Is there something wrong with me? (SOLVED)

Berlin BlackMan

I've been having some problems the past few weeks, and I have noticed that the people on this forum seem to give good advice. This is really difficult for me to write, mainly due to the fact that I barely know what is happening to me. Some of this may sound creepy, but I know if I don't tell the whole story, some important details would be left out. Also, sorry for the length. I really needed to tell somebody all of this.

There is this girl in my English class. We had seen each other out of class, but I never really bothered talking to her. A few weeks ago, on the day before my weekend, we were waiting for class to start. Since we had nothing better to do, we started talking to each other. It turns out she is a really cool person. She is into a lot of things I am into, she's really smart and funny, and all of that good stuff. Anyway, we had to both go our separate ways after class, and we wouldn't be able to do talk again until Monday. Here is when I start creeping myself out. The whole weekend, this girl is the only thing I can think of. She invades every thought in my mind; I can't even do anything that I normally do to pass time. I just can't stop thinking about her.

I feel that now would probably be the right time to mention that I have never been involved in any sort of relationship ever. I have absolutely no experience in these things. Anyway, the weekend is finally over, and she is absent from class Monday and Tuesday. I lose my mind. I seriously cannot do anything in between classes but sit in my dorm and stare at my ceiling, thinking about her. Finally, she is in class on Wednesday. But what do I do? I just ignore her. It's like I was screaming at myself to talk to her, but I wouldn't do it. Now, I am not a very shy person. But for some reason, the very thought of talking to this girl again makes me want to shrink into some sort of shell. And when I leave English class I can't fucking believe that I just ignored this beautiful, funny, smart girl who might actually be interested in a big scary mother fucker like myself. I mean, is there something wrong with me? Should I be talking to this girl? Am I just subconsciously trying to take this slow? Or am I just being a bloody weirdo about it? I just don't know.

P.S., sorry if this is kind of unintelligible, this girl has just scrambled my mind. I can't even write anymore.

admanb

Have you never heard of a "crush"? 'cause that's what you've got, dude. :P

Talk to her. What have you got to lose?

Captain Eleven

admanb wrote: »

Have you never heard of a "crush"? 'cause that's what you've got, dude. :P

Talk to her. What have you got to lose?

^

Ask her out.

Corvus

This, my friend, is what we call "nerves"

Trus

Corvus wrote: »

This, my friend, is what we call "nerves"

Seriously

ruzkin

I see ya blowin' me a kiss
It doesn't take a scientist
To understand what's going on baby
If you see something in my eye
Let's not over analyze
Don't go too deep with it baby

It's just a little crush
Not like I faint every time we touch
It's just some little thing
Not like everything I do depends on you

It's raising my adrenaline
You're banging on a heart of tin
Please don't make too much of it baby
You say the word "forevermore"
That's not what I'm looking for
All I can commit to is "maybe"

So let it be what it'll be
Don't make a fuss and get crazy over you and me
Here's what I'll do
I'll pay loose
Run like we have a day with destiny

It's just a little crush
Not like I faint every time we touch
It's just some little thing
Not like everything I do depends on you

Mustang

Either that or you could spend the next 6-12 months watching her from a distance and then losing your mind when some other douche asks her out. Just suck it up and get in there son, before someone else does. "Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go for a coffee? and if yes, can I come too?" easy and hillarious. Well not that hillarious, but I'm working under pressure here.

Fagatron

You fucking monstrous creep.

Just ask her out bro. Doesn't have to be fancy, coffee is good.

Funguy McAids

I think just asking her out if slightly odd and will be difficult for you unless you actually get to know her better. Talk to her in a casual way, try to see if you can start a friendship first. The easiest way to get a girlfriend is to be friendly with a girl, talk to her so she can develop interest in you, then get drunk together and see if she jumps in your lap.

I'm not even trying to be facetious.

Also it helps to not as girls a question like "Do you want to go get a coffee with me?"

You should use statements like "We should get some coffee sometime."

Statements = confidence so practice them.

Questions = unconfident so don't bother.

Sevorak

Funguy McAids wrote: »

The easiest way to get a girlfriend is to be friendly with a girl, talk to her so she can develop interest in you, then get drunk together and see if she jumps in your lap.

No, the easiest way to get a girlfriend is to ask girls out on dates.

Ask her out.

cooljammer00

You totally coulda turned her return into a "Hey, what happened to you?" sort of thing. Engage her in convo.

And then PIITB. Or ask her out or something.

NotYou

Dude, you are pretty much the epitome of how all movies and books portray a crush in high school.


Also, everyone is saying ask her out, but I might suggest you just get used to chatting with her more often, else you'll have an awkward date.

Grenn

Be very, VERY wary... basically, she is trying to eat your brains.

My advice would be...

Just ask her out! :P8-)8-)

secretexhibition

Yep. Been there, done that, mate. Crush. :P

admanb wrote: »

Talk to her. What have you got to lose?

