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So some random girl is calling me who I don't know who is.
It is not a wrong number or anything because she knows my first and last name, well she got my last name wrong so I know it is someone that does not know me very well.
It starts out as a phone call saying "Hey baby it is xxx" Give me a call back at 1am in the morning..
I text her because I don't know who the fuck it is. I assume it is some girl from mardi gras or something. Anyways we text back and forth she knows who I am but I have no clue she is. She is playing games with me...Wont give me much information I run a reverse directory and get all of her information. Her facebook/myspace everything....
There are only two reasons for her to be interacting with you: either she's being purely malicious and fucking with you for the hell of it, or she's interested in you. If it's the former, don't waste a minute of your time with her. If it's the latter, even if she does have good intentions, she's behaving in a manner that shows her to be batshit insane, and that's the kind of trouble nobody wants to get involved with.
Don't bother trying to figure anything out here. This is the kind of mystery that has no good answer. She's either a manipulative bitch just yanking your chain, or she's a deranged attention-seeker who has no concept of appropriate interaction.
Send her back a single message saying "Not interested," then ignore her. Don't check out her Facebook or her Myspace, don't ask your friends about her, just walk the fuck on.
She's your uncle's brother's daughter's friend, and she got your name at the family reunion and when she ran into you at mardi gras and saw how awesome you are she got a crush on you and has decided to play a juvenile game to see if your interested in her.
Seriously, we have no clue who she is, either play her little game or tell her to bugger off.
I was thinking about sending her a text back being like I know who you are, what school you go to and who your parents are (I found it all) GO GO GOOGLE!
I was thinking about sending her a text back being like I know who you are, what school you go to and who your parents are (I found it all) GO GO GOOGLE!
I was thinking about sending her a text back being like I know who you are, what school you go to and who your parents are (I found it all) GO GO GOOGLE!
Not Creepy enough!
I know! Send her an image of herself with no explanation!
...that's Still Not Creepy Enough!
Send her an image of herself with yourself photo-shopped in next to her!
Sounds like my kind of girl. For reference, my decision making process in these situations runs something like this:
Mind Games - My favourite kind! You should totally go for her. No dude, No. Not good. Never good. You should know by now. Pssh. So what, a games a game- and we're good at it, we can take her. Do you really want to have another unfortunate 3am convo with your mother? That was a fluke, theres no way this one stole your garage door opener, and look, she's kinda hot. Must we remind you of Mellisa the Blonde and the Tragically Unfortunate Incident? Whatever, those scars look kind of cool, and you barely even limp now. Do it. She's just playing because she doesn't bring enough to the table. She's playing because she's afraid she doesn't bring enough, its not always the same thing. But I bet she does. Nekkid. I'm telling you man, nothing but trouble. Sexy trouble. Whatever. You know this game. The only way to win is not to play. C'mon just another round or two... What could happen? Three words. Jessica the Brunette. Okay, so no drinking. And we'll hide the passports in a safe, dry spot...
Run. Run hard OP, run fast, and don't look back. Trust me.
I was thinking about sending her a text back being like I know who you are, what school you go to and who your parents are (I found it all) GO GO GOOGLE!
Not Creepy enough!
I know! Send her an image of herself with no explanation!
...that's Still Not Creepy Enough!
Send her an image of herself with yourself photo-shopped in next to her!
Sounds like my kind of girl. For reference, my decision making process in these situations runs something like this:
Mind Games - My favourite kind! You should totally go for her. No dude, No. Not good. Never good. You should know by now. Pssh. So what, a games a game- and we're good at it, we can take her. Do you really want to have another unfortunate 3am convo with your mother? That was a fluke, theres no way this one stole your garage door opener, and look, she's kinda hot. Must we remind you of Mellisa the Blonde and the Tragically Unfortunate Incident? Whatever, those scars look kind of cool, and you barely even limp now. Do it. She's just playing because she doesn't bring enough to the table. She's playing because she's afraid she doesn't bring enough, its not always the same thing. But I bet she does. Nekkid. I'm telling you man, nothing but trouble. Sexy trouble. Whatever. You know this game. The only way to win is not to play. C'mon just another round or two... What could happen? Three words. Jessica the Brunette. Okay, so no drinking. And we'll hide the passports in a safe, dry spot...
Run. Run hard OP, run fast, and don't look back. Trust me.
I'm amazed there were no redheads in that history of trouble. :P
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There are only two reasons for her to be interacting with you: either she's being purely malicious and fucking with you for the hell of it, or she's interested in you. If it's the former, don't waste a minute of your time with her. If it's the latter, even if she does have good intentions, she's behaving in a manner that shows her to be batshit insane, and that's the kind of trouble nobody wants to get involved with.
