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Something wrong with my dad. Help.
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This is an alt, obviously. I just...I need it to be.
Before anything, I want everyone to know that he IS going to the doctor within a couple of days. I made him promise, and I'm going with him.
While driving with my dad, today, something really horrible and scary happened, and I want to know if ANYone knows what the hell this could be, or what exactly happened. I'll try to describe it to the best of my ability.
My dad and I were driving home, and we were talking about a bunch of things, and I remember commenting on his hat, when he just slowed down to a halt in the middle of an insanely busy 4 lane highway. He was unresponsive for what seemed like 3 minutes (could have been less, but I was panicking). No matter what I did, he just stared into the distance. I slapped his leg, I yelled, I did whatever I could but it's like he was in a completely catatonic state. It was like he 'shut off'. Needless to say it scared the hell out of me. When he finally came to, he was...disoriented. He was trying to figure out why we weren't going, when the car was perfectly fine, and on, but it was him that was not right.
He was trying to form words, and trying to describe something, but he wasn't making any sense at all. (I drove home from this point on) About 20 minutes pass, and he's as right as rain. He's able to talk, and form intelligent sentences, and he's totally normal. I asked him if he remembered anything. He doesn't remember stopping the car, but he remembers trying to form sentences and having a very hard time, and trying to snap out of the stupor that he was in.
I'm really scared, and worried about him. My mom and him think it's his thyroid (He has hypothyroidism) acting up, but I don't know. He's going to the doctor hopefully tomorrow, but has anyone ever heard or dealt with something like this? It was probably the most terrifying experience I've ever had, and I'm just so worried about him.
Help, please.
Before anything, I want everyone to know that he IS going to the doctor within a couple of days. I made him promise, and I'm going with him.
While driving with my dad, today, something really horrible and scary happened, and I want to know if ANYone knows what the hell this could be, or what exactly happened. I'll try to describe it to the best of my ability.
My dad and I were driving home, and we were talking about a bunch of things, and I remember commenting on his hat, when he just slowed down to a halt in the middle of an insanely busy 4 lane highway. He was unresponsive for what seemed like 3 minutes (could have been less, but I was panicking). No matter what I did, he just stared into the distance. I slapped his leg, I yelled, I did whatever I could but it's like he was in a completely catatonic state. It was like he 'shut off'. Needless to say it scared the hell out of me. When he finally came to, he was...disoriented. He was trying to figure out why we weren't going, when the car was perfectly fine, and on, but it was him that was not right.
He was trying to form words, and trying to describe something, but he wasn't making any sense at all. (I drove home from this point on) About 20 minutes pass, and he's as right as rain. He's able to talk, and form intelligent sentences, and he's totally normal. I asked him if he remembered anything. He doesn't remember stopping the car, but he remembers trying to form sentences and having a very hard time, and trying to snap out of the stupor that he was in.
I'm really scared, and worried about him. My mom and him think it's his thyroid (He has hypothyroidism) acting up, but I don't know. He's going to the doctor hopefully tomorrow, but has anyone ever heard or dealt with something like this? It was probably the most terrifying experience I've ever had, and I'm just so worried about him.
Help, please.
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Also, he should not be going soon, he should be checking into urgent care or the ER now.
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He wasn't shaking or anything, he was just...staring ahead, and unresponsive to anything for a couple minutes.
My mom said that this has happened before, but this is MY first time experiencing it.
He absolutely will not, at fucking ALL go to a hospital. He refuses. I've begged.
She's on meds now but still alive and kicking.
this isn't something, in my opinion, that you should be waiting a couple of days for.
in fact I would have gone directly to the hospital, I wouldn't have gone home first.
edit:
Ok I had my mom look at this, she's an ICU nurse. She says it looks like a TIA, which like Regina Fong said, is kind of a mini stroke. She said it can potentially be a precursor to a fullblown stroke*. She said he needs to go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY.
*She wasn't comfortable with me writing this because she says he needs to be diagnosed by a Doctor.
This. Next time it happens he could be in a situation that won't work out as well as this one did. Hell, I'm surprised no-one rammed into the back of you.
I'm not a doctor and I don't want to be alarmist, but these are stroke-like symptoms, and with strokes the really key thing is getting treatment as soon as possible. While it might be nothing as serious, you cannot assume that it's not. Go to the hospital. Bugger the cost.
