So when we were eating at Cinderella's Royal Table in Disney World, we saw these two guys eating together, and I was like hey Chelle we're not the most awkward adult couple in here! Huzzah! Which is totally something inside my head because I feel weird about being an adult in a place like that without kids, even though I totally enjoy it, and my logic is "I bet that gay couple would feel even more uncomfortable than I do, unless they're completely mentally stable"
And then one dude suddenly got down on his knee and proposed to the other dude. It was really sweet. These were two bigger bearded guys, so about 5 minutes later I was thinking about what I'd seen and how differently I would've reacted to that a few years ago, and then I just sort of blurted out, a little too loudly. "It's weird to see two bears together though isn't it?"
And then next table over apparently gave me a look because chelle got real mad.
I want to infuse the feeling of being at Disney into my blood. That place. Is fucking. Magical.
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
me and that girl are both leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to go out but she's broke
there's no good way to say "I would happily pay for everything to get to see you before I leave" that doesn't make it weird, because that would be weird, and she like most people doesn't like mooching off others, so
Hey, lets go do X. My treat.
"my treat" is the bit that would be weird
but why?
I dont understand. whats a bar tab between friends?
Friends is one thing, this is another
don't treat it like another
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DemonStaceyTTODewback's DaughterIn love with the TaySwayRegistered Userregular
me and that girl are both leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to go out but she's broke
there's no good way to say "I would happily pay for everything to get to see you before I leave" that doesn't make it weird, because that would be weird, and she like most people doesn't like mooching off others, so
Hey, lets go do X. My treat.
"my treat" is the bit that would be weird
Ok. Well if you make it weird sure. But that's a thing friends do for each other.
Keeping them together also lets banks leverage all those assets from mortgages and deposit accounts to make those investments. You can argue it makes investing cheaper but also makes over leveraging debt(which is exactly what happened) worse.
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
me and that girl are both leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to go out but she's broke
there's no good way to say "I would happily pay for everything to get to see you before I leave" that doesn't make it weird, because that would be weird, and she like most people doesn't like mooching off others, so
Hey, lets go do X. My treat.
"my treat" is the bit that would be weird
but why?
I dont understand. whats a bar tab between friends?
Friends is one thing, this is another
casual acquaintances?
fuck buddies?
professional rivals?
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
me and that girl are both leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to go out but she's broke
there's no good way to say "I would happily pay for everything to get to see you before I leave" that doesn't make it weird, because that would be weird, and she like most people doesn't like mooching off others, so
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
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if you're buying drinks for your professional rival, make sure to spike them with a laxative a few hours before the BIG MEETING
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Space, I'm pretty sure if the banks are under one roof you are basically allowing them to be backed up by the FDIC. It hasn't happened yet, sure, but those savings accounts are counted in the banks assets and if everything goes to shit the FDIC is going to have to step in to protect the depositors.
Having truly horrible acne during puberty did acquaint me really well with the strange psychological phenomenon of developing apathy for a chronic illness/disfigurement, though. It's a fairly well-noted phenomenon: with some chronic illnesses (notably, some intense chronic pains) the person will just develop a surprising amount of utter apathy for it when you'd assume that they would be under constant emotional stress. For a long time psychologists thought that if that happened it meant the person's injury/illness was purely psychosomatic, but they began realizing it happened even when the injury/illness was clearly entirely physiological. Like I was even immediately aware of and surprised by how well I coped with cystic acne on a day-to-day basis. In a way it's a bit comforting to know that your brain actively tries to accept the things that it can't change; that even if your life were to suddenly become constant searing agony it's possible for you to just come to deal with it and take it in stride.
Don't take comfort in that, because it's mostly not true and the moments when it is make the rest worse.
The apathy that develops can change you, and if you don't like that kind of change it puts you in tension with either your body or your relationships.
