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Parking + Property question
Beltaine
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So, here's my house.
I'd like to show you the whole thing but my neighbor has recently decided that his shit belongs parked in front of my house.
I can no longer get to my mailbox via my car, it's on the verge of blocking the fire hydrant, and it's just fucking annoying to have someone else's shit parked in front my house. Especially since he obviously has plenty of room in his own driveway for his shit.
I've never spoken to, or been spoken to by this neighbor. Best I can tell, my neighbor is a single mother and whoever the latest boyfriend is is the one doing the parking.
I don't want to be _that_ neighbor and get into a big ordeal by saying something to them personally. I had hoped it was just a temporary thing, but it obviously is not. It's a public street, so is there anything I can do about it anyway?
I'd like to show you the whole thing but my neighbor has recently decided that his shit belongs parked in front of my house.
I can no longer get to my mailbox via my car, it's on the verge of blocking the fire hydrant, and it's just fucking annoying to have someone else's shit parked in front my house. Especially since he obviously has plenty of room in his own driveway for his shit.
I've never spoken to, or been spoken to by this neighbor. Best I can tell, my neighbor is a single mother and whoever the latest boyfriend is is the one doing the parking.
I don't want to be _that_ neighbor and get into a big ordeal by saying something to them personally. I had hoped it was just a temporary thing, but it obviously is not. It's a public street, so is there anything I can do about it anyway?
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General consensus seemed to be that it was a public street, people could park wherever they wanted, and you should just try talking to your neighbor.
My mom/stepdad are having this problem right now with people that just moved into their neighborhood, actually. They seem to want to park in front of everyone's house but theirs. Funny stories have resulted.
I mean, there is nothing that can be truly legally enforced (nobody appears to have a handicap parking spot), but parking in front of other people's houses when you have the room to park in front of the one you are going into is considered bad etiquette.
In the mean time, start parking infront of their mailbox. :P
PSN: Beltaine-77 | Steam: beltane77 | Battle.net BadHaggis#1433
Silly goose. Stop being passive aggressive and just walk over there and ask them nicely to not park in front of your mailbox. Other than that, there's nothing you can do.
EDIT: If you try to involve the law somehow, it's going to be VERY obvious who did it and you're just going to have pissy neighbors across the street. How is that any better?
PSN: Beltaine-77 | Steam: beltane77 | Battle.net BadHaggis#1433
Ok, well, go make your neighbors really upset with you. It's your life.
EDIT: The only reason to get the law involved is if you've exhausted all other options or there's a possibility of endangerment. Neither of these is the case. You're going to come off as a complete silly goose (and not in a funny way) to your neighbors if you can't muster some backbone and go talk to them.
Seriously, what has the world come to?
DOUBLE EDIT: Wait, rereading the OP, he's not actually blocking anything. You can still get to your mailbox (just not from your car?) and he's "ALMOST" blocking the fire hydrant? I could see saying something if he was somehow preventing you from doing something, but he's not. He's just parking on a public street.
Anyway, it's a vehicle that's suddenly parked in front of your house, you have an idea who's it is but you're not really sure. All you need to do is go say to the neighbor: "Hey, hi, I'm [name], I live next door. I don't mean to introduce myself over this, but do you know who's truck that is in front of my house? It just showed up one day and I'm not really sure who's it is?" She says "it's my boyfriends" and you say "Oh, oh good, I was worried it was sketchy or something. That's a relief. Hey, could you ask him to park a little further from my mailbox? I tend to drive up to it to get my mail and I can't do that anymore. I feel bad asking but it is kind of a pain to come back out to get the mail after I get home."
Thing is, since you've never really met the neighbor you don't know if she's a royal bitch or a nice person. Some people get offended if you ask anything of them -- others are very accommodating.
6 years later, my dad still hates them for this reason. So yeah, don't get anyone else involved unless you can't reason with them.
"Hey, I can't get to my mailbox, could you not park it in front of it?" Its that easy.
Subsequently, your front door looks about a whole 30 feet from your mailbox, so walking is always an option.
However, being able to drive past your mailbox and grab your mail when, say, on the way home from work is convenient, and having somebody arbitrarily blocking it is annoying.
Having double checked the picture, his area also lacks sidewalks.
So him getting asked to move it will be better than the mailman having it towed for blocking him from easily driving up and leaving the mail..
I'm baffled. Why is that even a concern?
