real talk narwhal has anyone given you shit yet for being a homeless guy on a cellphone yet
or do they not see you as a homeless guy
That's the thing, right
Hobo with a tablet? The hell?
So security guards are confused by the obviously successful guy sleeping in a doorway
Other homeless people don't identify me as one of them and just ask me for money all day
Like yeah, I could get 1, maybe 2 nights in a hostel for the value of this tablet
But in terms of information, contact and entertainment, this thing is invaluable
yeah, that's a thing people don't get about poverty
you have to start thinking short vs. long term
when i was right on the brink, before my disability assistance kicked in, some lady from welfare came to my apartment, which i was barely affording (and rent was basically like 90% of my welfare cheque, leaving me almost no money for food and i was literally going days without eating and taking painkillers to deal with it)
and was like, well, you have a laptop, and an xbox, you could sell those, they're worth money
do you really need those things
i'm like, i will get maybe $50 for the Xbox, tops, and it's unlikely i will get that in cash, if I go to a pawn shop I will likely get $25 in cash, if I go to an electronics store they'll give me $50 but in store credit, I can't eat $50 in store credit
laptop it's probably like, maybe a few hundred, but it's a similar issue. the most money i'd get for it would be a place that'd give it to me in credit, and the problem is i gotta eat, and even then it's less than a month's groceries? tops.
and what i am losing in return is internet access, which is huge, and my primary way of keeping myself sane and connected to people during this time in my life. it is also a loss i will not be able to recover from for the forseeable future. i am likely to be impoverished for a long time, and thus for the benefit of less than a month's worth of groceries (which i can sometimes get from the food bank for free, which is what i have been doing to not die) i would lose something that is effectively irreplaceable.
same goes for my clothes and a lot of my other material possessions
this is something a lot of people don't understand about poverty
it's like, they want you to show you're trying not to be poor anymore... by essentially nuking your ability to get your shit together once the current crisis is passed? what
This is one of my go to stories when I try to explain why stupid bullshit like "poor people have microwaves" is stupid bullshit. And also why generally speaking society as a whole would benefit from not forcing people to liquidate major assets in times of need, that they will still need later.
but come on
Let's take this to the logical extension here
You don't really need 2 kidneys, do you? Plenty of people get by fine with just one!
I don't even have two fully-functioning kidneys!
We're not here to play oppression olympics, Narwhal, sheesh
microwaves and internet access sit in a bizarre vacuum that exists because the bourgeoisie left takes them for granted when they ask for subsidies to healthcare and education. one often hears the argument that it's all just plastic consumer crap from china, a real radical advocates worker empowerment via organic produce and home gardens in every lot, never mind that this is ridiculously untenable for people who cannot organize a budget never mind a garden
the early 20th century equivalent is piped running water and electrification to all households, which is likewise not, strictly speaking, necessary for living, but it achieves certain elite social goals to pursue mass ownership. but the shift from the old left to the new left seems to have shifted this kind of perspective to a middle-class narrative of empowerment, which unsurprisingly mutates into a narrative of personal responsibility
boom
there it is
the good ole narrative of personal responsibility
like, right now, my mother is homeless
she is homeless because she was renting a house from my grandfather, her father, who was technically supposed to be mortgaging the house to her but apparently that is not the case and she was just a tenant this entire time and she has literally no ownership rights
and because my grandfather is an abusive piece of shit, as a power trip when she got into it with him or trivial bullshit, he evicted her. because she is disabled and on government assistance, she cannot afford a regular apartment, and is now on a government subsidized housing waiting list. while on that waiting list, she's in a shelter.
she's only on that disability pension because of a workplace injury, an injury that her workplace insurance should cover her for, to an order far exceeding what the government disability pension is, but they're fighting with her about it and making her retain an attorney and it's going to take years to resolve
notice how none of those things are about responsibility or fault?
yet, my mother is deeply ashamed of being homeless and is hiding this fact from everyone, including her doctor and her therapist, which has made getting her to fill out government-mandated paperwork from the housing shelter completely exasperating because it's got the shelter's letterhead on it and there's no denying who the medical form establishing her disability is for, but she doesn't want to take it to her doctor because she doesn't want her doctor to know she's living in a shelter.
Her doctor. The guy who deals with her butt problems.
