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Condoms? [solved]
Cptn Pants
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So... I've just recently started having sex with my girlfriend and we're been using normal trojan spermicidal lubricated condoms and they seem too thick. It took me forever to cum, so long in-fact that I had slow down for a few minutes just because I was so exhausted from all the movement. Which is great for her but a little disappointing to me because sometimes its takes so long that we get interrupted before I have a chance to finish. Has anyone had any experience with the "ultrathin's" are they just as safe as the normal ones?
Any suggestions on condom brands, types, styles, and ribbings/nubs would be appreciated.
Any suggestions on condom brands, types, styles, and ribbings/nubs would be appreciated.
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Forsake, Warlock of Stonemaul
I too found trojans to be a little thick, and I dont think that thiness makes them any less safe. In my opinion thick, "extra safe" condoms are a crock of shit, I've had them break on me more often than any other kind. If you put it on right, they will hold, if you mess up they will break regardless of thickness.
Yes. Agreed.
So it seems like the durex featherlites are the thin safe type I'm looking for, are they lubricated and spermicidal? I'm really not looking for any kids, though my constant ingestion of Mountain Dew might have already taken care of that.
Also, will these condoms be good for... ah hum, anal sex? :oops: We haven't gone down that path yet but she's been hinting at wanting to give it a shot.
They're sneaky bastards.
Anal sex will require some additional lube (not too much) if nobody wants to get hurt.
People don't trust Trojan condoms because they're prone to breakage. Everyone I've ever talked to about a broken condom has implicated Trojan, and it's the only brand of condom that ever broke when I was using one. There's a reason Trojan does so much advertising—they're the condom company that needs to make up for their crappy products.
Also, stay away from crappy generic condoms given away by nonprofits and sold in movie theaters, bars, etc. They're better than nothing, but paying a little more for fresh Durex every time is a hell of a lot better than paying to feed a kid for eighteen years.
I have never had a Trojan (or any condom for that matter) break on me. The Ultrathins have slipped a couple of times, once requiring us to make a trip to a family planning center for some Plan B (not fun).
Here is the best advice I can give: If you are going to be having sex, and you don't want to have children, birth control, birth control, birth control.
She should be able to get a prescription from her doctor without anyone knowing about it but yourself and her. Also many college campus health centers will be able to get her a prescription for birth control (provided she is a student there of course), typically at a lower price too.
There really is no reason for her NOT to be on birth control if you two plan on having a sex life together.
I don't think you'll need a special brand of condom for anal. Just read up on how to do it right.
Do you use the spermicide ones? That stuff smells terrible.
Anyways, when I used condoms I always went for the ones that had the enlarged tip so it would be a little loose on the end. This lets the latex rub back and forth on your penis and makes it feel more like normal sex rather than sex through a sheet of plastic. I broke so many ultrathins I don't even want to think about it, they're not made for extended sessions.
It should also be noted that Plan B is available over the counter in some places now and you or your girlfriend should always have one around.
As for anal, it's not really something I'm all about but I'm willing to give it a try for her. She really likes my fingers in there, though my dick is much bigger then my fingers. Has anyone here tried it? Any general tips or insight as to what to expect would be nice. Thanks.
That is exactly why I stopped using Trojans. Those fucking things stank up the whole room. I use durex now.
Anal is fun, just remember to start out slow and use lots of lube. You also don't want to go from anal to vaginal sex with the same condom. Could lead to bad things for her if you do.
Forsake, Warlock of Stonemaul
I've ordered condoms off the internet for years now. Beyond 7 and Rough Rider, both ultra-thin, are the best I've found. Similarly, one thing online stores do that real stores won't is give you sampler packs, so you can try a lot of things.
Sampler Packs exist in brick and mortar stores. Though you'll only get one brand of condom, and usually four varieties of said condom per pack. Though you probably won't find anything outside of the standard brands (Durex, Trojan, etc.) in real life stores.
Some girls like bumps and ribs and stuff... others don't. Experimentation is fun, and there's no reason you can't try out more than one condom in a single sexual encounter. If one isn't her cup of tea, slip it off and put on another. No matter how tiny those ribs and bumps may be, she can feel it.
Which brings me to another point... Your penis has all kinds ridges and textures too. If she likes a piece of latex with little bumps on it, imagine how much she'll like your natural features. Score one for birth control.
There is, actually. Not everyone's biochemistry is amenable to the manipulation hormones comprise. Haranguing a girl about pills and patches before you know whether she's ok using them is pretty low, as is reacting poorly if she tries it and its not working out. General advice here: please don't dismiss symptomatic side-effects as being 'the price you pay for avoiding kids', or some stupid shit like that. Side-effects mean you're either on the wrong formula, or you shouldn't be using any.
Also, the modern IUD is a highly effective non-hormonal method, and apparently the method of choice among female OB-GYNS, so there's another thing to keep in mind. They're well worth asking about.
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I might have tried it.. you know, once or twice. Or something.
First thing you should understand is that teh buttzors is not designed to accept foriegn objects, unlike the va-jay-jay. So be gentle. Also, don't have any illusions, or you'll have a tucker max experience on your hands. So you should make sure the receiving party is emptied out beforehand, so to speak.
Get some lube, something water based. I think if you're using condoms, non water based lubes can degrade the condom. Start with one finger. Go to two fingers, be gentle, make sure it's not uncomfortable. Go to three, and so on, until you have your fingers bunched up in a thickness that is comparable to your dick. This will also serve to lube her up as well as losen things up. So, get your well lubed and rubber suited member ready. Don't use like half a bottle or anything, just a regular amount. Basically you just need to go in slow. Put in like half and inch, pause for reasonable length of time, go in a little more, pause, and so on until you're all in there. If it starts to hurt pull out and wait until it stops hurting. Remember, just go slow and be gentle. You can start doin' the ol' in out in out when you can get all in but start really slow.
