Should I stay out of it?

Shawnasee

GPIA7R wrote: »

Shawnasee wrote: »

Dibs wrote: »

I really don't see how Shawnasee's advice could possibly blow up in the OP's face.

haha...I smell sarcasm but I don't see it. Am I standing in it?

Yeah, I think the "Tell her she needs to be talking to him about this stuff.
Wish them both well" isn't going to just go off without a hitch. There are thousands of unprepared-for questions she could/will follow-up with, and the OP can't just keep silent without it coming back to bite him in the ass.

It's ultimately between the two people involved, and no amount of "good will" from the OP is going to make it "right" of him to have invaded someone else's privacy

he.doesn't.need.to.say.anything.about.the.MSN.logs.
he.shouldn't.say.anything.about.the.MSN.logs.

His snooping is part of a bigger problem that I'm not addressing, nor was it asked about in the OP.

"I talked to him. He didn't open up. You really need to talk to him about this. I love you both so I think I am going to step away from this. If I get involved I could potentially lose one or both of you as a friend and I don't want that to happen. If you or him need a shoulder, I will be here...but you guys need to work this out yourselves. ."

Darkewolfe

"Why should I talk to him? Do you know something? What do you know? What do you know? What do you know?

"What do you know?"

You can't gravely and seriously tell her they need to talk and then stoically be a shoulder to cry on. Why the fuck would you even say something like that if you didn't know something was up?

Javen

Are you really afraid that if you tell your friend that she'll resent you for it?

Why? Unless your friend isn't really what you would call "emotionally stable" I can't see why this would be an honest fear.

ceres

In the MSN logs you shouldn't have been reading in the first place and will hopefully never touch again unless you're a terrible, terrible person, did he mention meeting this person at any point at all? Is there any proof that he's slept with or even kissed someone else? Is there anything at all to indicate in any way that he's doing anything other than some raunchy joking with another person on the internet?

If the answer is no, seriously keep your damn fool mouth shut because you really have no idea what's going on.

StormCrow420

Unless this is a situation where you are trying to score with the GF, then you need to stay out of it.

Bionic Monkey

BloodySloth wrote: »

Saying "if you don't tell someone, she'll get a disease!" rings a bit false.

I'm not saying it's a foregone conclusion, but we're not exactly talking about a 1 in a million chance here either. Bringing home an STD is a very real possibility here.

Hell, there was a guy here on the forums a few years back that found out his gf was cheating on him. When he finally got around to getting checked out, he had goddamn herpes.

Dibs

I was not sarcastic at all. Honest, open communication generally doesn't backfire.

" "Why should I talk to him? Do you know something? What do you know? What do you know? What do you know?

"What do you know?"

You can't gravely and seriously tell her they need to talk and then stoically be a shoulder to cry on. Why the fuck would you even say something like that if you didn't know something was up?"

You would say something like that because she asked you to talk to him and you can come back saying that you don't feel comfortable doing so because you value both of their friendships and it's a problem between the two of them?

I say again, Shawnasee's advice is solid. This person knows how to be a good friend.

Zombie Hero

Here is a rule that keeps drama to a minimum: "When in doubt, stay the fuck out"