That is how insidious the narrative of personal responsibility is.
what if, hypothetically, you broke up with a person by text accidentally because they were already displeased with you because of a miscommunication and you were discussing it by text and you blurted out that you thought they were getting too attached in a text message because you thought it would be good to be honest and then realized, well, this is probably going to lead to a break-up, isn't it
and what if, hypothetically, this happened three days after they were struck by a vehicle
would that be bad
(hypothetically)
breakups ignore all schedules and life events
oh good
sig i have bad news
i am breaking up with you
i know you just won that handsomest cat lady prize at the local fair and i don't want to undercut your joy but i can't be silent any longer
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It is never a good idea to maintain a relationship you want to end because you're trying to spare someone's feelings.
There is literally no circumstance where this does not make either you, them or both miserable.
Children are another case where you shouldn't stay together 'For the children'! This is a bad idea! The worst!
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real talk narwhal has anyone given you shit yet for being a homeless guy on a cellphone yet
or do they not see you as a homeless guy
That's the thing, right
Hobo with a tablet? The hell?
So security guards are confused by the obviously successful guy sleeping in a doorway
Other homeless people don't identify me as one of them and just ask me for money all day
Like yeah, I could get 1, maybe 2 nights in a hostel for the value of this tablet
But in terms of information, contact and entertainment, this thing is invaluable
yeah, that's a thing people don't get about poverty
you have to start thinking short vs. long term
when i was right on the brink, before my disability assistance kicked in, some lady from welfare came to my apartment, which i was barely affording (and rent was basically like 90% of my welfare cheque, leaving me almost no money for food and i was literally going days without eating and taking painkillers to deal with it)
and was like, well, you have a laptop, and an xbox, you could sell those, they're worth money
do you really need those things
i'm like, i will get maybe $50 for the Xbox, tops, and it's unlikely i will get that in cash, if I go to a pawn shop I will likely get $25 in cash, if I go to an electronics store they'll give me $50 but in store credit, I can't eat $50 in store credit
laptop it's probably like, maybe a few hundred, but it's a similar issue. the most money i'd get for it would be a place that'd give it to me in credit, and the problem is i gotta eat, and even then it's less than a month's groceries? tops.
and what i am losing in return is internet access, which is huge, and my primary way of keeping myself sane and connected to people during this time in my life. it is also a loss i will not be able to recover from for the forseeable future. i am likely to be impoverished for a long time, and thus for the benefit of less than a month's worth of groceries (which i can sometimes get from the food bank for free, which is what i have been doing to not die) i would lose something that is effectively irreplaceable.
same goes for my clothes and a lot of my other material possessions
this is something a lot of people don't understand about poverty
it's like, they want you to show you're trying not to be poor anymore... by essentially nuking your ability to get your shit together once the current crisis is passed? what
This is one of my go to stories when I try to explain why stupid bullshit like "poor people have microwaves" is stupid bullshit. And also why generally speaking society as a whole would benefit from not forcing people to liquidate major assets in times of need, that they will still need later.
but come on
Let's take this to the logical extension here
You don't really need 2 kidneys, do you? Plenty of people get by fine with just one!
I don't even have two fully-functioning kidneys!
We're not here to play oppression olympics, Narwhal, sheesh
what if, hypothetically, you broke up with a person by text accidentally because they were already displeased with you because of a miscommunication and you were discussing it by text and you blurted out that you thought they were getting too attached in a text message because you thought it would be good to be honest and then realized, well, this is probably going to lead to a break-up, isn't it
and what if, hypothetically, this happened three days after they were struck by a vehicle
would that be bad
(hypothetically)
breakups ignore all schedules and life events
oh good
sig i have bad news
i am breaking up with you
i know you just won that handsomest cat lady prize at the local fair and i don't want to undercut your joy but i can't be silent any longer
oh thank god now I can devote full attention to cats
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It is never a good idea to maintain a relationship you want to end because you're trying to spare someone's feelings.
There is literally no circumstance where this does not make either you, them or both miserable.
Children are another case where you shouldn't stay together 'For the children'! This is a bad idea! The worst!
I was like, 14 years old, and my mom was sitting down at the kitchen table and she was crying and i was like, what's up, ma
what's going on
and she was telling me how she's just sorta feeling really awful about how she kicked my dad to the curb and how my brother and i grew up without a father and i had to be like
whoa whoa whoa
1. we didn't grow up without our father, he had joint custody, i spent like about 30%-40% of my childhood with dad and that is honestly about as much as i should have because
2. dad is kind of a fuck up, as a person. i love my dad but, mom, dad is a fuck up. dude is an alcoholic and a conspiracy theorist survivalist wacko who blames "the government" and "corporations" and "America" for everything. i am old enough to understand this and i do not think my life would be enriched by more of having that man in it. as i grow older there is less of him in it for a reason.