Yep. Good stuff.
Sometimes the side effect is your girls boobs growing 2 cup sizes in which case you must encourage her to stay on the pill.
The trick with anal is to start with toys. You can get a good starter set of small-to-large butt-plugs at most sex shops, you'll find better ones at gay sex shops of bondage supply shops than you will at stores that cater to straight people. Try to find toys that are top-rack dishwasher safe (hard to find, but they are out there). Stay away from vibrating toys unless she's really into them; they don't really do much in there, the noise gets old fast, and the motors tend to short out when being cleaned. Start with the small plug and work up to the larger ones, and the first couple of times you do anal, leave one in for ten or fifteen minutes before you penetrate to loosen things up. One she gets used to it you'll be able to just lube up and pop right in, but it takes while to get to that point.
yeah, who cares if that hurts her or she doesn't like looking like Dolly Parton! WHOOOO TITS TITS AWESOME TITS YEEAAAAHHHH
idiot.
That said, my pick would be Crown's skinless skin condom.
You know you're over sensitive about this issue right?
Yeah, Jesus. Calm the fuck down, there are girls out there who like having boobs and it doesn't mean it's harming her in any way.
Rapid breast tissue growth is actually not really great healthwise, which you'd know if you gave a shit about more than getting your rocks off. Its not oversensitivity, there are actual health concerns involved, and the line isn't even appropriate as a joke, being that this is H/A.
Secondly, don't give me that bullshit claim that you were only interested in empowering your lady through accidental body-modding and that I want to keep all the ladies flat-chested just to make you sad :roll:. Your line indicated nothing more than self-interest, and I find your attempts at justification both ill-thought out and sickening.
So I take it you're a certified OB/GYN then? My girlfriend went through breast enlargement when she got on the pill and her doctor said there's nothing at all wrong with it. So I see nothing wrong with joking about it.
He's wrong. Rapid tissue growth pretty much anywhere isn't a great idea. Secondly, doctors have a long and hilarious history of dismissing contraceptive side effects as inconsequential regardless of the reality, and they do it with other drugs too, when a woman's doing the complaining. Its a problem, mostly centred on the wonderful historical idea that women's medical complaints are often all in their heads (an idea, incidentally, that's pretty much restricted to western medicine and the past couple hundred years. And again, H/A. Quit fucking around. If your lady likes her boobs and you do too, woot. Just don't go kidding yourself that they're risk-free, or normal.
wow, that's entirely not true. It's you opinion and I respect it, but stop displaying it as facts.
For condoms, I suggest Beyond Seven. They aren't as good as going raw (no condom will ever be) but it's pretty close in my opinion.
This man speaks the truth. When breast tissue enlarges it's due to extra fat deposition. Fat deposition doesn't cause cellular division and certainly doesn't increase the risk of breast cancer. There aren't any health risks associated with such fat deposition. There may be genetic cofactors that react in the presence of the excess hormones in the birth control pills that might cause a slightly slightly elevated risk of breast cancer, but by all accounts that risk disappears after a few years of not taking the drug.
Many drugs have unresearched side effects for the simple fact that the drug companies put their bottom line before people's health. It's corruption at it's finest, but it happens.
They cast a shadow like a sundial in the morning light. It was half past 10.
Trillian, on the other hand, was not. Take a day off. Next person to post about something other than condoms in here will be taking a much longer vacation.
Also, if you're not loving the latex, polyurethane condoms are equally effective but allow more sensation.
And if you're going to give anal a go, just make sure you use enough lube. I perfer silicon-based lube for the purpose, personally. But keep in mind that you're greasing up an anus... not re-packing wheel bearings. The same condoms you use for vaginal intercourse should be fine for anal, but remember, under NO cirumstances, go from anus to vagina without putting on a new condom. Massive urinary tract infections aren't conductive to an enjoyable sex life.
You're not L33T enough for IDI/RN FTP!
So durex seems to be the brand of choice, we'll keep trying different ones until we find some we like and then keep a steady supply around. I didn't know that spermicidal lube was bad for the vagina and not really effective, so i guess we'll stop using our normal ones.
Oh and before I close this, on the first page people mentioned "plan b" is that like the morning after pill? What are the side effects for such a thing, I'm sure you can't take it every day.
Also, while you're down at the sex shoppe, pick up some polyurethane condoms. They're much nicer than latex.
Yes, plan b is the morning after pill. It knocks you on your ass for at least a day or two, it is not something you swallow with a glass of water, chase with a couple of tylenols and go on with your day afterwards as if nothing happened.
On the anal sex thing, yes plugs, yes lube (lots), and find a small vibe. Really small, like a lipstick container or smaller. The vibrating makes things happy down there, and also massages the muscle, making it easier to stretch (which it is definitely going to do by the time you're fitting a penis in there).
CUZ THERE'S SOMETHING IN THE MIDDLE AND IT'S GIVING ME A RASH
As for anal we talked about it and we're gonna start out with fingers and work our way up over a few days/weeks till we get to dick level. So I'm gonna mark this as solved... tomorrow
Just like "the pill," Plan B affects different people differently. It is essentially an extremely high dose of birth control. It can do some really nasty things to you. There is a reason it is called Plan B and not Plan A.