I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
edit: And someone mentioned how someone in highschool was asexual and then later they weren't, and you know what, people change and that's just something you gotta accept. I know an ftm who was a lesbian before transitioning and then afterwards they were gay. Things happen. It doesn't make their gender or sexual identity any less valid.
There's also a lot of impotent rage from Americans and ex-Americans alike. Instead of doing something about injustices they just whine about it on the internet and attempt to make themselves feel better. The right thing to do would be to take some kind of action in real life. It's amazing what happens when you do a little real work.
You mean like your recent post about how you'll be laughing at all the dems if Obama is re-elected? Or is that not impotent because you're right and all the dems are wrong? Break it down for me.
OH! no I'll be laughing because of the impotent rage all my republican friends have about him being in office. I happened to catch the 3 millionth "xxx days till Obama's out of office' facebook thing.
I am not saying that people shouldn't be willing to learn these terms, just that it shouldn't be surprising that often people don't, and that they can get confused by them.
That's fine. Just be respectful of people and you'll get by fine! Nobody is going to be 100% what that label is most of the time anyways, that's why communication and understanding is so important. Everyone expresses themselves differently. We do what we want, we are who we are, everyone is different. If you're ever confused about what to call someone just ask! As long as you don't start asking super personal questions that you wouldn't ask to any straight cisgendered person, you're fine.
Peoples are peoples.
No that's cool
I'm a pretty big fan of the "generalisations are just that" idea anyway
Personally I don't want to offend and I think other people feel similarly sometimes, which is why gender terms being complex can become a bit of a struggle.
I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
and it might be. or it might not be. the point is that's not up to you. it's ultimately up to her, hopefully with some help from a good psychologist.
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
I know asexuals who find the concept of actually touching another human being in non platonic way to be disgusting and unappealing. Just like how your stereotypical straight guy jock thinks that touching another guy in a non platonic manner to be disgusting. OH NO MAN BUT ITS A STRAIGHT HUG, NO HOMO. NO HOMO BRO.
also just to copy paste my edit up above down to here
edit: And someone mentioned how someone in highschool was asexual and then later they weren't, and you know what, people change and that's just something you gotta accept. I know an ftm who was a lesbian before transitioning and then afterwards they were gay. Things happen. It doesn't make their gender or sexual identity any less valid.
editedit; also yes what cilla said hey cilla < 3333
I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
maybe it's not how you live your life
but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her
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I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
edit: And someone mentioned how someone in highschool was asexual and then later they weren't, and you know what, people change and that's just something you gotta accept. I know an ftm who was a lesbian before transitioning and then afterwards they were gay. Things happen. It doesn't make their gender or sexual identity any less valid.
Actually, that sounds a lot more like a psychological block, kochi
she doesn't just lack a want for sex but it sounds like she finds that just touching other people, in a sexual manner or otherwise, is straight up gross
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there's a Q and an I now?
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I wouldn't get mad at someone using hermaphrodite
intersex is a lesser known word, and it's rooted in mythology, of course it's going to be known, even if the origins aren't
Actually, that sounds a lot more like a psychological block, kochi
she doesn't just lack a want for sex but it sounds like she finds that just touching other people, in a sexual manner or otherwise, is straight up gross
tommy its completely irrelevant what it sounds like to you
I know a girl who just hates physical human contact. She is capable of having relationships, even romantic ones. But hates the idea of hugging, holding hands, or even sitting next to someone. Things like kissing or sex she finds outright gross.
She describes herself as 'asexual' because she has no desire to ever have sex or even kiss another human being. She does still get crushes and sometimes wants to pursue a romantic (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with people but it obviously never works out because everyone else wants a normal relationship with the intimate things that usually involves.
In case its not already obvious - I went out with her in highschool for a while before I knew this (and probably before she did too). Since then shes had a bunch of "boyfriends" but it has never worked out for more than a few weeks or months.
kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
maybe it's not how you live your life
but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her
if someone is afraid of going outside I think that's something wrong. maybe being afraid of touching other people is some sort of phobia with less harm attached to it but you're really not doing that person any favors by ignoring it
intersex is a lesser known word, and it's rooted in mythology, of course it's going to be known, even if the origins aren't
you should, because its offensive
and intersex is not really lesser known
you know, just like it's not someone's place to decide if someone who considers themself asexual is "broken" or "wrong", it's not your place to tell someone they should be offended and angry about a word you're offended and angry over
if someone is afraid of going outside I think that's something wrong. maybe being afraid of touching other people is some sort of phobia with less harm attached to it but you're really not doing that person any favors by ignoring it
You don't know this girl. You don't know if she's AFRAID of touching someone. That's like me saying, Wren, touch that guys dick. And if you don't then there's something psychologically wrong with you? No no. You don't know anything about this girl. If she says she's asexual, you accept that, face value. Someone's gender or sexual identity is none of your business.
Asexuals get a lot of shit from everyone. They get accused to just being pederasts or into bestiality or somethings wrong with them or broken. Sorry if I get a bit touchy guys. : (
Hermaphrodite is offensive now? Because in the university lab I work at we use that time all the time.
It mostly applies to other animals and such, but hermaphrodite is something still very much used in certain fields of Academia.
Edit: Oh I get it, applying it ot humans is offensive because it means that the individual is fully male and female, which is true for many organisms but not people. That makes a lot more sense.