3. how miserable would you have been? it would not have been better for you had you stayed together ostensibly for my brother and i. it would've been hell. you made the right call.
then i gave her a hug
turns out it was less about her having deep regrets about mistakes she made in raising me and my brother
and more like, had she not dumped my dad
maybe she never would've met her current boyfriend and father of her third child
which was far more
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Why is it that my brain gets all weird and self-conscious around midnight?
Why is it that my brain gets all weird and self-conscious around midnight?
Is late and it has now spent too much time inside itself
I'm a leading expert on this subject!
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My mom asked me when I was, like, ten, for permission to leave my dad. I said no because I was ten years old. But, of course, that weighs on me because when my parents did finally separate nearly six years later, the change was enormous. My parents had no business ever getting married and the effect it has on children watching your parents fight like that is, basically, infinity worse than a divorce. My mom never should have listened to ten year old me. What the fuck do ten year olds know?
like, that's a shitty place for a person to be in, and my heart went out to my mom there
"well, my ex-husband was an alcoholic and shitty with money and a philanderer and kind of a paranoid survivalist... but he wasn't abusive, so he has that going for him."
glad that piece of gutter trash is far from her life now
"Look at what you did. You made me like another game, and now I have to stay up all night playing it." My roommate, giving me responsibility for the late start he will have tomorrow. Also, Super Time Force.
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I like that this whole nude photos scandal has been coined "The Fappening"
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My mom asked me when I was, like, ten, for permission to leave my dad. I said no because I was ten years old. But, of course, that weighs on me because when my parents did finally separate nearly six years later, the change was enormous. My parents had no business ever getting married and the effect it has on children watching your parents fight like that is, basically, infinity worse than a divorce. My mom never should have listened to ten year old me. What the fuck do ten year olds know?
Ten year olds know they like things like they are, ten year olds know they love mommy and daddy and they don't understand why they fight and why one of them has to leave.
You know one of the benefits of my dad being given the boot when I was 4? I have no memories of my parents fighting or even my father moving out. They don't exist.
I have memories of my dad living with us, and memories of my dad not living with us, but no memories of like, a conversation where my mom lays it on me where daddy doesn't live with us anymore or something.
"Look at what you did. You made me like another game, and now I have to stay up all night playing it." My roommate, giving me responsibility for the late start he will have tomorrow. Also, Super Time Force.
My mom asked me when I was, like, ten, for permission to leave my dad.
Jesus.
This isn't that abnormal, actually.
Most of my friends in high school had divorced parents, and a lot of them had experiences like this. Their parents coming to them, usually their mother, and just laying it on them. Usually in sort of limited terms of understanding, but yeah, like straight up all "How would you feel if mommy and daddy didn't live together anymore?" and if the kid fuckin' bawls their eyes out at the idea, the parent goes "OH GOD THIS IS MONSTROUS I CAN'T DO THIS I WILL SCAR MY CHILD, I MUST STAY TOGETHER FOR THE CHILD" and they do that.
My theory? I think any parent who puts their kid on the spot like that doesn't actually want a divorce, deep down, at that point. Like, intellectually, they want a divorce and they know they should, but emotionally they're unprepared and they're full of anxiety and guilt and feelings of obligation over the idea and don't believe they can or should do it, and they're looking for an out. So they run the idea past their kid, who 100% of the time reacts negatively, so they get confirmation that it is a bad idea and they shouldn't do it.
It's also why the child in those situations shouldn't feel guilty about reacting negatively. That's what the parent was looking for in the first place. It was a set-up.
Pony on
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I think I might get an unemployment check this week!
I would rather have like, an actual JOB, but this increases my own chances of being not-homeless.
IT ONLY TOOK THREE MONTHS!
...actually, I shouldn't talk yet until I actually have the check in my hands...
Unemployment Insurance is awesome when you get it, but holy Christ do you have to jump through hoops to get it.
The first time I applied years ago, they would send me a notice once a month that they were reviewing my application and a decision was going to be made shortly. They kept coming until I found a job and withdrew the application. I basically ended up living with my dad again for a couple months because I was completely broke.
