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Emotionally reclusive...should I be worried?

billwillbillwill Registered User regular
edited February 2010 in Help / Advice Forum
I like to help other people solve their problems, but I don't go to others for help. If I have a problem at work or school, I just solve it and keep it inside...not intentionally, mind you, but I do it nonetheless. I feel extremely awkward talking about my own personal issues (I have a hard time making eye contact, my cheeks flush, etc). I haven't cried in approximately five years, not because of some perverted view of what a man is, but because I just haven't felt the need to.

My mother tells me that I bottle it up and that one day it is all going to come out, perhaps in a violent way, but I honestly don't feel that way.

Should I try to fix this? Find a confidant? Or are some people just like this?

I mean, I don't think its adversely affecting other parts of my life. I like to think that I have a solid grasp on social interactions, and am proud to say that many of my friends rely on me for advice.

Also, and this is completely unrelated but not warranting its own thread, I like to write, but I don't think I'm very good at it. I write short stories, and after a few days, sometimes even hours, I look back at what I have written with disgust. I am my harshest critic. Are there any writing workshops that you might be able to recommend? Or maybe even just advice based off what you have seen in this post that could use improvement. Really, anything would be appreciated.

Thanks.

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  • SliderSlider Registered User regular
    edited February 2010
    Hahahaha, my family says the same thing, except I actually have blown up a few times. It's pretty ugly.

    Anyway. You're an INFJ. Look it up.

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  • EvanderEvander Disappointed Father Registered User regular
    edited February 2010
    The fact that you're asking suggests that you don't LIKE being the way you are.

    so go find a confidant, and if you find that you don't like it, then stop confiding. Can't hurt to try.

    And there is a writing forum here, if you want to get some opinions on your stuff

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  • nukanuka What are circles? Registered User regular
    edited February 2010
    If you can't find someone to talk to, write down your thoughts on a piece of paper. Helps practice your writing skills too!

    Then stick it in the shredder or something. I'd suggest burning it too, but you really shouldn't do that unless you have something like a fireplace.

    I do however suggest that the next time you throw a party, take those bits of paper from the shredder and make a pinata of your troubles.

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  • CelestialBadgerCelestialBadger Registered User regular
    edited February 2010
    No shame in being an introvert. Extroverts don't understand introverts. They think that introverts are actually extroverts all bottled up in some sort of over-packed suitcase of emotion, and it's all going to burst out of the seams sooner or later. In actual fact, most introverts just like the quiet life.

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