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Destiny Mansfest:California or bust.
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I(x)=2(x)+1whole numbersRegistered User regular
Hey folks. I’m sort of making a H/A thread ‘cause, I want a sort of static place to link this, and well… help and advice would actually be appreciated as well. As a bit of a preface, I have in fact broken up with her, been exercising quite a bit and will probably start going to a gym, am getting the fuck out, and will be tracking down a therapist just as soon as I have steady income and know I’m going to be in the same location for more than a month.
What's going down
I’ve been living in Florida for about 18 years(since I was 14), in the same little town. I’ve been unhappy most of that time. It has its faults(they are legion), but mostly I need a change. I’m graduating from the local state college with a BS IT degree May 13th.
My mom currently resides about 20 minutes outside San Francisco. June 1st, she’s retiring from a government job that was paying for her to live out there. Her apartment is paid up through May.
May 14th, we’re flying back there. I’ll be there until at least the 29th, at which time I’ll be heading up to spend a week at a rented house, for a sort of extended retirement party. From there it’s down to San Diego, and eventually back east on along the southern route.
Along the way, mostly in the Bay Area, I’ll be looking for employment, housing and well…. Basically to meet new people that might be the start of something like a social support network. Or whatever. I know one kid out there at the moment, we were damned close for a long time, but I’ve seen him 1 since he moved out to San Francisco 6 or so years back.
If the whole California thing doesn’t work out, I’ll be moving to eastern PA. There, I have a decent place to live, with an ok job market, and a few workable options for building up some social interaction, and a lot of pretty major cities with associated job markets and culture and shit within a few hours drive. So, while it would be depressing if this does not work out, it is not going to be the end of the world.
Job search:
The degree I’m finishing up is rather general IS affair. Big long stupid title, bs information systems technology. A fair amount of computer design stuff, C++ and Java programing (and a couple software engineering/design classes),LAN and WAN stuff, DBA, and a good amount of security and forensics.
I have no certs.
I have well, a bit of work experience.
Here’s a resume too poop all over if you want.
I could swing a bit of a narrative description of those jobs if it’s wanted (if folks have questions). Resume is not really something I’d send in for a particular job. It’s a bit unfocused to allow for the removal of non-relevant material for given openings.
I really am not qualified for a genuine programming job. I can kludge together something that will function in a bunch of languages, can script for windows, OSX and linux pretty well, and can generally get any sort of data from point a to point b in a usable form. I guess recruiter folks like to see all those pretty abbreviations and names.
I have a bunch of troubleshooting and technical support experience, and some administration background. It is below enterprise scale though. Pretty much every job I’ve had customer service roles.
I guess… question for folks in the area. How badly do I need a suit? Florida is really too damned hot and informal for me to have a need for one in the past. I think I’ve seen 1 suit at an interview the whole time I was down here.
Housing:
Not really too sure about this. There’s not much hope I could afford to live too in the city or anything. I’ll have a car if I stay. I’ll be able to get help with co-signing and a security deposit. I sort of need a little bit of glimmer of getting a job before I start looking at anything too specific. *shrug* I don’t have any particular desire to live alone, but well… not really knowing anyone and kinda sucking at meeting people makes alternatives less than readily apparent.
That bit there about people:
If I had a better history of that, I probably wouldn’t have the same pressing desire to change my environment. On this annoying level, I believe myself to be really crappy at meeting people, so it makes it rather hard to get out and meet people at bars and such. I’m not in school, won’t have a job for a while at least, and am not religious
[pseudo-edit: technically, I’m an atheist, who’s a lapsed Friend. I might actually look up a Meeting . Hmm... SFFM’s query to its members this week ‘How does the Meeting help and support members who are in job transitions?’ auspicious. Doubly so given some of the language here and in my OKC thingy]
If any of this is going to work, and if I’m not just going to have a totally boring time, I need to get out and meet people. I don’t know. If there’s a bunch of people, it’s hard for me to approach someone and strike up a conversation. And like, all the friends I’ve had have been people who have made friends with me. It’s not good, something I’m working on, but still kinda a thing right now.
I’m sort of looking for advice on locating situation where I can, sort of, be forced into socialize with a decent number of people a small number at a time, where it doesn’t require me to work up the initiative every single time. If that makes sense.