The second time was before I moved up here. The application went through after six weeks and I got Unemployment for six months. It was actually kind of nice. I just lived on that because it covered my expenses. It left me, like, no spending money at all, but that was fine. My previous job was the most stressful job I've ever had. I basically took a six month vacation.
There is a critical period of childhood when children process divorce particularly poorly. I might get the years wrong - it is something like 6-11 or 5-12.
If you and your partner are on amicable terms, it can be beneficial to stick together until your kid is in the tweens. But that assumes a lot regarding your ability to maintain a respectful relationship. That is absolutely not an excuse to stick with an abusive or alcoholic partner.
every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
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So sad -- this bar has run out of the materials for their drink called the banana hammock -- everyone else has one
My mom asked me when I was, like, ten, for permission to leave my dad.
Jesus.
This isn't that abnormal, actually.
Most of my friends in high school had divorced parents, and a lot of them had experiences like this. Their parents coming to them, usually their mother, and just laying it on them. Usually in sort of limited terms of understanding, but yeah, like straight up all "How would you feel if mommy and daddy didn't live together anymore?" and if the kid fuckin' bawls their eyes out at the idea, the parent goes "OH GOD THIS IS MONSTROUS I CAN'T DO THIS I WILL SCAR MY CHILD, I MUST STAY TOGETHER FOR THE CHILD" and they do that.
My theory? I think any parent who puts their kid on the spot like that doesn't actually want a divorce, deep down, at that point. Like, intellectually, they want a divorce and they know they should, but emotionally they're unprepared and they're full of anxiety and guilt and feelings of obligation over the idea and don't believe they can or should do it, and they're looking for an out. So they run the idea past their kid, who 100% of the time reacts negatively, so they get confirmation that it is a bad idea and they shouldn't do it.
It's also why the child in those situations shouldn't feel guilty about reacting negatively. That's what the parent was looking for in the first place. It was a set-up.
Hm. This makes sense.
My experience didn't quite go down like that, though. This is paraphrased somewhat due to time, but I was in the car with my mom and she said, "Would you be okay with me leaving your dad?" I said, "No," And nothing more was said about it.
There is a critical period of childhood when children process divorce particularly poorly. I might get the years wrong - it is something like 6-11 or 5-12.
If you and your partner are on amicable terms, it can be beneficial to stick together until your kid is in the tweens. But that assumes a lot regarding your ability to maintain a respectful relationship. That is absolutely not an excuse to stick with an abusive or alcoholic partner.
this explains why of my siblings my brother handled it most worst and still
microwaves and internet access sit in a bizarre vacuum that exists because the bourgeoisie left takes them for granted when they ask for subsidies to healthcare and education. one often hears the argument that it's all just plastic consumer crap from china, a real radical advocates worker empowerment via organic produce and home gardens in every lot, never mind that this is ridiculously untenable for people who cannot organize a budget never mind a garden
the early 20th century equivalent is piped running water and electrification to all households, which is likewise not, strictly speaking, necessary for living, but it achieves certain elite social goals to pursue mass ownership. but the shift from the old left to the new left seems to have shifted this kind of perspective to a middle-class narrative of empowerment, which unsurprisingly mutates into a narrative of personal responsibility
boom
there it is
the good ole narrative of personal responsibility
like, right now, my mother is homeless
she is homeless because she was renting a house from my grandfather, her father, who was technically supposed to be mortgaging the house to her but apparently that is not the case and she was just a tenant this entire time and she has literally no ownership rights
and because my grandfather is an abusive piece of shit, as a power trip when she got into it with him or trivial bullshit, he evicted her. because she is disabled and on government assistance, she cannot afford a regular apartment, and is now on a government subsidized housing waiting list. while on that waiting list, she's in a shelter.
she's only on that disability pension because of a workplace injury, an injury that her workplace insurance should cover her for, to an order far exceeding what the government disability pension is, but they're fighting with her about it and making her retain an attorney and it's going to take years to resolve
notice how none of those things are about responsibility or fault?
yet, my mother is deeply ashamed of being homeless and is hiding this fact from everyone, including her doctor and her therapist, which has made getting her to fill out government-mandated paperwork from the housing shelter completely exasperating because it's got the shelter's letterhead on it and there's no denying who the medical form establishing her disability is for, but she doesn't want to take it to her doctor because she doesn't want her doctor to know she's living in a shelter.
Her doctor. The guy who deals with her butt problems.
That is how insidious the narrative of personal responsibility is.
