CorehealerThe ApothecaryThe softer edge of the universe.Registered Userregular
Getting back on track, I should let my companion Mara know that the trans thread is back again so she can come and bask in the warm glow too. She always enjoys lurking these threads.
Getting back on track, I should let my companion Mara know that the trans thread is back again so she can come and bask in the warm glow too. She always enjoys lurking these threads.
On a tangent, I love the words "companion," "partner," and so on simply because they are words to indicate the one you are in a romantic relationship with without the toxic assumptions that the words "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" bring with them.
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CorehealerThe ApothecaryThe softer edge of the universe.Registered Userregular
Getting back on track, I should let my companion Mara know that the trans thread is back again so she can come and bask in the warm glow too. She always enjoys lurking these threads.
On a tangent, I love the words "companion," "partner," and so on simply because they are words to indicate the one you are in a romantic relationship with without the toxic assumptions that the words "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" bring with them.
My sentiments exactly. It's one of many things I've learned from her.
Getting back on track, I should let my companion Mara know that the trans thread is back again so she can come and bask in the warm glow too. She always enjoys lurking these threads.
On a tangent, I love the words "companion," "partner," and so on simply because they are words to indicate the one you are in a romantic relationship with without the toxic assumptions that the words "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" bring with them.
or "Husband"/"Wife"
its the term I commonly use for Ms Chilla because I kind of don't think everyone ever needs to know everyone elses marital status/preferences
I think one of the harder things I'm going to have to explain to people is that my sexuality hasn't changed just because of this.
Yeah, that was one of the things my mom immediately asked me about. And my sister (who found out on accident, have I told that story yet?) looked at me, goes 'Wait, does that technically make you a lesbian' and i was like 'well, yes' and she just looks me dead in the eye and goes 'Tight.' and walked out of my room.
I think one of the harder things I'm going to have to explain to people is that my sexuality hasn't changed just because of this.
Yeah, that was one of the things my mom immediately asked me about. And my sister (who found out on accident, have I told that story yet?) looked at me, goes 'Wait, does that technically make you a lesbian' and i was like 'well, yes' and she just looks me dead in the eye and goes 'Tight.' and walked out of my room.
My sister asked the same thing and I was like well I guess there's something else I can come out of the closet about.
I really wish some of you folk lived anywhere near me. I could really use some real life friends that I could be myself around. Heck I could use some gamer friends too...my group fell apart when two couples moved away. My only outlet for two big parts of who I am is this forum since pretty much all my friends and family either cant or don't want to understand either of those parts of me. It is all football, beer and firearms around my support structure, not that I don't love those things too...but I feel like half a person a lot of the time.
*hugs* I'm glad that you have found support here and I hope that you find more support. I know what it's like to be "the token trans person" everywhere you go. Small towns suck.
MetalbourneInside a cluster b personalityRegistered Userregular
This is something I read on tumblr and it perfectly encapsulates why were leery of the unabashed praise we get in threads like these:
trans women should absolutely be treated like queens but we also need to be treated less like walking installation art. there’s a heavy dialogue that says
“youre a vision youre a goddess [but i wouldnt touch you i wouldnt love you]”
we’re put on a pedestal and looked at from afar, admired like someone else should be able to take credit for molding us. look but don’t touch. what a charming creature, the lighting hits them just right.
treat us how you should and not how to make you feel like a better person.
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I am a gay transdude but I am white. I dont post that much as I never really know what to say also my laptop is part borked right now.
And I feel I know that dude on the T shirt... he looks like a Japanese porn actor I've seen by the name of Chocoballs..
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HawkstoneDon't sweat the petty things, and don't pet the sweaty things. Somewhere outside of BarstowRegistered Userregular
I really wish some of you folk lived anywhere near me. I could really use some real life friends that I could be myself around. Heck I could use some gamer friends too...my group fell apart when two couples moved away. My only outlet for two big parts of who I am is this forum since pretty much all my friends and family either cant or don't want to understand either of those parts of me. It is all football, beer and firearms around my support structure, not that I don't love those things too...but I feel like half a person a lot of the time.
*hugs* I'm glad that you have found support here and I hope that you find more support. I know what it's like to be "the token trans person" everywhere you go. Small towns suck.
