I was watching 'pointless' today on BBC Two. My first thought when I saw the winning contestants: wouldn't be surprised if they posted on the Penny Arcade forums.
I am watching the opening bit. Let me guess, the tall skinny awkward ones and then one with a stupid hat a beard?
My brother (also my DM) wears fedoras and manages to look suave as fuck. He also dresses well and has good hygiene and is in pretty good shape, though.
i kept thinking "i have friends who play D&D, and even though we can't play on a regular basis because of work/kids and other real life commitments, i still don't need to slumming with you troglodytes"
<--- I live in NY. NY is a horrible place for nerds. There are none of us here, we are some kind of endangered species. It's like a cesspool for my interests, and if you attempt to approach random people and interact with them, they just shut you down. My circle of freinds really isn't into the things i'm into. They are good people, but I just don't have the connection with them that i could have if we shared interests.
Don't even get me started on finding a significant other, either. It has been a sad, sad journey.
I have tried Meetup, Geek2Geek, Facebook, Myspace, etc..and nothing. I am tired of being an outcast, and seem to be seriously unlucky when meeting people into...the things posted on this forum, pretty much.
Is NY just a barren stretch of singular nerdom? What types of stories do you have where your interests have gotten you into similar trouble making and influencing freinds? How many of you feel singled out due to social awkwardness because of this? Discuss.
No nerds in New York?
I live in Georgia
heh
I dunno, I've always taken it as a given there will be some things I like that no one else will particularly care to hear about. No one I know really cares about internet or video game things, or if they do they do it all wrong, but that's not really so bad. Hopefully you can interact with the people you know based on the other things you have in common.
The things that there are nobody for in real life I just post at the people here.
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My brother (also my DM) wears fedoras and manages to look suave as fuck. He also dresses well and has good hygiene and is in pretty good shape, though.
i kept thinking "i have friends who play D&D, and even though we can't play on a regular basis because of work/kids and other real life commitments, i still don't need to slumming with you troglodytes"
that's what it felt like!
social slumming!
i felt like i was so starved for playing some dungeons & dragons with real people at a real tabletop that i was willing to endure a bunch of honking manchildren with greasy ponytails quoting monty python all the time
i was like "man i just want to play the game and my friends who i used to play with are all in another city, who cares that these guys smell like cheetos and virginity, i just wanna roll some dice"
but it was too much
too much
after like three weeks i bailed mid-game and never looked back
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FandyienBut Otto, what about us? Registered Userregular
edited October 2010
Who else here has gotten hopped up on cocaine and played some motherfuckin' darwin's world
My brother (also my DM) wears fedoras and manages to look suave as fuck. He also dresses well and has good hygiene and is in pretty good shape, though.
i kept thinking "i have friends who play D&D, and even though we can't play on a regular basis because of work/kids and other real life commitments, i still don't need to slumming with you troglodytes"
that's what it felt like!
social slumming!
i felt like i was so starved for playing some dungeons & dragons with real people at a real tabletop that i was willing to endure a bunch of honking manchildren with greasy ponytails quoting monty python all the time
i was like "man i just want to play the game and my friends who i used to play with are all in another city, who cares that these guys smell like cheetos and virginity, i just wanna roll some dice"
but it was too much
too much
after like three weeks i bailed mid-game and never looked back
I was mostly laughing because you called them troglodytes and that just makes SUCH a good nerd insult (anyone who knows what those are would understand why).
I can't imagine playing with a group like that, though. I've always had non-stereotypical D&D groups, in which most of the members had many other interests and were socially and hygienically proficient. They were also HUUUUUUUGE nerds, but not the morbidly obese/rail thin greasy cheeto-fingered neckbeard variety.
How old are you? Are you old enough to go to bars, drive, or take the train on your own?
You live in New York for Christ's sake, and you're complaining that there's nothing for you to do? I don't know NY geography that well, but how hard would it be to drive or take a train into the city from Long Island?
More importantly, perhaps you should try to branch out, meeting people who don't share many, or any, of your interests. You might be surprised to learn that people who are into art, music, or, God forbid, sports, aren't necessarily terrible human beings!