There's not much to go on it terms of the general layout of the street, driveways, junctions etc. but from what I can see of those photos that car is parked very considerately. No where near the driveways I can see, plenty of clearance from the fire hydrant (what's the legal minimum distance you can park away from a fire hydrant?) and even a respectable distance from the mailbox (I presume that's your box to the left of the car). I mean, from your photographic evidence it actually looks like he's been very careful to find a place to park which avoids obstructing anything on the street.
Note the gigantic space in the driveway and in front of her house in which to park his car.
But it also looks like the same situation that I was in before I moved out - our house was the only one on the block without a driveway, and nobody apparently wanted to actually use their driveways, and all park in the street.
yeah this is truth
I can understand and respect not wishing to stack cars in a driveway and having to shuffle the deck every time someone needed to leave, especially when there's a huge empty street with ample parking.
However, if what Iceman is saying is true, then I guess that might be a problem. A problem with the slovenly work culture of the USPS, but a problem which will affect the OP nonetheless.
I mean, there's a reason that they cut across yards to your next door neighbor when delivering mail. It's not because they are lazy, it's for time effectiveness.
Indeed, at least in my part of the country this is true. If your mailbox is blocked, in disrepair, on insufficiently cleared (brush, snow, bees, etc) the mail carrier won't even stop. It's only gotten worse with the privatization of the USPS.
what the heck. mail carriers get out of the truck/van to deliver mail all the time.
OP don't post in this thread again until you talk to the neighbor. if neighbor isn't accommodating then you can come back and ask for help in contacting the postmaster general or whatever.
And yes, in the afternoons, I get the mail on my way home from work. This probably also explains why I haven't gotten mail some days recently.
The next day it's there that is an actual postal day, (Doesn't run on Sunday) I'll go knock on the door.
PSN: Beltaine-77 | Steam: beltane77 | Battle.net BadHaggis#1433
I was thinking that, in some places you have to be up to 15 feet away.
Obviously talk to the guy first, though.
Yeah it's 5 metres in Canada. Talking would be best. Who knows, they might just move it without a hassle.
Who parks across from a T intersection? That's an awful idea to begin with.
Illegal or not, he just needs to go speak with his neighbors, not get the law involved. o_O Stop encouraging him.
That's true, yeah.
I witnessed someone slide on ice at a T intersection once and t-bone a Camaro parked in a similar spot. It knocked the Camaro over the curb and about 3 feet into the yard. That's what happens when an inexperienced driver drives on ice the first time.
no, it is a public street, i will park where i damn well please! what makes this worse is that for years we just had the one vehicle, and these neighbors and all the others would commonly park in front of my house and other's houses, and even in some people's driveways without permission[/].
when all spaces are full, we park near the entrance of our neighborhood and walk over, as is normal, but these people would trap my boyfriend's car in by parking so close to the back of his car that he can't move, and they were covering their own driveway 80%.
so what i am saying is be careful, if you go over there acting like an entitled little so-and-so over parking on a public street, you'll come across as an asshole and your neighbors will be bitter forever. you do have a bit more clout to complain than my neighbor's did though, the car is directly in front of your home, they don't use their own spaces and such.
though, you know, he may simply be driving to the end of the dead end, looping around, and stopping at the first viable parking space.
now, what i would do is park your car in front of their house, always. but i am the kind of person who would get a sick pleasure out of doing that, so it probably shouldn't be actually considered.
yeah i would too, but that neighbor is a very nice meek woman and they knew they could abuse her like that. she finally went over and asked them not to, and they acted all flustered as though she was making an unusual request.
parking in my neighborhood is also tight, and a lot of my neighbors just have no manners at all. the newish neighbors next to us repeatedly parking in front of our driveway, blocking our cars in. we had to go ask them to stop, but they would still do it periodically until once they did it late at night/early morning. my mom goes to the gym at 3am, and so their house got woken up at 3am so they could move their damn car.
it had been a friend's car, and they thought they could just move it in the morning, blah blah blah.
so Op, just keep in mind that you most likely don't want to make enemies of your neighbors.
There is a great difference between parking on someone's verge and parking in front of their driveway.
To the OP confrontation can be scary! But suck it up, it will help you far greater in the long run just to nut up and talk to your damn neighbours, because getting the police involved if all it took was to talk to them would be fucking ridiculous.
Satans..... hints.....
I was replying to Belruel.
Of course calling the cops at this stage would be uncalled for, especially since knocking on the door and saying "Hey, the mailman yelled at me for having a truck in front of my mailbox, can you guys park it somewhere else? Thanks" would probably do the trick.
But it does look like he's tried to park considerately. I'd go talk to the guy. Maybe even take the tact of a concerned neighbour who doesn't want to see his neighbour's car get towed. Without making it sound like a veiled threat of course.