My friend sent me the chatlog they had. And I think it's over.
Did you speak directly with her yet?
Not yet but in the chatlog the gf is saying how she hasn't told me about breaking up, or how she feels so bad for me and doesn't want to hurt me.
But this was 5 days ago sooo unless she changed in 5 days. Its probably over.
Edit: I just go to the part where she says she made a promise to the other guy and is going to break up with me.
5 days is a long time, Sabs. A lot can change in 5 days. It does sound like she at least cares somewhat about you, so I think it's worth talking to her.
I'm really sorry you have to go through this
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
My friend sent me the chatlog they had. And I think it's over.
You still need to talk to her, dude.
That probably depends on exactly how the chatlog goes. If she was like "teehee I cheated on sabs but don't tell him k?" then she's probably not mature enough to have a real relationship with. If she was like "oh god this just happened and I don't know what to do" then it's probably worth talking to her at least to get to understand her situation from her point of view.
Even in the former case, I think talking to her at least provides more closure than just a quick ditching, even if she's not mature enough to handle it.
She finishes class at 6 and even though I have a class at 6 Im just going to hand my assignment in and go talk to her. This week was kinda funky >.<, i feeeeel stupid
Don't feel stupid, man. If things really are what they sound like, it's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel stupid about it.
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
My friend sent me the chatlog they had. And I think it's over.
You still need to talk to her, dude.
That probably depends on exactly how the chatlog goes. If she was like "teehee I cheated on sabs but don't tell him k?" then she's probably not mature enough to have a real relationship with. If she was like "oh god this just happened and I don't know what to do" then it's probably worth talking to her at least to get to understand her situation from her point of view.
Even in the former case, I think talking to her at least provides more closure than just a quick ditching, even if she's not mature enough to handle it.
She finishes class at 6 and even though I have a class at 6 Im just going to hand my assignment in and go talk to her. This week was kinda funky >.<, i feeeeel stupid
I think this is the best way to go and hopefully it turns out to be some large misunderstanding or something to work through. If not, *hugs*
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
If she does want to work things out its not unreasonable for me to ask her to not talk or hang out with the guy who she "did things with" right? Like they do have a few classes together but still.
My friend sent me the chatlog they had. And I think it's over.
Did you speak directly with her yet?
Not yet but in the chatlog the gf is saying how she hasn't told me about breaking up, or how she feels so bad for me and doesn't want to hurt me.
But this was 5 days ago sooo unless she changed in 5 days. Its probably over.
Edit: I just go to the part where she says she made a promise to the other guy and is going to break up with me.
5 days is a long time, Sabs. A lot can change in 5 days. It does sound like she at least cares somewhat about you, so I think it's worth talking to her.
I'm really sorry you have to go through this
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
So, yeah, if things have occurred between you since the cheatin' be sure to get checked out.
Conversations like this make me feel like I'm from Mars.
Are you from Mars?
Daisy: Do you rent downstairs?
Brian: D'you mean am I gay?
Daisy: What?
Brian: D'you mean am I gay?
Daisy: No, I meant "are you renting the downstairs flat?"
Brian: Oh, right. Yep, sort of.
Tim: Are you gay?
Brian: What?
Tim: Are you gay?
Brian: ...No(?).
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
You shouldn't feel stupid, these things just happen.
Best of luck getting things sorted out, man.
I will feel stupid since just last night we were doing things and it looked like things were okay again, just to break up today.
Stop jumping to conclusions, Sabs. Last night could well be more indicative than that chatlog.
In the chat logs that's could be at the latest monday, she is saying how she is going to break up with me but just not when. So why shouldn't I jump to that conclusion? Should I just keep my hopes really high so it hits me even worse if it happens?
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
Please. I beg to differ!
Well you do, but that's different!
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After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
It's kind of like having visited another country/state. You may have "been there," but you got a small sample of a huge place so no, you don't know "what germany's like", to take an example, except on a superficial level.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
Hooo boy. Is that the kind of behavior which just screams I will do this again. Confront and cold dump the bitch.
If she does want to work things out its not unreasonable for me to ask her to not talk or hang out with the guy who she "did things with" right? Like they do have a few classes together but still.
From a pragmaic point of view, I wouldn't say it was unreasonable. But when it comes down to brass tacks, you either trust her or you don't. If you feel like you can't trust her anymore, maybe it's just time to let her go.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
I don't really think wanting to have your cake and eat it too is particularly admirable, or that that sort of action is indicative of real respect for the person you're in a relationship with. A lot of "not wanting to hurt" is more "I don't like conflict and am afraid to be honest". All IMO, obviously.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
Hooo boy. Is that the kind of behavior which just screams I will do this again. Confront and cold dump the bitch.
Yes. Let's make assumptions about other people based on 2nd hand text information from the Internet.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
I don't really think wanting to have your cake and eat it too is particularly admirable, or that that sort of action is indicative of real respect for the person you're in a relationship with. A lot of "not wanting to hurt" is more "I don't like conflict and am afraid to be honest". All IMO, obviously.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
Y'knwo what? You really have two options here. You can dwell on this news and let it bother you all day, working on the assumption that things are over based on second-hand news and some words on the Internet.
