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am I fault in this situation? [Friends]
Horus
Los AngelesRegistered User regular
Los AngelesRegistered User regular
Ok so a week ago me and my friend said we should do something Sunday (today) nothing official as in place and time. Zoom to now I txt him informing him that I have to babysit my nephews totally last minute since their mom is bed ridden (due to medical problems) and my sister had to do quick errand run (she was babysitting them all day).
His response was I am typical LA guy who flakes at the last minute. To be honest I did inform him last minute but I was gonna be 1 hr late for my meet up with my friend. So now hes not talking/ignoring me, after I explained the situation my nephews are going through. But I just want to know was I being the a$$hole in this situation or was he being the douche?
Thank you
His response was I am typical LA guy who flakes at the last minute. To be honest I did inform him last minute but I was gonna be 1 hr late for my meet up with my friend. So now hes not talking/ignoring me, after I explained the situation my nephews are going through. But I just want to know was I being the a$$hole in this situation or was he being the douche?
Thank you
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However, it's such a small thing that unless you really don't care for his friendship at all, you may as well just apologize to end the drama.
But on the plus side, you're not an asshole. Shit happens.
If you apologized and he's still not talking to you, let him go. Either he'll go resume his search for friends who have absolutely nothing going on in their lives besides him, or he'll get tired of being alone all the time and call you up.
Of course, if you have a history of flaking out on him and this is the one time he's finally called you on it, he probably has a little more of a case.
We are new friends so he doesn't know the situation of why I had to babysit my nephews. I just want the point of view of people not in the situation. Cause if it was me I would like to rectify this.
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But I still stand by what I said. If you apologized, or if he doesn't want to hear the how and why of it, there's not much else you can do. He's looking for people who don't exist outside of his own interaction with them.
a non-specific "hey maybe we should hang out sunday" is not the same as "either we are meeting sunday or we are not friends any more"
this dude clearly thinks he is a super important person or something
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Or was just extremely disappointed and looking forward to hanging out with OP and doesn't know a more appropriate way to convey that.
Or he's had this happen with lots of people since moving to LA so it's getting irritating and he doesn't really mean to take it out on OP.
i might agree if they guy had just said "typical LA guy flaking out" and left it at that
but the fact that he is now ignoring the OP seems a hell of an overreaction
seriously, if the guy thinks vague hangout plans are more important than taking care of the kids of sick relatives then he needs to do some rethinking
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I guess we could all jump to the conclusion that someone's a jackass at the drop of a hat, but that's hardly constructive.
Have you seriously never done something you regretted and hid from it for even a bit?
More at 11.
we also talk about other random shit and clown upon each other
maybe he'll get over it
yeah screw that noise
that's why we call it the struggle, you're supposed to sweat