That's a really stupid way of looking at the world.
As much learning and growing as I've done in the past few years, I probably wouldn't have made it this far without a lot of fluffy support and reminders that even if I don't reach my goals, I'm still fucking awesome.
There is ALWAYS stuff to learn. Always. Forever. But if you don't remind yourself that what you've already got is pretty awesome, if you don't sit back and enjoy the fluff and the fun, then you will never be happy and you will just be worrying about what ELSE you can do to make yourself better.
Different strokes for different folks.
I think fluffy support and reminders are stupid.
EDIT: I realized this makes me look like some sort of unfeeling monster. I actually love giving other people compliments, but feel that compliments directed my way are completely unnecessary and useless.
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negative reinforcement only never works for the better in any situation at all.
I try and make compliments meaningful and will try to as much as possible to not roll out mindless compliments. There is a thin edge of the wedge between too many compliments and not enough compliments. I tend to fall on the not enough side of that equation I've found. This is my own musings here and I'm not having a go at Viv, WaM or anyone else in this thread it's just that sometimes I get frustrated when people I love feel a constant need to be validated by other people. I don't think that really applies to Viv, at least as I know her anyway, but I have definitely dated girls who have been that way and it drove me up the wall.
I'm rambling on here and the reason I wanted to post in here was to say the Viv is gorgeous like woah. The first time I met her was at a PA meetup when we all went to dinner in town and I was speechless when I met here. I remember I was thinking in my head, "What the fuuuuuck. People who post on a fucking webcomics forum should not be this attractive" I was in a state of disbelief for a good 5 minutes. It's all good though because Blake is a champion among men, so it all works out in the end
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i guess i read that post a little wrong, as you said you love giving compliments but dont necessarily feel like you like them directed at you personally
i mean i understand that somewhat, as there have been times where its just "oh...well...im just doing my job"
in those cases i take comfort not in that i did a certain thing really well, but rather that i must have really made that persons day from just being me and doing what i do.
I love my boyfriend to bits but dude does not know how to give a compliment to save his life
luckily I have this thread to fill the void
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I have this same problem
don't get me wrong
when Blake throws out little lines like that, I treasure them because I get them so rarely
about 95% of the stuff people have said about me in the FOT and in here? Blake has never said
I have to remind myself that I know he thinks those things, but he just never really says them out loud unless I tell him "I need you to tell me that I'm awesome/beautiful/amazing/lovely/sexy/hot/incredible or that you're proud of me"
god blake and chris would be so perfect for each other
content to climb rocks and never compliment one another
You got it all backwards girl. They'd be complimentin' the shit out of each other. Just not their ladies.
"Damn Blake, your pecs are looking tight."
"Thanks Chris. You're rocking your abs today. Care to belay me?"
"Mmmmmmmm."
I try and make compliments meaningful and will try to as much as possible to not roll out mindless compliments. There is a thin edge of the wedge between too many compliments and not enough compliments. I tend to fall on the not enough side of that equation I've found. This is my own musings here and I'm not having a go at Viv, WaM or anyone else in this thread it's just that sometimes I get frustrated when people I love feel a constant need to be validated by other people. I don't think that really applies to Viv, at least as I know her anyway, but I have definitely dated girls who have been that way and it drove me up the wall.
I'm rambling on here and the reason I wanted to post in here was to say the Viv is gorgeous like woah. The first time I met her was at a PA meetup when we all went to dinner in town and I was speechless when I met here. I remember I was thinking in my head, "What the fuuuuuck. People who post on a fucking webcomics forum should not be this attractive" I was in a state of disbelief for a good 5 minutes. It's all good though because Blake is a champion among men, so it all works out in the end
Yeah, I am not a fan of mindless compliments that seem to be tossed out to make me feel better. Make this shit count, and mean it. I'll take quality compliments over quantity any fucking day of the week.
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except I don't get them often anywhere
wait that's a half-truth since I grew this ridiculous moustache
looks fine from this angle
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well that is just fucking not the truth at all
compliments are nice facts and observations that help other people recognize the good in themselves.
that dude needs to figure that shit out
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man
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negative reinforcement only never works for the better in any situation at all.
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I'm rambling on here and the reason I wanted to post in here was to say the Viv is gorgeous like woah. The first time I met her was at a PA meetup when we all went to dinner in town and I was speechless when I met here. I remember I was thinking in my head, "What the fuuuuuck. People who post on a fucking webcomics forum should not be this attractive" I was in a state of disbelief for a good 5 minutes. It's all good though because Blake is a champion among men, so it all works out in the end
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i mean i understand that somewhat, as there have been times where its just "oh...well...im just doing my job"
in those cases i take comfort not in that i did a certain thing really well, but rather that i must have really made that persons day from just being me and doing what i do.
and that feels pretty good.
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tell me of this "butt" thing
So we all go diving and then drinking while you girls go shopping and get your hair done?
It makes it hard to shop for pants. But it fills out pants pretty well when I finally find them, I guess? So it's a wash.
You got it all backwards girl. They'd be complimentin' the shit out of each other. Just not their ladies.
"Damn Blake, your pecs are looking tight."
"Thanks Chris. You're rocking your abs today. Care to belay me?"
"Mmmmmmmm."
me and @DHS Odium are totally down
Yeah, I am not a fan of mindless compliments that seem to be tossed out to make me feel better. Make this shit count, and mean it. I'll take quality compliments over quantity any fucking day of the week.