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Men! Do you like us skinny or curvy?
MotherFirefly
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I really want to know, this debate came up in one of my other threads and was chastised by the mod for being off topic. So I really want to know, this guy I like seems to prefer those skinny "anorexic" looking girls...I'm not one of those, should I just live with what I've got? Or, be skinny like the rest of those damn stick animals....
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Seriously though, that guy you are 'dating'? No clue what it is you two are doing, but whatever he's a jackass for saying that. Don't worry about it, you looked pretty attractive from the picture you posted - the problem is with him, not with you.
Ever seen a girl with those pole-like arms and legs? Uck!
For me, it's more about natural physique. Most people aren't built to be size 0. Their frame and constitution just won't allow it. But I do know plenty of women for whom it is their natural build. In short, whatever your natural build is, that in my opinion is sexiest.
There is a difference, of course, between "pleasantly curvy" or rubenesque women, and women that just don't eat right and exercise. Most women that complain about size-ism seem to ignore this, however.
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Curves win over skin and bones with my, but every now and then a skinny girl is ok- I like it all, really.
But every guy is gonna have a diffrent thing that he likes, you really shouldn't worry about it.
I don't like woman who aren't healthy and active because it isn't congruent with my lifestyle.
Most are still a bit curvy, though, since I can't stand women that look like 12-year old boys.
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My girlfriend for instance is tiny at 120 pounds, yet has very curvey hips and a decent (though not large) bustline.
her girlfriend however is a plus size girl, but is still very cuvrvy.
I have seen some women on the other hand who are very large, but their frame is amorphus. that to me is unattractive. like wise there are the twigs who have the sillouette of two strait lines. finally you have the larger women who have a two strait line sillouette just much wider apart. noe of these body types appeal to me.
As long as there is some protective padding on those sharp edges, I'm more interested in a girls ability to make me laugh than in her weight.
A lot of it is relative, though. A skinny guy is more likely to like a skinny woman, because, well, he's used to skinny. Like attracts like in many cases. Similarly a slightly tubby guy is probably going to be attracted to a slightly tubby girl.
Media and idealized images will distort this, of course. Many women prefer guys with some muscles, but you can't always tell on a guy -- what may be muscles could actually just be some extra fat. By the time you've got his shirt off, you're attracted to other things. It's easier to tell on girls, though, as there's less baggy clothes and women typically get fat from the bottom up, rather than the top down.
If you want advice on the matter, if you're unhappy with your body, you should do a serious evaluation of it. Are you actually unhappy, or are you simply disturbed by a particular aspect of it? Or do you simply wish you were someone else? If you are just unhappy with, say, a general "bigness," is it fat, bone, or muscle? If your bone frame is large, or you're tall, you don't have a lot of options, and you should check yourself out, nude, to see if you could actually change yourself. Some people are "wider," others are "narrower," based entirely on their bone structure.
Finally, if you are generally "bigger" and it's due to fat, and you'd like to change it, you should be up front about it to yourself. Say to yourself "I'm bigger than I should be, cos I have some extra fat. And I'm going to change that." And then work on changing your diet to have fewer calories and exercise a bit more. Make it a lifestyle change, not a diet, and you'll slowly lose actual fat.
But if you're just larger due to bone structure, or you're not unhappy with your body, then you shouldn't worry about it. Men tend to fetishize thinness and youth, but that's typically categorized in lust. Remember that even though a man or woman may be initially attracted to something, *everything* changes over time.
Probably the worst thing you can do for your health is to go on a crash diet to drastically change your weight and shape. I would not recommend that, especially to catch the eye of a single guy. Do skinny people in general have an easier time dating and "hooking up?" Yeah, usually, but there's a difference between "skinny" and "too skinny." There's also a difference between just being curvy and having too much fat. Fat is jiggly and foldy and not all that attractive in general.
But you're asking for generalizations. Yeah, guys like to look at girls who are thin. But that doesn't say anything about relationships, sex, or what an individual guy prefers.
Oh well, I guess I'll have to get over the skinny girls or find a non-crazy some day. But, for now I can deal with crazy.