I am too...I think I have made more progress since these threads popped up on my radar than I did in the previous 20 years of figuring out how to be who I am without losing everyone I love.
I hail from the smallest of small towns... graduating class of 58 kids. Everyone there was violent towards anything different, sexuality, skin color you name it...including my family, so I got very good at hiding most of who I am under the things that people there liked. I thought it would get better when I have moved to within 45 minutes of Philly in a shabby little place called Pottstown. For being close to major city it is a very repressed redneckish sort of place a lot of tough guy posturing when you go out to the local pubs and such and I was doing good for a while until a lot of my friends moved away and I was left with a core group that are a lot like people from up home. They aren't bad people just full of the kind of fear that stems from ignorance.
This is something I read on tumblr and it perfectly encapsulates why were leery of the unabashed praise we get in threads like these:
trans women should absolutely be treated like queens but we also need to be treated less like walking installation art. there’s a heavy dialogue that says
“youre a vision youre a goddess [but i wouldnt touch you i wouldnt love you]”
we’re put on a pedestal and looked at from afar, admired like someone else should be able to take credit for molding us. look but don’t touch. what a charming creature, the lighting hits them just right.
treat us how you should and not how to make you feel like a better person.
I mean
there's a reason I came out as pansexual in this thread.
but yeah, that's absolutely horrible shit.
I can't tell which is worse, that or the fetishes...
I really wish some of you folk lived anywhere near me. I could really use some real life friends that I could be myself around. Heck I could use some gamer friends too...my group fell apart when two couples moved away. My only outlet for two big parts of who I am is this forum since pretty much all my friends and family either cant or don't want to understand either of those parts of me. It is all football, beer and firearms around my support structure, not that I don't love those things too...but I feel like half a person a lot of the time.
*hugs* I'm glad that you have found support here and I hope that you find more support. I know what it's like to be "the token trans person" everywhere you go. Small towns suck.
I am too...I think I have made more progress since these threads popped up on my radar than I did in the previous 20 years of figuring out how to be who I am without losing everyone I love.
I hail from the smallest of small towns... graduating class of 58 kids. Everyone there was violent towards anything different, sexuality, skin color you name it...including my family, so I got very good at hiding most of who I am under the things that people there liked. I thought it would get better when I have moved to within 45 minutes of Philly in a shabby little place called Pottstown. For being close to major city it is a very repressed redneckish sort of place a lot of tough guy posturing when you go out to the local pubs and such and I was doing good for a while until a lot of my friends moved away and I was left with a core group that are a lot like people from up home. They aren't bad people just full of the kind of fear that stems from ignorance.
I can relate to some degree. I grew up in a small town in Colorado. There were no trans people in my high school and later when I went to college at a school on the border of Wyoming and Colorado, I was the only out trans student. I eventually dropped out of school because drinking and popping pills was my only way of coping with being in an environment where I was afraid to leave my dorm room because when I did, someone would always say or do something to me. I moved to Fresno, California because that's where my mom lives and I thought things would get better because it's California. But if you don't know anything about Fresno, it is literally located inside of Satan's butt hole and is conservative as fuck. Still lucky enough to have a VERY small trans community here though. Are there any trans support groups near you? If not, I hope you find a way to get to a place where you feel safer and more comfortable. My partner and I have been working for the last three years towards moving to Oregon.
I never did share with you all that I finally got my chest surgery! I am finally free! I feel a lot happier now, I even find humor in things more often and make a lot more jokes. I feel a lot more confident and sexy. I suffer from dysphoria way less often and I just generally feel m=better about life! I love swimming but hadn't been able to swim for a long time because there was no way I could swim in a pool in a swim suit with people and not freak out. Now I swim laps in a public pool four days a week while wearing a speedo! Men's clothes fit me correctly. AND I CAN WALK AROUND SHIRTLESS!!! Oh, and NO MORE BINDERS! EVER AGAIN! This surgery is something that I thought would never happen, or would happen far far away from now and now I am finally free! It has been almost 3 months since my surgery. Here is a picture:
I really wish some of you folk lived anywhere near me. I could really use some real life friends that I could be myself around. Heck I could use some gamer friends too...my group fell apart when two couples moved away. My only outlet for two big parts of who I am is this forum since pretty much all my friends and family either cant or don't want to understand either of those parts of me. It is all football, beer and firearms around my support structure, not that I don't love those things too...but I feel like half a person a lot of the time.
