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I am not usually this stupid about things...This is a rather long story, so I appreciate everyone who will read through this and comment on this.
Early on in the semester, I met a nice girl. Majors in engineering, and a mega-nerd and book worm. She admits herself that she is totally shy around guys, and her friends tease her about it. She is a senior, and quite overworked, frequently working till 4 am every night in the lab around all sorts of machinery that I know jack-shit about. I myself am a computer science major, pretty inexperienced , and don't usually open up to people. Getting a smile out of me is a huge feat, and this girl (lets call her Lina) can make me laugh and smile from cheek to cheek, and has made me stutter and stumble over my words on numerous occasions, which she giggles at. I am never like that.
Later on, she started showing up where I work on campus, spending time talking to me, and we started going to evening prayer services later. We are both not really that religious, but its a nice break from work. The first night, after service we listened to karaoke together, she teased me about going to sing. Later on, when we go back to her lab at midnight, she tells me about how her professors push her to the extreme, and I put my hand on her shoulder and told her how sorry I felt. She gave me a hug, which caught me totally off guard.
Next week I asked her out. She said yes, and after another meet together, I asked her if she was still on for lunch together. She apologized and told me no, that she had a retreat she forgot completely about. I asked to reschedule, she said yes. We arranged a day, and she asked me when I got off work so we could meet up. It was on again, and I felt glad. Date never happened though. The day we agreed upon, she told me that she was going to have meetings all day with her professor. She never showed, and didnt respond to my text. I didnt talk to her for two weeks afterwards, I assumed she just stood me up.
After two weeks, I texted her and we went to service together. We talked a bit, and she said that her profs had her redo her senior design project from scratch, around midterms. She said she isolated herself, and was very stressed for those two weeks. We talk a bit, and I tell her goodnight so she can get back to work and turn to walk out of the lab, and she stops me and we proceed to talk some more.
A few more weeks pass, and she becomes very hard to reach. She barely answers her phone, and does not come by my work area anymore. Her prof says she is practically living in her lab, so I purchase her a present. It is something that was cute, that I know she loves, and would be useful in the lab. I planned to give it to her after church, and she shows up with a guy. She is a bit friendlier and more comfortable around him, and when we are walking back to my car to get the present, I ask him to give me some privacy with her. He gets a bit taken back, and she tells me he is just a friend from her home town. She loves the present, but not overly excited or bubbly or OMG. Just didnt seem to know what to say.
Contact was still slim after that, although thats not surprising due to finals. Contact between us has been kinda brief, and there seems to be more tension between us now. She is quick to try to explain why she does not answer, when I dont even ask. I reassure her that it is no big deal when she does this. She shows up for the final church service of the semester with the guy again. And when she leaves us to go say bye to her friends, I try talking to him. He wont say a word. She seemed just awkward around me the whole night, and seemed to be in a hurry the whole time. I decided that she wasn't interested, and started dating someone else.
This other girl never worked out. She was more into the clubbing and drinking scene and I am not. Finally, at the last day of finals, I was going to meet up with another female (platonic) friend of mine for lunch. On my way to the meeting place, I run into Lina again. A bit of shyness from both sides, a little bit of joking, but I still felt tense. We must have spent an easy 30 minutes talking, and when she asks what I was still doing on campus, I told her that I was meeting my friend Nancy for lunch. She gives me a slight grin, an "Oh cool" and turns a little and moves away. I quickly add in "Just friends though" and she comes back with "Oh well that still cool". After a little bit more, she tells me that I better meet up with my friend, that she is probably waiting for me.
I dont normally freak out or obsess over a girl like this, but at the same time, I have never met a girl that responds to things quite the same way. I get along great with her, and I feel like a much more cheerful person with her around, and I am sure she has picked up on that. She seems like at times she does not know what to say, or how to respond. Most of her friends are guys who work with her in the lab too. They seem to be the protective type to her. I think early on, she seemed like she was interested in me, but around the time I asked her out, at midterms, it just seemed to go awkward. I didnt ask her out again because I figure she is so busy it probably wont happen anyways, or she might say yes when she does not really want to. What is just her being busy, or is she just not interested?
Early on in the semester, I met a nice girl. Majors in engineering, and a mega-nerd and book worm. She admits herself that she is totally shy around guys, and her friends tease her about it. She is a senior, and quite overworked, frequently working till 4 am every night in the lab around all sorts of machinery that I know jack-shit about. I myself am a computer science major, pretty inexperienced , and don't usually open up to people. Getting a smile out of me is a huge feat, and this girl (lets call her Lina) can make me laugh and smile from cheek to cheek, and has made me stutter and stumble over my words on numerous occasions, which she giggles at. I am never like that.
