Wife left after 4 years of happy marriage, should I take a gaming holiday?

Druhim

Kathris wrote: »

Druhim wrote: »

Kathris wrote: »

Yes, dont you know that playing games for an entire week can get you so addicted to them that you will need an intervention to go back to work?

Seriously, dude, I used to do this thing all the time. Some people just cant handle us working stiffs that like to "take vacation at home playing video games" rather than going down to Cancun, getting drunk, and sticking your dick in anything that moves.

Best of luck to you, seriously, you sound like you are doing quite well given the circumstances and enjoy your gaming vacation.

It's interesting that you feel compelled to compare spending a week vacation at home gaming with going on a trip that necessarily involves going to a tourist trap, getting drunk, and fucking sluts. It is silly that some people are so concerned about him wanting to take a week to play some games, but I can also agree that it seems a pretty lame vacation compared to travelling someplace new and interesting and getting away from home. It's just really funny that you envision travel as being the domain of drunken, horny frat boys while gaming at home is by implication more noble.

But do what you want/need MrT. You're the one dealing with it.

You just made the point I was trying to make for me. Why is it "lame" to spend a vacation at home playing video games? Because its not your idea of fun? Why is traveling to somewhere "new and interesting" less lame given that the OP is asking for advice with a video game holiday?

And I 2nd League of Legends, I try to squeeze an hour in here or there, but having 5 or 6 hours straight in a day to play it would be great.

Blur (XBox Live Gold) may be fun as well if you want something a little competitive and you wouldnt be too far behind the learning curve if you started soon.

Single player, if you like Final Fantasy, you could get XIII and beat it (Or go back to an old one and plow through it)

I would recommend playing various games of various genres. It would help to keep you from getting burnt out.

Yes. Because it's not my idea of fun. If you read everything I said there, it was pretty clear that I was simply expressing my opinion that a week of playing games seems like a wasted week of vacation to me but that MrT is free to do what he feels is best. Also the fact that I was replying to you categorizing traveling as "getting drunk and putting your dick in anything that moves". As I've said before, the grief some people are giving MrT is ridiculous, but it's also ridiculous that you used that as the alternative to sitting around playing games. It's like you're saying he can either play video games all week or go rape some chicks so of course playing games is the right choice. Just absurd.

Cliff

I don't know if this has been suggested yet, but you could choose a series with plenty of games, like ff, and go through all of them. That would be pretty epic.

MrT137

Cliff wrote: »

I don't know if this has been suggested yet, but you could choose a series with plenty of games, like ff, and go through all of them. That would be pretty epic.

I've thought about that before, but I'd have to spread that out over a year or two because of the total time (over 500 hours?) and I'd just get burned out on FF I think.

Disgaea Portable- I have 1 and 2 for the PSP, I think the game is perfect for this system, I need to play it some more.

Vacations- I prefer vacations with friends and family, and usually a beach or tropic atmosphere. But right now I just don't want to go somewhere on a cruise or whatever by myself and see happy couples, I don't want to put myself through that. And more importantly, money is extremely tight right now, I might only have $100 or $200 left over each month after the bills, and I should probably save that up for when the car inevitably needs repairs. I've got a week trip planned with my family down to North Carolina in a few months for my brothers wedding, so I'm looking forward to that. (I'm also the best man in his wedding, I'm working my best so I won't be an emotional wreck in that).

Addictive Personality? I don't think so, I try to work hard at things I enjoy, but feel free to speculate

Join AA? I used to be a happy person when I drank, but now I'm not so much, so I think twice before drinking, and rarely alone.

I think I've concluded that a week is probably too long, maybe a few days, I think that would be cool to do still. I've also got two cats to remind me that I'm not completely alone anyhow, lol. I'll throw in a board game night too, I just got Dominion, and it's awesome.

Thanks for the advice, good, bad, and ugly!

Pheezer

If you're making time for yourself, set aside part of your time to working out. Even just body weight stuff. If you've got all day and a place to yourself, spend 15 minutes every hour doing something like pushups, situps, squats, lunges, crunches, etc. It takes no real effort, won't feel like anything, but will make a difference AND will keep you in a healthy mindset.

Also you need to mark the progress of time by something physical or you'll get burnt out and the days will blend into nights and you'll wonder where all the time went and why you didn't DO anything.

Thanatos

Jesus Christ, people, fucking let it go. It was an idle side comment. Next person to respond to the obsession stuff is getting an infraction.

MrT137

Pheezer wrote: »

If you're making time for yourself, set aside part of your time to working out. Even just body weight stuff. If you've got all day and a place to yourself, spend 15 minutes every hour doing something like pushups, situps, squats, lunges, crunches, etc. It takes no real effort, won't feel like anything, but will make a difference AND will keep you in a healthy mindset.

Also you need to mark the progress of time by something physical or you'll get burnt out and the days will blend into nights and you'll wonder where all the time went and why you didn't DO anything.

I totally agree, I guess this is a little side note, but since I work behind a desk a lot of days doing analytical work and project management, getting a physical workout really helps to keep my brain sharp and feel like I've really done something. I feel the same way with games. For me, if I've just gone for a run, or done some pullups or pushups and worked out a good sweat, it's a lot easier to focus on gaming. That's why I figure maybe an hour workout for every 4-6 hours of gaming. It would be a total physical and mental exercise, and I THINK I would come out feeling better...and I don't want to wear pants for a few days.