*hugs* I'm glad that you have found support here and I hope that you find more support. I know what it's like to be "the token trans person" everywhere you go. Small towns suck.
I am too...I think I have made more progress since these threads popped up on my radar than I did in the previous 20 years of figuring out how to be who I am without losing everyone I love.
I hail from the smallest of small towns... graduating class of 58 kids. Everyone there was violent towards anything different, sexuality, skin color you name it...including my family, so I got very good at hiding most of who I am under the things that people there liked. I thought it would get better when I have moved to within 45 minutes of Philly in a shabby little place called Pottstown. For being close to major city it is a very repressed redneckish sort of place a lot of tough guy posturing when you go out to the local pubs and such and I was doing good for a while until a lot of my friends moved away and I was left with a core group that are a lot like people from up home. They aren't bad people just full of the kind of fear that stems from ignorance.
I can relate to some degree. I grew up in a small town in Colorado. There were no trans people in my high school and later when I went to college at a school on the border of Wyoming and Colorado, I was the only out trans student. I eventually dropped out of school because drinking and popping pills was my only way of coping with being in an environment where I was afraid to leave my dorm room because when I did, someone would always say or do something to me. I moved to Fresno, California because that's where my mom lives and I thought things would get better because it's California. But if you don't know anything about Fresno, it is literally located inside of Satan's butt hole and is conservative as fuck. Still lucky enough to have a VERY small trans community here though. Are there any trans support groups near you? If not, I hope you find a way to get to a place where you feel safer and more comfortable. My partner and I have been working for the last three years towards moving to Oregon.
There is very little here that I am aware of in terms of organized support and I am just far enough out of the city to make it tough at rush hours should I explore that route other than weekends. I do wish I could move but honestly I am very financially secure (humble brag) and that is tough to give up, plus my spouse works the opposite direction. Ultimately I guess my fear of losing my family and friends kept me from coming out for so long I start weighing what I will lose in the bargain with every step I make. It becomes paralyzingly very fast, It is a form of cowardice but a very comfortable one. All I want in this world now though is to find a balance to all of this, I will get there some day....and the last few days have shown me that I want it enough to find a way. A safe fun environ to explore those feelings would be soooo helpful though.
Inside of a dog...it's too dark to read.
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HawkstoneDon't sweat the petty things, and don't pet the sweaty things. Somewhere outside of BarstowRegistered Userregular
This is something I read on tumblr and it perfectly encapsulates why were leery of the unabashed praise we get in threads like these:
trans women should absolutely be treated like queens but we also need to be treated less like walking installation art. there’s a heavy dialogue that says
“youre a vision youre a goddess [but i wouldnt touch you i wouldnt love you]”
we’re put on a pedestal and looked at from afar, admired like someone else should be able to take credit for molding us. look but don’t touch. what a charming creature, the lighting hits them just right.
treat us how you should and not how to make you feel like a better person.
I mean
there's a reason I came out as pansexual in this thread.
but yeah, that's absolutely horrible shit.
I can't tell which is worse, that or the fetishes...
Fetishes are worse....people are not fetishes, objects, activities..those are fetishes.
Declaring a person or group of people a fetish is dehumanizing.
Inside of a dog...it's too dark to read.
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HawkstoneDon't sweat the petty things, and don't pet the sweaty things. Somewhere outside of BarstowRegistered Userregular
Also appropo of nothing....there is a significant over lap of wrestling thread posters and Trans thread posters. I wonder if there is something to that? Hehehehe
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Everybody who has posted a picture of themselves so far looks really good! Whippy rocks the "fuck it who cares anymore" look!
On a tangent, I love the words "companion," "partner," and so on simply because they are words to indicate the one you are in a romantic relationship with without the toxic assumptions that the words "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" bring with them.
My sentiments exactly. It's one of many things I've learned from her.
She's pretty amazing. Not unlike these threads.
or "Husband"/"Wife"
its the term I commonly use for Ms Chilla because I kind of don't think everyone ever needs to know everyone elses marital status/preferences
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Because that's my job.
