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How to deal with a (potential) stalker?
Flay
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Okay, this is fucking worrying.
I'm an eighteen year-old guy and, cutting a long story short, I've received a few increasingly creepy text messages over the first few days. These messages I know are from a middle-aged man who lives in my area. I'm certain he knows my first name and mobile phone number (if he knows more I'm not aware of it yet), but I have his business card (with full name, mobile, fax and email) and know where he lives.
I've already made a report to the police, but he hasn't done anything incriminating just yet. It could just peter off, but I want to be prepared: what else can I do?
DO.
NOT.
WANT.
I'm an eighteen year-old guy and, cutting a long story short, I've received a few increasingly creepy text messages over the first few days. These messages I know are from a middle-aged man who lives in my area. I'm certain he knows my first name and mobile phone number (if he knows more I'm not aware of it yet), but I have his business card (with full name, mobile, fax and email) and know where he lives.
I've already made a report to the police, but he hasn't done anything incriminating just yet. It could just peter off, but I want to be prepared: what else can I do?
DO.
NOT.
WANT.
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its not that hard, tell him to stop. call his number and make it clear that you do not want him contacting you.
outside of that, switch your number. you can block his cell maybe but he can use a different number to call/text.
Unless the text messages say something like "I want to bathe in your blood and make a nice tablelamp out of your skin" then so far all we have is a dude sending you some texts.
If you have not yet explicitly told him that you do not desire any further communication from him, then going to the police is really jumping the gun.
He may not even know that he is upsetting you.
EDIT: Also, it should be noted that this guy has some sort of criminal record for something similar, but not stalking. I haven't been told the details though, since that would be a massive breach of privacy.
If you're serious about this and not just playing some game with him then you need to tell him in no uncertain terms to go away. Nothing you've said about waiting sounds like anything more than an excuse not to deal with it. That's fine, you can make all the excuses you like, but until you tell him otherwise texting you is not illegal.
Anyways, if he doesn't contact me again then all is well and good. At the moment it hasn't gone too far, so I don't think it can do too much harm to leave it be for a day or two, if just to keep mother dearest happy, even if it's pretty clear they'll say exactly what's being said here. :?
is it more like
hey man what's up
or is it
what are you wearing
because he might not be being intentionally creepy
and it might not be this guy at all?
@Rane: Leaning towards option B, but not quite so blatant.
Anyways, not much I can do 'till he contacts me again. If he does then it's time to reconsider the situation.
Right now you're just causing the police extra trouble they don't need and can't really do anything about.
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It doesn't matter what your mom thinks, this is clearly messing with you, because you've gone to the police over it. Laying low and hoping it goes away is the reason thugs and creeps get to run people's lives.
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I mean you the best advice when I say that this is embarassing. Like it or not, you are going to have to learn to stand on your own at some point in life. Whether that point is now (as it should be) or when you're 65 and your ma kicks the bucket (as it most certainly should not be) is up to you. Start with the little things, because the big things are gonna floor you if you don't get some practice in.
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Wait... what would they call frontier justice in Europe? They never really had a frontier.
In all seriousness, good to hear you've not got any additional messages. He'll probably just assume you're not interested since you haven't replied back.
I'm kinda sensing there is quite a bit of untold story going on though, considering you have this man's business card, know where he lives, and he either got your mobile number or knew enough about you to find it. (In the US anyway) cell phone numbers aren't published, so if it's the same way in your country he would have either had to have gotten it from you, or socially engineered one of your friends or family members into giving it up.
I'm just thinking there might be a lesson in here somewhere about who you make contact with.
Good luck either way.
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Very true, but I think I'll leave it a mystery. :P
Oh well, still no messages, so all is well.
Take this a lesson in adulthood and how to communicate with other people in meaningful and effective ways.
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