Later on, she started showing up where I work on campus, spending time talking to me, and we started going to evening prayer services later. We are both not really that religious, but its a nice break from work. The first night, after service we listened to karaoke together, she teased me about going to sing. Later on, when we go back to her lab at midnight, she tells me about how her professors push her to the extreme, and I put my hand on her shoulder and told her how sorry I felt. She gave me a hug, which caught me totally off guard.
Next week I asked her out. She said yes, and after another meet together, I asked her if she was still on for lunch together. She apologized and told me no, that she had a retreat she forgot completely about. I asked to reschedule, she said yes. We arranged a day, and she asked me when I got off work so we could meet up. It was on again, and I felt glad. Date never happened though. The day we agreed upon, she told me that she was going to have meetings all day with her professor. She never showed, and didnt respond to my text. I didnt talk to her for two weeks afterwards, I assumed she just stood me up.
After two weeks, I texted her and we went to service together. We talked a bit, and she said that her profs had her redo her senior design project from scratch, around midterms. She said she isolated herself, and was very stressed for those two weeks. We talk a bit, and I tell her goodnight so she can get back to work and turn to walk out of the lab, and she stops me and we proceed to talk some more.
A few more weeks pass, and she becomes very hard to reach. She barely answers her phone, and does not come by my work area anymore. Her prof says she is practically living in her lab, so I purchase her a present. It is something that was cute, that I know she loves, and would be useful in the lab. I planned to give it to her after church, and she shows up with a guy. She is a bit friendlier and more comfortable around him, and when we are walking back to my car to get the present, I ask him to give me some privacy with her. He gets a bit taken back, and she tells me he is just a friend from her home town. She loves the present, but not overly excited or bubbly or OMG. Just didnt seem to know what to say.
Contact was still slim after that, although thats not surprising due to finals. Contact between us has been kinda brief, and there seems to be more tension between us now. She is quick to try to explain why she does not answer, when I dont even ask. I reassure her that it is no big deal when she does this. She shows up for the final church service of the semester with the guy again. And when she leaves us to go say bye to her friends, I try talking to him. He wont say a word. She seemed just awkward around me the whole night, and seemed to be in a hurry the whole time. I decided that she wasn't interested, and started dating someone else.
This other girl never worked out. She was more into the clubbing and drinking scene and I am not. Finally, at the last day of finals, I was going to meet up with another female (platonic) friend of mine for lunch. On my way to the meeting place, I run into Lina again. A bit of shyness from both sides, a little bit of joking, but I still felt tense. We must have spent an easy 30 minutes talking, and when she asks what I was still doing on campus, I told her that I was meeting my friend Nancy for lunch. She gives me a slight grin, an "Oh cool" and turns a little and moves away. I quickly add in "Just friends though" and she comes back with "Oh well that still cool". After a little bit more, she tells me that I better meet up with my friend, that she is probably waiting for me.
I dont normally freak out or obsess over a girl like this, but at the same time, I have never met a girl that responds to things quite the same way. I get along great with her, and I feel like a much more cheerful person with her around, and I am sure she has picked up on that. She seems like at times she does not know what to say, or how to respond. Most of her friends are guys who work with her in the lab too. They seem to be the protective type to her. I think early on, she seemed like she was interested in me, but around the time I asked her out, at midterms, it just seemed to go awkward. I didnt ask her out again because I figure she is so busy it probably wont happen anyways, or she might say yes when she does not really want to. What is just her being busy, or is she just not interested?
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Just ask her out again and you'll find out.
The fact that you even have to ask yourself such a convoluted question was the initial indicator to me that this is not going to go anywhere.
Busy people who are seriously interested will make some time to text you or at least make moments to grab a quick meal with you (even busy people eat) or explain what is going on to make sure you "wait" for them.
The good thing is the OP indicates that you're capable of dating other girls and aren't totally inept at working in the field, which is great! Exactly what you need to do.
Sorry, but with so many nice ladies out there ...
Yep, this very descript observation shows her intentions..
friends, nothing more.
The fact that she stood you up for a date and ignored you for weeks...it's not looking good. Frankly I'd be a little offended at her treating me this way.
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What I'm getting at, is that feelings are awesome and all, but how things play out is what really tells the truth about how things are. This story looks pretty played out. There's no reason not be friends (unless you truly cannot get a grip on yourself) but for something more, its time to head on out.
Why would you care if this girl was still interested, anyway? She doesn't call back, lives in a lab, and makes up excuses not to hang out/communicate with you. She's too busy. I learned in high school to not get involved with someone who is in love with working. I'm lazy, and love my free time, so I need someone who can at least share that with me more than once a week.
Just remember, as good as you think she is, I can guarantee there's always someone better out there. There is a girl who's cute, funny, interesting, likes the same things you like, wants to hang out with you, and thinks you're awesome.
She ain't interested. Sorry!
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Met a new girl at a Christmas party and we hit it off right away. Already treats me much better.
Thank you.