I was accused of being a sex offender today.
I was walking home from the teriyaki shop with armfuls of groceries when a man jumped out of his car and claimed I had chased his daughter, only to be scared off by the family dog.
An hour later I'm here, typing this up, clear of everything. It turns out the girl saw me pressing the face button on the iPod in my pocket and thought I had a gun.
Now, I'm not perfect. But what kind of world do we live in where innocent folks can walk the same path they've walked a hundred times and then nearly get arrested? I've had an odd relationship with religion for a long time, but I must ask just what god let's this sort of thing happen.
Sorry, just have to vent.
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If she accused you of being a sex offender she didn't think it was a gun in your pocket.
fake edit: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703779704576073752925629440.html
I wish there were some links to the incidents mentioned, they sound worth a looksee.
You should never be afraid to chew out freaked-out helicopter parents for being violently overprotective shitheels.
Yeah, it's all a real fucking joke when someone thinks your an attempted racist. Fortunatley an officer took care of everything and explained to the guy that everything just got blown out of proportion.
Amen to that, Disruptor.
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I live in Washington state in the south. That article simultaneously infuriates me and scares me.
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Unless you've left major parts of the story out things were not "blown out of proportion" but "fabricated entirely". Which leads me to think the girl has other issues going on. You've run into a crazy person, you really can't do much but laugh and try and avoid them in the future.
While obviously an autocorrect error the term "attempted racist" is also hilarious.
Really, he should be fined for malicious prosecution.
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especially one of the myriad of idiot parents who believe their child is God's unique and special snowflake.
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I'd question the hell out of this post, that's for sure. I think its more that people are growing increasingly sick of the particular model of masculinity that produces such violence and deviance, and are no longer willing to just accept that "that's just how men are". There are better ways to be a man than the traditional model. I think its also the case that overexposure to scaremongering mass media makes some people extremely paranoid and prone to do stupid things like frighten the bejeezus out of their kids with stories about how everyone outside their house is gunning for their underage asses.
I'm very sorry that that happened to you, OP, and I'm glad it worked out okay in the end.
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It seems to me that the mindset Disruptor mentions is actually a rather extreme acceptance of "that's just how men are" - all of them. So keep them away from my kids.
You know, there's a much bigger problem with adults dismissing, ignoring, or outright punishing their children for "lying" when they report abuse that I think you're overlooking here. There's most often a relative or friend involved in such cases, but still.
I can't tell if you're questioning OP's account of the matter or if you think OP was dishonestly (or stupidly) accused of a crime.
I'm no paleo-feminist. But something about OP's story makes me think that there is something we're not hearing. The reaction of the girl and the parents seems a little too over the top.
But I could be wrong. Certainly some people over-react.
I'm sorry if I give off the vibe of paedophilia to you.
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Yeah, could be. That's even sadder.
edit: i was questioning disruptor's post, loklar, because I find that kind of knee-jerk ablooo-everyone-hates-men stuff to be lazy, ignorant, and honestly somewhat offensive.
Uhhh... what the hell is this?
I don't think the 'traditional model' is that of a pedophile.
And there's a difference between "I saw a man with a gun going nuts in front of dozens of other kids and a bus driver who did absolutely nothing about it, and saw nothing at all wrong" and "Uncle Skeezy touched me in my no-no place."
Of course not. Nor is it that every stranger on the streets is out to abduct, rape, and murder your children.
Boy who cried wolf?
The young lady was wrong in this occasion. How many other occasions have their been? How many more will there be? Will she learn anything from all this?
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But seriously, it could have been worse. You know police have easily killed people for having things in their pocket. Glad you weren't arrested or shot.
I think part of it is turmoil over what "masculinity" is. For many decades there's been this thing where girls can do "boy-like" activities and that's okay (maybe frowned upon by some, but generally accepted), but boys can't do "girl-like" activities. I.e., there are tomboy girls who like to get muddy and fall out of trees and wear pants, but if a boy likes to play with dolls, has pink as his favorite color, or wear dresses, there must be something WRONG with him.
So then, if society sees loving kids (ahem, platonically) and nurturing them as "something women like to do", then it immediately becomes suspicious when a MAN wants to hang around kids. OMG, he must want to fuck them! Because that is a MAN trait, wanting to fuck everything in sight!! OMG!!
I find it really interesting that despite the increasing portrayal of men being close to their own kids--in commercials, TV shows, and movies and such--there is still the stigma of a boy playing with a baby doll.
As far as the OP's specific experience goes, the little girl was probably being a typical little kid (inaccurate and given to hyperbole) and the parents were paranoid. Sorry you had to deal with that.
I was addressing a particular statement. It was... questionable at best.
Well thank goodness I didn't say that!
The traditional model of masculinity that you see around the traps is based on a pyramid power structure, where you're defined by being better than other groups - those other jerks with their stupid hair, other races, women, children, whatever. It instills in some people, particularly those lower down the ladder, a creeping sense of inferiority that is usually just irritating but sometimes leads to violent or predatory acting out, control-seeking, etc. Sometimes it manifests as sexual abuse, domestic violence, and dudes snapping and shooting people they think have wronged them (ex boss, ex wife, the IRS...). In this case, paranoid dad's seeking control of his surroundings by aggressively going after the OP, who he sees as a threatening stranger, but he's also buying into that model by making assumptions about how the OP must be. Disruptor's comment about how "everyone hates masculinity" immediately made me think, "no, everyone hates that kind of masculinity, because its stupid and does nothing but create drama and misery".
I know.
I'm still kind of spooked, since the officer said they live near by. I just hope the dad has cooled down and knows I'm innocent.
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Ahhh, ok! Thanks for clarifying the statement.
I was merely speaking about the mindset that is prevalent today that strange men are all potential rapists and murderers. It is a hysteria out of line with reality, where strangers are rarely the cause of those crimes. And yes, this is exclusively a fear of strange men. No one is afraid of strange women.
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This.
ooooorrrrrrrrr something else....
I think the problem here is identifying that as the 'traditional model of masculinity' whereas it strikes me more as the 'traditional model of the ignorant' with little or nothing to do with gender. I mean, are you saying women don't create pyramid power structures to make themselves feel better?
(Yes, I realize that isn't what you meant, I was pointing out the potential interpretation of your wording and why it raised a few eyebrows).
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I fully agree that its unfair, but its not like it came out of nowhere, given crime stats. Like it or not, they are still very much male-dominated, and at my last reading, the gender gap was only closing among non-sexual violent crimes (street assaults and the like). The problem as I see it is taking those stats and going all gender-essentialist while ignoring socioeconomic and life-history factors.