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The problem is that a lot of guys (well, a lot of people) don't know the difference between "nice" and "passive."
Yeah.
Also the time most guys are first learning how to interact with girls (on the romantic and sexual levels) is during our early teenage years, which is when they're learning how to interact with us. So we behave stupidly, which causes them to expect us to behave stupidly, which causes them to behave stupidly, which causes us to expect them to behave stupidly...
Not only is it the blind leading the blind, but it's the blind teaching the blind how to read maps drawn by the blind.
At least, that pretty much was how my high school years went, and it took the better part of college and even a couple years after college to get my head un-fucked.
Feral on
every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
Blargh, the median was a freaking 76 on that test, according to her the highest ever in her class... and the mean was a 72. That is far too high. Jesus. And I fucked up the test and got an 87. I am so retarded. I am angry.
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
I believe the common logic is that 'people like confident people. "Bad boys" and jackasses are frequently confident, while a 'Nice Guy' is usually immensely non-confident'.
I think I used to pull that Nice Guy nonsense? But that was back before I joined D&D, I think.
Anyway, my relationship trouble right now is limited to lasting too long during sex. I'm just hoping next time we can set aside more than 45 minutes.
...........
Seriously though right at the beginning to make sure I wouldn't finish early I thought about the World Series, and David Ortiz in particular and I'm pretty sure that ruined it for me for the rest of the day.
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
I believe the common logic is that 'people like confident people. "Bad boys" and jackasses are frequently confident, while a 'Nice Guy' is usually immensely non-confident'.
Or something like that.
Yeah, I don't buy that at all.
I would probably elaborate more, but I'm feeling pretty crabby right now at all the stupid I just accidentally read in some of the other D&D threads.
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
Lack of confidence and any idea of how to properly go about wooing a lady are the problem, I think.
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
I believe the common logic is that 'people like confident people. "Bad boys" and jackasses are frequently confident, while a 'Nice Guy' is usually immensely non-confident'.
Or something like that.
Yeah, I don't buy that at all.
I would probably elaborate more, but I'm feeling pretty crabby right now at all the stupid I just accidentally read in some of the other D&D threads.
No, I think yalb's got a point. Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men. Both have very little bearing on an actual relationship or compatibility, but are highly sought after by a great many people.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance. I think a lot of Nice Guys aren't actually nice at all, but just really insecure, and they prefer to think of that as being "nice."
I don't understand this "Nice Guy" thing at all. I bet it's just that most people are about as intellectually interesting as drying paint, but "bad boys" can compensate for that somewhat by being jerks, and fool other people into thinking that they're interesting.
I believe the common logic is that 'people like confident people. "Bad boys" and jackasses are frequently confident, while a 'Nice Guy' is usually immensely non-confident'.
Or something like that.
Yeah, I don't buy that at all.
I would probably elaborate more, but I'm feeling pretty crabby right now at all the stupid I just accidentally read in some of the other D&D threads.
No, I think yalb's got a point. Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men. Both have very little bearing on an actual relationship or compatibility, but are highly sought after by a great many people.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance. I think a lot of Nice Guys aren't actually nice at all, but just really insecure, and they prefer to think of that as being "nice."
See, this is why I don't lie to myself. I'm an insecure shitcock, and that's all there is to it!
Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men.
Buh?
Well, I can't speak for the whole female population, because I'm obviously more intelligent and just an all-around better person than all the rest of them, but I personally don't feel that way at all.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance. I think a lot of Nice Guys aren't actually nice at all, but just really insecure, and they prefer to think of that as being "nice."
I was gonna respond to this in a thoughtful manner, but I'm crabby and thus disinclined to engage in rational thought. Suffice it to say that most people are idiots and I hate them, and that's why being nice isn't actually detrimental to your romantic career, and girls don't actually like jerks more for being jerks.
Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men.
Buh?
Well, I can't speak for the whole female population, because I'm obviously more intelligent and just an all-around better person than all the rest of them, but I personally don't feel that way at all.
Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men.
Buh?
Well, I can't speak for the whole female population, because I'm obviously more intelligent and just an all-around better person than all the rest of them, but I personally don't feel that way at all.
Well, yeah. That's kind of my point -- it's kind of stupid to put as much value on that as many/most people do.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance. I think a lot of Nice Guys aren't actually nice at all, but just really insecure, and they prefer to think of that as being "nice."