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Even I dated a girl who was quite an, um, fattie. It didn't really matter to me because I loved her, but after she broke up with me I was not so attracted anymore. More like, I was all ZOMGWTF? So yeah, your personality can override physical appearance.
Personally I like my women curvy, and I try to instill this thinking into my wife every chance I can. She's at a healthy weight now (105lbs to 110lbs, she's 5' tall). It's a source of constant anxiety and angst for her however and something we both have to deal with nearly every day.
When I met her she'd just left her ex-husband, and was on the verge of a relapse. She's gained probably 10-15 pounds since then. Every time she puts on weight she's just more and more beautiful to me.
So yeah, curvy. And whenever I see a guy who says he likes skinny/anorexic girls I want to punch their lights out. The disease is hell. A very small percent ever recover, and many sufferers die from the condition. Don't aim for skinny like "those damn stick animals." It's not worth it.
I'm not sure about other people, but I can see aspects to a person's lifestyle and personality written on their bodies. If it is something I can appreciate, desire or have in common then I find it attractive.
I hug you and one of your ribs pierces my lung? No.
But above all, personality is what matters most! I'd rather date a nice curvy girl than a bitchy thin chick any day.
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Size 0? No thanks. I'm not into teenage boys.
That's just as unhealthy as being overweight, no matter what they try to justify to themselves.
I like my women to be normal. I don't want a chick that's too thin. I think that's kind of gross. And I hate when a chick hugs me and I can really feel her bones pressed against you. It gives me shivers like being held by Skeletor.
At the same time, it's hard to be attracted to a chick that's heavy.
But this is just dumb stuff. Just be yourself and be happy with who you are. Attraction is just a numbers game and I can guarentee there are people out there for every body type.
I think it's a bad thing when girls start worrying about weight as some sort of end goal in itself. Be healthy. Work out a bit, don't hit Mickey-D's daily, and generally look after your health and you'll likely end up at a fairly attractive weight. If some guy you like isn't into you because he likes his girls to look like 12-year-old boys, move on. He's probably a douchebag, anyway.
That's a shallow, horrible attitude and you're lucky any woman decided to stay with you after you opened your mouth.
As I said before, I like my girls normal. That means healthy, in every way. Not too skinny (that's unhealthy) and not too big (that's also unhealthy). Just normal and healthy.
Don't exercise to lose weight... Exercise to be healthy and fit, whatever that happens to mean for your body type.
I like the curves, but not the overweight type.
Eat something for God's sake.
but i wouldnt change what you are comfortable with for any fella. lots of fellas out there.
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Well, there is such a thing as an unhealthy weight...and if you're up there, a scale can help you track your progress as you try to lose weight. Just make sure that if you are in this situation, that you're choosing healthy methods; generally this means exercise rather than "dieting." The only "dieting" you should be doing is to eat reasonable portions of healthier foods.
The question then becomes whether you are "fat" (which I only use to describe unhealthy levels of weight) or simply "not skinny." While not a perfect indicator, a BMI calculation can go a long way towards determining if your weight is something worth worrying about or whether you just need to find guys with more inclusive tastes.
Models aren't usually hot because they're skinny...they're hot because they're models. I've found that most "normal" girls that go for the anorexic look really aren't particularly pretty. They use their weight to compensate for their overall lack of a pretty face or nice body, because let's face it anybody can just not eat.
And that's before we get into the fact that being underweight is unhealthy as well, and most of those "skinny" girls (and a majority of models) are at an unhealthy weight. It may or may not be as dangerous as being overweight, and the effects might be different, but it's not like it's good for you.
See, I find this hilarious, because I have yet to find more than a small handful of models that are even somewhat attractive.
Models are chosen because they are very tall and they can wear the style clothing the way the designer wants it to. That's it. They aren't chosen to look "hot".
Most models are freakishly tall, way too skinny, have no boobs (due to being so skinny, and all men like boobs), and oddly shaped legs and arms, and their face is often boney and contorted. Models are usually nasty.
There are exceptions to this, however. Cindy Crawford is very beautiful, but she's also not rail thin. Example:
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