Painful intercourse

Thrustrated

Hi H/A.

So, I've been sexually active for almost a decade now. I know what good sex feels like and I love it. It helps that for much of my sexual career I've been with the same guy and we've always had a great sex life. But recently, within the past year, I've been having some trouble.

Sex has become very painful for me, and I've noticed I've been bleeding every time after we do it. It's not like he's especially rough or anything, but something is wrong. There seems to be an area close to the opening (honestly, it kind of feels like where my hymen used to be) that is very tender, even if we haven't had sex for a while. I don't understand what's going on, because nothing we've done has changed, we aren't doing anything differently than we used to.

Before you all shout "Doctor!" I've already been to one. Several, actually. In fact, I'm going to a guy who is going to biopsy the area on the 18th. My concern is that no one seems to know what the problem is, or even anything close to what it could be. At first they said it was a polyp or cyst maybe, but the transvag ultrasound showed up nothing (not anything. It looks perfectly healthy). An actual examination also shows nothing at all, which is why my doctor wants to biopsy it because he can't see anything visibly wrong.

My worry that has been needling me for a while is that it will be idiopathic and they won't be able to fix it. It's been a year since I've had good sex, since we've been able to have sex longer than ten minutes, or more than once a day, or even try another position (most hurt alot).

I need reassurance that this will be fixed, that something can be done, anything. I don't want to be one of those women who has an illness that stops them from enjoying sex. Does anyone have a gf/personal experience similar to mine who can allay my fears?

Also, yeah, alt.

matt has a problem

I'm assuming you've tried lubrication other than the natural kind? Have you tried penetration with other things, fingers, toys etc with the same result?

Richard M. Nixon

You may have something called Vaginismus, though I don't know if that causes bleeding. I hope you can get it sorted out.

elfdude

How old are you?

Try a sexual lubrication see what happens when you masturbate using a toy of some sort (if self masterbation fixes the problem you've either got an axiety issue or your partner's junk is messed up).

Are you sure it's not just chlamydia? A major symptom of chlamydia is spotting/pain durring/after intercourse. A mild form of vaginitis is possible eroding the lining of your vagina leading to bleeding and pain your cervix could also be infected leading to bleeding but it's doubtful considering the pain location and that the cervix is all but numb. Often a simple dose of antibiotics can treat these if you haven't had antibiotics prescribed for you you have a bad doctor.

If you take birthcontrol there's some unusual side effects that can occur with some women. Attempt to go off of it for a month or so and then try sex again. Noting the hymen thing remnants of it have been known to cause problems like this.

There's a dozen and a half diseases that could be related to your partner as well have him thoroughly checked out.

Off the top of my head diseases that could be causing this (for you)

chlamydia - very possible
Atrophic Vaginitis - very possible
Vaginitis - very possible
Urethral caruncle - possible
Endometriosis - unlikely
Bartholinitis - very unlikely
Lichen sclerosis - rare

You need to make sure that your doctor does proper testing. A vaginal and cervical swab, first pass urine test, and dilation and cutterage. I assume he did a pap smear and the standard tests for cysts. Obviously he should actually be looking in your vagina with his eyes/camera (if they have them) and checking out the inside, it's very possible and very easy to miss small cysts via ultrasound (though they rarely miss them in cat/mri's) which is very possible. My bet though is it's a bacterial infection of some sort or birth control messing up your estrogen levels. If your husband uses any sort of male enhancement it could be that.

Also this problem is fairly common as dozens of STI's and normal occurances can cause it.

Thrustrated

elfdude wrote: »

How old are you?

Try a sexual lubrication see what happens when you masturbate using a toy of some sort (if self masturbation fixes the problem you've either got an anxiety issue or your partner's junk is messed up).

Are you sure it's not just chlamydia? A major symptom of chlamydia is spotting/pain durring/after intercourse. A mild form of vaginitis is possible eroding the lining of your vagina leading to bleeding and pain your cervix could also be infected leading to bleeding but it's doubtful considering the pain location and that the cervix is all but numb. Often a simple dose of antibiotics can treat these if you haven't had antibiotics prescribed for you you have a bad doctor.

If you take birth control there's some unusual side effects that can occur with some women. Attempt to go off of it for a month or so and then try sex again. Noting the hymen thing remnants of it have been known to cause problems like this.

There's a dozen and a half diseases that could be related to your partner as well have him thoroughly checked out.

Off the top of my head diseases that could be causing this (for you)

chlamydia - very possible
Atrophic Vaginitis - very possible
Vaginitis - very possible
Urethral caruncle - possible
Endometriosis - unlikely
Bartholinitis - very unlikely
Lichen sclerosis - rare

You need to make sure that your doctor does proper testing. A vaginal and cervical swab, first pass urine test, and dilation and cutterage. I assume he did a pap smear and the standard tests for cysts. Obviously he should actually be looking in your vagina with his eyes/camera (if they have them) and checking out the inside, it's very possible and very easy to miss small cysts via ultrasound (though they rarely miss them in cat/mri's) which is very possible. My bet though is it's a bacterial infection of some sort or birth control messing up your estrogen levels. If your husband uses any sort of male enhancement it could be that.

Also this problem is fairly common as dozens of STI's and normal occurences can cause it.

Thanks, these are all things I looked into at the beginning. I actually stopped taking the pill nine months ago just for this reason since I read that it can give a woman "micro vesicles" and a thinning of the vaginal walls so that would account for the bleeding/soreness.

We do use plenty of lube, especially now. Both of us are free of STI's as far as I know since I get tested every year regardless (it's easy to do when you are at the gyno anyway). I will have them test again I think, just in case it's one of these things where it's been dormant from before we were monogamous (highly unlikely, but still).

What is cutterage? Also, do you think I should really get a cat/mri? If so, I'm glad I have a great PPO.

Thanks for the reassurance, I just really don't want to live the rest of my life like this yanno?

ASimPerson

I have nothing to contribute here other than this is an awesome username for an alt for this topic.

elfdude

Curettage sorry. I have a habit of pronouncing things incorrectly which leads to me constantly misspelling them. It's basically a tissue sample i.e a biopsy.