Yeah, that was one of the things my mom immediately asked me about. And my sister (who found out on accident, have I told that story yet?) looked at me, goes 'Wait, does that technically make you a lesbian' and i was like 'well, yes' and she just looks me dead in the eye and goes 'Tight.' and walked out of my room.
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A lot of people will never understand that sexuality and gender are not bolted together and neither are binary.
My sister asked the same thing and I was like well I guess there's something else I can come out of the closet about.
*hugs* I'm glad that you have found support here and I hope that you find more support. I know what it's like to be "the token trans person" everywhere you go. Small towns suck.
http://blindandlowvisionsupport.tumblr.com/
Help me out: http://www.youcaring.com/other/help-jordan-see-ireland-before-he-goes-blind-/336416/
And I feel I know that dude on the T shirt... he looks like a Japanese porn actor I've seen by the name of Chocoballs..
I am too...I think I have made more progress since these threads popped up on my radar than I did in the previous 20 years of figuring out how to be who I am without losing everyone I love.
I hail from the smallest of small towns... graduating class of 58 kids. Everyone there was violent towards anything different, sexuality, skin color you name it...including my family, so I got very good at hiding most of who I am under the things that people there liked. I thought it would get better when I have moved to within 45 minutes of Philly in a shabby little place called Pottstown. For being close to major city it is a very repressed redneckish sort of place a lot of tough guy posturing when you go out to the local pubs and such and I was doing good for a while until a lot of my friends moved away and I was left with a core group that are a lot like people from up home. They aren't bad people just full of the kind of fear that stems from ignorance.
I mean
there's a reason I came out as pansexual in this thread.
but yeah, that's absolutely horrible shit.
I can't tell which is worse, that or the fetishes...
I can relate to some degree. I grew up in a small town in Colorado. There were no trans people in my high school and later when I went to college at a school on the border of Wyoming and Colorado, I was the only out trans student. I eventually dropped out of school because drinking and popping pills was my only way of coping with being in an environment where I was afraid to leave my dorm room because when I did, someone would always say or do something to me. I moved to Fresno, California because that's where my mom lives and I thought things would get better because it's California. But if you don't know anything about Fresno, it is literally located inside of Satan's butt hole and is conservative as fuck. Still lucky enough to have a VERY small trans community here though. Are there any trans support groups near you? If not, I hope you find a way to get to a place where you feel safer and more comfortable. My partner and I have been working for the last three years towards moving to Oregon.
http://blindandlowvisionsupport.tumblr.com/
Help me out: http://www.youcaring.com/other/help-jordan-see-ireland-before-he-goes-blind-/336416/
The argument can certainly be made that both stem from the same basic concept. At the end of the day it's just an extreme form of "other"-ing.
http://blindandlowvisionsupport.tumblr.com/
Help me out: http://www.youcaring.com/other/help-jordan-see-ireland-before-he-goes-blind-/336416/
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Here's a neat podcast on a Trans activist named Sylvia Rivera from the era of the Stonewall Riots
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The artist responsible for both pieces I've posted is Jiraiya, and I'm not entirely sure who the models were tbh
But Chocoball Mukai definitely has that same sort of gachimuchi look going on
So much muscle. So. Much.
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There is very little here that I am aware of in terms of organized support and I am just far enough out of the city to make it tough at rush hours should I explore that route other than weekends. I do wish I could move but honestly I am very financially secure (humble brag) and that is tough to give up, plus my spouse works the opposite direction. Ultimately I guess my fear of losing my family and friends kept me from coming out for so long I start weighing what I will lose in the bargain with every step I make. It becomes paralyzingly very fast, It is a form of cowardice but a very comfortable one. All I want in this world now though is to find a balance to all of this, I will get there some day....and the last few days have shown me that I want it enough to find a way. A safe fun environ to explore those feelings would be soooo helpful though.
Fetishes are worse....people are not fetishes, objects, activities..those are fetishes.
Declaring a person or group of people a fetish is dehumanizing.
nope.
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Jiraiya is a Japanese gay artist
His dudes are super huge, as is the trend in Japanese gay manga aimed at men (gay manga aimed at women tends to have willowy dudes)