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Valentines Day for a new relationship
Spherick
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Hey all,
So this lady and I started dating this last Sunday and I think it would be really awkward for us to exchange gifts or similar this early in the relationship. However, I would like to do something small and cute for her. She's a teacher at a high school and I was thinking of sending her some yellow roses (her favorite) to her work, but that may be a little over the top.
So I come to you, any small, cute ideas you can think of? I believe we will be grabbing dinner together that night, so I will see her then.
So this lady and I started dating this last Sunday and I think it would be really awkward for us to exchange gifts or similar this early in the relationship. However, I would like to do something small and cute for her. She's a teacher at a high school and I was thinking of sending her some yellow roses (her favorite) to her work, but that may be a little over the top.
So I come to you, any small, cute ideas you can think of? I believe we will be grabbing dinner together that night, so I will see her then.
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Did you only have your first date?
Have you known each other for a while, and so already have a history, or what?
i made the mistake of doing the first date with my wife the week of valentine's day too. I survived it.
That's what my girlfriend gets every year for going on 12 years now, and she's only stabbed me 7 times so far...
Traditionally, yellow roses mean you're asking for forgiveness.
At least that's what I've been led to believe.
I don't really care myself, but who knows? You've only been on four dates with her. I can't count how many times a simple gesture or a casual word by me has been misconstrued horribly. It's a curse :P
Personally. I'd give her a light pink one. Red is too deep for four dates in, and for god's sake not white.
So, an alternative idea: get her a miniature yellow rose bush in a pot. They should be fairly cheap - $15-20 tops - and I think a gift like that would say "I pay attention to you, notice when you say you like specific things, and come up with thoughtful ways to give you those things" without getting into the creepy "I BOUGHT YOU TWO DOZEN YELLOW LONG-STEMMED ROSES BECAUSE THEY ARE YOUR FAVOURITE AND THAT'S HOW MANY HOURS I'VE KNOWN YOU FOR" territory.
Another advantage of a potted rose is that it's alive, instead of being the standard tribute offering of the severed slowly-dying stalks of plant matter that most people inexplicably consider to be sweet and romantic. With a bit of water and light, a potted rose can live for years. You can even include a cutely sentimental little note, like "I didn't want to get you the big bouquet of roses on our second date, but who knows, maybe this will grow into one!"
Damn, you're right. Ah well.
The single rose thing is a little weird I guess. I like the idea of the miniature rose bush. Of course as Esh said it's only four dates in, she may be the type of girl that doesn't really expect to get anything that early on Valentine's Day.
I think this can be applied pretty broadly, but oftentimes it's not the things that are the best, it's the experiences. Take her out somewhere. Do something fun.
Either this or cook her a nice dinner.
I definitely agree with skipping the rose.
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Roses, especially around this time of year, and especially long-stemmed reds, are ridiculously priced. Like, five dollars per rose. As often as it's 'a single rose is romantic and twelve is buying into the tacky holiday', it's 'twelve roses were sixty fucking bucks and I'd rather spend that going the extra mile on the rest of the date tonight.'
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Only five dollars a rose? You're getting off cheap for the holiday.
I agree, though. I almost never buy flowers unless it's "just because," partly because it's more special that way, but also because it's so much god damned cheaper.
If you're not aware of the markup on roses for Valentine's Day, call a place tomorrow and ask how much a dozen roses would be. This will be even more hilarious if you already spent close to $100 over the past couple days for them.