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DirtBike
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Well here is the story.
I meet this girl at a friends house party, we got drunk and made out, and hung out the next day. This was back in October. We kind of chatted on skype a once or twice a week regularly until recently (ie January). She lives a few hours where I go to school and about 2 hours from my hometown.
I did once attempt to ask her if she wanted to start a relationship and she turned me down, stating that I should ask when I am sober (This was back in November and in a chat session ) , and it was to soon because she just got out of a nasty break up. A few weeks after this she did ask our mutual friend for my cell phone number.
I never really had a girl friend before, should I try an contact her or just leave it be.
Thanks for any help.
I meet this girl at a friends house party, we got drunk and made out, and hung out the next day. This was back in October. We kind of chatted on skype a once or twice a week regularly until recently (ie January). She lives a few hours where I go to school and about 2 hours from my hometown.
I did once attempt to ask her if she wanted to start a relationship and she turned me down, stating that I should ask when I am sober (This was back in November and in a chat session ) , and it was to soon because she just got out of a nasty break up. A few weeks after this she did ask our mutual friend for my cell phone number.
I never really had a girl friend before, should I try an contact her or just leave it be.
Thanks for any help.
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The next day I called her up and asked if she would like see a movie, to see if the chemistry was still there while we weren't tanked. She agreed and we ended up dating for a while before I found out that she was a psychotic whore and dumped her like a sack of potatoes.
The moral of the story is, you should ask her out again while you're sober, and see what happens. She obviously thinks you're interesting enough to carry on a long distance friendship for the past four months. The worst that will happen is she'll say no and you'll be in the same spot you're in now.
Good luck homefry.
Though long-distance relationships can be tricky, so beware.
Thanks for the advice so far
You got it.
Edit: as has already been stated, but cannot be stressed enough, long distance relationships have a 0.0001% chance of working out. But since you have no other leads at the moment its worth a shot, I'm merely warning you for what is most likely inevitable.
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2-3 hour long distance is not a big deal at all.
There's no guarantee this will become a relationship, either, and the OP just needs to ask her out and see how it goes.
Also, stay away from the first date being a movie date; you don't actually get to talk to one another and well that's just a lousy way to get to know someone.
the point of a relationship, at least in large part, is so you can pretend we're not all alone when we go to sleep at night. or to cuddle generally, or interact. you know, personal contact. so while LDR are doable in the short term if you have to, if you can avoid entering into one in favor of someone close by, you will be happier and the relationship more gratifying. if this girl is the only game in town, well, get to it... furthermore, it's a lot easier to sustain a long distance relationship once you've been in a short term relationship with a person for a while. otherwise i'd hesitate to even call it much of a relationship.
Movie dates are awesome, providing you don't just watch a movie and then call it a night.
They call it dinner and a movie for a reason.
you're talking to someone who has had had a long distance component to every single one of my relationships
those things (not being physically alone, having someone to cuddle) may be YOUR top priority in a relationship, but they are not everyone else's
plus hey thanks for insulting every couple who has made a long distance relationship work, we apparently put ourselves through all that for what you call inferior relationships
in short, you don't know what you are talking about
Better than not knowing. It takes cahones to ask in the first place, and you never know - things may always change in the future.
Don't worry though, odds are you'll meet a local girl sooner or later.
Well done. a lot of people would have just squirmed and agonised over it rather than finding out. At least you know now.
Some folks the effort is too great, some it isn't. It really depends on your schedule and transportation.
That being said, way to go for going for it. Keep doing that and it wont be long.
Good job, holmes! Rejection is a helluva lot better than not having the stones to try. If you put your self out there 10 times and get shot down 9, you're still in a much better spot than the guy that was afraid of hearing "No".
Yeah it was kinda of relieving after the fact, I always feared that the feeling of rejection would be much worse, but it was not that bad.
Any suggestion for meeting women I am not that social able of person.
The only thing I can think of just walking up to one after class and saying "hey your kinda of cute, want to go a movie or something this weekend?"
Just ask them if they want to hang out.
Yeah I can see that being a bit insulting.
Thanks for the advice so far.