When I was in college, I went through this big "US GAMERS" phase, and got it into my head that I should only hang out with people who shared my interests. I met most of these people through a roommate who was slightly nerdier than me, but pretty well-adjusted.
These people he knew, though. Jesus. I realized I could only talk about video games and anime for so long. I realized pretty quick that if I tried to bring up movies, current events, politics, or suggest doing something outdoors, I'd be met with blank stares. I didn't dislike these people, they were decent enough human beings. But they were just so boring.
Stop using your hobbies as the primary source of your identity.
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FandyienBut Otto, what about us? Registered Userregular
edited October 2010
I feel fine at frat parties, i feel fine at the hobby store, i feel fine at anime conventions
isn't life easy when you're not overthinking stuff?
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Viscount Islands[INSERT SoKo HERE]...it was the summer of my lifeRegistered Userregular
edited October 2010
That's why Penny Arcade is the best.
We're the cool kids + the nerds.
Or so we tell ourselves.
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I want to do with you
What spring does with the cherry trees.
i don't have the glaring social problems, anxieties, and life failures
I could easily say that I have all of these traits, and yet am able to hold a rational social discourse like a normal person.
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Jacques L'HommeBAH! He was a rank amateur compared to, DR. COLOSSUS!Registered Userregular
edited October 2010
Wisconsin is fertile grounds for young nerdery. Mostly everyone here does nerdy this or nerdy that, so I never really grew up knowing I was such a social deviant.
Wisconsin is fertile grounds for young nerdery. Mostly everyone here does nerdy this or nerdy that, so I never really grew up knowing I was such a social deviant.
Oh man, don't you guys have some awesome ren faire action up there?
Wisconsin is fertile grounds for young nerdery. Mostly everyone here does nerdy this or nerdy that, so I never really grew up knowing I was such a social deviant.
Well at least you know now.
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Wisconsin is fertile grounds for young nerdery. Mostly everyone here does nerdy this or nerdy that, so I never really grew up knowing I was such a social deviant.
The unsettling sexual predilections never cued you in?
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StraightziHere we may reign secure, and in my choice,To reign is worth ambition though in HellRegistered Userregular
edited October 2010
One of my closest friends is an attractive single female nerd living in New York City.
I'm gonna tell her about you.
Just in case she would have made the mistake of thinking you were a good idea.
Wisconsin is fertile grounds for young nerdery. Mostly everyone here does nerdy this or nerdy that, so I never really grew up knowing I was such a social deviant.
i don't have the glaring social problems, anxieties, and life failures
I could easily say that I have all of these traits, and yet am able to hold a rational social discourse like a normal person.
so it's fair to assume you have coping mechanisms and methods of dealing with these issues, and you recognize that they are problems and are receiving help or otherwise doing something about them?
because that's cool
the problem is when people who have these problems don't do these things
i can't be around people who are their own problem anymore
drug addicts, alcoholics, people with the brain-crazies who do nothing to help themselves, manchildren who refuse to grow up, etc.
these people are their own problems. a person doesn't even need to be succeeding all the time at their attempts to help themselves in order for me not to find them intolerable
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my point is it's lame to be afraid of committing fashion crimes
i literally idolize this man
pfft you aren't allowed to be disappointed in me
i have become more embittered and less tolerant of social failures
people who are their own problems and refuse to do anything about it
i have become less and less accommodating of these people in my life
i can't hang around underdeveloped manchildren neckbeards anymore, not even to just play M:tG with
i am an adult who would like to socialize with other adults, thank you
That's strange, because everyone I knew in college that wore fedoras were pretentious douchebags.
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only two kinds of people are allowed to wear fedoras
detectives
and archaeology majors
i never get tired of it
How did you guess....:P
That female is attacking him. TO ARMS!
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those hobbies are great in all, in fact i am sure i've done all of them at one point or another in my life
but don't let them distract you from social interaction
yes, you may have a raid tonight
and yes, if you go out and try to talk to people you will likely just end up bored/shutdown/whatever
but look at it this way
lets say your night of playing video games alone WENT AS GOOD AS IT COULD CONCEIVABLY GO
you would get a higher gamer score
now, if your night of being out WENT AS GOOD AS IT COULD POSSIBLY GO
you'd probably make some life long friends
which is more important?