Don't bother trying to figure anything out here. This is the kind of mystery that has no good answer. She's either a manipulative bitch just yanking your chain, or she's a deranged attention-seeker who has no concept of appropriate interaction.
Send her back a single message saying "Not interested," then ignore her. Don't check out her Facebook or her Myspace, don't ask your friends about her, just walk the fuck on.
Do you get drunk at all? Is it possible that you met her at a party and you were so smashed you just dont remember?
This, I've had unknown callers that have turned out to be girls that I met bar hopping. The thing is, communication is usually more direct and to the point then this, and the only awkwardness stems from the fact they remember you but not vice versa. When there's conflation like this, just end it.
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I only ever dated one redhead, and she was mostly tame. Four Mellissa's and two Jessica's though, hence the distinction. I don't know why it is I'm drawn to these kinds of people; half the time I swear they are mostly sane to start with, and sometimes I know up front. Either way, I either flare up the crazy or draw it out, so I'm obviously part of my own vicious cycle. In a way I'm built for it. In another way its a brutal way to go- I honestly can't recommend it to anyone; the 'good advice' here would be to not go down that road.
I dated a girl named Kayla for a while. It was pretty hot at first, and then she mentioned her four year old son. Which wasn't so much a problem, I guess. After that she got all crazy maternal. Like everything she said to me was her laying some kind of 'rule' about how I should act in whatever given situation. She started getting crazy emotional and I was just like "That's it. I'm out."
Sounds like my kind of girl. For reference, my decision making process in these situations runs something like this:
Mind Games - My favourite kind! You should totally go for her. No dude, No. Not good. Never good. You should know by now. Pssh. So what, a games a game- and we're good at it, we can take her. Do you really want to have another unfortunate 3am convo with your mother? That was a fluke, theres no way this one stole your garage door opener, and look, she's kinda hot. Must we remind you of Mellisa the Blonde and the Tragically Unfortunate Incident? Whatever, those scars look kind of cool, and you barely even limp now. Do it. She's just playing because she doesn't bring enough to the table. She's playing because she's afraid she doesn't bring enough, its not always the same thing. But I bet she does. Nekkid. I'm telling you man, nothing but trouble. Sexy trouble. Whatever. You know this game. The only way to win is not to play. C'mon just another round or two... What could happen? Three words. Jessica the Brunette. Okay, so no drinking. And we'll hide the passports in a safe, dry spot...
Run. Run hard OP, run fast, and don't look back. Trust me.
I'm amazed there were no redheads in that history of trouble. :P
As someone who has a similar dating history, you just don't talk about the redheads. You might summon them and infernal creatures just don't care about restraining orders.
This sort of shit used to happen to my old flatmate ALL the time, though that was because he used to hand out his number to girls whenever he went out drinking. A good 99% of the time it turned into some fucked up stalker situation where he would get 50+ texts a day with some fairly weird/pathetic things. He usually ended up saying some pretty harsh stuff to get them to leave him alone in the end.
Listen to Kate and save your self the bother that goes with this bag of crazy.
I'm the kind of person to retaliate by any means necessary and make them flat out regret, for a long period of time that they even considered thinking of being retarded like that....
I'm going to add to the "ignore" pile. Kate hit it right on the head. At the very best this is her idea of a booty call and even that option is a little creepy considering you literally don't know who she is at all. 1 am texting to someone who does not know you exist is not a sign of mental stability. Run like the plague.
And I'll add yet another vote for the "Run like hell" option. You might think that it'll be just a fun one-night stand thing. And then the texts start. And the calling. And then the ill-fated question:
So are we in a relationship?
And that's when it's too late, my friend. Just ignore her while you still can. If she's this way now, imagine how she'd act when you started dating.
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I'm sure it's just someone messing with you - let us know who if you find out!
These people are boring... Go for it and see what happens, do you really have anything to lose?
And at the very least it might make for an interesting story later in life.
If the question was regarding a friend saying "Let's live like hobos for a year just to see what it's like." I'd say, give it a shot, it'll be a cool story to tell. But people can be crazy about relationships and this screams crazy.
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"What are you dense? Are you retarded or something? Who the hell do you think I am? I'm the goddamn Batman!"
How crazy can she be? So she knows who you are. So she's withholding information about who she is. Not a big deal.
Eventually she's gonna get bored or you will. Either way she'll either give you more information or stop contacting you completely. If she knows you well, she has all the information she needs. If she doesn't know you that well, don't give her more ammo until you're sure she's cool.
You have nothing to lose by playing it cool. Don't act too interested and it'll all come out in the wash.
except blood.. blood just turns pink in the wash ... just so you know..