I was gonna respond to this in a thoughtful manner, but I'm crabby and thus disinclined to engage in rational thought. Suffice it to say that most people are idiots and I hate them, and that's why being nice isn't actually detrimental to your romantic career, and girls don't actually like jerks more for being jerks.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance.
This too. I didn't realize until I dated someone who was like this that I realized just how grindingly annoying it could be.
Anyone who likes Soviet composers can't be all that bad.
Speaking of which, I revisited the Shostakovich 5 and was surprised at how... gorgeous the third movement was. Shostakovich isn't one I tend to associate with that descriptor.
Anyone who likes Soviet composers can't be all that bad.
Speaking of which, I revisited the Shostakovich 5 and was surprised at how... gorgeous the third movement was. Shostakovich isn't one I tend to associate with that descriptor.
Did you ever think your trouble with women might stem from your flaming homosexuality?
Anyone who likes Soviet composers can't be all that bad.
Speaking of which, I revisited the Shostakovich 5 and was surprised at how... gorgeous the third movement was. Shostakovich isn't one I tend to associate with that descriptor.
Did you ever think your trouble with women might stem from your flaming homosexuality?
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I keep imagining that the puppy in your av is saying all the words you're writing, and it's so cute I want to gag.
Yeah.
Also the time most guys are first learning how to interact with girls (on the romantic and sexual levels) is during our early teenage years, which is when they're learning how to interact with us. So we behave stupidly, which causes them to expect us to behave stupidly, which causes them to behave stupidly, which causes us to expect them to behave stupidly...
Not only is it the blind leading the blind, but it's the blind teaching the blind how to read maps drawn by the blind.
At least, that pretty much was how my high school years went, and it took the better part of college and even a couple years after college to get my head un-fucked.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
I believe the common logic is that 'people like confident people. "Bad boys" and jackasses are frequently confident, while a 'Nice Guy' is usually immensely non-confident'.
Or something like that.
Anyway, my relationship trouble right now is limited to lasting too long during sex. I'm just hoping next time we can set aside more than 45 minutes.
...........
Seriously though right at the beginning to make sure I wouldn't finish early I thought about the World Series, and David Ortiz in particular and I'm pretty sure that ruined it for me for the rest of the day.
I like today's.
I know exactly why women don't date me
Yeah, I don't buy that at all.
I would probably elaborate more, but I'm feeling pretty crabby right now at all the stupid I just accidentally read in some of the other D&D threads.
Because you have a level 3,000-something Djinn?
And why is that?
No, I think yalb's got a point. Girls especially seem to over-value confidence -- it's like confidence is to women in America as huge boobs are to American men. Both have very little bearing on an actual relationship or compatibility, but are highly sought after by a great many people.
Also, insecurity is often genuinely unattractive. I mean, it's one thing to be somewhat shy/nervous/inexperienced, and another thing to be clingy and constantly in need of reassurance. I think a lot of Nice Guys aren't actually nice at all, but just really insecure, and they prefer to think of that as being "nice."
Don't forget the hideous appearance
and the personal hygiene issues
See, this is why I don't lie to myself. I'm an insecure shitcock, and that's all there is to it!
Buh?
Well, I can't speak for the whole female population, because I'm obviously more intelligent and just an all-around better person than all the rest of them, but I personally don't feel that way at all.
I was gonna respond to this in a thoughtful manner, but I'm crabby and thus disinclined to engage in rational thought. Suffice it to say that most people are idiots and I hate them, and that's why being nice isn't actually detrimental to your romantic career, and girls don't actually like jerks more for being jerks.
Anyone who likes Soviet composers can't be all that bad.
Some guys don't like a confident woman, which is unfortunate
Good thing they're confident, though, so they don't really give a shit what those assholes don't like
Stalin was nice to puppies, I hear
Well, yeah. That's kind of my point -- it's kind of stupid to put as much value on that as many/most people do.
Um, so we agree?
Yes. My preference for voluminous breasts derives from a deep-seated self-loathing at my 12-year-old boy-like physique.
But you've got your pick of the best men NAMBLA has to offer
And yeah, Nice Guys tell themselves they're nice when they're actually just being passive/clingy/weird.
This too. I didn't realize until I dated someone who was like this that I realized just how grindingly annoying it could be.
Yay!
Did you ever think your trouble with women might stem from your flaming homosexuality?
Nay, a girl from my math class (which we actually both ended up dropping) who is far saner and cuter.
I think it's starting to weird her out that I didn't finish either time, though.