Druhim

that sounds solid MrT

OnTheLastCastle

Fuck pants. We can all agree on that. No pants is awesome. 4 days off this weekend and I'm A.) Not wearing pants B.) Not waking up before I naturally do C.) Playing Alan Wake, Red Dead Redemption and Starcraft II with mah broooooos.

SkyCaptain

MrT137 wrote: »

Pheezer wrote: »

If you're making time for yourself, set aside part of your time to working out. Even just body weight stuff. If you've got all day and a place to yourself, spend 15 minutes every hour doing something like pushups, situps, squats, lunges, crunches, etc. It takes no real effort, won't feel like anything, but will make a difference AND will keep you in a healthy mindset.

Also you need to mark the progress of time by something physical or you'll get burnt out and the days will blend into nights and you'll wonder where all the time went and why you didn't DO anything.

I totally agree, I guess this is a little side note, but since I work behind a desk a lot of days doing analytical work and project management, getting a physical workout really helps to keep my brain sharp and feel like I've really done something. I feel the same way with games. For me, if I've just gone for a run, or done some pullups or pushups and worked out a good sweat, it's a lot easier to focus on gaming. That's why I figure maybe an hour workout for every 4-6 hours of gaming. It would be a total physical and mental exercise, and I THINK I would come out feeling better...and I don't want to wear pants for a few days.

Play paintball without pants. You'll be gaming and getting a great cardio excercise as you run your ass off to get away from everyone else with the paintball markers.

Natas_Xnoybis

seriously man. hiding in a hole gaming is going to be a self-reinforcing habit. It is probably the last thing you should be doing.

I can see getting s'faced drunk for a bit gaming for a bit... but get back on the horse, go out with friends and enjoy life.... then sometime down the road when you feel good and ready start dating again.

Dhalphir

Natas_Xnoybis wrote: »

seriously man. hiding in a hole gaming is going to be a self-reinforcing habit. It is probably the last thing you should be doing.

Are you naturally a silly goose or did you have to take lessons to think like this?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking on the bright side of a finished marriage, and doing all of the things that you absolutely cannot do in any normal marriage in order to cheer yourself up a bit...ie...wake up, forego pants for an entire day and just play videogames and watch TV.

Hell, my girlfriend is going back home overseas for a few months in August and I know one of the first things I'll be doing to cope with missing her is coming home straight from work and literally sitting right down in front of the PC the second I walk in the door because thats something I haven't done since she moved in.

Kazaka

Maybe you could go for something with loads of hours behind it like Dragon Age or Civilization (as a person who has never played a Civ game, I'm talking entirely out of my ass), something that's just time consuming as hell.
A week to get started on an MMO is kind of iffy, because who knows what your schedule afterward will allow. No denying some fun to be had though, so if you do find yourself with time often that you don't mind blowing up, an MMO will do the trick.
Here's seconding Valkyria Chronicles if you haven't gotten it already.
Also not to be too repetitive about it, but you are handling this shit good as all get-out from the sound of your OP. Good luck, man.

bro please get Tekken 6 and play online with me

there's no one out there anymore, I'm alone

kidding in the spoiler obviously...
seriously get it

Cognisseur

Dhalphir wrote: »

Natas_Xnoybis wrote: »

seriously man. hiding in a hole gaming is going to be a self-reinforcing habit. It is probably the last thing you should be doing.

Are you naturally a silly goose or did you have to take lessons to think like this?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking on the bright side of a finished marriage, and doing all of the things that you absolutely cannot do in any normal marriage in order to cheer yourself up a bit...ie...wake up, forego pants for an entire day and just play videogames and watch TV.

Hell, my girlfriend is going back home overseas for a few months in August and I know one of the first things I'll be doing to cope with missing her is coming home straight from work and literally sitting right down in front of the PC the second I walk in the door because thats something I haven't done since she moved in.

Same situation here. I started living with my girlfriend almost a year ago and it's been going well, but the minute she went home to see her family for a few days it became gaming marathon time. And, what may come as a surprise to some of you guys, I didn't have to check myself into a video game rehab facility once she came back. Weird, huh?

Brainiac 8

Forego pants, and eat lots of frozen pizzas.

Seriously though, I agree with the working out thing. Take time for that, then you'll feel awesome and not so slobbish after all that gaming. :P

Ryna

Don't get takeout pizza every night, I suggest getting different food, stuff you've always wanted to try. I remember back in 2004 my breakup period became known as 'my week with offal'.

oh yeah, .. fuck pants

3drage

Cognisseur wrote: »

Same situation here. I started living with my girlfriend almost a year ago and it's been going well, but the minute she went home to see her family for a few days it became gaming marathon time. And, what may come as a surprise to some of you guys, I didn't have to check myself into a video game rehab facility once she came back. Weird, huh?

The important part of this post is the following quote:

"she came back"

3drage

I'm on board with the no pants rule.

Bionic Monkey

3drage wrote: »

Cognisseur wrote: »

Same situation here. I started living with my girlfriend almost a year ago and it's been going well, but the minute she went home to see her family for a few days it became gaming marathon time. And, what may come as a surprise to some of you guys, I didn't have to check myself into a video game rehab facility once she came back. Weird, huh?

The important part of this post is the following quote:

"she came back"

And after some time to mourn his marriage, he'll want to get back out there and start dating again. He's already planning on taking care of his health and friends during this period, no need to get hyper neurotic about developing some crippling gaming addiction.

John Matrix

I know we're not talking about an actual gaming vacation here, but have you considered attending PAX? I know cash is a little tight right now, but when you get roomates maybe you could hit PAX East?

Bionic Monkey

He's already been to PAX.