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I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
ITT its jus cultural differences
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I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
disney is fun i haven't been in like 20 years let's do this
actually i am going to disney next october because a friend is getting married there
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Having truly horrible acne during puberty did acquaint me really well with the strange psychological phenomenon of developing apathy for a chronic illness/disfigurement, though. It's a fairly well-noted phenomenon: with some chronic illnesses (notably, some intense chronic pains) the person will just develop a surprising amount of utter apathy for it when you'd assume that they would be under constant emotional stress. For a long time psychologists thought that if that happened it meant the person's injury/illness was purely psychosomatic, but they began realizing it happened even when the injury/illness was clearly entirely physiological. Like I was even immediately aware of and surprised by how well I coped with cystic acne on a day-to-day basis. In a way it's a bit comforting to know that your brain actively tries to accept the things that it can't change; that even if your life were to suddenly become constant searing agony it's possible for you to just come to deal with it and take it in stride.
Don't take comfort in that, because it's mostly not true and the moments when it is make the rest worse.
The apathy that develops can change you, and if you don't like that kind of change it puts you in tension with either your body or your relationships.
key trick
dont have relationships... have relationboats they are smaller and easier to handle
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
howabuttvegas?
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CindersWhose sails were black when it was windyRegistered Userregular
Whats a bar tab between friends who may or may not be sleeping together?
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
Me, this person, and, I'd say, most of the people I know here. In other words, yer culture's different.
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
i do think there might also be an element of jitters or something by thinking of his as more than just two buds having a night out
two buds having a night out is the best thing tho
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LudiousI just wanted a sandwich A temporally dislocated QuiznosRegistered Userregular
I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
howabuttvegas?
I'm not really into the whole party hard thing, I don't think I'd be a fun person to be in Vegas with.
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
that's because the rest of you are basically all Americans?
I can definitely relate to what Abdhy's saying and it's a difference between American and Scandinavian culture I've thought abut before. Without being able to clearly define it, though.
me and that girl are both leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to go out but she's broke
there's no good way to say "I would happily pay for everything to get to see you before I leave" that doesn't make it weird, because that would be weird, and she like most people doesn't like mooching off others, so
Hey, lets go do X. My treat.
"my treat" is the bit that would be weird
but why?
I dont understand. whats a bar tab between friends?
Friends is one thing, this is another
casual acquaintances?
fuck buddies?
professional rivals?
"not platonic" is as specific as it's possible to get at such an early juncture
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
Me, this person, and, I'd say, most of the people I know here. In other words, yer culture's different.
So I'm sittin' here working away ([chat] lol). And this fella from the 5th floor walks by my desk, on his way to the helpdesk. He steps a bit past then walks back to my cube and stares at my shelf.
This being my shelf at work:
I've met this guy before. He's ghetto as hell. He says, "What that hell is this?". I'm thinking "Oh jeez, here it comes. Sure, tell what a geek I am...". Dude looks me straight in the eye and says "Where that hell is Aquaman, you can't have the Justice League without Aquaman" "You gonna need to fix this." Gives me a stern look and then continues to the helpdesk.
Fuck yes you do
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I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
howabuttvegas?
I'm not really into the whole party hard thing, I don't think I'd be a fun person to be in Vegas with.
Vegas has a very disney feel to parts of it, especially inside the resorts. You don't have to be hard drinking and gambling.
Thousands of hot, local singles are waiting to play at bubbulon.com.
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
Me, this person, and, I'd say, most of the people I know here. In other words, yer culture's different.
like
if you go to dinner or whatever
does everyone reach for the check at the same time and have this kind of friendly competition of who's going to pay?
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
Me, this person, and, I'd say, most of the people I know here. In other words, yer culture's different.
Well get it together and learn how to relax and not worry so much then!
Just gotta chill and not fret the details.
Murica wins again!
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
that's because the rest of you are basically all Americans?
I can definitely relate to what Abdhy's saying and it's a difference between American and Scandinavian culture I've thought abut before. Without being able to clearly define it, though.
ITT Scandanavians take going dutch quite seriously
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
I want to have a D&D Disney trip, even if it's only like a long weekend...we could all go in together and rent out 1-3 (or whatever) of their baller ass Condo type rooms then hit the parks together, then uber it over to universal studios.
howabuttvegas?