"but it wasn't her fault" still concedes the narrative about fault and the karmic universe, where every ill must be someone's fault and every sin must be someone's ill
"this is unjust because it isn't her fault" is exactly why being in a shelter is embarrassing - because it implies fault and hence just punishment for unnamed deviance
the question of mass housing or mass healthcare as vast, aggregate goals dissolves against personal narratives
There is a critical period of childhood when children process divorce particularly poorly. I might get the years wrong - it is something like 6-11 or 5-12.
If you and your partner are on amicable terms, it can be beneficial to stick together until your kid is in the tweens. But that assumes a lot regarding your ability to maintain a respectful relationship. That is absolutely not an excuse to stick with an abusive or alcoholic partner.
yeah I thought it was before 5 or something like that
My mom asked me when I was, like, ten, for permission to leave my dad.
Jesus.
This isn't that abnormal, actually.
Most of my friends in high school had divorced parents, and a lot of them had experiences like this. Their parents coming to them, usually their mother, and just laying it on them. Usually in sort of limited terms of understanding, but yeah, like straight up all "How would you feel if mommy and daddy didn't live together anymore?" and if the kid fuckin' bawls their eyes out at the idea, the parent goes "OH GOD THIS IS MONSTROUS I CAN'T DO THIS I WILL SCAR MY CHILD, I MUST STAY TOGETHER FOR THE CHILD" and they do that.
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We're not here to play oppression olympics, Narwhal, sheesh
boom
there it is
the good ole narrative of personal responsibility
like, right now, my mother is homeless
she is homeless because she was renting a house from my grandfather, her father, who was technically supposed to be mortgaging the house to her but apparently that is not the case and she was just a tenant this entire time and she has literally no ownership rights
and because my grandfather is an abusive piece of shit, as a power trip when she got into it with him or trivial bullshit, he evicted her. because she is disabled and on government assistance, she cannot afford a regular apartment, and is now on a government subsidized housing waiting list. while on that waiting list, she's in a shelter.
she's only on that disability pension because of a workplace injury, an injury that her workplace insurance should cover her for, to an order far exceeding what the government disability pension is, but they're fighting with her about it and making her retain an attorney and it's going to take years to resolve
notice how none of those things are about responsibility or fault?
yet, my mother is deeply ashamed of being homeless and is hiding this fact from everyone, including her doctor and her therapist, which has made getting her to fill out government-mandated paperwork from the housing shelter completely exasperating because it's got the shelter's letterhead on it and there's no denying who the medical form establishing her disability is for, but she doesn't want to take it to her doctor because she doesn't want her doctor to know she's living in a shelter.
Her doctor. The guy who deals with her butt problems.
That is how insidious the narrative of personal responsibility is.
oh good
sig i have bad news
i am breaking up with you
i know you just won that handsomest cat lady prize at the local fair and i don't want to undercut your joy but i can't be silent any longer
There is literally no circumstance where this does not make either you, them or both miserable.
Children are another case where you shouldn't stay together 'For the children'! This is a bad idea! The worst!
Ah come on, let me have something!
oh thank god now I can devote full attention to cats
then break up
then back togethers and things are peachy
Brain
Brain that is silly
Fortunately at this point survival instincts have kicked in and I'm too concerned about the rule of 3s to worry about anything beyond that >_>
I was like, 14 years old, and my mom was sitting down at the kitchen table and she was crying and i was like, what's up, ma
what's going on
and she was telling me how she's just sorta feeling really awful about how she kicked my dad to the curb and how my brother and i grew up without a father and i had to be like
whoa whoa whoa
1. we didn't grow up without our father, he had joint custody, i spent like about 30%-40% of my childhood with dad and that is honestly about as much as i should have because
2. dad is kind of a fuck up, as a person. i love my dad but, mom, dad is a fuck up. dude is an alcoholic and a conspiracy theorist survivalist wacko who blames "the government" and "corporations" and "America" for everything. i am old enough to understand this and i do not think my life would be enriched by more of having that man in it. as i grow older there is less of him in it for a reason.
3. how miserable would you have been? it would not have been better for you had you stayed together ostensibly for my brother and i. it would've been hell. you made the right call.
then i gave her a hug
turns out it was less about her having deep regrets about mistakes she made in raising me and my brother
and more like, had she not dumped my dad
maybe she never would've met her current boyfriend and father of her third child
which was far more
Is late and it has now spent too much time inside itself
I'm a leading expert on this subject!