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intersex is a lesser known word, and it's rooted in mythology, of course it's going to be known, even if the origins aren't
you should, because its offensive
and intersex is not really lesser known
you know, just like it's not someone's place to decide if someone who considers themself asexual is "broken" or "wrong", it's not your place to tell someone they should be offended and angry about a word you're offended and angry over
Actually it is. Hermaphrodite does not address the biological conditions known as "Intersex." Hermaphrodite implies a presentation of both genitals, when rarely are both fully developed. Sorry, you don't get to do that and it isn't okay.
if someone is afraid of going outside I think that's something wrong. maybe being afraid of touching other people is some sort of phobia with less harm attached to it but you're really not doing that person any favors by ignoring it
You don't know this girl. You don't know if she's AFRAID of touching someone. That's like me saying, Wren, touch that guys dick. And if you don't then there's something psychologically wrong with you? No no. You don't know anything about this girl. If she says she's asexual, you accept that, face value. Someone's gender or sexual identity is none of your business.
Asexuals get a lot of shit from everyone. They get accused to just being pederasts or into bestiality or somethings wrong with them or broken. Sorry if I get a bit touchy guys. : (
you don't know this girl either. but with what information I was given I was able to form my opinion. and before I touch this guys dick, is he cut or uncut? this is important
and I know how you feel. I like fucking animals and its hard to live with
but isn't queer used as a synonym for some of the other things?
what makes it different?
Queer is a sexual identity. It's very all inclusive and means a lot of things. It can mean anything from I am a guy who dates women 90% of the time but I really like sucking dick. It can mean I am a person who likes men and women and transgendered people and genderqueer people. It can mean a lot of things.
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kinda sounds like she's broken though
Nah. She's just asexual. If she says she's asexual she is and you gotta accept that, your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to determining other peoples sexual and gender identities. Asexuals aren't broken.
edit: And someone mentioned how someone in highschool was asexual and then later they weren't, and you know what, people change and that's just something you gotta accept. I know an ftm who was a lesbian before transitioning and then afterwards they were gay. Things happen. It doesn't make their gender or sexual identity any less valid.
OH! no I'll be laughing because of the impotent rage all my republican friends have about him being in office. I happened to catch the 3 millionth "xxx days till Obama's out of office' facebook thing.
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No that's cool
I'm a pretty big fan of the "generalisations are just that" idea anyway
Personally I don't want to offend and I think other people feel similarly sometimes, which is why gender terms being complex can become a bit of a struggle.
But yeah best way to learn is to ask
And you are good people Kochi, just fyi!
no it sounds like she finds the idea of human contact gross which sounds like some sort of physcological block that can be fixed
I imagine if they are attracted to hermaphrodites that identify as the same gender as them
yeah sure
E: Intersex, sorry
huh, well I did not know that
not sure what makes it offensive but whatever
and it might be. or it might not be. the point is that's not up to you. it's ultimately up to her, hopefully with some help from a good psychologist.
I know asexuals who find the concept of actually touching another human being in non platonic way to be disgusting and unappealing. Just like how your stereotypical straight guy jock thinks that touching another guy in a non platonic manner to be disgusting. OH NO MAN BUT ITS A STRAIGHT HUG, NO HOMO. NO HOMO BRO.
also just to copy paste my edit up above down to here
edit: And someone mentioned how someone in highschool was asexual and then later they weren't, and you know what, people change and that's just something you gotta accept. I know an ftm who was a lesbian before transitioning and then afterwards they were gay. Things happen. It doesn't make their gender or sexual identity any less valid.
editedit; also yes what cilla said hey cilla < 3333
maybe it's not how you live your life
but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her
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Actually, that sounds a lot more like a psychological block, kochi
she doesn't just lack a want for sex but it sounds like she finds that just touching other people, in a sexual manner or otherwise, is straight up gross
intersex is a lesser known word, and it's rooted in mythology, of course it's going to be known, even if the origins aren't
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tommy its completely irrelevant what it sounds like to you
if she decides shes asexual
she is asexual
Intersex just kinda sounds like more of an adjective than a noun to me, so my brain went straight to hermaphrodite
which is probably pretty telling on my part, but whatever
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if someone is afraid of going outside I think that's something wrong. maybe being afraid of touching other people is some sort of phobia with less harm attached to it but you're really not doing that person any favors by ignoring it
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you know, just like it's not someone's place to decide if someone who considers themself asexual is "broken" or "wrong", it's not your place to tell someone they should be offended and angry about a word you're offended and angry over
i don't want to offend
but isn't queer used as a synonym for some of the other things?
what makes it different?
You don't know this girl. You don't know if she's AFRAID of touching someone. That's like me saying, Wren, touch that guys dick. And if you don't then there's something psychologically wrong with you? No no. You don't know anything about this girl. If she says she's asexual, you accept that, face value. Someone's gender or sexual identity is none of your business.
Asexuals get a lot of shit from everyone. They get accused to just being pederasts or into bestiality or somethings wrong with them or broken. Sorry if I get a bit touchy guys. : (
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basically, not quite sure
It mostly applies to other animals and such, but hermaphrodite is something still very much used in certain fields of Academia.
Edit: Oh I get it, applying it ot humans is offensive because it means that the individual is fully male and female, which is true for many organisms but not people. That makes a lot more sense.
ah ok, ty
Oh thank God you're here to make sure everyone has the correct emotional response to everything.
you don't know this girl either. but with what information I was given I was able to form my opinion. and before I touch this guys dick, is he cut or uncut? this is important
and I know how you feel. I like fucking animals and its hard to live with
Queer is a sexual identity. It's very all inclusive and means a lot of things. It can mean anything from I am a guy who dates women 90% of the time but I really like sucking dick. It can mean I am a person who likes men and women and transgendered people and genderqueer people. It can mean a lot of things.
It is prettymuch the other checkbox.
I assume you're speaking of my reputation around here.
Yes, around here I have terrible opinions. It's something I've learned to live with and embrace in able to live in these boards. :>
Like people with herpes.
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