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Friends Girlfriend Cheating - Again
Fandyien
But Otto, what about us? Registered User regular
But Otto, what about us? Registered User regular
Alright, here's the situation. One of my closest friends has been going out with this girl, who also happens to be a good friend of mine, for about a year. Their relationship is pretty much the focus of both their lives; however, it does have a number of problems, which I tend to hear about on a daily basis from both parties. Neither of them are particularly honest, so I end up telling a bunch of lies for both of them sometimes - but that isn't really what this thread is about.
I found out last night that his girlfriend cheated on him, and is pretty much planning on doing it again, with another girl who's a friend of mine. Evidently they felt like it was okay because, "she doesn't have a penis", and I'm really torn between my desire to help out a friend with a cheating girlfriend and my desire not to screw two mutual friends over.
Additionally, they were talking about how they'd like to hook up with me. Now, both of these girls are incredibly hot, and the chance of hooking with either of them is enough to make me reconsider just about any course of action. With that added to the mix, I know I'd have no chance with either of them if I 'tattled' and told my friend, so I almost feel as if I should just hold off and see what these girls are up to before I do anything.
Tl;DR- Friends girlfriend having hot lesbian sex with other attractive girl. Possibility of sex from either of the girls for me. Can't decide if I tell friend and ruin chances of action while doing right thing, or trying to hook up with these girls and doing the wrong but incredibly awesome thing.
I found out last night that his girlfriend cheated on him, and is pretty much planning on doing it again, with another girl who's a friend of mine. Evidently they felt like it was okay because, "she doesn't have a penis", and I'm really torn between my desire to help out a friend with a cheating girlfriend and my desire not to screw two mutual friends over.
Additionally, they were talking about how they'd like to hook up with me. Now, both of these girls are incredibly hot, and the chance of hooking with either of them is enough to make me reconsider just about any course of action. With that added to the mix, I know I'd have no chance with either of them if I 'tattled' and told my friend, so I almost feel as if I should just hold off and see what these girls are up to before I do anything.
Tl;DR- Friends girlfriend having hot lesbian sex with other attractive girl. Possibility of sex from either of the girls for me. Can't decide if I tell friend and ruin chances of action while doing right thing, or trying to hook up with these girls and doing the wrong but incredibly awesome thing.
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Screw them both, then nark.
If I were you I'd run far far far away.
Just because she's a hot chick having sex with another hot chick doesn't make it ok. You said that their relationship is pretty much the focus of their lives, bringing someone, ANYONE else into that probably isn't a good idea.
And who knows, maybe the boyfriend will be into it...
...but I imagine if he was they'd have told him. I mean...the fact that you say you're not really ok with it but in the same breath talk about how if his girlfriend offered to have sex with you you would is kind weird.
Anyway, please figure out some way to notify this dude. If he's your friend he deserves to know.
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I really have no idea what to tell you for the rest of it, but you don't want to be that guy.
After she lies and says he's cool with it, make sure you send the BF a thank you card. I think hallmark makes a card that says "i just lived your fantasy with your girl and her hot friend. Thanks again buddy! p.s. is she free next weekend?"
You meant to type "I don't care, i just wanna fuck two hotties at the same time!"
Go for it. Do them both. Take pics so you can reminisce during the shitstorm this will stir up. You know sooner or later your buddy and his girl will have a fight and she'll say those magic words... "I slept with Fandyien." Can't wait for that. Enjoy!
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I mean, really, at that point, you're not ratting her out; she lied to you, and got screwed by it. Her fault, not yours.
You know what the right thing to do in this situation is. You don't need anyone to tell you that. You have already identified what the right thing is and what the wrong this is
The problem is that the right thing is difficult, and the wrong thing is tempting. This is a no brainer. Do the right thing.
Seriously, this is the FUCKING TRUTH!
