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I had my first bad blowjob last night. I'll say that it definitely put a damper on things.
Also...she wanted to continue kissing after trying.D:
Well
1) She failed
2) She had her cock in my mouth
....what?
omg..i'm drunk or an idiot. lmfao. She had my cock in HER mouth
ahaaha ohmygod
I'm not going to argue it. But, imo, that's not cool with me.
Or give her time/space?
Address that sexual hangup because it is completely some weird thing in your brain. If someone kissed your stomach and then tried to kiss you, would you flip out? Penises are not soaked in weird juices. Mine isn't at least.
If you came in her mouth and she wanted to makeout with you, I guess you could ask her to brush her teeth if you felt that strongly. I'd assume getting a BJ would override those feelings.
You guys all go down on women if they're cool with it, right? 'cause I'm sensing negativity.
edit: This thread needs more Dan Savage.
there are women that arent cool with being gone down on? i mean that havent had that done before?
A lot of women do though.
Honestly, I prefer those that don't because it isn't my strongest suit, but whatever.
I think the main thing is the double standard here. Its ok to fill HER mouth with your manjunk, but not for YOU to touch it by proxy?
On the other hand, if you didn't like it all that much in the first place, don't go there again?
All the time, mostly because 69 is like, the best thing ever. Go until both of your jaws feel broken and than spin the girl around and have her ride!
Ehem. I'm also a gentleman, and rarely speak about sexual things in public context. *cough*
personally, i don't really like it, and don't need it to get off. it's sort of boring and i just want to get to the goddamn main event already. i max out at around 10 minutes of foreplay personally.
Yeah, exactly my experience for 3+ years so... cool. "The Main Event" should be how we refer to sex at all times we don't need to be super specific.
Are you trying to call yourself Captain Impotent? The show must go on.
edit: I can't do enough of these after that post
This...this made me laugh. A lot.
But seriously though.....unless she is snowballing you (ewww) whats the big deal. Theres worse things living in her mouth than whats on your penis. Get over it and appreciate the fact that shes in to giving you oral.
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Getting pretty bored of her
No bueno, mein compadre (like that? yeah, that's two different languages I didn't learn).
Don't be the next pointless free meal. Or, actually, maybe you're The Guy. Who knows, right.
EDIT: Some severely beautiful young lady on OkC apparently thinks I'm kinda rad. Unfortunately she's about 400 miles away. Been chatting to her a tad bit. Kinda awesome, kinda not so much.
The thing about this type of reasoning is at what point do you draw the line? Your penis has been in her mouth so now you are completely unable to kiss her? Or do you have to wait for her to brush her teeth? What if she does a mediocre job and there's still some, I don't know, whatever you're not cool with, still in there? Or does it fade over a set amount of time?
It's not really a big deal except, as you noted, if she tries to kiss you because *she* doesn't think it's a big deal and you have to, rather obviously, avoid the kiss.
Ultimately what those other people think doesn't matter -- either you two are a couple or you're not. If you're taking it slow and are still essentially "friends with potential" then I see no reason why you couldn't go on a date with someone else. Unless you've spoken with her about it being an exclusive relationship, of course, but it sounds like the only things you've said regarding your "status" were her saying "I just came out of a relationship and want to take it slow" and you saying "s'cool."
Oh. Oh God. Oh...man. Ugh.
Thought I'd pop in here real quick.
1. If there is any guy that is ok with getting a blowjob but is not willing to reciprocate to a woman, then you suck at life. You'd better repay that if she asks for it.
2. If you have a problem with kissing a girl on the mouth after she's tongued your balls or whatever, then you suck at life. A penis is just skin. Kiss the girl and thank her. I go down on my lady all the time. I get up, wipe my mouth off with a tissue (:P) and I give her a big kiss because it makes her feel wanted and because I happen to like her. If you can't do the same for her, guess what? You suck at life.
That is literally never an issue.
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Mostly I just want a nap.
During my last relationship, both of us grew as persons. But she got the better part of the deal: I shaped her into an all-around more interesting, sophisticated young woman, taught her how to drive, took her to various plays, showed her interesting movies and music and so forth. Actually, half the stuff she lists on her various profiles is something I showed her.
What did I get? I learned sex (somewhat) and cooking/housekeeping. The latter is apparently pretty rare among young men but it doesn't make me more desirable in the slightest. So I pretty much got ripped off in this deal, IF one wants to interpret the relationship this way. Which is not a good way to look at it. Still depressing though.
And Disney World is nowhere in sight.
So true.
And I really don't get the squeemishness about oral sex (regardless of gender of recipient). Aren't pussies hot (or cocks, as appropriate)? Don't they want to explore? Where's their sense of adventure?!?
Are you feeling adventurous, looking for something different and potentially exciting, but with a little risk as well? Or are you looking for something comfortable and relaxing?
If you just want a nap it sounds like you'd have more fun with your buds.
If you don't know how to sell yourself with cooking, you're doing it wrong. Now, I'm a good cook, but I also know that there's a difference between how these two dishes are presented:
Fried shrimp and broccoli
Pan sautéed shrimp from Belize in a light spicy lime sauce with a side of steamed fresh broccoli, paired with a grenache rosé from Spain.
The first sounds like you ordered chinese food, while the second sounds like I'd want to eat at your place. They're the same dish, though. And yes, it impresses friends when I talk about "sautéed split brussels sprouts splashed with rum, dark rum, to emphasize their natural sweetness" or how "the key to a good balsamic vinegar is to pour some in a teaspoon and drink it -- if it's palatable by itself, it will enhance the dish significantly."
But c'mon, I think cooking is one trait that everyone is impressed by in a potential mate. Just do it well, and figure out how to embellish what you're cooking. And if you're not embellishing, or you're cooking boring bachelor meals, well, you're single — spend some time learning to flash it up a bit.
And Disney World is nowhere in sight.
That's more impressive than a list of auteurs that the person either knows or doesn't, in my opinion. Embrace your new skills, man!
Lesson: date someone interesting next time. Maybe a chainsaw juggler or girl who rides a tiger. Avoid prostitutes and chefs.
At least you seemed to know the attitude of that post was self defeating and generally dumb anyway. You taught her to drive and showed her cool movies/music/plays, you didn't hold etiquette classes to make her "an all-around more interesting, sophisticated young woman". Or if you did, maybe you could present her with an invoice for services. Explain you had hoped for a trade but didn't gain an appreciable positive modifier to your interesting person quotient.
So no more moping!
edit: Eggy and I are really good cop / bad cop ing this up. Neat. Want to go syndicated, Eggy?
weird world
However, she's getting messages and dates. I am not.
But let's be honest here: I'm probably just a little pissed because she is seeing some action. Even the type that leads to nothing in the end is better than none at all.
And Disney World is nowhere in sight.
How does EggCastle Inc sound?
I hate to break it to you, but it's unlikely that the text in her profile is what's causing her to get more responses.