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Friend drives drunk 7 days a week.
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At the very least 5/7 days.
He comes over, gets wasted as fuck sometimes to the point where he is breaking stuff. Some of the worst instances would be when he got drunk and slowly backed his car into my roommates SUV a nice car while everyone is yelling stop. He still drove home after this and has yet to get it fixed. Another time he tried to open a stuck window and broke it cutting himself.. Yet to get it fix.. At bars he break glasses spills beers.. Last time we were at the bar we tried to get his keys of course but he wouldn't give them to us.. He said he had to go to the bathroom, walked inside came out the side door and got in his car.
Getting pretty tired of it. Not sure what to do but calling the cops on his plate doesn't seem to sway him at all. One time he called 911 when we took his keys.
He comes over, gets wasted as fuck sometimes to the point where he is breaking stuff. Some of the worst instances would be when he got drunk and slowly backed his car into my roommates SUV a nice car while everyone is yelling stop. He still drove home after this and has yet to get it fixed. Another time he tried to open a stuck window and broke it cutting himself.. Yet to get it fix.. At bars he break glasses spills beers.. Last time we were at the bar we tried to get his keys of course but he wouldn't give them to us.. He said he had to go to the bathroom, walked inside came out the side door and got in his car.
Getting pretty tired of it. Not sure what to do but calling the cops on his plate doesn't seem to sway him at all. One time he called 911 when we took his keys.
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Let it be known what the reason is.
No we say we will all the time but that would fuck up his life so bad.
He's an alcoholic and he's going to kill himself or someone else. His life is already fucked up bad, and anything you do to get authorities involved will only be a step in the right direction.
I can't cut contact with him he is my roommates best friend and he already said if his best friend couldn't come over he would move out.
It'd fuck someone else's life up pretty bad if he slammed his car into them while driving drunk.
You'd probably feel pretty shitty after that happened too.
Find a new roommate.
He is muslim if he gets a DUI his family will disown him and take his house, money and car.
Which is what I would do. If he habitually drinks all week and goes driving, the cops can pull him over and bust him instead of him driving into a minivan and killing 3 kids.
Your roommate is just enabling his behavior. What's he going to do if his friend goes to jail because he plowed into someone? Move out then too?
Him losing his car for a while would mess up his life a lot less (oh no, he has to walk to the bar!) than killing someone or himself.
edit: and if his family is providing him a house, all his money and his car, yeah I can see what he has the attitude that he does. While it would suck for him (from his point of view) to lose that, he is the one that is choosing to get drunk. Losing all that would not end his life. It might end his lifestyle.
maybe this needs to happen
Did you miss the part where the alternative is someone dies?
Or are you willing to take that risk?
He absolutely shouldn't have a car. It sounds like getting disowned would force him to make some hard choices and start changing his life for the better.
He would become homeless and shamed
I mean just cut ties with the guy, room mate be dammed.
So will killing someone because he was driving drunk. This guy's a loser and I would distance myself from him as much as possible. You've reached out to him in the past, and he didn't want it. Stop hanging out with him and report him to the police. The best thing for everyone in your community would be for this guy to get his car and driving privaleges taken away.
He will become a prison inmate and shamed after he's arrested for killing someone while DUI.
Better a homeless and shamed (relatively) innocent man than a subsidized murderer.
Next time you see him, tell him you are calling the cops next time you know he drives drunk.
This way you are putting the choice with him, you don't have to feel bad for "fucking up his life". It isn't you doing it. It's him.
Disregarding why you would ever hang out with someone who's doing something so stupid, there's absolutely no way you should be allowing him to get drunk at your place and drive repeatedly. If he's going to drink at home and drive, there's not much short of calling the cops you can do; if he's going to do it at your place, though, it puts you as well as him at risk
You say calling the cops would fuck up his life? You might SAVE his life, along with any passer-bye he's unfortunate enough to literally run into on his way home.
Your roommate is a dick and is actually, actively contributing to the probability that someone's life will end, not in any figurative, "had-the-cops-called-on-them" sense, but in a literal, "heart-and-brain-dead-in-a-ditch" sense. If you let him go like this EVERY NIGHT without doing anything, you are too.
Call the damn cops as soon as he leaves, every night until someone cares.
I'm pretty sure people that give jobs don't care about your family's opinion of you. If he doesn't want to be cut off from the teat, he needs to give up the bottle.
He can enter rehab in most areas confidentially.
Well, I guess that leaves you with your current policy of doing nothing until he's dead or someone else is. Then you can console yourself that at least he;s not homeless. Prison is a home, right?
And this is worse than him killing someone how?
Dude, this guy needs to get under control, and if he can't do it himself, he needs a hard push in the right direction. A night in lockup is a start. He will likely be forced to go to AA by the court, and that will be a few steps in the right direction.
If he knows his parents would disown him if he got caught drinking, then he knows the risks, and has decided that drinking is worth it. Its time for a swift kick in the ass, because he's already out of control.
-Current W.I.P.
He WILL get caught at some point. He will either get pulled over, or he will cause an accident.
He will get caught, its an absolute certainty.
There's basically two results here:
1) Allow drunk driver to get wasted at your house and drive away drunk. Drives into a car, killing 5 people. Family disowns him, now lives in jail forever.
2) Call in drunk driver until he gets busted drunk driving. Family disowns him, takes away his house and car, gets to go live in a treatment center for a month or three, gets help on finding a job and getting his own place after recovery.
He has been pulled over 3 times and guilts the cop out of arresting him everytime by talking in Arabic then saying..
"No No NO, Forbidden my religion does"
"You accuse me of this"
"no No no"
Then speaks in Arabic some more.
Or you know, call your roommate's bluff and do not allow this person to leave your house wasted anymore.
This is feeling less like a real problem and more like a setup for a punchline.
That doesn't sound like its true. Are you sure he didn't just make it up? If someone is blackout drunk, I can't believe that a cop would let him go.
His luck will run out. All this proves is that his driving has been bad enough to warrant being pulled over 3 times, ergo he will be pulled over again.
He will not get away scott free every time.
Still - my advice to you isn't "do nothing, it will sort itself out".
You should let him know you're going to report him if he continues to drive drunk from your home, and then follow through. Give him the chance to not repeat the behavior by communicating your intentions to him. There isn't a fucking snowball's chance in hell he will change his behavior, however, and you're going to have to follow through.
I kinda believe it.. I have seen him first hand pull some tricky stuff.. He got a 300 dollar work on his car done for 100.00.
Cool story, bro. So are you going to do something about your "friend" inevitably killing someone, possibly himself, or not?
Are you looking for a passive aggressive way to deal with this problem? There isn't one. You're going to hurt his feelings and possibly ruin your friendship if you do the right thing. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do the right thing, but it sounds like you have no intention of doing that.
You can continue doing what you're doing and enabling his behaviour or you can grow some fucking balls and deal with the situation like an adult. Stop letting him come over and get hammered at your house. Stop letting him leave the house drunk. Stop letting him drive home.
Does he have a gun to your head while doing any of these things? Then you're letting it happen.
The worst part of this is that you know what is eventually going to happen and you're not doing anything about it. When someone is killed, you should feel just as terrible as he (hopefully) will.
Call him in, and tell them that he does this. Besides - Eventually, he's going to get pulled over by someone that's pulled him over before, and they wont fall for it a second time.
-Current W.I.P.