So, I have this friend who met this girl, girl A about a month ago. They went out together for a group hang about a couple weeks ago and everything went well. Girl A expressed interest in the guy and the guy did so as well. Nothing too big, they pretty much just held hands and held each other closely. It was kind of like those romantic comedies where the nerdy guy takes the girl's hand, then they look at each other with affirmation that they both like each other. In any case, it was really, "cute."
Then, they parted ways and the guy went to a party. At the party, the guy flirted with this girl, girl B, all night with pretty much the intention of hooking up with that girl. Nothing happened. But, all my friends were kind of pissed at him because they think that the guy is "cheating" on girl A. The guy's reasoning, "He's not together with girl A yet, so he can do whatever because he's still technically single."
Over the next couple of weeks, he's been talking to girl A via IM. The conversations aren't too big, they're just friendly and sometimes slightly flirty. If their conversations were between any other 2 people, it would just seem like normal conversations between a girl and guy who are friends. But, I think girl A thinks it is more than that. I don't really know where they stand (they haven't seen each other since the group hang).
Now, it's girl B's birthday party coming up and the guy is invited and he asked me if he should go or not. I don't have an answer for him, but it looks like he doesn't know what he's doing and is just looking for confirmation that if he does go, it's not wrong. But, if he gets told it is wrong, he might not go. Oh, and if he does go, he will probably go for girl B.
So, is it wrong for a guy to hit on 2 girls when one of the girls, possibly both have an interest in the guy?
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I'm pretty sure most people would be of the opinion that there's nothing wrong with applying for multiple jobs until you land one. If he's not dating a girl she can't complain about him pursuing another one. Especially if they don't even see each other to pursue their own thing.
I really don't have an opinion on it. He asked me, and I told him I didn't know. So, he asked me to ask here because he doesn't have an account.
to be fair, they might be 8 years old
Are you SURE?
Seriously though, it's fine. Tell him to stop worrying about it and go to the birthday party.
He is doing absolutely nothing wrong. He can hit on as many girls as he likes, and it doesn't matter how many of them have an interest in him. It's not until he creates some form of mutually exclusive relationship with someone that going outside of that becomes even remotely wrong.
And who names their kids A and B anyway?
If you walk around a table while holding hands it does.
Full House taught me so many things.
The great thing about not having a moral compass is, unlike in the woods, you never get lost.
Than, why can't you just admit your feelings? I haven't washed my hand since that day and I know you haven't either!
Correct, this was my first thought.
The guy is playing the field. That's all.
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With the addendum that he is not misleading the first girl into thinking that they are already in the first stages of a relationship.
that's why we call it the struggle, you're supposed to sweat
ps Don't worry, middle school might feel like it takes forever, but it'll be over before you know it! Enjoy the summer break.