To Skronk or Not To Skronk...

SkronkingDonkey

That is the question...


well in more detail, the skinny on my moral delima goes as such...


A few years back I met a girl, she was nice, cute, we screwed around a bit... but thats where it left off.
A little while late she starts dating a guy I didn't know, but he and I became pretty good friends, I even got him into WoW. A few years after they start dating, and living together they split up and move apart. A mutual breakup however, they're both doing pretty well with it, moving on fine and the whole thing.

However now she's reeeeally wanting to see if the Ol' Donkey has some Skronk left.... (we never actually slept together before) but she's getting downright dirty with me on the phone....

Normally I'm the king of relationship advice, and I know my now friend would verbally be like 'yeah, i don't really care'... but hrm... any input?

Grimm

You probably shouldnt. At the least talk it over with your friend. Do not try to do this behind his back.

Endomatic

If this friend of yours is seriously a good friend, then you should probably ask him.

Since you don't seem to be so infatuated with her, and are probably more lustful, it's not really much of a problem right?

It's not like you've been wanting her all along.

If they had a lengthy relationship, and you got it on with her, and he some how found out, your friendship would be over, and you may even have to be looking over your shoulder.

She may even use it as leverage against him if she really wanted to.

Tread carefully whatever you decide.

Deusfaux

if you value your relationship with your friend at all, you wont do it

WeeSneak

I hate to sound like im joking but Bros Before Hos comes to mind. Theres probably something behind all this, i mean, if she really liked you that much would she have got so serious with that other guy in the first place?

SkronkingDonkey

yeah it's pretty much pure sex she's looking for... and I'd reeeeeally like to give it to her... haha. hrm...

Bendery It Like Beckham

If they are both fine with the breakup what does it matter?

Not trying to be a douche or anything but if it was a mutual breakup then it really shouldn't be a problem.

She doesn't expect him not to go out and bone around does she?

Sarcastro

I'd ask yourself how many times you see this guy on a usual basis. If you knuckle up everyday, then no. If you meet up once a week, then maybe, but let him know. If you raid once a month together and spend no actual facetime, then go do whatever and wait for him to bring it up.

Switters

Even if you're sure that he wouldn't care, make the effort to find out. "Bro's before Ho's" doesn't always mean something. Just know where you stand, and where her ex stands before you proceed.

And, like above post, be careful that it isn't just to get back at your friend.

romanqwerty

Yeah i also reckon you should speak to him about it. Even if you do it in a way that he can't say no, it will still look like you put him first.

Grimm

Bendery wrote:

If they are both fine with the breakup what does it matter?

Not trying to be a douche or anything but if it was a mutual breakup then it really shouldn't be a problem.

She doesn't expect him not to go out and bone around does she?

That doesn't always mean the guy is over her. He might still have feelings for her, they just didn't work out together. I still had feelings for an ex of mine for awhile after we both decide to end it. She was a great girl but we both knew it wasn't working. Its completely different to see her with a total stranger then to see her with a friend. I don't know the details of their break up here, but its possible that it could really piss the friend off.

SkronkingDonkey

Maybe I'll wait... he's been dating online in the last week, so once he starts getting laid I might do something... hrm... damn you morals! lol.

Raziel078

Man Law

You have to ask him his permission. And he has to abide by what he says, if he doesn't want you to he has to say so. You aren't dating so you don't have to mysteriously divine his true intentions. Just so you are both clear tell him you are going by what he says, not by what you think he means.

He really isn't allowed to say no unless he was in love and she broke his heart, in which case she broke up with you too.

If he says no for any other reason than love, you get full licence to call him a pussy for the next 2 months.

If he says yes he is fully allowed to tell you hilarious stories about the time he crapped on her chest right after the first time you have sex with her.

an_alt

I was going to point out that this situation already has a formalized solution, but Raziel078 beat me to it. He's absolutely right.

Raziel078

word son

kingmetal

basically the man law thing is what I was going to say. just be sure you talk to him about it, it's more of a respect thing than anything else.

Marravica

How long has it been since the break-up? There's usually a courtesy period that needs to be observed by both parties and any friends of either.

Yeah, you do need to ask him first too. Real men don't stab their brothers in the back like that.

SkronkingDonkey

They've been apart for something like 5 months... not too long in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah, I guess I'll play by the rules lol, I'd been planning on that route anyway, but it's been getting harder and needed some more reasons not to go through with it.. she's sending me pics and video.. of the EXTREMELY solo-porn type on her part... lol.

Thanks for all the re-assurances