:^:

SatanIsMyMotor

NotYou wrote: »

Dude, you are pretty much the epitome of how all movies and books portray a crush in high school.


Also, everyone is saying ask her out, but I might suggest you just get used to chatting with her more often, else you'll have an awkward date.

I moreso agree with this. You need to get to the point where you're able to say "Hi" before you ask her out. So next time you see her say hi. Maybe shoot the shit a bit with her.

Becclescake

You say that you have lots of things in common, so use that to start more conversations. If you're too shy for that, which I can understand, just little things like eye contact and smiling are good until you can pluck up the confidence to talk to her again. Broad subjects like music and film are good - then you can casually suggest that, for example, since you both like this sort of film perhaps you could both see this one together at the cinema and stuff. Or perhaps rent a film out and watch it together.

But yeah, don't ask her out right away. Get to know her a bit more first and get to the point where you can hold a conversation easily without getting jumpy and nervous.

Becclescake

Also, there's really nothing wrong with a bit of nerves - so don't fret about that.

MagicToaster

Asking girls out is not hard. Just say "Wanna get something to eat?"

Berlin BlackMan

Well, she said no to coffee, but we are getting together with my Dungeons and Dragons group this Saturday. Thanks you guys, you really helped me out here.

Six

Berlin BlackMan wrote: »

Well, she said no to coffee, but we are getting together with my Dungeons and Dragons group this Saturday. Thanks you guys, you really helped me out here.

Of all the possible outcomes to asking her out, I think this is what I least expected.

good job, though, and good luck!

ApexMirage

I'm not sure why but I literally just /facepalmed

congrats I guess.

Thylacine

Just get the ball rolling somehow. If you totally ignored her the one day when she showed back up, if you're smooth enough you might just say something like "I'm sorry I didn't say hi the other day, I had a lot on my mind. How was your weekend?" not like, boohoo poor me seeking pity kind of thing...and I would only say that if you like totally turned away from her if she even make eye contact, tried to say hi or anything.

Since it's Thursday now(or maybe Friday by the time you see her), it would be easy to just say something like "Man, I am so ready for the weekend!" to which most people will say "Yeah, me too/Tell me about it" or something similar, and you can ask "Do you have any fun weekend plans?" and she will say yes/no/whatever. If she says no you can ask if she'd like to hang out, and if she's busy you could always ask if she would like to do something next weekend.

At the very least just talk to her. I think you should ask her out sooner than later...but you should at the very least try to hang out with her more than the few moments before or after class.

Edit: Ah, a little too late lol. But congrats. Just don't try and pick her up using the line my ex-boyfriend used on me "Once you go gnome, you never go home."

Fagatron

Berlin BlackMan wrote: »

Well, she said no to coffee, but we are getting together with my Dungeons and Dragons group this Saturday. Thanks you guys, you really helped me out here.

Jesus son. o_O

truck-a-sauras

Berlin BlackMan wrote: »

Well, she said no to coffee, but we are getting together with my Dungeons and Dragons group this Saturday. Thanks you guys, you really helped me out here.

Just remember to tell her when you are putting on your robe and wizard hat. The internet told me that makes the ladies all hot and flustered sexually.

PeregrineFalcon

Hey, if that's how you two roll (twenties) then I forsee it going places.

SammyF

Goddammit, PeregrineFalcon, I spent too much time pussyfooting over the "OP's ex-wife" joke in the other thread that I didn't get around to posting my D&D joke here first:

You are attempting to romance a girl while playing Dungeons and Dragons: make a Charisma check by rolling one D20.

I decided to post it anyway because I'm much less likely to get an infraction for this one.

PeregrineFalcon

As mentioned earlier, both his Robe and Wizard Hat will give him bonuses towards that check, so he should make sure to put them on first. :P

DusT_HounD

Hrm, also, even if you're in the D&D group setting, DON'T FORGET TO TALK TO HER, AND PAY HER ATTENTION. (caps)

If you get too nervous, you may default to paying the most attention to those who don't make you feel nervous, i.e. your friends, and as a result she may end up feeling not included, so remember to check yourself (not like that, you know- mentally check) to ensure you're giving her equal, if not more face-time than everyone else.

cooljammer00

Critical hit!

And don't be a literal white knight for her during the game. She actually knows how to play and all that? No need to try and save her if it doesn't make sense.

Teslan26

On the other hand, one of my earliest (and few) D&D experiences was being punched in the face to fall unconcious to slow the pursuing horde as they dealt with me......

That might not amuse her

Trillian

Fagatron wrote: »

Berlin BlackMan wrote: »

Well, she said no to coffee, but we are getting together with my Dungeons and Dragons group this Saturday. Thanks you guys, you really helped me out here.

Jesus son. o_O

Picked a winner!