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I consider myself more introvert than extrovert, and i also happen to know one or two people who are complete introverts. To me, this is fine, each to their own etc. This being said where i currently live there seems a tidal wave of negative feeling towards introversion. Case in point, where i currently reside there is someone in the halls who is, by all measures, completely introverted. He is a great guy, we have breakfast quite often and dinner, but make no plans to do so, its more ad hoc, im down in the dining hall and so is he, we have a good chat and go our merry ways for the rest of the day. This is absolutely fine by me, during our chats we sometimes discuss it and he explains thats just how he feels more comfortable and i can relate as oft my own company is far more appealing to me than others. Other than these brief interludes he keeps to himself, though if you knock on his door hell respond and if you call him hell pick up and chat, hes not socially incapable by any means, just in his own words "more comfortable in my own company". We have been living together for a while so this is the norm, having said this the group i currently live with have had doubts since day one. During group conversations or movie nights the subject started as "oh he is just shy" then "oh hell come out of his shell soon" and after a few weeks this appeared not so, we invited him but he was reticent and let the group down gentley, i was fine with this, the group however began to sour. Soon words spread and there developed an ill feeling towards him, i actually began to avoid the movie nights and takeaways because it ended up being a "well i dont care about him, hes just rude". Soon, before i went home for the holidays, it started sparking off and now no-one save myself will talk to him, which ironically he is fine with, but which has developed a nasty little streak in the flat.
Anyway onto the topic of discussion, this is a single case, one which is meant to illustrate a point rather than be a sole "oh your group and a bunch of shits" topic, i know they are petty and fail for want of understanding but as a point to start a debate, is it right to see introversion as "rude" and "socially unacceptable" or is it just misunderstood by the populous. This is not the first case ive encountered with people who just dont get , even through explanation, that some people just are not as social or needing of group discussion to validate themselves.