I'm always shocked when I check the forums in the morning and for whatever reason this thread is still on the first page of posts. Then with no slight degree of trepidation I look at the new posts out of the concern that somehow for some reason there might be an update from the OP. There won't be, of course. There was never any question what the right course of action here was going to be. I'm vaguely unclear on how this was ever actually a H/A thread in the first place because no advice was ever needed, seeing as how there was never actually a question in the first post. The only way you could insinuate a problem requiring our insight into said post would be to assume the unasked question is "should I just ignore this random girl who is calling me whom I do not know at all, or should I do something completely retarded?"
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There are only two reasons for her to be interacting with you: either she's being purely malicious and fucking with you for the hell of it, or she's interested in you. If it's the former, don't waste a minute of your time with her. If it's the latter, even if she does have good intentions, she's behaving in a manner that shows her to be batshit insane, and that's the kind of trouble nobody wants to get involved with.
Don't bother trying to figure anything out here. This is the kind of mystery that has no good answer. She's either a manipulative bitch just yanking your chain, or she's a deranged attention-seeker who has no concept of appropriate interaction.
Send her back a single message saying "Not interested," then ignore her. Don't check out her Facebook or her Myspace, don't ask your friends about her, just walk the fuck on.
Seriously, we have no clue who she is, either play her little game or tell her to bugger off.
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Damnit, I had the banjo all strung up and ready too.
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Don't fight creepy with creepy, dude:
Can trade TF2 items or whatever else you're interested in. PM me.
Not Creepy enough!
I know! Send her an image of herself with no explanation!
...that's Still Not Creepy Enough!
Send her an image of herself with yourself photo-shopped in next to her!
wait...that's Still Not Creepy Enough!
Photoshop it more so she's in a wedding dress!
Perfect!
Looks that way but it is a myspace picture.
Mind Games - My favourite kind! You should totally go for her.
No dude, No. Not good. Never good. You should know by now.
Pssh. So what, a games a game- and we're good at it, we can take her.
Do you really want to have another unfortunate 3am convo with your mother?
That was a fluke, theres no way this one stole your garage door opener, and look, she's kinda hot.
Must we remind you of Mellisa the Blonde and the Tragically Unfortunate Incident?
Whatever, those scars look kind of cool, and you barely even limp now. Do it.
She's just playing because she doesn't bring enough to the table.
She's playing because she's afraid she doesn't bring enough, its not always the same thing. But I bet she does. Nekkid.
I'm telling you man, nothing but trouble.
Sexy trouble.
Whatever. You know this game. The only way to win is not to play.
C'mon just another round or two... What could happen?
Three words. Jessica the Brunette.
Okay, so no drinking. And we'll hide the passports in a safe, dry spot...
Run. Run hard OP, run fast, and don't look back. Trust me.
Maybe a little too creepy.
I'm amazed there were no redheads in that history of trouble. :P
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the crazy ones are so wild in bed though :winky:
get involved!
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This, I've had unknown callers that have turned out to be girls that I met bar hopping. The thing is, communication is usually more direct and to the point then this, and the only awkwardness stems from the fact they remember you but not vice versa. When there's conflation like this, just end it.
Nonsense, she's clearly a princess from Zimbabwe who was cruelly ousted from her country by rebel forces.
...she still needs your bank account number though, and maybe some blank checks.
As someone who has a similar dating history, you just don't talk about the redheads. You might summon them and infernal creatures just don't care about restraining orders.
Listen to Kate and save your self the bother that goes with this bag of crazy.
but that's just me
And that's when it's too late, my friend. Just ignore her while you still can. If she's this way now, imagine how she'd act when you started dating.
And at the very least it might make for an interesting story later in life.
"... and that's why I had to pay child support for the last 18 years. So remember son, them bitches is craaaaaaaaaazy."
Can trade TF2 items or whatever else you're interested in. PM me.
If the question was regarding a friend saying "Let's live like hobos for a year just to see what it's like." I'd say, give it a shot, it'll be a cool story to tell. But people can be crazy about relationships and this screams crazy.
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See, you always KNOW the redheads are crazy. You're ready for it.
A different approach. What do you possibly hope to gain from playing with the crazy? Laid, MAYBE? With the crazy oft comes the Clap, my friend.
Best option in all three described possibilities is to run and never look back.
I can has cheezburger, yes?
Eventually she's gonna get bored or you will. Either way she'll either give you more information or stop contacting you completely. If she knows you well, she has all the information she needs. If she doesn't know you that well, don't give her more ammo until you're sure she's cool.
You have nothing to lose by playing it cool. Don't act too interested and it'll all come out in the wash.
Retarded things are retarded because they have bad consequences.