*shrug* another part of this is there aren’t too many folks for this forum who I would mind meeting. That would probably be better conducted through PM or the D&D chat thread.
Anywho: This is longish, so thanks for reading.
What's going down
I’ve been living in Florida for about 18 years(since I was 14), in the same little town. I’ve been unhappy most of that time. It has its faults(they are legion), but mostly I need a change. I’m graduating from the local state college with a BS IT degree May 13th.
My mom currently resides about 20 minutes outside San Francisco. June 1st, she’s retiring from a government job that was paying for her to live out there. Her apartment is paid up through May.
May 14th, we’re flying back there. I’ll be there until at least the 29th, at which time I’ll be heading up to spend a week at a rented house, for a sort of extended retirement party. From there it’s down to San Diego, and eventually back east on along the southern route.
Along the way, mostly in the Bay Area, I’ll be looking for employment, housing and well…. Basically to meet new people that might be the start of something like a social support network. Or whatever. I know one kid out there at the moment, we were damned close for a long time, but I’ve seen him 1 since he moved out to San Francisco 6 or so years back.
If the whole California thing doesn’t work out, I’ll be moving to eastern PA. There, I have a decent place to live, with an ok job market, and a few workable options for building up some social interaction, and a lot of pretty major cities with associated job markets and culture and shit within a few hours drive. So, while it would be depressing if this does not work out, it is not going to be the end of the world.
Job search:
The degree I’m finishing up is rather general IS affair. Big long stupid title, bs information systems technology. A fair amount of computer design stuff, C++ and Java programing (and a couple software engineering/design classes),LAN and WAN stuff, DBA, and a good amount of security and forensics.
I have no certs.
I have well, a bit of work experience.
Here’s a resume too poop all over if you want.
I could swing a bit of a narrative description of those jobs if it’s wanted (if folks have questions). Resume is not really something I’d send in for a particular job. It’s a bit unfocused to allow for the removal of non-relevant material for given openings.
I really am not qualified for a genuine programming job. I can kludge together something that will function in a bunch of languages, can script for windows, OSX and linux pretty well, and can generally get any sort of data from point a to point b in a usable form. I guess recruiter folks like to see all those pretty abbreviations and names.
I have a bunch of troubleshooting and technical support experience, and some administration background. It is below enterprise scale though. Pretty much every job I’ve had customer service roles.
I guess… question for folks in the area. How badly do I need a suit? Florida is really too damned hot and informal for me to have a need for one in the past. I think I’ve seen 1 suit at an interview the whole time I was down here.
Housing:
Not really too sure about this. There’s not much hope I could afford to live too in the city or anything. I’ll have a car if I stay. I’ll be able to get help with co-signing and a security deposit. I sort of need a little bit of glimmer of getting a job before I start looking at anything too specific. *shrug* I don’t have any particular desire to live alone, but well… not really knowing anyone and kinda sucking at meeting people makes alternatives less than readily apparent.
That bit there about people:
If I had a better history of that, I probably wouldn’t have the same pressing desire to change my environment. On this annoying level, I believe myself to be really crappy at meeting people, so it makes it rather hard to get out and meet people at bars and such. I’m not in school, won’t have a job for a while at least, and am not religious
[pseudo-edit: technically, I’m an atheist, who’s a lapsed Friend. I might actually look up a Meeting . Hmm... SFFM’s query to its members this week ‘How does the Meeting help and support members who are in job transitions?’ auspicious. Doubly so given some of the language here and in my OKC thingy]
If any of this is going to work, and if I’m not just going to have a totally boring time, I need to get out and meet people. I don’t know. If there’s a bunch of people, it’s hard for me to approach someone and strike up a conversation. And like, all the friends I’ve had have been people who have made friends with me. It’s not good, something I’m working on, but still kinda a thing right now.
I’m sort of looking for advice on locating situation where I can, sort of, be forced into socialize with a decent number of people a small number at a time, where it doesn’t require me to work up the initiative every single time. If that makes sense.
*shrug* another part of this is there aren’t too many folks for this forum who I would mind meeting. That would probably be better conducted through PM or the D&D chat thread.
Anywho: This is longish, so thanks for reading.
They moistly come out at night, moistly.
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