No periods, A Guys View

King Kong

So my fiance had her last, monthly visit in November, which is also the same time that she went off birth control. She hasn't had a period since November however she took a test late December which was negative. It's now January and still no monthly friend although she had light spotting for 1 day this week.

Is this a normal thing? She says it is I guess I just want more re-assurance that there be no buns in the oven. (have not had vaginal sex since test and since November)

Trowizilla

Going off hormonal birth control can mean menstrual wackiness, yes, because her body is readjusting to having an actual ovulation-menstruation cycle instead of the artificial cycle the pill produces. The spotting could be from ovulation, could be a period, could be just random spotting. She might have an evil, evil period when it does finally show (I sure did). If the irregularity bothers her, she might want to go back on the pill if that's feasible.

Rubick

It's normal, as stated above. The reason I got on the pill in the first place was I could go months without having an actual period, which I hated. It varies from person to person.

starmanbrand

Congrats, you're about to be a fath- Just kidding. The above posters got it right.

But if it does bother you, why not invest in a pregnancy test?

nizlopi

Actually, I am a girl, and I missed three periods, with one negative test and I turned out to be pregnant.

Id do another test.

EDIT - Just to say, its very unlikely. Happened to me though!

DiscGrace

There can be a lot of wonkiness when you quit BC. Also, has she been working out unusually hard lately, like training for a race or something? Or stressed at work? Those can both screw up normal menstrual cycling pretty easy.

IreneDAdler

Yeah, I've skipped periods due to work or school stress a few times. If she's not worried, then you shouldn't be. If you think she's purposefully lying to you, there might be other problems :P

brandotheninjamaster

Is your finance stressed? I've heard sometimes that extreme stress can mess up a menstruation cycle. But I'm a guy so I really don't have any first hand experience on the matter.

King Kong

She's not lying (we have one kid already so there really would be no need to, been together 7 years). Just I have never been with someone who has missed this many periods, but she says even before BC she would miss them all the time. That plus the negative test, plus the no vagina, plus the spotting one day and it's throwing me for a loop is all.

Females are weird :P

EggyToast

It can take up to 6 months for periods to return to normal after going off birth control. I doubt she's pregnant since you haven't had sex in so long, but if you're really worried, get another test. Or get two, and take them a day apart.

Dulcius_ex_asperis

She's most likely fine and not pregnant. She's just readjusting. Stress can def. cause skips, but some women just skip more often then others. Sounds like your gf (wife?) is one of 'em.

Imperfect

Shit, one of my ex-gfs had CRAZY periods, especially when switching onto/off of birth control. All signs point to normal, man. If you're really worried, drop the money for another test, but seriously, I'd say keep your money.

Fellhand

It's actually common for women to have larger spaces between their periods as they get older. It's actually common for 'miss' a month as well (this suprised me). My source for this is Cosmo, so take that as you will.

If she's not worried about it then just chill. Did she just take the one test? If so it could be a false negative, but again just let her drive and go with the flow.

-Spitfire-

Illness can also cause a late/missed period. Even something as small as a cold sometimes makes my body too busy with looking after itself to have a period, I guess. As also mentioned, stress, weight loss (or gain) and different medications can affect menstruation as well. When I very unwisely took a depo-provera shot a few years ago and then stopped, I ended up having my period for 6 months straight complete with the most horrible cramping you can imagine for the whole time. Birth control can mess you up!

Like most people before have said, if you're really worried then get another test. More likely, it's just her body adjusting and there's nothing to worry about.

Sesphoheme

My girlfriend had irregular periods all the time, until she got on the pill...

Then after she was on the pill, along came Quinn... :S

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, it could or couldn't be...
But no matter the precautions you have or haven't taken, be ready for ANYTHING.
Since you already have one kid, you're probably aware of that though.
I'm sure if she's not worried, it's alright though.

Women's bodies are as crazy as they are sometimes.
(Kidding ladies.)

VisionOfClarity

If you're this worried the only thing that will make you stop worrying is another test (or her period coming but we have no control over that). Peace of mind is worth $15.

Aoi Tsuki

I'll throw in another dime for BC messing with you (friends' experience, medical fact) as well as missing periods entirely due to stress (personal experience--and lemme tell you, thinking I might've been knocked up made things much less so...not).