"well, my ex-husband was an alcoholic and shitty with money and a philanderer and kind of a paranoid survivalist... but he wasn't abusive, so he has that going for him."
glad that piece of gutter trash is far from her life now
You are cleary Dipyral.
After midnight is the hour of the Incenjucar.
Where I get weird in the opposite way.
Nobody think about what that means.
Ten year olds know they like things like they are, ten year olds know they love mommy and daddy and they don't understand why they fight and why one of them has to leave.
You know one of the benefits of my dad being given the boot when I was 4? I have no memories of my parents fighting or even my father moving out. They don't exist.
I have memories of my dad living with us, and memories of my dad not living with us, but no memories of like, a conversation where my mom lays it on me where daddy doesn't live with us anymore or something.
Jesus.
I have 33 things!
And, full disclosure, I'm counting pairs of socks as 1 thing, so
I'm basically a millionaire
This is on your shoulders, Elki. You did this! :P
I would rather have like, an actual JOB, but this increases my own chances of being not-homeless.
IT ONLY TOOK THREE MONTHS!
...actually, I shouldn't talk yet until I actually have the check in my hands...
You get all asexual and supremely confident?
Interior, Incenjucar's Home
*The clock strikes 12 midnight*
Incenjucar perks up: "I'm basically a god."
This isn't that abnormal, actually.
Most of my friends in high school had divorced parents, and a lot of them had experiences like this. Their parents coming to them, usually their mother, and just laying it on them. Usually in sort of limited terms of understanding, but yeah, like straight up all "How would you feel if mommy and daddy didn't live together anymore?" and if the kid fuckin' bawls their eyes out at the idea, the parent goes "OH GOD THIS IS MONSTROUS I CAN'T DO THIS I WILL SCAR MY CHILD, I MUST STAY TOGETHER FOR THE CHILD" and they do that.
My theory? I think any parent who puts their kid on the spot like that doesn't actually want a divorce, deep down, at that point. Like, intellectually, they want a divorce and they know they should, but emotionally they're unprepared and they're full of anxiety and guilt and feelings of obligation over the idea and don't believe they can or should do it, and they're looking for an out. So they run the idea past their kid, who 100% of the time reacts negatively, so they get confirmation that it is a bad idea and they shouldn't do it.
It's also why the child in those situations shouldn't feel guilty about reacting negatively. That's what the parent was looking for in the first place. It was a set-up.
Unemployment Insurance is awesome when you get it, but holy Christ do you have to jump through hoops to get it.
The first time I applied years ago, they would send me a notice once a month that they were reviewing my application and a decision was going to be made shortly. They kept coming until I found a job and withdrew the application. I basically ended up living with my dad again for a couple months because I was completely broke.
The second time was before I moved up here. The application went through after six weeks and I got Unemployment for six months. It was actually kind of nice. I just lived on that because it covered my expenses. It left me, like, no spending money at all, but that was fine. My previous job was the most stressful job I've ever had. I basically took a six month vacation.
If you and your partner are on amicable terms, it can be beneficial to stick together until your kid is in the tweens. But that assumes a lot regarding your ability to maintain a respectful relationship. That is absolutely not an excuse to stick with an abusive or alcoholic partner.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
But someone is playing psycho killer so
twitch.tv/tehsloth
I still feel kinda bad about that, but I think I was right.
I can't imagine a force on this earth that is likely to stop me
Hm. This makes sense.
My experience didn't quite go down like that, though. This is paraphrased somewhat due to time, but I was in the car with my mom and she said, "Would you be okay with me leaving your dad?" I said, "No," And nothing more was said about it.
Definitely the latter, definitely NOT the former.
i am rock hard at the awkward sexual tension in this
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
this explains why of my siblings my brother handled it most worst and still
I was too old
My sister was too young
"but it wasn't her fault" still concedes the narrative about fault and the karmic universe, where every ill must be someone's fault and every sin must be someone's ill
"this is unjust because it isn't her fault" is exactly why being in a shelter is embarrassing - because it implies fault and hence just punishment for unnamed deviance
the question of mass housing or mass healthcare as vast, aggregate goals dissolves against personal narratives
yeah I thought it was before 5 or something like that
as Pony says, they won't remember
Double Jesus.
All I'm saying is that there should be a button next to "Hail Hydra" that says "Praise the Incenjucar!"
Because, real talk
I mad bros
And while anger isn't the healthiest motivator ...
Boy is it effective