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Guy Moving in With 2 Girls! Any Advice?
anon23
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Hey guys,
You may recognise me from my recent thread ... Which has now lead into this one!
I took onboard a lot of that advice, have left the past in the past and move forward in the best way possible. Ive found and Incredible place to live, right where ive always wanted to. The thing is its with 2 girls, one of whom i have now met, and she seems awesome and we got along great.
Now I am what u might call a "girly" man. The biggest crisis in the morning is if i can't find my hair straightener kind of thing... (If u couldn't tell from my last thread..) So i pretty much think I can live with two random girls about my age just fine. I have my own huge master bedroom and also bathroom so thats all good.
Anyway this is the start of a new chapter in my life, hopefully the best one yet!
Just wondering from any guys that may have done this before, lived with girls that are NOT their gf in any way shape or form, what advice u have for me? Do's, Don'ts etc... ?
You may recognise me from my recent thread ... Which has now lead into this one!
I took onboard a lot of that advice, have left the past in the past and move forward in the best way possible. Ive found and Incredible place to live, right where ive always wanted to. The thing is its with 2 girls, one of whom i have now met, and she seems awesome and we got along great.
Now I am what u might call a "girly" man. The biggest crisis in the morning is if i can't find my hair straightener kind of thing... (If u couldn't tell from my last thread..) So i pretty much think I can live with two random girls about my age just fine. I have my own huge master bedroom and also bathroom so thats all good.
Anyway this is the start of a new chapter in my life, hopefully the best one yet!
Just wondering from any guys that may have done this before, lived with girls that are NOT their gf in any way shape or form, what advice u have for me? Do's, Don'ts etc... ?
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I was merely asking for any handy advice for living with girls in the best way!
Im sure my common sense will be all i need but hey it doesn't hurt to ask those who have gone before!
When I saw what your last thread had been, this shot to my mind. Just play it safe. Don't sleep with them. At least not yet.
You know what, even after an appropriate amount of time, don't sleep with them. You don't want to be like that guy who had a thing for his roommate but was in a 1 year lease with her. If things get awkward, they probably get very awkward.
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Always knock
Don't sleep with them
Clean up after yourself
Dont sleep with them
Just like you would with any other room mate.
Do not, under any circumstances, sleep with either of them.
In fact, if you're sexually attracted to either of them, don't even let on that you are and move on with your life. I don't think this can be emphasized enough.
Don't drunken make-out with them
Don't let on that you like them (if you ever do)
Not sure if someone said anything but, don't sleep with them.
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I mean, don't sleep with them.
Also, this will probably open your eyes to how women can be just as disgusting as men - alot of guys tend to forget they shit, fart, etc too. Advice which sounds obvious: don't be one of those guys. If one of them farts and you even so much as suggest its gross you're likely to get a "what because im a woman I cant fart?" type comment if they'd react in the same way as I've seen other women react to their boyfriends when they first move in.
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But seriously, don't ever even think about thinking about sleeping with them.
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Girls aren't special, they're people too. Don't worry about it.
Second, be prepared to become default drain-cleaner-outer and heavy-stuff-carrier. There are horrors in the drain of a shower two girls are sharing that you can't imagine. In return they will smell a lot nicer and look a lot better than any male roommate you'll likely ever have, and they will hook you up with all their friends.
Third, if you do end up sleeping with or dating their friends, be careful and don't be a dick. Also, be prepared for them to not like any girl you're dating, even if they have no interest in you that way. Maybe I just dated a lot of really bitchy women (I did) and they were looking out for me (they were).
Besides that, all the other things you would do to be a good roommate still apply. Contribute to cleaning, don't make a mess, don't have loud crazy sex at 10 in the morning when they are in the kitchen on the other side of your wall eating breakfast (woops!).
Now, for some more general adult roommate advice: at this point it's just a convenient living arrangement. In a lot of ways, you're not even at the level of friends yet- more like very close neighbors. So like a good neighbor, you should be polite, do your part to keep everything looking as nice as it did before you moved in, respect their space, and get to know each other. Don't assume anything. Don't assume you'll be invited along when they go out with friends, don't assume you can move their laundry to the dryer if you want to put some in for a wash, don't even assume you can use some ketchup in the fridge without asking. Just step carefully at first, until you're all a little more comfortable around each other. If you make a good impression the first few weeks, it'll be easier to apologize if you accidentally screw up after that.
Wait till their out of the apartment to whack it.
Also, don't whack it in the shower.
And unrelated note, make sure you rinse the sink after you shave. Even if they don't rinse the bathtub after they do.
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He's got his own bathroom.
Well, that takes care of the bathroom sharing arguments or advice. Hog it up then. :P
But still don't spank it while they're home.
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Why not? As long as he's in his room or bathroom and the door's locked, he's good. I don't think you have to make a ton of noise when you're jacking it.
Unless I've been doing it wrong all this time. :shock:
The obvious thing is that I stayed the hell out of her room and if I needed to talk to her while she was there I always knocked (and actually waited for a response not just barged in). We had separate bathrooms so I stayed out of her bathroom as well.
Basically you just need to be more aware of her space and don't get in it. Also it goes without saying that you don't become involved with either of them in any way shape or form.
Be direct. Don't be all whiny passive aggressive.
I'm a girl that lives with 3 guys and the one thing I appreciate out of all of them is that if they need a favor or if I stepped on someone's toes somehow, they COME TO ME AND TELL ME....they don't sulk around the house expecting me to magically divine what's up.
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Also, don't bury your hot dog in either of their meat wallets.
The two girls I lived with ALWAYS ate my food! And never washed the dishes.
I forgave them this because they had several 'underwear' parties where I benefitted greatly, so....
Anyway, don't think that just because you are the dude, that it's on you to be the angelic room mate. On the flip side don't think that just because they are women that they are going to be cleaning, ironing, washing shit. Don't think that they are going to be your Mom.
Delgado sums it up with the limed. Common courtesy regardless of gender.
Also, if you're watching porn, keep the door locked and wear headphones.
If theres any girls reading, what would u expect/want out of a male roommate?
I love the advice about "Don't Assume Anything". That is really what i will be trying to do. But it kind of ties into my next thing.
"Don't expect them to fill any social void etc" after i just got dumped.
How exactly..uhh..How is the best way to do that? I mean... Im not going to be moping around and stuff but yeah i am still kind of getting over things..
I was thinking of not even telling them about that stuff, just because hey who wants to live with a guy who just got dumped and hear about that crap!? Just keeping up my positive/outgoing face etc. Is that a good idea or?
As u can see I've never lived with girls as just friends before, just trying to make sure i know wtf im doing.
I don't think it's "wrong" for them to fill some social void, just don't expect them to. Having roommates you are good friends with is awesome. Having good friends that are chicks is awesome. But if that's going to happen, it'll happen of its own accord.
Be respectful of them. Knock and shit. Clean up after yourself. Even if these chicks are messier than you (I have seen gorgeous women live in filth and squalor. Good luck with this thing. BTW, if you head into a relationship, know that your SO may have trouble with you living with two women. Then again, it is a pretty irrational thing, so it might be an excellent litmus test for the crazies.
That all said,
bone 'em both!
But bang thier friends.