BOOM, now i'm going dancing bitches. gonna try and talk to some people and live up to my advice. laters
love dis
and also i have been to a competitive brawl tournament so i guess i cannot laugh too much
what if I am an archaelogy detective
gonna shake down some hoodlums to find out what really happened to the Incans
No nerds in New York?
I live in Georgia
heh
I dunno, I've always taken it as a given there will be some things I like that no one else will particularly care to hear about. No one I know really cares about internet or video game things, or if they do they do it all wrong, but that's not really so bad. Hopefully you can interact with the people you know based on the other things you have in common.
The things that there are nobody for in real life I just post at the people here.
I'd throw him a pokeball or a bat but they turn them off in tournament play.
then you must wear two fedoras, one perched on top of the other at a rakish angle
brawl? yuck
8-)
I competed in a pokemon card tournament
I was in the anime club in high school
I have programmed my own video games out of pure boredom
my room is filled with video game mags and comics
My laptop runs linux
who wants to touch my neckbeard
Uh-oh I accidentally deleted my signature. Uh-oh!!
that's what it felt like!
social slumming!
i felt like i was so starved for playing some dungeons & dragons with real people at a real tabletop that i was willing to endure a bunch of honking manchildren with greasy ponytails quoting monty python all the time
i was like "man i just want to play the game and my friends who i used to play with are all in another city, who cares that these guys smell like cheetos and virginity, i just wanna roll some dice"
but it was too much
too much
after like three weeks i bailed mid-game and never looked back
not because i am not a nerd
i totally am
but because i don't have the glaring social problems, anxieties, and life failures that a huge amount of people in those communities have
we literally just share hobbies, and that's all that is similar about us
the most ostracized i have ever felt in my life was going to a Star Trek convention
so alone
I was mostly laughing because you called them troglodytes and that just makes SUCH a good nerd insult (anyone who knows what those are would understand why).
I can't imagine playing with a group like that, though. I've always had non-stereotypical D&D groups, in which most of the members had many other interests and were socially and hygienically proficient. They were also HUUUUUUUGE nerds, but not the morbidly obese/rail thin greasy cheeto-fingered neckbeard variety.
You live in New York for Christ's sake, and you're complaining that there's nothing for you to do? I don't know NY geography that well, but how hard would it be to drive or take a train into the city from Long Island?
More importantly, perhaps you should try to branch out, meeting people who don't share many, or any, of your interests. You might be surprised to learn that people who are into art, music, or, God forbid, sports, aren't necessarily terrible human beings!
When I was in college, I went through this big "US GAMERS" phase, and got it into my head that I should only hang out with people who shared my interests. I met most of these people through a roommate who was slightly nerdier than me, but pretty well-adjusted.
These people he knew, though. Jesus. I realized I could only talk about video games and anime for so long. I realized pretty quick that if I tried to bring up movies, current events, politics, or suggest doing something outdoors, I'd be met with blank stares. I didn't dislike these people, they were decent enough human beings. But they were just so boring.
Stop using your hobbies as the primary source of your identity.
isn't life easy when you're not overthinking stuff?
We're the cool kids + the nerds.
Or so we tell ourselves.
What spring does with the cherry trees.
I could easily say that I have all of these traits, and yet am able to hold a rational social discourse like a normal person.
Oh man, don't you guys have some awesome ren faire action up there?
Well at least you know now.
The unsettling sexual predilections never cued you in?
I'm gonna tell her about you.
Just in case she would have made the mistake of thinking you were a good idea.
I knew you weren't really French.
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so it's fair to assume you have coping mechanisms and methods of dealing with these issues, and you recognize that they are problems and are receiving help or otherwise doing something about them?
because that's cool
the problem is when people who have these problems don't do these things
i can't be around people who are their own problem anymore
drug addicts, alcoholics, people with the brain-crazies who do nothing to help themselves, manchildren who refuse to grow up, etc.
these people are their own problems. a person doesn't even need to be succeeding all the time at their attempts to help themselves in order for me not to find them intolerable
but they have to try
i think you're covered in the not having 'glaring social problems' bit
I mean other than drinking in public and eating a big turkey leg
I ain't see the point
I could do that anywhere
We're mad at ourselves.
What spring does with the cherry trees.