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Ok, first some background. Turn 22 next month, about to graduate from college, and I haven't had an actual relationship since high school, and haven't had a date since my summer after freshman year. I'm a pretty shy person with a lot of hobbies that don't promote being social, so I don't meet a lot of people... And the few girls I have met over the years are inevitably in long term relationships.
Anyway, towards the beginning of this quarter, I was doing homework for one of my classes in the hall and this cute girl sat next to me. After a few minutes she started talking to me, she recognized me from a class we had together last quarter. We really hit it off, and traded phone numbers. She actually asked for my number first. We went out for coffee after class the next week and had a great conversation.
After that we weren't able to get in touch with each other for a week due to canceled classes and missed text messages and such, but we had a our first "real" date tonight. The movie we were going to see was dropped from theaters that morning, so instead we went out to sushi for dinner. After sushi, she invited me back to her house, where we knocked back a few beers, talked movies and music, and played chess. She kicked my ass. I don't want to sound full of myself, but to me beating me at chess is A Big Deal, and now I'm practically swooning. I really enjoyed spending time with her, and the feeling seemed mutual.
Anyway, the help and advice part. I might be overly paranoid, I mean it was only my 2nd date with her, but I'm worried she's not as interested as I am. At one point she got a phone call during our chess game and mentioned she was hanging out with "her friend" before hanging up. And at the end of the night when I left, I was going to kiss her goodnight but she pre-empted me and went for the hug and backed off. Should I be worried, or should I wait until later before I jump to conclusions?
Also, I want opinions on my idea for a second date. She loves the Coen brothers, but has never seen The Big Lebowski and wants to see it soon. I figured I'd offer to bring over the DVD, the stuff to make white russians, and a couple doobies (I already know she smokes pot occasionally). Does this seem cool, or like I'm trying too hard to be cool?
sorry if this seems really simple and I'm just overanalyzing. As I implied in the title, I really don't want to fuck this up, this girl is awesome.