Moral guidance regarding an issue

Davoid

So, I write reviews of material and study guides, which I send out to a lot of the student body at my school. I email them on a large email list, which is visible to all who receive it.

Anyhow.

One of our classmates gave me her email today to receive reviews and such, and normally, I would add her to the mailing list right away, BUT, her email had a weird address. Her own name.com. So I check it out, because I'm the curious sort. Turns out she's a porn star, working for Playboy, and her website consists of pictures of herself. Yea, those kinds of pictures.

So.

I cannot in good conscience add her to the list and reveal this to everybody with some curiosity who notices a weird email address, and, simultaniously, I cannot just send her the material privately because she'd know I'd have noticed.

Debating on a course of action right now to save her embarassment.

Invisible

Could you add her to the mailing list as BCC?

Gdiguy

BCC her on the email and forget about it?

Though honestly, you might want to send her an email about it, just nicely saying that she might not want to use a personal email for something that goes on a big email list

Tellerman

Is the BCC field not a possibility? In my experience it's the way to go when doing massive e-mail lists, just in case someone on it is less than scrupulous or just doesn't want their e-mail shared with everyone else.

Cauld

put everyone in the bcc instead of the cc. you could mention you did it out of privacy concerns if you want.

Drez

Davoid wrote: »

So, I write reviews of material and study guides, which I send out to a lot of the student body at my school. I email them on a large email list, which is visible to all who receive it.

Anyhow.

One of our classmates gave me her email today to receive reviews and such, and normally, I would add her to the mailing list right away, BUT, her email had a weird address. Her own name.com. So I check it out, because I'm the curious sort. Turns out she's a porn star, working for Playboy, and her website consists of pictures of herself. Yea, those kinds of pictures.

So.

I cannot in good conscience add her to the list and reveal this to everybody with some curiosity who notices a weird email address, and, simultaniously, I cannot just send her the material privately because she'd know I'd have noticed.

Debating on a course of action right now to save her embarassment.

a) You're not responsible for her personal choices. If she gave that address and she is aware that the mailing list publishes all email addresses to everyone on the list, then that is on her, not you.

b) I personally dislike being CCed on big mailing lists unless it's the kind that is meant to breed conversation between people. BCC is ideal for that anyway, whether the people on your list work for Playboy or Gymboree.

Hamster_style

Not to mention if one person has some virus on this big list, the virus WILL mine all of those cc's for more entries in Sir Spam-A-Lot's ledger.

ceres

bccing the whole list is probably a good idea anyway.

Davoid

That is good, thanks guys, I am terrible at email related things

PracticalProblemSolver

She probably wants people to see it, self promotion and all that.

Send me her email and I'll ask for you.

Davoid

BCC'ed the whole list. Originally it was visible so that people could contact each other easily.

Grimm

How about sending an email out explaining that your changing it for privacy reasons but if they like, you can add their email address to a list of people that welcome being contacted? As for the woman with the playboy address, i would just mention it to her without making a big deal about it. As long as you don't come off in some creepy way, i doubt she'll mind. Considering shes posing naked online, something tells me the lady isnt exactly shy.

darkmayo

This sounds like the beginning of a penthouse letter.

Dark_Side

You've already solved it, but it's perfectly possible she didn't realize the entire list of recipients would be viewable, but it's also pretty unlikely anyone is going to waste their time mining a list of emails like that unless it's for spam purposes anyway. Lastly, if she's using her own name as her porn name and willingly gives out her email address that leads to her porn domain, well....she's probably just trying to get hits on the site.