EDIT: Saw that he refuses. Fuck that. Call an ambulance. He's just had an episode where he can't remember what he did for minutes at a time, he's not the best judge of whether he needs to go to the hospital or not.
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Edit: Willeth is right, call an ambulance. They are very good at convincing people they need to go to the hospital.
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I'm sure there's part of this you're not telling us, like that he's concerned he'd lose his job or driving licence if he was diagnosed with a condition that meant he was at risk of paralysis at any time. These things pale in comparison to not getting this checked out.
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And people are correct in stating that your father should not be driving until he sees a doctor about this.
Correct, they cannot force him to go. However, they are trained to convince the patient that it is in their best interest. (Both for financial and medical reasons.)
And at the least, they can take a look at him and see how serious it might be.
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No, but a medical professional's opinion is always more convincing than your child's.
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It might have 'just' been a seizure, but that in itself is pretty damn severe, and he sure as hell shouldn't be driving. Either way, its going to be a total clusterfuck, but dealing with it now minimizes the chances of winding up dead or retarded. If he can't see that, call his mom.
I honestly didn't even think it could be a mini stroke, because I imagined a stroke to be...different. Falling over, losing consciousness....not just staring.
Edit: Going to convince him to go to the ER right now. These posts are scaring me.
How close is the next closest hospital?
If he's still not budging, get him to call his trusted doctor now. For one, it'll help put your dad at ease, and two, there's no way you'd be disturbing him. He's a doctor for a reason and he'd want to know about this ASAP.
EDIT: Good work. Good luck, and I hope he's okay.
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Has he agreed not to drive? Your post about accompanying him to the doctor tomorrow didn't say which one of you was driving.
Does his trusted doctor have a call service? Call it, right now. That way the trusted doctor may be able to talk him into going to a hospital (note, if you drive him, you can drive to a different hospital)
EDIT: nevermind, good job!
Good job to everyone and the OP. Hope it all works out.
Very happy to hear this. Best of luck.
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I'll let you guys know what happens, but hopefully everything will be okay.
Most excellent! Good job getting him to go.
But fuck you — no, fuck y'all, that's as blunt as it gets"
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Good luck. I hope whatever caused your father to suddenly go blank is something fixable and not too serious!
I don't really know what this means now. It's rare when this happens, the last one my mom witnessed was a couple of years ago. Maybe 1 or 2, I don't know.
Fake Edit: Dad just called, and they said that he can't drive for at least a year. Luckily I'm still living at home while I go to school, and will be continuing after I graduate so I can get a job, save money, and get on my feet. So, I'll be around to help him when he needs it.
I'm really sad.
It's hard, but now that they know what it is and it's being addressed, he should be safer. Make sure that you both familiarize yourselves with the side effects (both short- and long-term) of the new medication, and also if he ever drinks, even just an occasional beer, make sure that's still safe to do before he does it again.
Good luck. I'm glad you could be there for him.
I want to emphasise this. As sad as it is to give a name to a condition, it's only a good thing that he can now get appropriate treatment.
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EDIT: oops, didn't see your post explaining he had epilepsy. Glad he was diagnosed so quickly and that he can now be treated!
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Petit mal seizures are what happened to your father. Grand mal seizures are what a lot of people imagine when they think of "seizures": muscle spasms, motor control irregularities, that sort of thing.
I have had the disturbing misfortune of witnessing a grand mal seizure in a nine year old girl I was briefly looking after. But I imagine that a petit mal can be just as scary.
I'm not entirely sure how we're going to afford all of this, but I guess we'll figure it out when we get to it.
He only can't drive for a year though, which isn't that long, so he'll have his freedom back then, but in the meantime, I'll be able to spend more time with him when I take him shopping, or where ever he needs to go. It'll be kind of nice.
I'm sorry this is turning into a vent/livejournal sob thread. I really don't mean it to be. It's just hard to deal with, and making updates and writing everything out makes me feel a little bit better.
I really understand where you are coming from. My family has always been financially strapped but that has never stopped strange things from happening to my mom and dad. We lost one house because of complications from my mom's surgery leading to her being unable to work for a year, and recently with my father having problems after a wreck he had. It can all be extremely stressful, but I am extremely close to my parents because of all these issues. Enjoy being there for your father.
Also, yeah, I suggest venting. A lot. I really didn't know how to handle when financial/health burdens happened and I basically just became depressed and sick myself but now that I can talk to people about it I feel better able to deal with the situations.
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