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What do I do?(School/Future related)
Gear Girl
More class than a state universityRegistered User regular
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Here is my backstory. I am probably one of the worlds biggest losers right now. I am in a new city with no friends(and I've been here for months) attending a college taking general studies with random courses all of which I depise. After my graduation from highschool(I did very well in highschool by the way) I took a year off and just worked at a pizza place(which compared to now was a blast). Starting in 2005 I went to one school where I was planning to major in computer science but discovered I hated everything about the courses I took. I then moved to where I am now and am doing the crap I described above. I have to make a desicion for the fall intake about where I want to go and what I want to take and I've decided that this one has to be final or damn near final because I can't just keep hopping from nothing to nothing.
The most advice anyone can give me or that I can give myself is to just pick something but it really just feels like a roll of the dice..see what program it lands on..and I hate the thought of that. I try every day not to feel apathetic but it's very very hard for me to care anymore.
I have heard all the advice before. What are you interested in? What are you good at? ect. The thing is my only real interest is video games and I'm barely even knowlegable about that aspect of my life. I know almost nothing about almost nothing but that goes into another issue of my not having passion for anything. I don't even care enough to take the time to make myself more knowledgeable about things. Everyone I know considers me the guy who is into computers(but I probably know less then them about computers).
I should also add a few notes about myself for general character evaluation. I am overweight to an extent, not terribly but it's there. I am extremely anti-social(I went to a bar once...scared the hell out of me) but once I do make friends with someone or become familiar with them I open up a ton and can talk with them very buddy like it just takes me a whole lote more effort then most to get to this point. I live in Calgary currently but used to live in much smaller cities. I have been this way mostly since highschool(I was a fairly normal kid). My upbrining was fantastic. I love both my mother and father to death and they taught me everything a parent should however they are divorced and my dad doesn't really know I am in the situation I am in(he thinks I am doing ok school wise...I don't lie but I also don't tell him the negative things) My mother however knows everything and tries her very best to help me out of this. I am fairly certain I am not depressed because I don't feel all that bad, but at the same time I am never really truly happy. I may have good days where I feel alright but most of the time I would describe my mood as just being..content..I guess. Not content as in hey this is alright I think I'm doing ok but content as in this will do for today same as always I guess.
All of this is being typed at 6 in the morning after an entire night of sleepless anxiety so I apologize if it isn't very cohesive. Also I apologize for the probably terrible spelling. Any advice about any aspect of this jumble of text would be very appreciated. Resources I can use for self-discovery would be especially useful especially as it relates to career choice or major choice. Thankyou.
*special note* I am male, ignore my name it's my CoH character and Whippy refuses to change it because he enjoys my suffering. :P
The most advice anyone can give me or that I can give myself is to just pick something but it really just feels like a roll of the dice..see what program it lands on..and I hate the thought of that. I try every day not to feel apathetic but it's very very hard for me to care anymore.
I have heard all the advice before. What are you interested in? What are you good at? ect. The thing is my only real interest is video games and I'm barely even knowlegable about that aspect of my life. I know almost nothing about almost nothing but that goes into another issue of my not having passion for anything. I don't even care enough to take the time to make myself more knowledgeable about things. Everyone I know considers me the guy who is into computers(but I probably know less then them about computers).
I should also add a few notes about myself for general character evaluation. I am overweight to an extent, not terribly but it's there. I am extremely anti-social(I went to a bar once...scared the hell out of me) but once I do make friends with someone or become familiar with them I open up a ton and can talk with them very buddy like it just takes me a whole lote more effort then most to get to this point. I live in Calgary currently but used to live in much smaller cities. I have been this way mostly since highschool(I was a fairly normal kid). My upbrining was fantastic. I love both my mother and father to death and they taught me everything a parent should however they are divorced and my dad doesn't really know I am in the situation I am in(he thinks I am doing ok school wise...I don't lie but I also don't tell him the negative things) My mother however knows everything and tries her very best to help me out of this. I am fairly certain I am not depressed because I don't feel all that bad, but at the same time I am never really truly happy. I may have good days where I feel alright but most of the time I would describe my mood as just being..content..I guess. Not content as in hey this is alright I think I'm doing ok but content as in this will do for today same as always I guess.
All of this is being typed at 6 in the morning after an entire night of sleepless anxiety so I apologize if it isn't very cohesive. Also I apologize for the probably terrible spelling. Any advice about any aspect of this jumble of text would be very appreciated. Resources I can use for self-discovery would be especially useful especially as it relates to career choice or major choice. Thankyou.
*special note* I am male, ignore my name it's my CoH character and Whippy refuses to change it because he enjoys my suffering. :P
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MMO's are also great for when your feeling depressed. I know that the times i've been dumped i seem to take up an MMO (cough* WOW) for quite a few months.
I just reckon you have to make an effort to meet new people, as hard as it is for you. It's probably a case a trial and error, chances are you wont hit it off with the first person you see. But even so this might help you.
You say your in college now. Why not try having a few friendly conversations with differant classmates between lectures or something. You might find someone you really get along with.
Meeting new friends is hard and like you i have a lot of trouble doing it. That said staying friendless in this new town doesnt seem like a very good choice. If its only shyness holding you back i reckon you just need to bite the bullet and set yourself out there. If its self image your concerned about, then why don't you get motivated to work on that?
Sorry it's late here and thats the best i can do for now. Good luck
http://www.foreignlegionlife.com/
Also good:
Crew on an Alaskan fishing ship.
Work as a timber cutter in canada.
Move to a city on the other side of the country and work construction.
Do you have a career adviser? I know at most American colleges, they offer quite a bit career/major advice for students in your situation. You may try contacting the general education department and see if they offer anything to help you decide on a major. I know at my university, beyond an adviser they also offer a whole range of tests that are supposed to help you decide what would be the best fit for you.
However, one thing to keep in mind about depression is that it doesn't always result in people being sad or bawling their eyes out. Wikipedia has some decent run downs of depression and the various symptoms. You might want to have a look at some of the entries and see if you think they apply to you.
If nothing else, you've got a bit of social anxiety if going to a bar scared you. That doesn't mean you have to like bars or nightclubs, I don't, but I can go in one without getting freaked.
You should consider talking to a counsellor, your college probably provides some sort of counselling services. I'm sure they have many students with some of the same uncertainness about their future as you come in. Most colleges or universities will have some sort of career counselling as well, through the Student Employment Centre.
I'd strongly recommend you get into doing some regular exercise if you don't already. It will help you with the weight you mention and will boost your mood and self-esteem.
I'd also look into various clubs and societies at your college and try going to meetings. Its a good way to meet people outside of the bar/drinking scene thats a big feature of college life, and its a way to expose yourself (no, not like that) to other parts of life that might interest you.
A good book on finding what you like to do is "What Color Is your Parachute?"
Turning this thread in a different direction. The excersize I find most enjoyable is outside but it is farrrr to cold for that at this time of year. What are some good alternatives that may be different then just going to a gym, just so I can have some variety.
get a workout bike, you can watch anime/simpsons/movies while getting some cardio in.
That way you're getting exercise and meeting people. Good times?
I got one at walmart cheap like 80-100 bucks for the crappiest one. It has a calorie counter on it, miles, speed etc. it does the job. me and my wife both use it.
EDIT:
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5230711
this one is very similar to the one I use.
Anyways...., I would like to add that you could consider getting a dog. They're not like real friends, but they can keep you fit and force you to go outside.