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How do I tactfully keep this guy from putting his scissors through my hair?
Drez
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Okay so here's the story.
I live across the street from a hair salon/barbershop owned and run by two women, who thus far have done an amazing job cutting my hair.
They also have another woman employed - who has done an excellent job on my hair as well - and a guy - who has fucked my hair up twice.
Is there some tactful way to say "nuh huh, fuck off, I want her"? Or what? At this point I've been there like six or so times and I don't even know if they take phone appointments for a particular haircutter.
But when I go there and the guy says "hey, how are you, come take a seat" I die a little inside. I get this vision of me taking $13 out of my wallet and setting it on fire, and then subsequently setting my hair on fire as well: in the end, I am a mad, raving, broke man with head aflame. In my vision. Or after this guy cuts my hair. Minus the fire, the vision isn't too much different from reality.
Help.
I live across the street from a hair salon/barbershop owned and run by two women, who thus far have done an amazing job cutting my hair.
They also have another woman employed - who has done an excellent job on my hair as well - and a guy - who has fucked my hair up twice.
Is there some tactful way to say "nuh huh, fuck off, I want her"? Or what? At this point I've been there like six or so times and I don't even know if they take phone appointments for a particular haircutter.
But when I go there and the guy says "hey, how are you, come take a seat" I die a little inside. I get this vision of me taking $13 out of my wallet and setting it on fire, and then subsequently setting my hair on fire as well: in the end, I am a mad, raving, broke man with head aflame. In my vision. Or after this guy cuts my hair. Minus the fire, the vision isn't too much different from reality.
Help.
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Call them and find out.
Yeah, that's kind of how it is.
Also, I think the guy might be the owner's boyfriend or something. Maybe not, but I got that impression. I don't want to insult him. And really any of the women will do, so it's not like I actually want a specific barber, I just specifically don't want him.
I told him. What I told him - specifically - today is not what I got. I didn't complain because I didn't want to be a bitch about it.
It sounds more convenient than it is. They are only open past 6PM on Fridays, and Friday night is "I go out right after work night."
It is physically impossible for me to get home at or before 6PM on any other day.
And they are closed on Sunday.
So the only day I can go is Saturday and he seems to work on Saturdays.
The only reason I was able to go today is that I had to stay home from work anyway and decided to fit a haircut into my helter skelter. Sadly, he was there, and I got stuck with him.
My solution is get the name of either of the gals you like to cut your hair, ask when they work next, and show up then. When you walk in, whether you have to wait or there's an open seat with the guy, ask "Do you mind if <blank> cuts my hair? She does it dang near perfect". Stylists barbers and the like all have their favorite clients. If he makes a big deal out of it, shrug it off. Everyone at that establishment should be mature enough to understand.
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Just walk in, and when your turn comes up, let the next person in line go in front of you, until the stylist you like is available. Stylists of all people will be fine with you saying you like the way a particular person cuts your hair. The entire industry (at least in the UK) is built on the premise that people get their hair cut by someone they like.
If you walk in, and you are the only person there, and he is the only stylist, then just say "no offence, but I really like the way X cuts my hair and I'd prefer to wait for them".
If they act funny about it, then find another salon.
I'm sure it may feel awkward and rude to say this the first time, but I've done this at almost every single salon I've ever used more than once, and every time, the barber/stylist has been absolutely fine with it.
This. At almost any place you can walk it and just say you're waiting for a particular person. It might still hurt the guy's feelings a little bit, but it's part of his job.
The place I get my haircut is a salon/spa and makes appointments, but I've had the owner actually stay open a little later just so I can get my haircut. It helps that I'm a great tipper, but maybe you could speak to them and see if they might be willing to accommodate you.
OTOH, I'd probably say something because he won't improve if he has no feedback saying he needs to. It's not being bitchy or an asshole or even rude. It's just business, you paid for something and you haven't received it.
Also, if they do a bad job, telllll them. Don't sit in a chair after they wax your eyebrows clean off, cringe and say "it looks perfect..". Tell them that they waxed your eyebrows off and can't convey emotion properly anymore.
I'm still upset about this incident.
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I once went into a salon and got a woman who had just had a Very Bad Day, involving horrible gossipy co-workers and something about a gift fund for someone who was retiring or having a baby or something. I wasn't paying too much attention to what turned into a fierce rant, because this woman was angrily waving scissors around awfully close to my face, and it was pretty distracting. Sudden moves or telling an already angry, kind of crazy, and coincidentally somewhat armed woman that she sucked didn't seem an option at the moment, so instead I let her finish, paid the minimum, and got out of there as fast as I could, never looking back.
When I got home and surveyed the damage I saw that not only had she cut my hair far too short, it was actually about two inches shorter on one side than the other. I got it fixed the next day by someone else, and a few months later the store with the crazy lady in it was gone, so all's well that ends well.
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pick one of the competent stylists and say 'i'd like to wait for her'
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Drez, any barbershop worth their salt will take appointments. Call up, ask for an appointment with one of the girls and you're golden.
As to other general advice, when I moved I had to ask around for my barber, and in the end I got a great one. Finding a barber is like finding any other skilled tradesman, be it a mechanic, an electrician, or even a white-collar job like a lawyer or a doctor, asking around is key.
Something to think about.
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OP- not sure why you think you'd need to 'suck it up' with the phone call. Do you think they'll recognize your voice? You don't need to tell them who you are until they're about to write your name down for the appointment. Just call. You'll be relieved afterward.
Tell him, "You know this is pretty terrible, I appreciate the effort but I don't like it." and if he asks you to sit down again say, "I'm sorry I would just really like XYZ to cut my hair, thank you though."
Barbers are cutthroat.
They love it when you call ahead and ask for them and they will fight to the death to defend that appointment.
Don't ask me why but I'm paranoid about doing that. I can't think of a way of saying "I want her to cut my hair" that doesn't sound like "I want her to have my children".
Weird I know.
And it's damned entertaining watching them go for the throat with a pair of clippers.
I'd have thought they'd use scissors for the job, nope. It's all clippers.
Actually, "I want her to cut my hair" or "I'd prefer for her to cut my hair" is the way to do it! Surprisingly, hairstylists do not see people wanting them to cut their hair as marriage proposals. Unless they are crazy. And who wants a crazy person cutting their hair?
(Kidding.)
P.S. Thanks for the advice, everyone. Most likely, I will wait until I need my next haircut and call ahead.
"Oh hey buddy, sit on down!" is a slightly sleazy little sales trick.
He should feel bad for using it and you should stop falling for his lame guilt trip.