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Whining, Moaning, Bitching
Brolo
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So
as it turns out my girlfriend is pregnant. We've been dating for a year and a half now, and we're both out of school and making decent money (and have been talking about marriage and kids and we're both on the same page), so while this wasn't planned it also wasn't that bad. While it was a bit of a shock we started to look forward to it, for about three weeks...
...until yesterday, when we just found out that she's got a uteral fissure, possibly caused by a tumor. This means that there's a high chance that any baby we try and have will either be a late-term stillborn or have severe birth defects. It also puts her at extreme risk if she ever goes into childbirth since her womb will likely rupture.
With such a risk to her health, her doctor is now advising her to have an abortion. My girlfriend doesn't want to, since apparently a small percentage of women (according to her doctor it's less than 5%) manage to beat the odds, successfully delivering the child and living through childbirth.
I don't really know what to do. I think she should abort, and then once we're married we can adopt. But she doesn't want to hear it. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do here but wait. Either she eventually realizes she has to have the abortion or...
But this isn't a thread about sympathy. This is a thread about whining and bitching about anything, the more trivial the better. Take my mind off of things by telling me your trivial and petty grievances, SE++.
as it turns out my girlfriend is pregnant. We've been dating for a year and a half now, and we're both out of school and making decent money (and have been talking about marriage and kids and we're both on the same page), so while this wasn't planned it also wasn't that bad. While it was a bit of a shock we started to look forward to it, for about three weeks...
...until yesterday, when we just found out that she's got a uteral fissure, possibly caused by a tumor. This means that there's a high chance that any baby we try and have will either be a late-term stillborn or have severe birth defects. It also puts her at extreme risk if she ever goes into childbirth since her womb will likely rupture.
With such a risk to her health, her doctor is now advising her to have an abortion. My girlfriend doesn't want to, since apparently a small percentage of women (according to her doctor it's less than 5%) manage to beat the odds, successfully delivering the child and living through childbirth.
I don't really know what to do. I think she should abort, and then once we're married we can adopt. But she doesn't want to hear it. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do here but wait. Either she eventually realizes she has to have the abortion or...
But this isn't a thread about sympathy. This is a thread about whining and bitching about anything, the more trivial the better. Take my mind off of things by telling me your trivial and petty grievances, SE++.
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seriously though, that sucks
I uh
well I wish my gf could find a job and help a bit more with the bills but she's been doing more to keep up the apartment to make up for it
your gf should do the smart thing and abort, but I have no idea how you're going to convince her that some sense of fate isn't at operation here that's going to beat the odds for her
for lack of a better analogy she's either gotta shit or get off the pot... premenantly off the pot
Dear satan I wish for this or maybe some of this....oh and I'm a medium or a large.
All-round shitty situation to find yourself in
Edit: Also, that is a really crap set of circumstances.
Put 100 eggs on the floor and then step on all but five of them in front of her.
Anyway, I'm pretty sure that I've reached the point where more people dislike me than like me.
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I think I have some sort of spinal disorder
I really need to see a chiropractor, or some other kind of back/neck doctor
Dear satan I wish for this or maybe some of this....oh and I'm a medium or a large.
man, I really don't have anything
my life is going pretty great
sorry
I have money but can't run any of the games on Steam!
Moooaaaaaannn
A kettle as in an electric thingy that boils water because I am a philistine and I drink instant coffee. I have no idea what he was thinking.
Take 'em out and hang them somewhere?
Dear satan I wish for this or maybe some of this....oh and I'm a medium or a large.
this seems insignificant next to Rolo but man my girlfriend for a year now is refusing to do the dirty till marriage and won't budge
i hope you give birth to a horse, you asshole
a black horse
wow
Is this possible
Because that sounds like the only way to go if you want to guarantee her safety and keep the child
Otherwise you gotta convince her to abort, man. 5% is not a lot of percents
That is really one of the shittiest situations, Rolo. Dang
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I wouldn't say that unless I truly meant it.
But I would truly mean it. I couldn't put myself through that level of stress and heartbreak, nor could I be party to thrusting someone into a life marred by such defects.
If you aren't prepared to potentially break up, though, the alternative is help her conceptualize the risk she's putting herself in. She doesn't seem to understand that she's basically consenting to have something horrible happen. Instead, she's framed things in positive terms, probably because she feels she'd be doing something morally wrong otherwise.
Olivaw: You cannot transfer a fetus. The best you can do is harvest her eggs and implant them in a surrogate, I think.
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in some states this qualifies her for a whoopin'
nah dude that is also a shitty situation to be in
I don't think I could marry someone without knowing if they're any good in bed. It seems like something that made sense when people had a life expectancy of 40 so "waiting until marriage" meant waiting until you were 16 or so.
Can you at least do "everything but sex" sex?
what
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That's just about it.
well
that's soemthing you gotta figure out for yourself if it's a dealbreaker or not
no wait that's probably a bad idea.
because that's retarded
sex is an important component of a relationship and she's basically saying "commit to be for life without knowing if we're sexually compatible at all, or if I even like sex"
bad horse, bad horse
he rides across the nation, the thoroughbred of sin
That girl is crazy. Does she have some kind of reason why it's (presumably) suddenly not okay?
Well
fuck
Gotta abort, there's just no other option
That sucks
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