going to the hospital for a psychiatric crisis or for your migraine/seizure?
Because, um, I'm kind of worried about that seizure you mentioned and if you have the opportunity to get medical attention for that or your migraine I think you should do it.
The first one
My head is fucking pounding but I've been crying for like six hours so thats probably why
I have no idea if you should do it or not. But if you do go in and want to ask me anything about my admission go ahead.
I've been honing my writing skills since high school. I've taken any opportunity to write I can get my hands on. I took a student-help job in college to put together a journalism class. I'm on my third- third- book manuscript. I've written prospective newspaper articles. I've spent well over a year now putting out near-daily content for my blog. I know I'm a good writer- no less than Lisa Ling has said so- and yet I can't score so much as a Fark greenlight.
Meanwhile, we just hired a guy at Walmart. Today, four days into the job, he quit. Why? Because he scored a writing job that pays TWO HUNDRED FUCKING DOLLARS AN HOUR.
Words cannot describe the cross I am feeling right now between being apoplectic, jealous and completely gutted.
Maybe if you were a better writer they would.
Seriously though, sorry bro .
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You're going to wait. You're going to take a breath. And you're going to think about what's causing this cycle. Cass, you're a great person. And this will pass.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
to make it seem like we're more busy than we really are.
hahaha
Look, I like you. And I don't want you to feel like this is an attack on your or anything like that. Your preferences are your preferences and if that works for you, than it works and that's fantastic.
But personally, the concept of that disgusts me. Like, I would never want to be that for a person. I would not be able to look at them as an equal, and I do not want to be with someone I can't look at as an equal.
I don't understand my gender
Internet hugs
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yes, this would not be settling
I can only speak for myself. But who wants to be a villain? Fix them and be a hero. At this point I shrug.
Sometimes everyone needs some shelter. Sometimes Leigh needs me to be the calm steady one when she's stressed out. And sometimes I need her to be the understanding one when I'm freaking out. Not weaker then me, stronger in different ways, that's all.
he has friends over I guess?
whatever
You should stop pointing out that you have cybersex in World of Warcraft. That is mega weird.
Because, um, I'm kind of worried about that seizure you mentioned and if you have the opportunity to get medical attention for that or your migraine I think you should do it.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
I didn't say it was a good thing.
In fact, I think I'm thoroughly done with it.
I think I've had enough proof that it's not worth it to date someone with such horrible self-esteem or depression issues for me.
Listen... How disappointed are you and can you make it to Canada instantly
one billion disappointed
Very much agreed.
Sorry.
blah
nothings going in and out of my groove tonight
I think you win your bet
Yes, and that's give and take. Give and take is good, it's balanced, there's a mutual reliance. But being attracted to a girl because she needs your shelter, and needs you around to be her anchor is what I can't get on board with. There's a power disparity there. I find nothing attractive about a dependent.
I haven't been laid in five years and am undergoing my mid-life crises. I've given up on everything. I may as well brush up on my writing.
That said, Senj, name the time and place!
We have over crowding issues in BC fyi. Better come 8 hours early just in case.
But we make up for it with making you wait in a doughnut shop!
The first one
My head is fucking pounding but I've been crying for like six hours so thats probably why
Meanwhile, we just hired a guy at Walmart. Today, four days into the job, he quit. Why? Because he scored a writing job that pays TWO HUNDRED FUCKING DOLLARS AN HOUR.
Words cannot describe the cross I am feeling right now between being apoplectic, jealous and completely gutted.
Perhaps literally, if that pool is not being properly cleaned and the chlorine levels maintained.
Our ER wait times are horrendous, but I imagine it's just as bad, possibly worse, in the States.
I have no idea if you should do it or not. But if you do go in and want to ask me anything about my admission go ahead.
Maybe if you were a better writer they would.