And, it goes even beyond just "the code" (which is bad enough)... you also don't want to get your fucking ass kicked! A friend of mine was "that guy" in high school, and while it was ABSOLUTELY THE WRONG RESPONSE (I should have been the bigger man and just walked away), I ended up beating the fucking piss out of him and haven't talked to him since.
Be the bigger man! Show the world you're not controlled by your fucking dick... There will be other girls, even really hot ones... Hell, I see 10 SMOKING hotties everytime I walk to lunch through my schools quad... Seriously, don't do it...
In the interest of keeping them both as "friends", find a way of getting him the info w/o actually telling him.
Amen.
You can get laid elsewhere, maybe with this chick that his girl cheated on him with, who knows. But don't fuck around with your friends' girlfriends, that will inevitably ruin that friendship and make you something akin to scum.
Tube is right. I know this because he said what I was going to say.
Though I probably would have added some lame joke about two shafts and six holes.
Seriously though, don't hook up with your friends girlfriend. That is just fucked up. But the other chick sounds like fair game, you should go for it with her.
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Yes, look at her as your consolation prize. If your life is a romantic comedy your friend will be made at you for telling him, his girl will realize how much he means to her, and all four of you will get married at a joint wedding.
Your advice is stupid and immature. If he wants a threesome he can get two hookers and do it without hurting anyone.
You already know your buddy's girlfriend is manipulative and dishonest. Why would you assume this is anything more than a (possibly successful) attempt to divert blood flow from your brain?
This female "friend" of yours is imposing on you enough already by burdening you with the knowledge of her infidelity. Asking you to actively betray your other friend deserves a great big "fuck off", imo.
His buddy and his girl aren't really a couple anymore, if they ever were. He's lied to both of them in helping them cover shit up. The girl is proabably already sleeping around and he's lying to his "bud" about it. This whole situation is ALREADY a clusterfuck and there's nothing he can do. He can walk away, he can try to "save their relationship" (dramabomb), or he can get his jollies off AND THEN walk away.
How about having morals? Fucking your buddy's girlfriend is about the lowest of the low, regardless of the situation the two are in. You should never even touch a girl that your friend dated after they broke up (damaged goods avoid that shit), but DURING is a sure way to not only lose your friendship with the guy forever, but is also a sure way to label yourself a fuckhead
The other girl sounds like fair game, though, so if you want to satisfy your penis AND your conscience, go after the other girl and tell your friend that his woman is lying and cheating on him. Done and done.
As for the OP, I would recommend looking at this like an equation. If you subtract the value of the friendship from the pleasure of the sex you might get, is the result negative? If so, don't do it.
Yes, it is that simple.
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How is that a Moral Dillema? Ethical sure but ethics are absolute and deal with the greatest good for the most number of people. Morals are always relative. I could argue that it is immoral to NOT have the threesome, but that is long and convoluted, and because it invovles a threesome would be a theory rejected by christians. As far as the threesome goes it is realy about what the poster wants. DO you want to get invovled with friends girl+1, at the expense of a friendship you may or may not miss?
it depends on the quality of said friendship. if he was my best buddy as in someone I have known since early childhood, I would not. if he was my best buddy I go to the bar with every so often, and I had not gotten laid in a few months... GO FOR IT.
Shut up. Any person worth his existence would not fuck his friend's girlfriend.
Be a good friend.
Seriously, what is wrong with you? Do you need a list of reasons this is a bad idea?
1. Shows no respect for your friendship, your friend, or yourself. This should be enough.
2. You are fucking a girl that is blatantly using you. Again no respect for the girl or for yourself.
3. You in all likelihood lose your friendship with this guy (he will find out).
4. When you are found out more than likely this guy's friends will side with him, and you'll have a big group of people thinking you're a fuck or wanting to beat your ass. If you go to school together, prepare for uncomfortable times ahead!
5. Other girls that find out about this will likely stay away from you (besides maybe slutty ones like the one you got with)
Might as well make it a foursome, since your fucking your best bud too. Since when are threesomes the holy grail? Threesomes aren't hard to get.