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Help me quit my job. (Please lock)
Dulcius_ex_asperis
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I work in a retail environment, I'm in the state of Arkansas. I have been working there since the beginning of November.
The reason I want to leave is because I feel that the assistant manager of the store has, on various occasions, made me feel personally affronted. Basically, I get the idea that she doesn't like me.
I am planning on handing in my letter of resignation as soon as the GM is in (Friday). The thing is, I don't know what the write in the letter of resignation, as I have never quit a job before. All my jobs have ended nicely and organically, because this is the first job I've had since graduating from college (everything else was seasonal).
The thing is, I want the GM to be aware of the reason I am quitting, which is essentially because I don't feel comfortable being around her. I have this pervading feeling of animosity from her, although it doesn't seem to be directed solely at me. The part that sucks is, I really, REALLY enjoy my job and I've been thanked by customers on multiple occasions and told how good I am at what I do. I just hate going to work because I know she'll be there.
What do I do? I know I shouldn't (or at least think it's probably not a good idea) explain that I think she doesn't like me. Basically I want to sound like as mature as possible, and I don't think "____ hates me!!!" sounds too adult. But I've been there for five months and have had various people advise me to quit because of the way I am treated by her.
So -- tips on how to handle the situation? What do I write in a letter of resignation? Do I tell the GM that she makes me uncomfortable, and about all the times she's been rude and/or insulted my intelligence? Or do I not even bring it up?
The reason I want to leave is because I feel that the assistant manager of the store has, on various occasions, made me feel personally affronted. Basically, I get the idea that she doesn't like me.
I am planning on handing in my letter of resignation as soon as the GM is in (Friday). The thing is, I don't know what the write in the letter of resignation, as I have never quit a job before. All my jobs have ended nicely and organically, because this is the first job I've had since graduating from college (everything else was seasonal).
The thing is, I want the GM to be aware of the reason I am quitting, which is essentially because I don't feel comfortable being around her. I have this pervading feeling of animosity from her, although it doesn't seem to be directed solely at me. The part that sucks is, I really, REALLY enjoy my job and I've been thanked by customers on multiple occasions and told how good I am at what I do. I just hate going to work because I know she'll be there.
What do I do? I know I shouldn't (or at least think it's probably not a good idea) explain that I think she doesn't like me. Basically I want to sound like as mature as possible, and I don't think "____ hates me!!!" sounds too adult. But I've been there for five months and have had various people advise me to quit because of the way I am treated by her.
So -- tips on how to handle the situation? What do I write in a letter of resignation? Do I tell the GM that she makes me uncomfortable, and about all the times she's been rude and/or insulted my intelligence? Or do I not even bring it up?
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"I, NAME,hereby notify you of my resignation effective (whatever date)."
If that didn't went well then I suggest you quit.
b. YES. BRING IT UP TO YOUR MANAGER. if you're doing your job well and a higher up is harassing you "just cause they don't like you" that manager is TERRIBLE at their job. when you're at work personal differences are set aside and you do whats right for the customer and the company, and if you work well and make the company money and make the customers feel appreciated then that makes you more important to the company than a shitty manager that makes good employees feel like they need to quit.
c. get a composition notebook and keep a log of every time she does something that makes you feel uncomfortable or unwanted. if there are witnesses get them to sign it discreetly.
If you have an Human Resources manager, you should probably bring it up with them instead (they'll call in the GM if necessary).
If you don't feel anything can be done and just want to quit, just tell the manager that "Hey, I wanted to let you know I'm giving you my two weeks notice," and if he asks why just tell him it's something you'd like to discuss in private with him and bring out the list. Depending on where you work, there may be a form that you fill out that serves are your two week notice (I know Target and some other large department stores use them).
Edit: And honestly, it may be nothing, you may be reading for too much into her actions. Some people have weird ways of joking with co-workers/employees and may sound harsher than they are. Unless she's flat out calling you "stupid" she may not mean to be offending you.
I have actually been kinda doing this...I do have the date of one particular time she made me uncomfortable, I just took it down as a text message. However, I also have distinct instances (although not their exact dates) of several separate events where she talked down to me or, I feel, tried to make me feel inferior/uncomfortable, or was pretty rude.
This is my first time working in a retail environment, and I feel that I am a dependable and good employee. I strive to do whatever they ask of me in the most complete and effective way possible and I am never late, but I continually feel as though that isn't enough -- for her. This has gotten to the point where I am so stressed out about my job that I don't have any desire to continue working there, although I do like my job. To a great extent the very thought of going to work with her makes me extremely uncomfortable, while the thought of leaving makes me feel an unexpected sense of relief.
As far as not quitting because of the economy, I am in a part of the country where the economy hasn't been so strongly affected by the current crisis, and I'm pretty confident that finding other employment won't be too taxing. I am also currently in a position where I have no bills or rent, which is a fantastic thing, considering.
Edit: I actually considered that this may be her way of joking, or that I shouldn't take her actions personally, but several of my coworkers have expressed the same feelings I have. I am not the type to take things personally, usually, and I am not big on getting offended by people. I have tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, and assumed that she is maybe just...having a bad day? But I don't think that treating me the way she does in such a steady manner is a positive thing for an AM, regardless of whether or not she is joking.
If you do go ahead with it, there's no reason for your resignation letter to be any longer than that.
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