I'm not really into the whole party hard thing, I don't think I'd be a fun person to be in Vegas with.
fuck partying. we're old. Hang out at the pool with good margaritas and go to nice restaurants and shizz
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ChanusHarbinger of the Spicy Rooster ApocalypseThe Flames of a Thousand Collapsed StarsRegistered Userregular
okay i accept it's a cultural difference
i just think that this a case where
if it's a choice between going out with a friend or not going out with a friend
I don't know how to explain it, it's not like these kinds of things are ever written down. A lot of us will insist on paying for ourselves. With good friends it's different, of course, because yeah, you pay for this thing, I'll pay for something else later on down the road of course, goes without saying.
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
that's because the rest of you are basically all Americans?
I can definitely relate to what Abdhy's saying and it's a difference between American and Scandinavian culture I've thought abut before. Without being able to clearly define it, though.
ITT Scandanavians take going dutch quite seriously
yeah i hear they prepare spreadsheets and get card swipers and stuff in advance if the place won't split the check
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LudiousI just wanted a sandwich A temporally dislocated QuiznosRegistered Userregular
I could do a Vegas weekend maybe if Chelle wanted to and it was understood that we would not be venturing to any strip clubs or partying hard. It's an idea
I could do a Vegas weekend maybe if Chelle wanted to and it was understood that we would not be venturing to any strip clubs or partying hard. It's an idea
it would be theoretically less expensive
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Deebaseron my way to work in a suit and a tieAhhhh...come on fucking guyRegistered Userregular
Or better yet, field trip to Atlantis, which is basically the midpoint between disney and vegas
plus, dat lazy river
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I want to infuse the feeling of being at Disney into my blood. That place. Is fucking. Magical.
don't treat it like another
Ok. Well if you make it weird sure. But that's a thing friends do for each other.
You're being the weirdo by making it a thing.
casual acquaintances?
fuck buddies?
professional rivals?
a lannister always pays his debts
in bed
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2011-10-18/bofa-said-to-split-regulators-over-moving-merrill-derivatives-to-bank-unit.html
The apathy that develops can change you, and if you don't like that kind of change it puts you in tension with either your body or your relationships.
ITT its jus cultural differences
I mean you're making it abundantly clear that this is a very specific thing that's a problem for you and maybe this person.
We're just saying it's not like that at all for the rest of us.
You weirdo.
disney is fun i haven't been in like 20 years let's do this
actually i am going to disney next october because a friend is getting married there
key trick
dont have relationships... have relationboats they are smaller and easier to handle
howabuttvegas?
Me, this person, and, I'd say, most of the people I know here. In other words, yer culture's different.
i do think there might also be an element of jitters or something by thinking of his as more than just two buds having a night out
two buds having a night out is the best thing tho
I'm not really into the whole party hard thing, I don't think I'd be a fun person to be in Vegas with.
that's because the rest of you are basically all Americans?
I can definitely relate to what Abdhy's saying and it's a difference between American and Scandinavian culture I've thought abut before. Without being able to clearly define it, though.
"not platonic" is as specific as it's possible to get at such an early juncture
Fuck yes you do
Vegas has a very disney feel to parts of it, especially inside the resorts. You don't have to be hard drinking and gambling.
Fuk u
I've had so many delays in the last week
like
if you go to dinner or whatever
does everyone reach for the check at the same time and have this kind of friendly competition of who's going to pay?
or does everyone just get separate checks?
they are fun to float on AND you can hit each other with them and they do not even hurt one bit
Well get it together and learn how to relax and not worry so much then!
Just gotta chill and not fret the details.
Murica wins again!
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fuck partying. we're old. Hang out at the pool with good margaritas and go to nice restaurants and shizz
i just think that this a case where
if it's a choice between going out with a friend or not going out with a friend
my culture is empirically superior
yeah i hear they prepare spreadsheets and get card swipers and stuff in advance if the place won't split the check
it would be theoretically less expensive
plus, dat lazy river