Or, you can try to be rational and wait until you have a proper chat with her. Whatever the outcome may be.
It seems to me like you've already made your choice.
If she does want to work things out its not unreasonable for me to ask her to not talk or hang out with the guy who she "did things with" right? Like they do have a few classes together but still.
From a pragmaic point of view, I wouldn't say it was unreasonable. But when it comes down to brass tacks, you either trust her or you don't. If you feel like you can't trust her anymore, maybe it's just time to let her go.
Yeah, if you can't trust her to hang around with whoever she wants, that's not working through things.
You need to break up with her if you hear her out and you still feel like asking something like that. It will just eat at you, otherwise.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
Y'knwo what? You really have two options here. You can dwell on this news and let it bother you all day, working on the assumption that things are over based on second-hand news and some words on the Internet.
Or, you can try to be rational and wait until you have a proper chat with her. Whatever the outcome may be.
It seems to me like you've already made your choice.
I still have 30 more minutes till she is out of class and I was just going crazy walking around not talking to anyone.
If she does want to work things out its not unreasonable for me to ask her to not talk or hang out with the guy who she "did things with" right? Like they do have a few classes together but still.
From a pragmaic point of view, I wouldn't say it was unreasonable. But when it comes down to brass tacks, you either trust her or you don't. If you feel like you can't trust her anymore, maybe it's just time to let her go.
Yeah, if you can't trust her to hang around with whoever she wants, that's not working through things.
You need to break up with her if you hear her out and you still feel like asking something like that. It will just eat at you, otherwise.
I have trouble sepearating jealousy from trust though.
After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
Hooo boy. Is that the kind of behavior which just screams I will do this again. Confront and cold dump the bitch.
Yes. Let's make assumptions about other people based on 2nd hand text information from the Internet.
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After reading more of the chatlog, she talks about stuff that happened on monday, and tuesday she was acting all moody and distant with me but said it was nothing. And to think last night she was acting like it was all right, and wanted to do it. I feel used if she is going to break up with me.
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You shouldn't feel stupid, these things just happen.
Best of luck getting things sorted out, man.
I think this is the best way to go and hopefully it turns out to be some large misunderstanding or something to work through. If not, *hugs*
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I will feel stupid since just last night we were doing things and it looked like things were okay again, just to break up today.
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Hey, I'm the autistic guy around here!
Please. I beg to differ!
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So, yeah, if things have occurred between you since the cheatin' be sure to get checked out.
Daisy: Do you rent downstairs?
Brian: D'you mean am I gay?
Daisy: What?
Brian: D'you mean am I gay?
Daisy: No, I meant "are you renting the downstairs flat?"
Brian: Oh, right. Yep, sort of.
Tim: Are you gay?
Brian: What?
Tim: Are you gay?
Brian: ...No(?).
Stop jumping to conclusions, Sabs. Last night could well be more indicative than that chatlog.
Well you do, but that's different!
She's probably really conflicted because she really cares about you and likes you, but she also wants to go out with the other guy. I don't think she was using you. Unless she just had some weird sadistic streak, if she didn't care about you anymore, she'd just dump you straight out and go out with the other guy.
In the chat logs that's could be at the latest monday, she is saying how she is going to break up with me but just not when. So why shouldn't I jump to that conclusion? Should I just keep my hopes really high so it hits me even worse if it happens?
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Are you saying I'm special?
If you want, I'll be your rebound fuck.
She said things like "she really likes me as a friend" and "doesn't want to hurt me."
Also she is really one of those people that always wants to avoid any situation that could be weird or uneasy so it's not out of hand what she is doing, i guess.
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Yes. In the pants. :winky:
Only if you come to Canada. :P
Also just a month ago I found out I was basically her rebound since she broke up with her first serious relationship 2 weeks before our first date.
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"Special..." / "Needs?"
Hooo boy. Is that the kind of behavior which just screams I will do this again. Confront and cold dump the bitch.
From a pragmaic point of view, I wouldn't say it was unreasonable. But when it comes down to brass tacks, you either trust her or you don't. If you feel like you can't trust her anymore, maybe it's just time to let her go.
I don't really think wanting to have your cake and eat it too is particularly admirable, or that that sort of action is indicative of real respect for the person you're in a relationship with. A lot of "not wanting to hurt" is more "I don't like conflict and am afraid to be honest". All IMO, obviously.
Yes. Let's make assumptions about other people based on 2nd hand text information from the Internet.
What could go wrong.
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That's exactly how she is like.
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Or, you can try to be rational and wait until you have a proper chat with her. Whatever the outcome may be.
It seems to me like you've already made your choice.
Yeah, if you can't trust her to hang around with whoever she wants, that's not working through things.
You need to break up with her if you hear her out and you still feel like asking something like that. It will just eat at you, otherwise.
Yes. The good one. :P
I still have 30 more minutes till she is out of class and I was just going crazy walking around not talking to anyone.
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I have trouble sepearating jealousy from trust though.
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Can't confirm it nor deny it. ;-)
This: "she really likes me as a friend" really fucking hurts.
fuck it